what's up lads Brandon here with another video to make you 1% better the way of the superior man by david deida is the bible for men wanting to master the challenges of women work and sexual desire not only does this rank out at number one on real social dynamics reading list but I believe it's required reading for every men on the planet who wants is personal and love life to flush hands down strap yourselves in this is a longer video than usual because it has too many golden nuggets I can't bear to leave out for you guys I'm not just going to blatantly throw information at you and hope they change your life instead I'm actually going to share how I integrated this wisdom into my own life and relationships and how you can to kicking it off with number 12 choose a woman who is your complimentary opposite the fundamental grounding of datas teachings lies in the idea of sexual polarity masculine and feminine energy complement each other you are either masculine feminine or neutral according to data 10% of couples are neutral 10% are made up of a feminine man and a masculine woman and 80% a masculine man and a feminine woman you are always attracted to your sexual reciprocal so the takeaway here is to choose a woman who is your complimentary opposite 11 your purpose must come before your relationship if a man prioritizes his relationship over its highest purpose he weakens himself deserves the universe and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer her full undivided presence 17 year-old hormone driven me was so bad [ __ ] crazy about my 14 year old girlfriend that I completely ditched my friends girls and dreams I thought I was doing the right thing by investing 110 percent of me into her and the relationship that I forgot about myself I quickly became clinging to the point where I'd get home from school and just sit there gaping at my computer anxiously waiting for the clock to strike for 12:00 p.m. the time when I would normally get a message from my girlfriend every single day I now realize this was one of the reasons my relay ship ended quickly I took this lesson into my second relationship which made it ten times healthier it lasted five times longer and my clinginess vanished I always made it dead clear to my second girlfriend that I valued my goals and dreams first and our relationship second number 10 your attraction to the feminine is inevitable I grew up in an environment that discouraged sex before marriage so part of me thought it was wrong to be attracted to women at my age on a subconscious level I was also averse to letting my sexual energy flourish due to the stereotype of that douchebag guy that doesn't care about girls and just wants to get laid all the time while I was playing a lot of warcraft boys around me were getting laid which was the fact that I was completely oblivious to throughout my high school life I finally realized it's okay to be sexually attracted to women in fact it's healthy and beneficial it kills me to see men suffering because they deny their attraction to women because of that parental or cultural upbringing don't make the mistake of denying your healthy natural desires like I did 9 never change your mind just to please a woman you should always listen to your woman and then make your own decision if you choose to go with your woman's suggestion even when deep in your heart you feel that another decision is more wise you are in effect saying I don't trust my own wisdom you are weakening yourself by telling yourself this you are also weakening your woman's trust in you why should she trust your wisdom if you don't my second girlfriend would always try your best to help me with directions despite being absolutely hopeless Ella its dissuade a McDonald's sweetheart no it's that way Brandon the submissive part of me would sometimes obey her suggestion even though I intuitively felt it was completely wrong oops 9 times out of 10 my intuition was right I've come to learn to always follow my intuition even if it turns out to be wrong it will strengthen me and earn me more trust from my woman in the long run number 8 stop hoping for your woman to get easier let's say after years of effort you earned a million dollars you feel happy and successful you come home to your woman and share them you with her I just made a million dollars today honey mouse mouse that's nice you know how hard I've been working for this I know it feels like I haven't seen you in months did you remember to pick up the milk on the way home oh sorry I forgot but who cares we could buy a dairy farm now I asked you to pick up the milk three times this morning and I put a note on your briefcase how could you forget I said I'm sorry look I'll go get the damn milk so here your girl is testing you your success doesn't mean [ __ ] to her unless you are free and loving she wants to feel that you are impenetrable as a superior man so she pokes you in your weak spot she wants to feel your happiness is not dependent on your response so don't freak out moving on to number seven praise her the masculine grows by challenge but the feminine grows by praise as boys we've always challenged each other I think you can't run as fast as me you may have a habit of challenging your woman but the feminine side of your woman thrives on support and praise telling her that you love the shape of her body will be a much better incentive for her to exercise than telling her I hope you don't gain any more weight praise our daily multiple times I've seen the powerful effects of this in my own relationship not only that it was extremely common for my girlfriend to share the compliments she got from people when talking about eau de 6 what she wants is not what she says sometimes a woman will make a request of a man in plain English not to get him to do something but to see if he is so weak that he will do it in other words she is testing his capacity to do what is right not what she is asking for in such cases if the man does what his woman asks she will be disappointed and angry the man will have no idea why she is so angry or what could possibly please her he must remember that her trust is engendered not by him fulfilling her requests but by him magnifying love consciousness and success in their lives in spite of her requests now I believe it takes time to pick up the signals that your girl gives you when asking a request fortunately my girlfriend often made requests blatantly obvious for me through body language even if what she said didn't match for example sure Brandon we can still go to the city today by learning to pick up those signals it was clear to me she didn't want to go despite what she said when I made the right call her face whipped up a massive smile and she would humorously go good because I didn't want to go anyway and then we would go watch TV or something number five she wants to relax in the demonstration of your direction leader says she needs to feel that she can get on your train and that is going exactly where she wants to go you need to know where you are heading and how you are getting there financially and spiritually you don't need to make all the money in the world but you do have to show you're responsible for finances and they you strive for a relationship with your woman that's more than work and watching TV number four ejaculation should be converted or consciously chosen data claims that whilst your girl may enjoy seeing you relax as you come another part of there wants to feel more like you're in complete control she wants to feel the fullness of your presence the invasion of her body by your consciousness most guys don't want to penetrate or ravish their woman after an ejaculation or two you no longer feel desire which your woman can sense DITA articulately says why should she expose her deepest part her most vulnerable heart only to have you convolute in a paroxysm of self possessed gratification followed by your withdrawal into post ejaculated relational non interest by cultivating your ability to control when you come your woman will sense it and be able to relax in the force of your loving moving on to number three now ejaculate up the spine through breath a feeling and intention you can dramatically improve your orgasms the first step is to forget what you learned while masturbating as a teenager instead of tensing your muscles as you get turned on learn to relax them next redirect your attention fill your woman more than your own sensations during sex thirdly breathe fully during the day so your urge to ejaculate diminishes I suggest checking our Elliot House's videos for more on that there's an exercise you can practice to avoid premature ejaculation it will allow you to confer your orgasm so on of shooting out your tallywacker you shoot the energy of your spine for a potent bodily explosion instead of a shallow orgasm learn to control the muscles in your Gooch that bit between your tallywacker and the Chamber of Secrets it feels like you're trying not to take a crap practice contracting and pulling these muscles upwards doing sets of 15 or 20 and holding as long as you can do this three to four times a day eventually you'll be able to hold these contractions as long as you want by combining deep breaths of your spine with the upward contractions of your gooch you should lose a bit of your erection as well as you need to ejaculate giving you complete control number two you will often want more than one woman in more blatant terms you'll want to [ __ ] all the [ __ ] even if you're in a happy relationship your masculine sexual desire is inevitable but data says he should also know that acting on such desires though temporarily enlightening and accelerating often ends up complicating his life far more than the occasion itself is worth in other words cheating on your girl with another woman for a short burst of satisfaction isn't worth it in the long run with that said data says that how many women you get with completely depends on your purpose if your purpose is to be a nice boy then you should do what makes your woman happy but if your purpose is to enjoy physical pleasure no matter the consequences then as data sets you should screw as many women as you want ultimately you need to figure out your purpose and evaluate the consequences of your actions moving on to the final lesson insist on practice and growth now this one sounds boring but it's so incredibly important which is why I've revealed it at the end of the video as data says a superior man wants her to move in the direction that must serves her growth in love and happiness I believe a healthy relationship is one in which you build each other up rather than trying to mold each other into your depiction of what is right as I mentioned earlier I always encourage my ex-girlfriend to follow her dreams and goals not mine but keep in mind as a man you must be following your own purpose and goals before you can help your woman grow I'll leave you with one last quote from success coach Tony Robbins if you're not growing you're dying that includes a relationship with your woman if this is your first time here be sure to watch my power series playlist so you can become a better man a shout out to Mini 89 story either Michael the art Bros and Jesus thank you for supporting me I really appreciate it have a good one and keep the coming one percent better