Context: Framework for quick appraisals/assessments of people, useful for neurodiverse and neurotypical interactions.
Purpose: Addressing differences in interaction expectations due to neurodiversity.
Neurotypical Privilege
Definition: Unspoken paradigms and expectations around boundaries and behavior that neurotypical people don't have to think about.
Impact on Neurodiverse Individuals: Different interactions and approaches are required, more thought needed for boundaries and truth.
Framework Overview
Components: Capacity and Intention
Objective: To gauge whether someone is a suitable person to interact with or include in one's life.
Capacity
Definition: Combination of emotional, intellectual, and maturity levels. Includes self-awareness and skills required to engage in a particular context.
Examples:*
Professional collaboration: Assess skills, background, education.
Personal relationships: Assess communication skills and emotional intelligence.
Respecting boundaries: Key to determining inclusion in one's life, important for vulnerable individuals.
Behavior Analysis: Using demonstrated behavior to infer capacity.
Quote: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
Intention
Definition: Goals, motivations, and needs of the person.
Indicators:
Name, description, and background context (e.g., LinkedIn profile).
Behavior in interactions (e.g., response to boundaries, demands, and communication clarity).
Behavioral Red Flags:
Pushy or demanding behavior.
Poor response to scrutiny or boundaries.
Lack of clarity or excessive questioning without context.
Respecting Feedback:
Check with others for a second opinion.
Use of 'compliment sandwich' for delivering constructive criticism.
Practical Application
Professional Interactions:
Gauge collaborators' readiness through skills and behavior.
Use LinkedIn for contextual background checks.
Personal Relationships:
Assess friends' and partners' emotional and communicative capacities.
Provide feedback, observe reactions.
General Warnings:
Be aware of red flags or mismatches in capacity and/or intention.
Remember subjective nature; use second opinions and recommendations.
Positive response to 'compliment sandwich' signals good capacity and intention alignment.
Conclusion
Personal Experience: Framework developed from years of studying neurodiversity, psychology, and communication.
Objective: To help others avoid manipulation and improve interaction outcomes by assessing capacity and intention.
Final Note: Align intentions with your needs and wants for better interactions.