Lecture on Nonverbal Communication

Definition and Importance

• Nonverbals include everything that communicates without words.
  • Examples: theater setting, body posture, accessories, and eye contact.
• Nonverbal communication occurs all day, every day.
  • Example: Observing a sleeping child to gauge their state.
• Audience interaction: Choosing how to dress as a form of communication.

The Authenticity of Nonverbals

• Nonverbal communication reveals true intentions and feelings in real-time.
  • Examples: Bad handshakes, facial expressions.
• The brain's limbic system plays a crucial role in nonverbal responses.
  • It reacts instinctively without thinking.

Universal Nonverbal Behaviors

• Limbic responses are authentic and ancient, visible across different cultures and time.
  • Example: Covering the mouth or freezing at loud noises.
• Similar authoritative behaviors in differing cultures.
  • Observations of leaders in different societies.

Common Nonverbal Cues

• Facial expressions and their meanings:
  • Furrowed forehead indicates concern or confusion.
  • Wrinkled nose shows distaste.
  • Squinting eyes show focus or concerns.
  • Closed eyelids indicate disbelief or refusal.
• Body language like covering the neck links back to primal fears of predators.

Misinterpretations and Myths

• There is no "Pinocchio effect"; no single behavior indicates deception.
• Crossing arms as blocking is a myth; it can be a self-hug for comfort.

Purpose and Application of Nonverbals

• Nonverbals should be used to ensure comfort and empathy.
• Empathy is enhanced by understanding nonverbals.
  • Carl Sagan: We are the sum of our influence on others.
  • Nonverbals facilitate influence through gestures like hugs and handshakes.

Call to Action

• Consider how to change nonverbal communication to become more empathetic and influential.
• Nonverbals are powerful tools for communication and connection.

Conclusion

• The power of nonverbals lies in their ability to communicate deeply and authentically.