Do you ever wonder what men consider great intimacy? Obviously, men enjoy it, but what really takes a man over the moon saying to himself, this was the best experience of my entire life? The answer might surprise you, which is why on today's show, we're going to be discussing what men consider great intimacy.
That way, you'll have the knowledge and skill set to be able to blow his head figuratively. And literally. Whenever I'm referring to S-E-X or intimacy, however you want to describe it, I'm going to say pineapples a lot. Number two, whenever I refer to K-I-N-K-S's, I'm going to say links.
Number three, whenever I say F-E-T-I-S-H, I'm going to say relish instead. When I'm referring to what's in between your legs that's very lubricated that all the guys want access to and they want to penetrate, I'm not going to say the word. I'm just going to say Squirtle.
Squirtle is a water Pokemon. So think to yourself, why would I use a water Pokemon as a code word for what's in between your legs? Number one will be the power of imagination. I'll give you an analogy on how imagination can be so powerful. I want you to imagine that you went to a movie and in this movie, there was two separate versions of this exact movie that played.
First version of the movie. they're both horror movies, you see the monster in the first 10 seconds of the movie in the opening scene, and you see the monster in his full glory, and it's in broad daylight in the middle of the day, the sun is shining on the monster, and the monster is just standing in an open field not saying anything. Now, in the second version of the horror movie, I want you to imagine that throughout the entire movie, you literally barely see the monster.
You barely see the monster's face. You barely see his figure. Every time you see him, it's like shadowy and it's dark and he zooms by, but he terrorizes the entire world. He terrorizes all of the other main characters.
He gets rid and annihilates and unalives a whole bunch of people and he unalives them really horribly and really gruesomely. Okay. But you never actually really see the monster. You just hear him. You see some glimpses of him.
You see some pieces and you see the terror that he brings along whenever he's there. Which horror movie do you think is more scary? There's a reason why it's scarier to barely see the monster and only see the terror that he brings than it is to just see the monster in broad daylight, even if it's the same monster. The reason I use that analogy is because I want to show you how powerful imagination is.
Your imagination is always going to make something bigger, larger. more extravagant than it already is. And the reason I say that is because that's the same thing that you can be using to apply to the men that you're sleeping with, okay? And it's not a cycle of, okay, he's going to do it the first time, and then I never have to think about playing on his imagination ever again. You're constantly thinking, how can I continue feeding his imagination?
How can I continue feeding his fantasies in a way where he's like, oh my god, that's so enticing. Please, can I just... Just can I have a little bit of, can I just, can I, can I, can I lick your foot?
I would love to flick your foot. I would, I would just do anything for you. And the more he feels like that towards you, anything you present to him and anything you do for him thereafter feels like it's rocking his world and literally and figuratively blowing his mind. Now, number two, you need to understand how to create a safe place. Men, consider the best version of pineapples with you.
A version in which he feels safe expressing any thought, fantasy, opinion that he might have. He should feel free enough to say whatever he wants to say, however he wants to say, and present to you any idea he finds fascinating, gets him horned up, or he finds interesting to you. You really want to make sure not only with your words are you non-judgmental, but also with your body language you are non-judgmental.
So if he's telling you, you know, to be honest with you, I never told anyone this, but I'm actually really into feet. And I've been looking at your toes and those wedges and, you know, you got those white toes. And I won't lie to you, like your toes look really suckable right now. And I just it feels weird to say because I never really talked to anyone about this.
But like, I really I love feet and you can't be like. But as soon as you make him feel shame, whenever he begins expressing himself, especially when he's expressing some of his links or relishes, right? He is immediately going to pull back and he's going to say, first of all, this is going to hurt you in two ways. He's going to say, not only will I not express to her any longer any sort of intimacy, things that I'm into, but I also realize that if I ever want to express something even non-pineapple related to her.
I should probably just withhold that information because she'll probably make me feel shamed for feeling that way. Okay. This is what I need to drill through your mind. Okay.
I really need you to be paying attention to this look in my eyes, deep into my eyes, the deeper, the relish, right? The more niche it is, the more very specific it is, the closer to his heart that it is. Okay.
I'm telling, giving you information that men will definitely not share with you because it'll make them feel like a pansy. The more intimate it is to him. the closer it is to his heart, the tougher it will be to share that openly with someone.
So when they finally do share that, that is a very delicate time that they're going to be hyper fixated on gauging your response to them. You need to give him positive feedback, like a positive feedback loop, right? That when he expresses things that are close to his heart, He feels like you're happy that he's expressing those things to you. Even if you know you're never going to do it in a million years, that's fine.
I want you when he's telling you for the first time because I told you that's a very delicate period. Oh, that's interesting that you're into poop. Tell me, why is it that you're so into poop?
What do you find fascinating about poop? Even though it's nasty to you, you need to seem inquisitive and interested in why he finds that thing fascinating. Number three is going to sound weird and it's going to sound funny. Connecting the heads.
This is related to this. You've got to figure out how does your everyday life connect to what you need in the bedroom? We're going to be quiet about this. We're not going to tell anyone else about this.
This is our little secret. Okay. In the players club, ask him, hey, show me what type of pineapple videos you watch on a regular basis.
When you watch this, what's going to happen is you're going to actually see firsthand that. what he's into, and you're going to start seeing a theme. For example, let's just say, for the sake of argument, he's always showing you a girl tied up in rope, and you're noticing a theme every single video that he's showing you is a girl tied up with rope, and it's in that same family of things.
Now, you know exactly what you should be pressing on a regular basis. Now, you know where you should be digging. It's like a metal detector, right?
You're scanning the sand, right, with your metal detector and you're trying to find where is the gold lying? What's the area where the gold is lying? And when your metal detector goes off, when you finally start watching his videos, his pineapple videos, and you see the same theme amongst all the pineapple videos, your metal detector goes beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep. Now, you know this is where you get your shovel out and you start digging, right? This is where you start asking questions.
Okay, she's tied up. Why do you like it when she's tied up? Is it that she's restricted?
Does that make you feel powerful? Why does, is that something that you're really into that you watch on a regular basis? Whatever it may be, this will help you get a better understanding of what's going on up here and how that connects to what's going on down here.
Now, number four, how you, you specifically, fulfill the fantasy. Because you as his, let's just imagine you're his girlfriend or his wife, right? And obviously intimacy is on the table.
So now you have to be thinking about how do I fulfill your specific unique fantasies in a way that I stay true to myself and in a way where I don't have to do anything that I'm uncomfortable with because I'm not advising you to do anything that you're uncomfortable with. Now, let's say he's into a specific thing. You don't necessarily have to say, okay, I'm ready to be tied up. Get your rope and tie me up.
You don't necessarily have to do that if you're uncomfortable with that. But then you should be thinking, what can I do? that stays true to me, that I can still fulfill that fantasy for him and be that fantasy for him that I am the human embodiment of everything that he has ever desired.
Because guys do want to be able to project their mental and emotional fantasies onto the woman that they're with. And you can do that. You can become that.
But that takes more work than just being beautiful. Number five. You got to mirror his excitement.
Pay very close attention because I know some of you guys are going to be like, I don't want to have to fake it. I don't want to have to pretend. I don't want to have to. Okay, you are watching this show because you want to understand what men consider great pineapples.
If I don't tell you the truth, then you're not going to properly be able to utilize any of. this information. I am not telling you that you need to fake your entire pleasure, okay? I do not advise that.
I do want you to understand that there is a psychological effect when someone feels like you're just as excited to do something as he is already excited for to do it. So for example, if you're with a guy, I was going to say me, let's not put me in it. If you're with a guy that really enjoys feet.
He loves feet and he loves your feet. He likes sucking on your toes. He likes licking on your heels, licking in between your toes. He wants to get the toe jam out. He wants to clean your feet.
I know that you might not necessarily be super excited about feet. You might not necessarily wake up and say, the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning is feet. And I love feet so much.
So the idea that you would suck on my toes is so exciting to me. Mirroring his excitement. makes him feel as if this is something that you want to, that you're excited for too.
And if he feels like you're excited for this too, this is a confirmation to him that, oh, this is a judge-free zone. Oh, this is a place where I can feel safe. Oh, this is a place where I can express myself. You're actually into this too.
He feels like this is a thing that you guys are doing. And the more he feels like this is a thing that you guys are doing, the more he begins to pour his heart out for you. the more he begins to express to you, the more he begins to emotionally invest in you. You know, we talk about emotional investment, right?
And let you know more and more and more about what he thinks and what he wants and what he's into and all that good stuff. First of all, the more you learn about him and then the more information you get together to figure out what is a great experience for him uniquely. And so you become like Thanos where you're picking up each individual ring and you're saying, I understand you like this.
I know you like this. I know you like that. I know you're into that. Your hand is full of all the rings, all the infinity stones.
And you know what you have along with the infinity stones hanging from the infinity stones is a string off of each finger that's attached to him because now you're literally able to control him like a puppet. You know everything he's into. You know why he's into the thing.
You know how it affects him, how it affected his childhood. You know how it relates to the bedroom and relates outside the bedroom. You literally, you literally.
have absolute control over him.