[Music] Eileen's grown and and married sheown yeah yeah the grown single people are the best cuz they they can hang with the kids they could color with kids that's when that's when I was grown married people who are trying to have children right they're annoying they're annoying playing we Adam and I I'll tell you so asy goes I don't want it and I'm like okay it's fine no I tell I Adam Adam and I have this conversation literally pillow talk every night I send him trips and I go we're bringing Nancy I hope you know we're bringing Nancy I hope you know I'm like and then the moment she finds a man I know we need to pray that Nancy doesn't find a man in the next year exactly in the next year all right no I was so babysit when I found a man so Nancy I mean as long as she don't get married with him next year right that part um no she can't get married next year she Mar she can't no but like I always like think about now cuz there was this one where like I totally would do a valow renewal but I want a Spanish style wedding yeah that's pretty yeah I sent you the one shut up did I not no I'm not saying I don't believe you want to Spanish I'm just saying like like two years ago I was trying to talk about this all the time and then the moment I wasn't going to pay for people she wanted to be there and she like I don't want to do it then I don't want to I don't want to celebrate her marriage then I'm like okay so that idea that left me a long time ago cuz I needed at least three years to save for can come back you know cuz your first wedding you got and we talked about it our last episode you got parents helping out with it you you know you got by the time you second marriage whether it's your second marriage with a new person or second marriage with your spouse celebrating 10 15 20 years you're on your own like you are paying that whole thing yourself so three years ago I was mentally prepared to little at a time put money but the moment she said I'm I'm not interested I said she goes and she literally goes I'd rather for our tenure you take me to Japan than celebrate a tenure with people okay whatever D my parents had to pay for their first and their second oh that's where we're going Nancy we're going to Japan they got played we're going to Japan we will do a small vow renewal though cuz I need to renew my vows cuz I'm I'm a little wish washer right now she's not getting nothing you she can get whatever she pays for so whatever your bud I'm reing my I'm wish did you guys say your own oh Abol not do the man of many words and the woman of few no you guys did you guys said yeah you guys did your poet yes yes CU he said why I are we recording I hope we're recording because he said I can't wait to explore every inch of your body about this at least 10 times like that sound like some jod I I didn't explore I said I'mma love you from to toe they're exploring I didn't get explor is like a whole another level of explicit I didn't take you you can't give something to pastors cuz they'll run with it make it to like extreme yeah well I mean as Pastor Aaron standing there I was like and then Ashley leans over to me cuz we're all like what the heck and then Ashley leans over me and she's like they haven't kissed yet until today at the end of their wedding oh no no she goes they haven't she goes they haven't kissed yet that's why he said that and I said I said like I said they haven't kissed today and she goes no stupid in their relationship I said how I said that's possible and she said well no yeah I think I think make they've never made out I said up until they had even done it yet God gave us strength in that area he good on you bro cuz that that that kiss was like about 7even minutes I think we all got up before they didn't I wasn't even expecting that one we got we got in and out we got in and out on a picture of me going we got in and out we got in and out on that one got in at least like my daddy's right here stop I said this mine now it's on it's on a going beat you up today a how much torture my parents have put me through like y'all know how much like Vivid they are with you guys seen your parents make out in front of you before it was it was time my mom and dad no never never he grew up in a perverted household I'm just it was just expressive in that manner so that's good GL saw that up you know I picked it up yeah whoever increased my volume thank you wasow no but Adam and I Adam and I have done this it's it's a weird thing but it's a dumb thing too he's like don't share that we were like disable no no no no he's like he's like I was like show me how your parents used to kiss each other like when you were growing up and so we she showed me and I was like I'll show you how my parents used to kiss and it would be they'd be in the front seat and they'd go to kiss and both their tongues would come out like yeah and like Midway no not Midway like me as a child I'm seeing their tongues come out and I'm like hey babe we did it the other day yeah first and last you debut my mom's like that's not true I'm like no I one of them cins I remember hey for the V renew I got you let me let me write to V Ren let me you up I'm I try trying to write a porno 50 Shades of Gray oh my God wasn't that bad it was not that bad it was great it was very romantic it was good it was enough that everybody perked up like like it was like it was like a who I just remember him talking about my toes he did talk about them toes I said from head to toe and I said she got bomb toes y'all and then I went into the next into the next sentence inappropriate in the wedding that's there children children trity were there they raised by my parents then they're fine they heard yeah that's true they'll live Aon and er could be crazy they'll live they'll be all right very wild all hey next month you guys one year one year y wow two weeks two weeks two weeks what do you guys do already going on a cruise what the Navigator one I think so yeah my mom booked it so yeah out of La yeah just a small little 3day Cruise my first time on a cruise so I'm excited oh you're going to lose get out of here for a couple days all right what have we learned so far in 12 months of marriage what are some they said we di welcome to be I do right in all right what's up everybody so the question is what have we learned what have you learned in 12 months I I remember the last time we had you guys on so for those that don't know we've had col and ien on and we had them on probably within maybe five months of there because we launched Beyond ID do in September we had you guys pretty early on so yeah I want to say within probably about five months of six months marriage we had you guys on we heard some stories about Eileen's yoga or uh workout apparel at the gym some things you were working through in at that time pass thank God so uh so where are we at now 12 months later 12 months in marriage both started really careers yeah you know I mean you you were already doing something prior calling but but as this is like you're now full-time Ministry career it's a brand new scope of career Eileen started really a new career in the sense of you went from more hourly employment at at uh Starbucks to now you have your own shop Big Boss dog got employees got your own store you make your own fros I tell them to make the employees makes it her Partners no she get mad she say employees Partners Colin Partners that's called The Human Resources tricks Partners so you both start careers you're married you're you know you you you got a place together you know baby moose but yeah um so where we at I know so much so much changed from literally the moment we said I mean I get we get back from our honeymoon m and Pops slides his paper across his job description for associate director of children and I'm like you want me to proof read this two days after we got back from we got back and he's like let's go to breakfast I'm thinking you know typical breakfast and slides this across and you know him he hits this look and I'm like okay like crazy here we go and it's it's wild because all the advice we got before going into marriage was don't make any major changes in your first year really soak everything in and I was two days in and they were like yeah but not two days technically like 1011 but get back and it's like boom everything shifted that fast but um yeah a lot has changed within the first year but I think the biggest thing I've learned is uh a lot I'll say on one end a lot of um you listening no a lot of uh a lot of long what longsuffering means as far as really but I'm saying this in a positive way I'm learning what that means as far as thinking outside of yourself and really put in somebody else first like despite how you're feeling or what you might want in a moment like loving loving this person out I need more B talks because of you I mean you see the gray is coming in a lot more in the beard but um yeah really I think that's the biggest thing for me learning a lot more of I got to get outside myself and put this person's needs first and that's how I can best serve our marriage versus like it's not just serving her but it's serving Us in that would you say before you got a mared Callin were you cuz you got you got married a little older so you were you were 35 years old now wow yeah I mean I mean in the ideal Mar I'm sure you would would have want to been married at 25 when I was when I was a kid 25 and that so that's what I mean by that like the picture of you know ideally when someone plans to get married you got you know you got married later 35 so when you got married twist yeah so ideally though you I mean you pretty much you know 20 20 to 35 is you know you're in the middle of adulthood yeah so you had 15 years like for me I got married at 25 so I was like you know three years into adulthood you know like out of college into my job that it was like you know I didn't I didn't have too many habits attitudes ex like I you know I got in marriage early on in my youth so it just like all I've really known now is being in a relationship with Ashley yeah so for you though that you had 15 years MH you know I know you dated e for a little bit 15 years though of of you and you've had relationships in between and stuff but like I say that to say like did you have you found that like since you got married later were you a pretty selfish person going into marriage definitely I you said 25 and I'm like 25 that was my first year overseas and I wasn't thinking I mean I was thinking about marriage but it was like in on the back burner compared to what I was getting into and uh I was just sharing that with somebody yesterday like got God kept me especially when I was going through college but also over there just some of the things I was getting into and really I wouldn't say trying to live for Christ but like knowing okay I should be living like this but still kind of flirting with the world in a lot of aspects and especially in the the dating aspect it was like God God kept me and spared me through a lot of of heartache and a lot of situations to where it could have developed into something way way way worse and um I mean I look back on those situations and it's like as much hard heartache and and confusion and all that that came from that like this making it to this point with hurt was worth it like I I do it all over again and a heartbeat if that led to okay getting this person who is completely about me and understands what it's like to okay she's she's living that same way okay I got to get outside myself to serve this man and to give him my best like if it took going back to 25 and starting that all over again to end up with lean I would do that heartbe yeah no question so to add on to that in my question is this aspect so a lot of times all when I'm s like if we're doing couples and they're getting married and stuff like that what sometimes happens is uh someone who gets married when they're older or remarried when they're older um they have certain attitudes habits and Lifestyles that are pretty e exterior on the exterior pretty selfish what I mean by that it's like they have a routine this is when I go to the gym this is when I do this once a year I hang I see my friends and we do an annual trip that does blank and then what they do is they get married and then they say hey nothing in my life is changing my my gym routine doesn't change that once a year trip with my friends it doesn't change you are an addition because they got they they were single for so long they they built like a habit that goes hey you're an add-on you're you know so the this and that's what I mean by selfish like they get married older so they had they have they've made so many friends that have had like you couldn't go on trip with a person that you cuz you weren't you're not married so you got three or four friends that have been single for so many years and they do an annual trip or or or you have this system in your lifestyle that on you know I've met people they go oh on Fridays I do movie days and whether my wife wants to come or not I'm still doing it cuz that's what I did when I was single so it's like and the wife would be like I wish he would just wait for me to go to the movies you know and he's like well I'm not I've done I've done Friday movie night since I for the past 15 years that I was single what do you so like when it came to you being trying to get some people some advice who maybe are older who may find themselves getting in a relationship like did you now that you look back it may not been conscious but as I'm speaking are there any things that you were like oh shoot I'm going to like when I married eile like I'm I'm going to have to change that I'm not going to be able to do that anymore or that might have to I might have to tell my friends this thing right here this it's not going to happen anymore or whatever and I'm not talking about Sin I'm just talking about attitudes and habits and preferences like are there any ex like did any do you did you experience any of that um I mean a lot of that I think one big thing that helped me coming into marriage was a lot of men that were already married for years and years and years letting me know and teaching me to expect like this comes with this is about sacrifice like what you're signing up for is about sacrifice it's not that sacrifice is a part of it it's like it that's what marriage is like you're you as the husband are giving your life for this woman and so I think I had great preparation from that and I mean I'm in the room with a lot of these guys now Pastor Kenny Pastor Aaron um Pastor Charles when he was here like a lot of I sat with a lot of these guys leading in the marriage and even now as I'm married continue to sit with Mary man just to get an idea of of understanding what it is I signed up for but I think getting ahead of it on the front end and going to counseling on my own before I even started dating her like going to counseling and therapy on my own to understand what it was cu the desire was always there I knew from teenage years I was like I want a family I want kids I want a wife I had seen my parents model it my grandparents uncles and I knew that was in me to like kind of Steward that when I got older I just didn't know what I was doing in my 20s I didn't know what I was doing but um as I'm meeting with these men and they're kind of let me know hey you have to count the cost of what you're signing up for it's not just you get married and something flips in your head like yeah you got to consciously make the choice to I'm going to put what I want to the side or you know make some lifestyle changes for for us to be in the best situation versus me and my feelings and my comfort being in the best situation yeah it's great e where where what what have you been processing the past 12 months what have you learned um I think the past 12 months I think I had to learn to communicate for sure um because like you said like we both started kind of our careers so early on in our marriage and um when we were going through premarital they're like don't go into anything new don't start anything new like don't start like really just embraced your first year marriage because it's a lot of change and it is um but he got a new career like a whole career change and then I got promoted so like to my own store so like we were both very busy and so I would start to feel very guilty um like as a wife like feel like I'm failing as a wife because I'm exhausted when I'm coming home now and I'm like this is probably not what he signed up for like like I'm not cooking as much as like I thought he would prefer like more so like I had how much were you cooking uh like maybe two three times a week I put on I put on 10 lb a week when we first got yeah when we first got mared before what's it now twice a week wow I don't cook on weekends that's huge my left side just got real hot for some reason toast you me I got I got twice since January he's getting potatoes tonight he's gonna make the steak [Music] all right everybody Welcome to our advertisement yeah so you're watching our episode we did a short break yep what do we got a little break for Ashley oh something really really exciting that when you came home and told me about the news I was overjoyed and I hope you had 30 pieces but you only had one but it's okay we are going to be talking about our new partnership yes with an amazing Jeweler yes so we have big news we've teamed up with the exceptional Jeweler Aaron Barnett uh to bring you a unique jewelry experience from precious metals to Custom Creations Aaron has it all whether you're treating yourself for or surprising a loved one so it could be for you or someone you love okay mother grandmother sibling you know spouse a loved one his jewelry is a testament to Cherished moments as part of our 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this pressure on myself where I thought what he expected from me as a wife and I would just find myself crying like to him like I'm sorry like I'm a bad wife like I'm not cooking like I'm not cleaning as much yeah and he's just like what like what's what's going on and what are you talking about so but in like my head like I thought he was expecting like this dis like a domestic wife cooks and cleans every single day and then but like I'm exhausted when I'm coming home because like this new position like has me working like over time sometimes so like yeah I think making sure that I'm communicating with him of like hey I'm really exhausted like do you think we can door Dash something or like go out to eat or something because it was coming too much of a burden on myself of like having that expectation yeah that he didn't even place on me um but like as far as like him like giving up something I feel like he like in our marriage excuse me like he went into it pretty well with like including me and everything so which I'm really thankful cuz we practiced that a lot in when we got engaged uh like there was a point where he does like he did have like very very close uh female friends that I knew of like going into like our relationship and like I had met them and I like I knew of them already um but there was like one time where like we're at a date just me and him and he like takes the phone call like from one of them and I'm like like but like like thankfully we were able to like hey like maybe like you know like let's put our phones aside in general like if we're on a date cuz we don't get to see each other so like now going into marriage we sort of pract we already practice that so like when it's just me and him like our phones are away if whether we're watching a show or just having dinner together like our phones are away and we're just locked in because we are so busy now I mean there's newness in the marriage but it's a lot of scenarios where we're like oh shoot we never encountered this before we don't know what to do like a lot happened in the engagement season where it was like we want to be prepared for this when it when it happens not if it happens but like when it happens thing so that helped a lot so how did you guys uh navigate the opposite sex uh friends further man um I mean I'm thinking of the the first scenario with the whole SP spoken word thing so I was getting ready for a performance and it was going to be at a park and I was supposed to meet with a group of people but literally as I'm pulling into the parking lot 90% of people bail so it's me and one other person a girl and so we're like well we're here you came from a long ways I'm I'm far from home let's you know let's do our parts and then we'll get out of here and so sure enough she facetimes me like as we sit down and I'm like I don't got nothing how I'm chopping up with her blah blah blah oh look this person here I pass the phone they're talking and she played it she want to say you played it you handled it very well she faked but later on we get on the phone she was like I want to talk to you about something and I I knew already knew what it was I was like okay and so she just brought her concerns with not that she didn't trust me in the situation but how it might look to like our accountability or should our leadership come by there anything like that to where you know we just knew it was wise for us not to be alone in those kind of ss with like somebody of the opposite sex so I mean now we have different context with it to where you know sometimes I do have to have one-on ones with people that I work with or you know I might have to talk to a volunteer but I'm not going off to a whole another room to go talk to somebody like I might step off to the side or something you know do you still have those like friendships most of them yeah mostly one of them um but like it's like his god sister um like they grew up together and I think she contacts me more than she contacts him now like now that we're married and she's always been very respectful of like like boundaries um and it's not that like any woman ever crossed the boundaries that like he had female friends with it was just like me voicing my con not concern but of like hey what this could look like if someone else were to see like or like you know like I don't know that person so much um but other than that like they've they've made attempts to get to know me as a person like aside like when me and him were dating so like that kind of helped the situation but now like we've set boundaries where like if we're on the phone with like someone of the opposite sex like it's on speaker in front of each other um for the most part um and then if it's like a conversation like with someone else like of the opposite sex like it's in a three-way like group message like kind of similar of like what I I think like my dad taught me that like just keep it safe like you never want your good to be spoken evil of so just making sure that like I'd rather be safe in all things than um than any like I guess like money using yeah yeah yeah yeah no that's great no that's good we get we get asked all the time on this podcast about opposite sex friends and boundaries and the marriage and blah blah blah blah blah when it comes to the opposite sex so that's good that's good good Insight on on that type of thing um what about as you guys talk about the future now that you're one year in what what did your conversations normally look like with that this week has been festive I would say it's been real festive um it's it's interesting to see that Dynamic change because I think originally getting married I was a Gung I was like look I want kids off the bat like I love kids I work with kids I got two goddaughters already like let's let's get it going whereas her she was like no you know I helped you know raise my sisters I was auntie and babysitter like whole life like I want a break so we compromised we said okay 2 years in we'll get started on that but this week somebody wanted to sit on the couch little curb I'm like I'm like what happened now little cball baby fever yeah yeah but I caught the hints though she would be at Target sending me pictures of these little extra small shirts and I'm like God like little baby clothes sending him memes of like funny baby memes I'm like oh so we've been through the names and that all that we got married but it just got real this week to where we're like okay what if we start on this date instead of late June likeu that's a little no yeah so we're definitely um like we've decided to start like trying this end of this year um cuz yeah I'm excited I don't know how to say howse to say that like yeah what how you say start making yeah make some maybe this end of the year so um you said at the end of the year yeah towards the end of the year oh so not soon yeah they're going to practice celibacy till December who who's day the footman the footman you get some counsel yeah yeah know have you guys talked about like parenting Styles or like do you guys align with that or what are your thoughts it's it's funny cuz we talk about I think we more so get to see it with this dog man cuz we we have we it is true we have we have different like dogs do um not exactly the same as kids but but they uh when I think back Ashley treated our dogs she very much in some ways the personality is there the way she treats our boys so with the dogs Ashley was um very obsessed with them very aware of them if one of them sounded like they had a cough she's she literally took Dior to the ER more than I've been to the ER my entire life this dog has been to the ER and so but sure enough as a mom she is you know she's always present with the boys she's always like if the boys like she's putting cream on her butts all day she's blow sh like what she did with the dog like you take the take the kid you know and you you magnify it and a lot of those attributes I'm seeing hints of what what motherhood is going to be like for for but I think we're we're getting to see even just ways that we we talk to him when we might be upset with him or when we miss like all that kind of stuff I'm like this is literally what it's going to this is a fraction of what it's going we did get an argument once over like how he treated him one day and I was like oh my oh gosh like how dare like he he was dare he so he's still a puppy so like he still nibbles at you and it's not hard it it's he doesn't nibble hard he he thinks it is hard but whatever it's because you don't nibble you hard yeah dogs nibble different genders differently for sure for sure well he's also he's rough with him so like yeah of course I'm not rough with him so like he knows oh okay this is Dad so I can be rougher with him like versus with me like I'm chill let's lay down and he just sleeps all day uh so it's great and then um so he nibbled at him and he pushed him and I was like how like why did you push I choke this like her eyes like you know the cartoon eyes where it's like super watery and glisten that's that's what her eyes were doing cuz like and he's such a puppy so and he already like doesn't have very well Balan so like he stumbl he didn't come from a good family or good parents we got him from the hood we went Marino Valley literally from murder you hear that Phil Mo um so yeah so I was like I don't like how you pushed him like what if you do that to our baby he's like this is a dog and I was just like it's the same thing and he's like I'm like but yeah so we're sort of sored to see oh my but he hasn't done it again since then he he learned that's why originally that's why I originally made it two years I got to see let me see how he treat his oh my gosh but I mean he he's he's a sturdy dog he just has no no idea of balance or space or any of that so when I pushed him he tumbling and she's like oh my God no and it's like it was I mean he literally just looks at you like okay like back he didn't get back up to try to bite you again no okay yeah first year now you you've experienced almost all the holidays how did you guys wrestle through holidays with your families even that it wasn't a because we had even practiced that throughout engagement so it was like we game plan ahead a time we had Christmas at our house which was amazing like that that worked out beautifully having both our families it worked out yeah we were able to do our first year marriage Christmas at our house so like both of our families came to our home yeah um which was really nice we just even with that I think a lot of us cried that day but even with that like setting the tone for okay like what what traditions do we want to say cuz I mean so he he also likes to do new apparently to gauge I don't know what tears are so that's what I'm asking what are you what is that stuff that leaks from your eyes uh yeah so he wanted to start a new tradition like so that you pick a number or a name from like a bowl and you write something that they're that you're thankful about for them um so kind of randomize it to where you know I don't get to set my mind like okay I'm going to say something nice about my life so just sh everybody's name up to where I mean my thing is like I don't want us to wait till you know people are gone or something crazy happens to give them their flowers like let's you know let's use this space to do it so yeah so we all wrote like different so you get I got faith oh oh yeah who'd you get so you cried yeah I cried talking to Fai course and Faith probably looked at you like oh gosh you got TR Trinity's like yeah why are you guys all crying you I got but then of course we got to the moms the moms hit the the moms hit the heart your mom's and then my grandma was there so her my grandma got me so I'm oh my God and then um yeah my mom spoke too my mom got my mom right I mean your mom got my mom yeah yeah and so like my mom's crying then I'm your mom C she probably her name probably just came out yeah literally what happened um okay so Christmas you hosted at your house what did you guys do Thanksgiving Thanksgiving we travel Thanksgiving yeah Thanksgiving so because of like how thankfully of like how our like where we live compared to like how our parents live so we stopped at his parents first and then ended at my parents and so kind of like a loop through the iie pretty much yeah a loop and then New Year we had Co so we I remember that yeah we stood home didn't do nothing oh yeah yeah cuz we I mean tried to do the little birthday bash for me we couldn't do we were on the couch that's rehabing for my birthday but yep but yeah I mean the it all that worked out because we talked about a lot of those things in engagement and then I mean we did it throughout engagement too so it was like hey this is going to be the reality when we are married like let's you know start practicing Works P so and then especially cuz I also have my Mexican side so like Christmas Eve we always see like my grandma cuz she doesn't celebrate Christmas day she we celebrate Christmas Eve with as Mexican so um so we always go either sometimes my mom will host it or my aunt or my grandma would host it so we went and saw my grandma and like my Mexican side shout out Mama best best best casadas in the world oh my God she didn't bring you watermelon like she did ear no I'll take that shout out back she has no problem no she just made his guadas like really really he didn't realize that I mean I was drenched and sweat but it was it was the best have any of your friendships started kind of change or get stronger during as now your first year marriage well not only marriage but then you guys first year being here at Rancho because you guys both came over from Pomona yeah um yeah it it changed a little bit uh for sure uh because yeah like you're in a new territory so like already being married it's kind of like okay like not that we didn't have our single friends but there's some things that our single friends are not going to understand what we're going through or like be able to like you know I don't want my single friends to like hype me up or like you know like I want them to like want us both to win uh so yeah there were some certain things and then when we moved to Rancho it was for me I mean I know for him too it it was a very lonely season like in the beginning for sure cuz although I knew people everyone I knew worked here so it's like I can't follow everyone around or I can't so I'm just like okay like what do I do so yeah it was pretty lonely at first uh and then like reconnected with Jasmine which was great uh to where like now me and Jasmine literally talk every single day like um so like friendships that like I had while I was here like they're kind of being like rebuilt like now that I'm back which is awesome um and then just like finding like a time to still connect with our old like not our old Community but with our community that still go to Pomona uh but it's really just like we have to be that much more intentional with with people and with time now because they're that much further and we're not having to go that distance every Sunday every Wednesday now like just being intentional with them to where hey if I got to catch you during my lunch this week like we got to make something happen to to spend time together or I mean I've been on FaceTime like crazy the last couple months just to get some kind of like interaction or touch base with with people back there but I mean at the same time like coming over here it was a different or it is it feels like a different culture here because I feel like at Pomona like getting over there when it was based like foundational level doing launch parties and we're at Simon and you know building the church inside of uh inside of um inside of where it's at now like you know ripping out carpet doing all that together versus here it I felt like coming in a lot of things were already established culture-wise so it was like okay where where do I fit in like who who do I fit in with kind of thing like who do I Vibe with whatever but um I mean as far as the people like taking care of I feel like people have done what they can to like take care of me and make sure I do feel at home here and teach me things especially this guy right here minister Minister Gabe in the building but um you know people making sure I feel at home and that I'm understanding what's not only what's happening here but like how I can give give my best you know make what I bring to the table fit into what's already going on here yeah so do you want to do you want to add how um I'm a better pickle ball player than you oh my goodness if you playing with the gold medalist Pastor her out here asked playing with he was like Pastor I said is Pastor Adam even good like does he play I mean I never played pickle ball said he even like that he he did surprise me he could move he could move it was a pleasant surprise and he hit a little Jordan pose on his out there I said all right he can move somebody surprise well someone that doesn't really like athletic this guy got smashed who got smashed bro bro we even I even I we even gave you Heron and you still only won by three points that was it only won a dove is a dove but anyone who had Heron like when Heron was on my team we we be we won 11 to zero almost every time 11 to 11 to watching and then you and then and then you're like okay my turn to partner with pastor herry and then it's like 11 to9 that's the score where so it's like that you actually had to work at that game then he broke a little sweat up there I was thinking about yeah I was like d he could move though like I was like all right my P my pastor's agile out here I me move I move I really I really I really expected more from Colin to be honest but but uh you know I told him I said hey is this your second time playing he said no I played a bunch I was like o sorry yo look we we get we can get some uh some football CLE on then and then got pick a new sp sp yeah pickall is kind of mutual grounds like you that's a mutual ground like no one's me you can be athletic but it's like the the strategy in that game to you got to understand I'm out of position this Ball's getting trust me I'm not going now what you all don't want is no one no one wants to play ping pong against me I'll tell you that ping pong ping you you don't want to play P so you lucky it goes to the pickle ball court you lucky G tell this man that g is he like that g tell this man he's telling me he's like that thank thank you he really like you don't want the came and swamped us up yeah but her's nasty at he's gold like a tournament he plays like every chance he he's like my mom he's like a silent he's a silent Betsy he doesn't tell the whole world he plays pickle what your mom your mom your mom loves it as your mom loves it as a hobby hobby yeah yeah yeah Haron is like I'm trying to get televised he needs to be televised yeah like he's he can hold it down him and Shout Out shout out Josh sovia he's nice out there too tennis translated real nice that's so crazy all right everybody thank you so much for joining us for Beyond it's already been time it's already time pretty much so um we yeah got 45 minutes to an hour get a dog wait to have a kid get a dog talk about your friendships yeah figure out your holidays holidays all before you get married M yeah write your own vows take a career decision but might get lonely in between you know good takeaways Good Year takeaways your own yes get whooped by Adam at pickle ball a year into your marriage you got whooped two six months in when we we got to running back this got I'll play I'll play One V one I'm play you hear no one playing a team Ashley honestly we play for Mother's Day and Ashley sucked I was not in the mood I wasn't in the mood it was hot that day it was like it was it was one of those days where you know they'll save us for another one just all right you weren't in the mood all right all right for your mother for Mother's Day it's all your mom wanted to do really all she wanted to do for Mother's Day she said oh let's all go to pickle ball court as a family and play pickle ball yeah a yes like all right all right in Chinese food yeah I don't ask how they mix it turned out to be fun it not that I didn't think it would be but I was just like okay like we'll see how we had Church all day we'll see what happens I was like that was pretty fun better than just sitting on a couch you know that's true or going to a restaurant waiting 2 hours to sit down doing that all right bu peace bless bye peace [Music]