today we're stepping out of the wardrobe and into the bedroom game because fellas we need to talk too many guys out there are making sex mistakes that are killing the vibe killing your confidence and worst of all leaving her unsatisfied but don't worry I've got you covered on today's video we're going to break down 11 of the worst sex mistakes men make with women so you can avoid them fix them and step up your whole game now if you're new here welcome jeff your style OG on this channel we discuss various men's lifestyle topics such as style grooming and dating if any of all those topics interest you I invite you to subscribe tap that notification bell and join us and to my returning friends like Martinez salute now we're going to kick off our list of 11 of the worst sex mistakes men make with women is one of the most common mistakes men make without realizing it making it all about your performance you see when you're too focused on lasting forever showing off tricks or coming off as some superhero in bed you are taking yourself out of the moment and she can't feel that women want a connection not a performance she wants to know that you're feeling her not trying to add to your highlight reel great sex isn't about perfection it's about chemistry connection and flow so if you want to be better in the bedroom stop trying to put on a performance and start paying attention to her experience now next up we're going to get into perhaps the most common mistake the fellas make in the bedroom it happens all the time what mistake is that skipping foreplay now fellas let me keep it real for most women foreplay isn't optional it's essential jumping straight into the main event without taking the time to build her up that's how you ruin the experience that's how you wound up not only with a short experience but with a disappointed partner one of the things you have to realize that men and women's bodies are different for a woman to become aroused it takes a lot longer that's why foreplay is so important for the ladies it allows her mind and body to get into sync it helps build up the anticipation and sets the stage for a real connection and foreplay isn't just about touch it's about energy attention and engagement so slow down set the tone and treat foreplay like the foundation it is now next up on the list of 11 of the worst sex mistakes us guys make we're going to get into a subtle but serious problem that's having a lack of rhythm or flow i need you to understand this sex isn't a race it isn't about throwing out some random moves great sex is kind of like music it has a beat it has a rhythm it has a groove and a natural progression if you're stepping on her feet or she's stepping on yours it's not working if you're too fast too slow or all over the place with your rhythm it's just going to kill her vibe you have to be in tune with her feel her presence and move with intention you see when the flow is right the connection is right and that's when the real music happen so just like if you want to get better as a dancer when it comes to making love you have to concentrate on your rhythm and your flow now next up I have another common but deadly mistake guys are making over and over it's thinking when it comes to the bedroom every woman is the same huge mistake let me be very clear with you what worked with your last partner might not work with this one every woman is unique it's a different body she might require a different pace and she might have different desires sex is not a onesizefitsall operation if you go in there with a copy and paste game plan you're setting yourself up to disappoint her and yourself the key pay attention communicate and adapt that's how you make her feel seen and valued if you want to be better in bed you have to stop treating each woman like a routine you need to treat them like the individuals they are you can't do the onesizefits-all and that's grown man game now next up once again we have another all too common male mistake when it comes to having sex it's ignoring certain body parts this is another one that's easy for us to make a lot of guys and it happens we only pay attention to the obvious parts but if you are you're missing out on so many ways to turn her on and build a deeper connection women are sensual from head to toe the neck the back the shoulders the inner thighs behind the knee even her hands they all matter so stop going straight to the same place every time when you explore her body with curiosity and intention it shows you're present in the experience and you care about her pleasure not just the end goal so slow down pay attention and give love to the entire canvas that's how you step up your love making game and that flows very nicely into our next common sex mistake this one a lot of guys make especially when they have a lack of experience is going into it ignoring her pleasure if you're only focused on your satisfaction you're missing the whole point you have to realize great intimacy is a two-way street if you're only focused on yourself and your pleasure that's a huge mistake what you need to do tune in and pay attention you want to make sure she's enjoying herself just as much as you are that's how you really stand out a woman will remember much more how you made her feel than what you actually did pay attention to her reactions what she really likes and put some effort into her experience if you do that you become the kind of man she wants to come back to every time now next up we have a mistake that's often made by my guys out there that are too cool for school that quiet is kept aren't as sure of themselves as they try to project that mistake faking confidence with ego what I need you to know is that real confidence is quiet controlled and connected when you come in bragging talking about all your skills and acting like you're God's gift that's usually not confidence it's really insecurity and trust me women can tell the difference real confidence comes from being comfortable in your own skin not pretending like you're perfect not coming into the situation like you're trying to prove something so what I want you to do is drop the act lose the ego and be present with her in the moment and that's when your real power will show up because confidence is felt not forced and that true confidence is what will make you unforgettable now we need to go to the opposite end of the spectrum of what we just talked about you want a way to quietly kill the mood that's not being confident in the moment this is a common mistake a lot of guys make and it's not one to be ashamed of it's natural to get nervous and maybe not be so sure of yourself but when you're secondguessing yourself moving timid and stuck in your head she can feel it and it makes it hard for her to open up relax and fully enjoy the experience you see being good in bed isn't about being perfect it's about being focused present and sure of yourself even if you're still learning so own the moment breathe lock in with her when you show up like a man who belongs there everything flows better the chemistry the connection all of it now next up we're going to get into a mistake that's all about nuance or better yet the lack thereof that's when you become too rough too soon if you want to shut down the whole experience before it really gets going be too rough too soon i get it you're excited your energy is high but if you come in too hot with too much aggression especially before you built comfort and connection with this lady huge problem you're moving way too fast you see most women need to be more comfortable in tune and to feel safe before things get more intense keep that in mind jumping the gun makes you seem selfish not sensual so what you want to do pay attention look at her reaction read her body and feel her pace that's when you can move and progress organically start slow and stay smooth the rest will take care of itself now I'm about to put you on to some advanced game this is a huge problem you might not even realize you're making a lot of guys mess up by ignoring after care if you get this right this is something that helps separate the boys from the men a lot of times guys I need to ask you what do you do after the act do you roll over grab your phone or act like you're clocking out from your job this sends the wrong message it makes her seem like she's a moment not a person what I need you to understand what you do afterwards matters just as much as what you did during so when you're done take a minute to cuddle hold her kiss her this shows you have emotional intelligence maturity and respect for her afterare builds trust and deepens the bond it's not soft it's solid handle that after care and she'll remember you for all the right reasons now next up on the list of 11 of the worst sex mistakes us guys make with the women is probably the most important this is a silent killer that will definitely mess up your game you're making a huge mistake if you don't communicate if you want to talk about an easy way to kill the chemistry don't communicate a guy who's better in bed he talks he asks questions and I'm talking about before during and after the act you have to be curious because if you're not you're actually just playing a guessing game and that can ruin the whole thing we want a partner who tunes in listens and checks in and actually cares about her whole experience so what do you need to do ask her what she likes ask her what she doesn't like and don't be afraid to guide her to the things you like as well the back and forth that's grown man game when you open your mouth you open the door to a deeper connection and with that deeper connection comes better sex way better sex okay so there you have it 11 of the worst sex mistakes us men make with the ladies now do me a favor let me know in the comments section any kind of mistakes you believe the style family might be making that's stopping them from being better in the bedroom and if you enjoyed this video and found it informative I highly recommend you check out a recent video I did about 10 of the things women don't care about as much as us men tend to think they do you can check it out right here