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Exploring Family and Society Dynamics

A very good evening to all the students who have joined us for the third session of the student induction program, Deeksharam 2024-25. As mentioned to you, the third session is focused on exploring the two aspects of human beings, two very integral aspects of human beings, family and society. Just to give you a little bit of recap, we had two of our offline sessions of Diksharam which were dedicated to understanding our own selves. The first session was an orientation session where you got a chance to interact with your seniors, some alumni. and they shared their college experiences with you.

We also gave you an understanding of what your journey in Jai Hind College is going to be like. There were some insights that were shared by students who came and interacted with you. The second session which was convened by our esteemed speaker Ms. Pratima Srivastava from Hello Happiness was focused on exploring the concept of self.

and how self is such an integral aspect of our lives, how we explore our identities as we enter college, how we meet new people and that also becomes a way of identity construction for us. We may feel lost in this new world of college life but there are definite techniques that we can use. There are some aspects of our personality that we can foreground in order to make all our interactions fulfilling and in order to ensure that we can have a fulfilling journey of self-discovery.

Today me along with my colleague Ms. Firdaus Sarnobat welcome you to the third session of Family and Society. I am Dr. Anamika Purohit. and together today we will be exploring these two concepts of family and society together and we will see how we can explore them there are some interactive activities for you for all those students who are watching us live there's a lot that is in store for you and we also have a bunch of reflective questions for you which will help you add to your journal i hope that all of you are maintaining your journal because self-exploration is very, very important as far as our entire program is concerned. We are exploring some human values and certain human experiences with the help of self-exploration. So each session, we provide you with a reflective question that will help you journal, that will help you think about some ideas that we raise during the session.

All right. So with that, let's go ahead. So let me speak a little bit about, you know, why do we have this topic of family and society?

If you remember in the last session, during the introduction, I mentioned how as human beings, we move in concentric circles, that the very first understanding of our identity begins with a sense of self. When we understand our own self, we are in a better position to understand other people around us. But once we have gained a certain sense of self and we have understood the kind of people that we are, then the next concentric circle that we continuously interact with is our family. And family also plays a large part in our understanding of ourselves as individuals and what kind of people we are, the support system that we seek from our family. is of paramount importance right and of course maybe you all are at an age where for you you know your friend's circle is also a kind of family right so when we look at the concept of familial bonding it's a concept that has evolved over a period of time Earlier, family bonding was all about the joint family system, all the relatives living together under the same roof, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins.

It used to be a big household that we used to spend our childhood in. I don't know if some of you have experienced that or not, but we now are in a time and space where most families are nuclear. And we have smaller families that we live in.

We may definitely have a support system that we may have an extended family or some relatives living close to us. But definitely the concept of familial bonding, therefore, has gone through many, many changes. That today we bond with our family, maybe during functions or during festivals when we all gather together, all the cousins and everybody.

And those are moments that we really look forward to. At your age, definitely, it's also important for you to have a friend circle, which becomes like a family because you spend so much of time with them. They are your second family. And maybe for some of you all, they are your first family.

Right. So, again, that's something worth thinking about. I've already spoken about how we have different familial structures that we encounter of joint family, nuclear family, extended family. And some of us have moved from one structure to the other. OK, we can move from these structures from time to time, depending on the changes that we encounter in our life.

Right. When we are young, we are living with our parents. Then as we grow up, maybe for studies, we move somewhere else. I'm sure a lot of students are also from a different city who have come to Mumbai to live all by themselves. So you have, you know, left a family and you have come here.

to found a new family with your friends, right? So we constantly move from one kind of familial structure to the other. But what is important is a sense of inclusivity that makes us feel as though we are home.

If we are living with people who are accepting and who are inclusive, as far as their approach towards each other is concerned, then obviously we feel a sense of comfort and we feel that after a hard day's work, We are coming back home and we are with people who genuinely care about us. Right. Of course, it's also important to nurture familial relationships because, you know, every human relationship requires an effort.

I'm sure that even in your, you know, amongst your friends, you may have recognized that those friends you have not spoken to for many years. You realize that that friendship dilutes a little bit. So you have. to make that effort you have to uh be there for them you have to have your have their back uh whenever there is a need and only when we make an effort you know we realize how uh others also in our family will make similar efforts for us and these are the ways through which we nurture familial relationships because family is our first support system okay so it's really nice to have a family that is supportive, a family that's inclusive. But we also see that many a times we encountered certain challenges and certain expectations that are not getting fulfilled.

So those are the moments of conflicts. And through these crests and troughs that we pass through, certain happy moments and certain sad moments, we come face to face with a number of value systems that you know we will slowly and gradually speak about today. A lot of what we will say today is also participative which means that you are also free to contribute.

Of course this is not a setup where we can listen to you on a first-hand basis but you can definitely you know put your comments or you can definitely respond to some of the interactive activities that we have in store for you. So that's basically going to be the overview and introduction for the first part of this session, which is focused on the concept of family. I invite Firdaus ma'am to take us through some of the next subsequent slides that we have.

Firdaus, you are on mute. Hello, a very good evening to all of you. As Nakli and Namika have explained to you about the entire sum up of the session, what exactly we are going to do in this particular session, as she rightly said about our family.

And the most important thing is we sometimes we take our families for granted. You know, we always have this thing, you know, that, oh, no matter whatever happens, the family is always going to be there for us. But what is important for us also to be there for them, to listen to them, have empathy for them. And have that understanding, I mean there are various values and virtues which we require to nurture within our family. So we have our next poll coming up for you.

We'll be posting the link for you on your, you could see YouTube stream, the link will come. And there you just have to go and click the link and there's a questionnaire that will come up for you. Has the link, can you all see the link?

I'll just check right here. Yeah, there's a link which has come to you. So please click on the link.

I'll share the Mentimeter poll to you. The poll will be live in just a minute. I hope you can see it loud.

The poll will come and I think you start voting and I think as you vote, we'll be getting... The question is, what is the quality of your family that you appreciate the most? Of course, all of these qualities are beautiful, amazing, but what is something that you appreciate the most? We have to select one.

Emotional support. You always look for that support from our family, no matter... We have our friends, we have batch colleagues, batch mates, whatever. The emotional support that your family gives, no one gives.

Who forgets the affection and care for your father, your mother, your brother, sister. It's affection and care. You share everything with your family.

Your family is your pillar of support. You have the confidence that whatever you share with your family will remain with your family.. A family would be having certain activities, which would help whether it be going out for a movie, going out for lunch, playing certain games at home, any outing, anything.

Or the financial support that your family provides, the family gives you. So I think, Namika, the emotional support is lovely. Seven people have got emotional support.

Then sharing guidance and emotional support are on the equal level. yes yeah um so um let's see if we can take a look at the poll together uh someone's saying if we can we are allowed to select all or just one you can select all you can give a kind of a rating um for all that is possible yes i think it gives you the number of attempts right Yes, lovely. I'm happy that they have selected majorly the emotional support, sharing and guidance. Emotional support and sharing and guidance are on equal levels. Oh, sharing and guidance, go stop.

It's lovely to see. Please students, whatever you feel, please click on the thing. Firdaus is it possible for you to share the results? I think that will be nice because everyone will be able to see how it is working.

I hope that the first poll got you thinking about some of the qualities of your family that you appreciate. These are things that we usually don't think about a lot. But only when somebody questions us or somebody probes us into thinking, we will think that, oh, OK, yes, we have a family.

And there are some things that we really look forward to when it comes to interacting with them. Anamika, can you see the thing now? It's just, I think, it's coming.

Can you see the results? Have you shared the screen? Yes, yes. It's not visible as yet.

Can you all see it? Yeah, I think it's, yeah, now we can see it. We can see how there is a lot of people have voted for emotional support. That is very nice to see. We have a good bunch of first year students who are very emotionally attached to their families.

I also think this may be because a lot of you are outstation students and your families are probably not in the same city as you. So I think that emotional aspect is something that you really miss. Okay, sharing and guidance, the votes for sharing and guidance are slowly increasing, which is also nice that you look up to your family members for any kind of sharing of experiences or guidance. Very few people have selected financial support, which is, you know, it's nice to see that that's not the only reason why family is important for you all. because usually it happens that people tend to be very practical and when you know we reach an age of being an adolescent or a young adult we feel that okay that's all that we need from the family and everything else we can take care of on our own but it's good to see that that's not the case over here there is still a lot of focus on emotional support and sharing and guidance so um nice to see uh there are some about the attendance uh we will be recording the attendance uh by the end of this session so um now is not the time to talk about it because now we are still only immersing into uh some of these concepts i hope that you are you know ready to participate uh in the discussion with us Students, just a request to all of you, when you all are joining it with your ID, join it with your proper name.

Like when you all are joining it with, for example, Alia, Sakshi, like how you all are joining it with your proper name, enter your proper name in the U of P for the switch session when you all are joining it. It will help us to take your comments or to appreciate when you answer. So like Alia has answered, Sakshi, Shruti is there, Shivika, Tanvi, Dhanishta, Vanshika, Shristika, Shreya. aisha for others you are not able to stay on him because they'll have joined with a different name yes and i think anamika which is more unique right they selected something like an emotional support sharing and guidance uh that's something which shows the sense of maturity that they're having right being in the first year they understand why the fam um the emotional connect with the value and virtue that what we are trying to teach you through this session or maybe you're learning it in general also through your various subjects to your family to your friends and how then I think these are things that you're going to appreciate in the long term remember one thing your family is something that's going to be there with you constant and I think in a family it's all a give and take you also have to have that it's not always what your family is doing what are you doing for your family maybe today or tomorrow go home do something special for your mom dad for your siblings and just see how happy they are after that I'll stop sharing yeah yeah I think we can move ahead Now of course there are a lot of films and web series that we watch in which you see different kinds of families and often when we watch some of these movies and web series it builds a certain expectation in our mind that, oh, we should have a family like this.

Or, oh, no, no, we don't want a family like this. So many times it happens that there are certain ideas about family that are presented to us via popular films and web series. And it's nice to sometimes think about what are some of these ideas and how we as individuals can respond to them.

how we can apply these representations to the family that we have and what we can learn from these different representations. So let's try and explore some very common examples together and maybe you guys can also comment in the chat box so that it becomes very, very interactive. These are very common examples that we have taken.

so i'm sure you will be able to respond to them okay let's look at the first example what do you have to say about this Guys, what's the name of the movie? Anyone in the chat box will want to comment about it. What's the name of the movie?

Anyone in the chat box, comment. This is a very popular movie depicting family bond, family relations. As a family, how you have your shares up and down, it's not very good. There are, you know, the difficult or the testing time that shows your family bond. outside world which we tell a lot of things but how the family stay together in these difficult times guys anyone wants to yeah one minute okay people have Madhika, Shruti, Sandeep, Gaurav, Vikas, Samanda says hum tat saath hai right as a movie we are always together you look at this family you find a father they are all famous businessmen and how despite to be famous they are stuck to the roots The way they are together, the family, the love between the brother and the sister, the way they do things for each other.

And you see how there are these friends who come and the friends try to fight certain things. They say, oh you are together as a family, today's nuclear family. They try to poison their ears and everything. And how does mother, you know, getting...

influenced by them. She wants the sons to be separated and how in spite of that for the mother's sake they do that but how the family bond that they maintain it throughout the period of time and how they come out of those difficult turbulent times and they're back together as a family, right? It's a very beautiful movie which showcases the importance of family How as a family when you're united when you're together you can withstand a lot of storms in life you know, which I think the moment you get separated people are going to take advantage of you it also shows that rather than listening to others it's always easy to talk to people's confront and talk whatever you're feeling with the family members you say oh this is happening like that no you someone may tell you it's better to go and talk to the person who's clarified rather than keeping things in your mind so is there anything you all want to comment what is the learning lesson that you take from this movie uh why you know some of i'm sure many of you all would have watched this movie Many of you all would have seen it. What's something about the movie that you appreciate a quality? Anyone?

Come on guys, quick. And I'm really happy that you are a very participative audience. We are missing out a lot of names, the names the way they are flashing.

Yes, many of you all have said, what is one quality about the movie that you appreciate of? Whether it's the family bond, whether it's the love among the brothers, the care and affection that they have for the sisters, how the friendship that's being showcased. The way they are doing it, even in the villages, they have an industry which is established for the welfare of the village that they are from. Anyone? Guys, come on.

A lot of you have written. Anyone who has commented? Yeah, most of them have recognized the film very correctly. So, I think everyone has seen the movie and some of them have also said that it's their favorite film. So, that's good.

Yes, now we move to the... yes. Someone says, better we take care of affection.

Vanshika says, bond of family and love between them. Family values, obeying their parents. The love, the song which is there, right?

He says about the father and everything. Harshad says, they are bonding. Sakshi says, the main reason is that they share special bond with brothers. The love, the way we are becoming...

the way things are today that's something that you love. Supriya says love between family members thank you. I think it's now time to go to see other movies.

Yeah again I'm sure that you all since you're familiar with this movie you also must have realized how ideal is this you know picture of a family. It's so ideal everyone loves each other the bonding is so strong. you know, everyone reaches out for each other whenever there is some problem, even the conflict which is there, everybody comes together to solve it.

So there is, this is a very ideal picture of a family. Sometimes it may so happen that in reality, we may not have such an ideal circumstance. In reality, we have, you know, many moments of conflict, we may have disagreements with our family members. So many a times it also happens that some of the films and web series may create an unrealistic expectation in our mind as far as our family members are concerned that, oh, in that film I saw how the mother supported the child, but you know, my mother and I are constantly having some conflict.

Why is it like that? So, sometimes it's also important to understand that we may build our expectation based on something that we have watched and something where an ideal picture has been presented to us. you know how an ideal family should look like but there is that's not entirely real realistic circumstances are very very different and it if you are having a conflict with your family member it doesn't necessarily mean that you know you are you are not a good person or your family member is not a good person it's just that we are all human beings and we often come across situations where there are conflicts right Now let's look at this example.

How would you like to respond to this one? Does anybody recognize which family this is? Anybody who recognizes which family this is, this is a very popular web series on Netflix. And I'm waiting, let me wait for a minute or two to see if someone recognizes which family this is. Bridgerton, very good Parizad.

Very nice. We are speaking about the Bridgerton family. And Bridgerton family, of course, is a very, very crucial component of the web series. And again, one thing that you notice about this family is that they are all so different from each other.

And yet they depend so much on each other for guidance, for support, you know, for any kind of sharing. Right. It reminds me of what you people said about, you know, emotional attachment and sharing and guidance.

That is something that, you know, one can really apply to the Bridgerton family, that even though. each of the Bridgeton siblings is very different from each other. There is still a lot of dependence that they have on each other.

They respect each other for, you know, what they are and everyone's individuality is something that is respected, right? So, you can see how the mother, Violet, you know, who's the matriarch of the family is, you know, quite accepting of how each of... her children are very different from each from you know are very different basically and that's something which doesn't which doesn't become a source of vexation for her it's not like she is constantly comparing them even when she compares them she tells herself that no I should not compare they are all very different from each other so that's something which is very important to realize it's a value that you know every family should explore that is the value of inclusivity and acceptance That, you know, when we are in a family, we are all very different people. We may not have the same qualities. We may not have the same strengths.

But that's how we complement each other. If we were all the same people, then it would be difficult to really complement each other. And there would be certain strengths and weaknesses that would not get balanced at all.

But in Bridgerton, since all the siblings are so different from each other, they are able to reach out. you know, when there is a problem. So, you know, Daphne is someone who's so calm and composed all the time.

So, you know, she's someone who's very good at giving advice. Anthony is someone who has a lot of authority. Yeah. So whenever there is a need for them to take a decision, you know, Anthony is something who becomes, you know, their go to person again with the, you know, the younger siblings like Eloise. Eloise is someone who likes to speak her heart out.

She doesn't think twice before. expressing herself. So again, you know, that's an area where, you know, she differs from all the other siblings. But she's also a breath of fresh air in her own way. So Bridgeton family really helps us explore the importance of inclusivity, and how difference can be a good thing.

The fact that they are also different from each other is actually a benefit that it works out well for the family. Okay, let's move on to the next family. And does anybody recognize which family this is? Has anyone watched this film? I'm sure that you will recognize.

I'm still waiting in the comments. Anybody who recognizes which family this is? It's a very popular film. Very good. Kapoor and Sons.

Parizad has a good knowledge of popular culture. She's the first one to guess or she's very quick with typing. That also can be the case. But yes, you all are very right. This is Kapoor and sons.

And this is a very different kind of family because this is the definition of how a dysfunctional family looks. They are at the polar opposite end of the family that we saw in Hum Saath Saath Hai. Right.

That was an ideal family. Whereas Kapoor and Sons is a family which is very real. Okay. And I'm sure those of you who have seen the film remember that famous plumber scene.

Okay. Where the entire family gets into a moment of conflict and it just spirals out of control that finally the plumber only has to say that, okay, I will leave you all to your discussion and I will just exit the scene. Yeah. So it is a very realistic circumstance.

I'm sure that. There are moments of conflicts and crisis that we face with our family and sometimes they really spiral out of control. But I think one of the reasons why that happens is because we also love our family that much.

You know, who are the people whom we fight with a lot? They are the people whom we love a lot. Okay.

It's only when I really love someone and I have expectations from that person, only then will I get enraged if that person doesn't fulfill those expectations. Right. So if you fight with someone, you know, there is also an element of love and attachment at the root of that. Okay.

So conflicts can be healthy provided that a family is ready to resolve them together. Which is also something that Kapoor and Sons shows beautifully that there are conflicts, there are unresolved secrets, there are moments when the family, when each of the members come face to face with how everyone is flawed in their own way. Everyone is, someone is selfish, someone is, you know, trying to assert their will over others. someone is just trying for the family to remain peaceful right so everyone has their flaws but everyone also has the best intention uh for each other um over fighting yes vikash may has uh uh written a very interesting question uh do you think over fighting is just a toxicity yeah of course fighting has it as long as fighting is productive in the sense that Any moment of conflict which brings you face to face with something negative or something toxic should eventually lead to an intention that you have to resolve that conflict with, you know, your family member, because we are not fighting for the sake of it, no? Whenever we have a fight with maybe a sibling at home or a cousin, or even our parents, in the back of our mind, we are actually wanting for that, you know, conflict.

conflict to resolve itself because we want to go and hug them. We want to, you know, spend good time with them, right? So I think it's important that even when we have moments of conflict, we don't forget the fact that as family members, we have each other's best intention in mind.

And sometimes, you know, we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves and for the other person that may become the pause for that conflict right like in this family also the mother actually has the best interests of both her children in mind but it is just that you know some of her actions are not entirely understood by her children and that leads to a kind of a conflict but what is beautiful is the fact that the mother is ready to accept that yes what she did may you know it's perhaps was perhaps not the right way to deal with the situation uh yes she made a mistake and uh she is ready to change for the better she is ready to do something for the family do something that can bring the family together right so i think conflict is also an important aspect that helps relationships grow okay we can only uh grow as people and as uh you know uh siblings or you know, even if it's a parent or child relationship, we can only grow in a relationship when we pass through moments of conflict, because that is when we see different dimensions in different people. Okay. And when we see those dimensions, we have to somewhere, you know, increase or broaden our horizon of acceptance, we have to increase our tolerance level, because at the end of the day, we have to recognize the fact that as family members, we have... the best interest in mind for each other, right?

So as long as that intention is something which is clear, as long as we can remind ourselves of that intention that we don't hate each other, we love each other and we, you know, we have the best intentions for each other, then we will be in a position to pass through any moment of conflict, right? So it can, sort of a lot of people have put down observations about conflict. And again, conflict is something that is a very, very rife, a very open ground for a lot of debate and discussion. And I hope that some of these discussions can be picked up in some of the classes that we have with you, because unfortunately, this platform will not allow us to talk to each other. OK, so with that, I think let's move on to the next, the final example that we have for you.

Let's see what you have to say for this one. And I invite Firdaus, ma'am. First of all, I would like to say a very big thank you for being such a participative.

The way that you are responding, we are immensely happy with the response that you have given. See, as Vikas ma'am said, you know, when you think about conflict, that's a very, how do you say, very important topic which needs attention, which needs to be discussed, which cannot be done in a very quick way. But to understand that we can avoid conflict if we have issues with someone, it's better to resolve, understand their perspective, understand your perspective. It's not always that we are going to be right, it's not always that they are going to be right, that's something. Oh, before we ask you, there's an avanach of people who have said about Sarabhai vs Sarabhai.

Okay, I'll read out. At the time I read out names, I want you all to tell me what's the thing with Sarabhai. I'm sure all of you have loved the dialogue.

You know, each of the things that are in the typical Gujarati family, the Sarabhai's who live in a luxurious building and the corporate South Bombay, the entire sober mentality, the sober attitude sometimes that's reflected the characters. you know maya sir by roshesh you know the way she says uh those entire things those premier yes navneesh sukanya parizad uh pursha sruthi tamanna reed dhanishta delzi know there are many people so i'm taking very few names uh fabian shriya the tear aria yes now we say the best indian sitcom ever yes even if today when you look i think we all have a good laugh of the way they've depicted situations The way the entire thing between the bond between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law whether you look at the father, you look at these brothers, the way each of their personalities like Anamika remember she said for the other movies is very different and yet as together how they are as families into all their times, yes I think all of you all have written about the movie itself so something you know when you look into this entire movie The gratitude, I mean the entire concept of the gratitude that comes out of it, the humour, the way the things are in terms of these elite families. Yes, because you should definitely try watching, if you have not watched it, certain few episodes.

You will have a laugh with the way Roshesh sings, you know, the entire, the way he sings the songs, sometimes the way when he talks about it. And each family member is completely different. And as ma'am has also said, we have to understand that not each one of us are the same.

Each one of us have a different perspective to life. Each one of us deal or look at situations in a certain way. For example, if you look at the mother-in-law, the entire character which is Mohnisha she calls her. The actual name of the character is initially Mohnisha. It's something that she doesn't like.

The typical name of Mohnisha. She wants to... related to these elite families so she calls herself Monisha.

Yes Sukanya says that everyone has their own distinct personality and the situation of comedy is it makes you laugh and in an alternate way in a way of satire and everything it shows how family is important how the family born very significant how they are very crucial each character you know some seriousness cannot teach you sataran comedy TV, you know we can reflect upon us in the certain our situation a lot of these things that you could find related anyone has anything else to add up to this I'm sure you have I have watched a few episodes of sarabhai versus sarabhai that it will take you know when you talk about in this earlier time a very beautiful clean thing in a very you could say very popular Even today, you know, pretty older episodes of all of these. And the acting of each of these characters, you know, which are very significant in their own way. Yes, what's your favorite character in Sarabhai? Who's the Sarabhai? Is it Roshesh, Manisha, anyone?

What is your favorite character? Come on, Maya, anyone? Okay, I think we'll have answers coming in.

So this is our way of showing you two films. How Roshesh, Parizad says Roshesh, lovely. And how this is our way of showing you Navneesh's Indra Vadhan, he's living the dream. That's lovely. Maya Sarabhai, the queen, yes, I'll give you a minute to answer.

Yeah, so you can, a lot of us have different favorites. And a lot of you are saying Maya, who is a perfectionist. Yes, she definitely sets that standard for a lot of us, that there is a certain expectation. She has very high expectations from her family members, and most of them don't live up to it. So you see what happens when you have, you know, very, very high expectations from those around you.

Often those expectations break and of course in Sarabhai those are shown in a very humorous manner. Those situations where either Indra Vadhan or Maulisha don't live up to the expectations that Maya Sarabhai has from them. So like Ananka said, Maulisha is iconic, Maya Sarabhai is a deadly combination. Always the perfectionist Maya Sarabhai. Lovely, right?

the way they are analyzing these movies. Yes, it's very heartening to see and Parizad says even though Rosesh has been ridiculed multiple times on his poetry yet he doesn't give up and continues writing poetry. So that's a nice observation that yes there is fun and there is people in the family make fun of him and there's a lot of humor that comes from the poems that he writes but He still takes those as very encouraging comments that it's okay if people don't understand, they are perhaps not at my level.

So that's another humorous way of looking at the situation. It does not impact Rosesh in any way. He continues to write the poems and some of them are rather funny.

They are rather quirky. So I think that's something which is worth seeing. Even though in Sarabhai family also everyone is so different from each other, but there is a certain degree of acceptance that they all have for different personality types.

And they may have some unrealistic expectations from each other. They are ready to still understand that everybody is not at the same level. Everyone has different priorities.

Everyone has a different way of approaching life. And they are ready to accept each other nonetheless. Even though there are moments of conflict or moments of some disagreement or whatever.

But again, Sarabhai versus Sarabhai also teaches us the power of humor. Okay, that sometimes there's no need for us to take everything very seriously. Okay, when it comes to family members, we tend to do that, that everything is so serious.

Oh my God, my sibling said this to me. This is so... cruel and this is so mean you know we have all these uh uh base very very serious ways of looking at the conflicting situations but a family like that of sarabhai teaches us that sometimes we should also take some comments with a pinch of salt and not take everything too seriously because we are all after all in this together and sometimes it's nice to um you know engage in a good natured banto And if we take everything with a pinch of salt and if we look at things humorously, then we will also not get too stressed and the overall optimism and positive atmosphere in the family will be maintained.

So that's something that you can learn. Yes, Kaveri, you are right that even though Maya made some very classist remarks, Maunisha doesn't mind. She's fine. She knows that, okay, my mother-in-law has...

has very unrealistic expectations that I can never fulfill. But it's okay, it's fine. She still accepts all the ways she feels.

So I think that's something which is worth noticing. And also Anamika, when Parizad writes, you know, even though Roshesh has been ridiculed multiple times, he yet doesn't give up. So in our life, you know, you may do things which others may laugh at, make a mockery of the situation.

I think you should be happy. There are days when you have your good days, there are days when you have your bad days. Whatever you are doing, your efforts, whatever, whether what is your passion, your hobby, the career that you choose, if you have your confidence, if you have faith in yourself, there are people who are going to appreciate what you do, there are people who are not going to appreciate what you don't do.

But don't lose heart, give your best, do whatever good that you could do. And listen, I'm very happy that each of y'all are analyzing these characters, you know, and each of these characters are teaching you something which you of course Maybe you have seen these characters but now you are able to see a different perspective when you are discussing with us, when you are telling us about these characters. So the reason for us to change is to show how movies or these death series or television series have an impact in our lives. The way some of us have said, oh I wish this was my family and we are together. Sometimes we think we can do a correct religion thing in our families.

But watching these we could get a new perspective which would help us in family relations. There is a learning to each of these things. Okay, let's... So what we have is a reflective question for you that you can note down.

You can take a screenshot also. This is our first reflective question for you in today's session. How can you as an individual address the challenges in your familial relationships?

Suggest any two ways and note this in your SIP journal. You can draw from the discussion that we all just had about, you know, different familial expectations or just being very different from each other or just trying to be inclusive. or sometimes we love each other too much that we fight a lot.

You can see if any of the discussion really helps you in reflecting but try to think about similar situations that you encounter in your family and try to think how you as an individual can bring about a difference. It may be any kind of family, maybe a nuclear family, maybe a bigger joint family or maybe your extended family that the relatives live close by. Or your family can be your friend circle whom you are living with.

Maybe you are, you know, not in the same city as your parents. So you are living with a bunch of friends. Then they become your family. Okay, so I'm sure that in such a case also there are conflicts. So how can you as an individual address, you know, some of these challenges?

That's something that we would like for you to make a note of. Okay. i think uh there is one more poll uh that we can we have for you uh for this module before we move on to the next one so you can see the poll uh what is the biggest challenge that you observe in your family will shortly uh share a link uh that you can respond to uh you have a bunch of uh examples so guys you try using same link i'll just share the what you could tell i'll share the thing with you i'll share the question uh yeah i think copy the link one are we not audible some of the students are saying that we cannot be heard can some people inform can you all hear us now okay can some of you confirm if we are audible okay yeah i think there are yeah yeah they are saying we are audible okay okay yeah guys i'll show you the things i think once i share with you the thing and then if you can answer can you share I'll just present the question will come to you on the just click on the Mentimeter link and I think now you can see According to you. What is the biggest social concern in the 21st century India? We have poverty unemployment Firdaus, it's the diff.

It's a different poll. It's what is the biggest challenge that you observe in your family? Okay, I think they are voting for the other question.

I'll just change it. Just give me a second. Yeah, according to you what is What is the biggest challenge that you observe in your family?

I'll just share the question. Just give me a second. Use the same link.

Use the same link, guys. Yeah. Is it depicted now?

Can you see the question? You can use the link that was just shared. What is the biggest challenge that you can observe in your family? So Tanvi, I think you'll have to reconnect, just disconnect and reconnect. And even I think you all can see, can you all see the live results?

Yeah. So you can see as you write or as you vote, you can see the live results here. Yeah, you all can vote. The link is up there. We are still hoping for more votes to come in because a lot of people are watching this live.

So we will just hold on. until we can see clearer results. So far of course it's the lack of communication that is at the highest level.

I think that is true also many a times it's a communication gap sometimes we find it difficult to express ourselves and then when everybody is emotionally charged up then you know we are just angry. So yes lack of communication is an important factor that can be observed. Too many expected.

Okay, the next one I think is generation gap. Okay, now here we have a bunch of younger people responding that we feel that sometimes there is a generation gap, that our family, the older members of our family don't understand us, they don't understand our needs. Yes, that can happen. But I'm sure there are ways of addressing generation gap with the help of communication. So I think, you know, one factor can address the other problem.

Yeah. So the more you communicate, the more you will be able to, you know, have a better understanding in your family, even if there is a generation gap. I'm sure that eventually all the family members are ready to listen to each other.

And if you can... create that moment, create that space for communication, definitely a lot of preconceived notions will go away. Yeah, I'm sure you remember that one scene from Dil Dhadakne Do where Ranbir Singh's character says that, no, no, no, I want to talk and I'm going to stay right here and I'm going to talk to all of you.

You have to listen to me. I'm not going anywhere, right? So, it was a humorous moment. But of course, it was very fruitful because it it became a way for all the family members to clear the misunderstanding that they had been holding on to for all that while.

So sometimes communication is something which can address some of the other problems. Prigaz, ma'am, what do you think? Yes, even I was just thinking of, you know, how the one simple thing, communication, how you communicate. And also one thing sometimes I feel you also need to, like as ma'am said, communication is the best part of communication, you need to be a good listener.

Yes. Sometimes you may have the other person who may have certain things and at times you want to justify yourself. Fine. I mean, first of all, listen sometimes.

Sometimes whether it's your friend, your family members, sometimes they're not looking for a solution from you. They're looking for a year full. You need to understand.

Don't try to sometimes give them reason of why you are behaving like this. You're feeling too emotional. You're overreacting to a situation. You should have dealt with it. I think for the first time, just listen to the other person.

You know, the best part of the communication is to be a good listener. Sometimes you don't have to give your suggestions right there in the beginning. Understand, you don't know what frame of mind the other person is.

For you, you're sitting on the other side of the fence. For you, the perspective would be a different thing. Have a good communication. And sometimes generational gap, of course, there are going to be generational gaps.

They will look at things from a different perspective. You will look up to it. And sometimes it's coming from the middle ground.

Understanding your parents, appreciating and understanding that as they grow old, of course, the generation gap is going to be a little more wider. Listen to them, sit with them, make them understand your viewpoint, understand what is their perspective and sometimes I think you sit across and talk, all that could be the thing. And sometimes some of you are like, I don't have any expectations. Yes, I think sometimes we attach too many expectations but as Nam said, we have expectations from people we love.

You know, you are not going to feel bad if a stranger does not do the same thing. I am going to give you a start to a book that I have constructed on my own and the person is not able to fulfill it. and also all of these circumstances sometimes you know my friend is behaving in a different way i think sometimes it's better to talk i think talking can solve a lot of things than other lack of time for each other i think many of you all would be wishing each other the best birthdays on whatsapp you look into what it is you look at whatsapp the messages which are from write what you feel about your friends no matter how busy you are just a minute you will say oh girl I can only talk to you today for two three minutes I have some work but a very happy birthday a phone call makes a difference a message rather than a message a phone call or a personalized message you know that makes a lot of difference than these or the typical those whatsapp messages that you would send to each other good morning good evening or the any festive wishes you know you and what you write about the person that makes it much more uh important things and I think we all have our challenges but of course we can overcome all of these it's very easier to be said than done we also take a small effort each one in family you can't always expect from the other person everyone has to take it first I can't expect the family to change for me and I have only expectations.

I'm not going to do any change for them. I'm not going to adjust for them. For me, what I think is very important. Appreciate maybe today if your mother has cooked something, appreciate what she had cooked. You know she may have a hard day.

You can maybe take and say, oh but she's not finished. You need a break. Your parents need a break from all the duties that they are doing.

Let it take the six public practitioners. Go and do something for your family that makes them happy. And we will tell you about what we have for the other sessions, for the finale session. But to make you more interested, do something, appreciate, value the time. You know, time moves on.

I think rather than depending on whether you have done this or not, if there are family members there with you, appreciate them, value them. We have work. We want to say to you, I think next we can move ahead to the next year. I think I will stop sharing now.

yeah i completely agree with the firdaus ma'am over there that it's nice to spend some time with our family maybe get to know and understand them better and an integral part of communication is also listening sometimes when we are too emotionally charged up we are just talking and nobody is ready to listen uh then that becomes a big communication gap so sometimes we can uh have a matured approach to a situation and try to listen to the other person's point of view. That definitely is a very peaceful way of dispelling any kind of conflict. Okay, our reflection is something that we've shared with you.

We are sharing it once again. This is the first reflection for this session. How can you as an individual address the challenges in your familial relationships? Suggest any two ways and note this in your SIP journal. I request all the students to take a little screenshot.

this or write this question down somewhere because this is the first reflective question for this session. Okay, moving on to the next component which is the focus on society. Now from the concentric circle of family we are moving on to society and society is also something that is very very important because we are members of a human community. We can't deny that.

We have a collective sense of belonging and we have a collective aspect to our identity. For example, today if someone asks you to talk about your college life, you will talk about the culture of Jai Hind College, that how you are all students of Jai Hind College and that means something. That collective identity is something that we constantly rely on. in order to establish our community engagement. Now we are living definitely through times that are that have so many social, political and cultural conflicts and sometimes it becomes difficult when we are living through conflicting times to understand how as individuals how we can bring about a difference.

What good can our actions do? It is so much of... yours if there is so much of uh you know crisis that uh we have around us as individuals what will our actions lead to yeah often as youngsters we think like that that oh what can i do you know often we have those kind of thoughts in our mind but uh we will shortly discuss a few uh examples where we will see that an individual also can bring about a transformation and can be a contributor to collective consciousness because eventually when we are a part of a human community we have to recognize that there is a collective aspect to our existence right for example i'm sure you all remember that some years ago one or two years ago, we faced that entire pandemic time together.

As a global community, we faced that entire crisis together and we reached out to each other in ways that were unimaginable, right? That was a very big example of how the human community can function collectively, how collectively we can bring about a difference if we are ready to put in that kind of effort. individually each person may have put in very little effort but together if each individual is ready to make that little effort together it can bring about a lot of change right because that is the way in which we will reach a state of harmony perhaps we will be able to bring about a change in the world that we are looking forward to right as the saying goes that be the change that you wish to see in the world If we are not ready to put in that effort or do anything on our own, then the change is not going to come about or improvement is not going to come about on its own. It's true that the times are tough, but it's also true that as younger people, We can bring about a difference in our own way.

So, Kosh ma'am, what do you think? I was just thinking, and Amika was just imagining when she said about how we as individuals can bring about a change. And I think our push to a dependent society is something that we give back to society.

Because the society, the things around us which have contributed in our nurturing, which have contributed to work... individual right so it's also a way of giving back to them you know maybe as she said something big that we could we could be kind to each other i think something to each everyone has a cross in need some politely to them whatever maybe you're traveling in a bus you're traveling this day or comes to college i think what is a simple way that you could help you never know your simple act of kindness maybe someone is very stand with you at some stage that's not you know which way you get You are helping that person, you are helping that junior in the college, in FY, FF, next year you will be seniors. You will help your FY. Oh listen, relax.

Everyone will stand for the FY. We have managed, you will manage. You will be a guiding mentor for them.

Even that could be your thing which will I think, you never know your kindness can impact people in what different ways. Embrace empathy. Have empathy for people.

Don't always think my problems are bigger, people may have bigger problems than you. Understand, when you show empathy, the others will show empathy towards you. I think you need to start somewhere from the basic. Today what is mostly happening, we are going into those higher levels of things.

We are not understanding our basics. The basic value of kindness, empathy. I think if we follow our basics are very strong, our society would be a good place to live. Volunteer time for doing societal activities.

Volunteer whether you are working for an NGO. You may not be working for an NGO. Maybe as you said, you may have you could say staff or people are coming at your house for working or you see in your neighborhood whether a watchman or anyone's their time if you can teach the children or you even can help them in a certain way uh you know by teaching certain english skills today as a part of community engagement program our college also has you know community engagement program what can you do and when you do it do it with a heart don't do it for anything else because you're you're asked to do it do it because you like it do it Your actions should be able to impact them in even a smaller way. Whatever way you could help them. And also, when you look in terms of reducing your carbon footprint, you also have a responsibility towards your environment, right?

In society, what you can do as an individual. In college, in your family, the way you have your different social circles. So these are all parts of society. And I think, see, I think, there's this movie with Salman Khan, right? He said, do one thing well.

something like that you know where what you do your act of kindness could also help in someone's bad days you know and we have a society we have a responsibility and also one thing as society have a tolerance for each other that's very very important for us to live harmoniously uh value respect each other's views and opinions uh don't be uh that's something you can do it as friends This is something which most people are very, the way the responses that you all have given us, I'm sure that they are going to do your best with you. I think when it comes to a community session, I'm sure someone will have thinking, oh ma'am, I started this thing, you know, I started helping this one, I started to meet my family, I started doing this in society. We want our session to have an outcome. Outcome for it.

Yes, Namika, so what do you? yeah yeah i think uh uh as we are discussing this we have uh a poll connected with this issue and let's see if the students can respond to this poll according to you what is the biggest social concern in 21st century india uh we have some of these concerns put down for you poverty unemployment lack of education population unequal distribution of resources so i think pirdaus ma'am will once again share yeah i'll just share it no i think the link is same they can use it i'll just try to present it to them and see if it is happening if it is not i will reshare the thing yeah just give a second students you can use the same link that was shared earlier uh for this particular poll and you guys can go ahead and respond let's see how you feel about a number of challenges that we are facing today. Can you all see the response? Yeah, it's visible. Pirtos, I think you might want to just present that slide so that we can see it more clearly.

Yeah, I'll do that and I'll try. yeah perfect yes um okay students are still responding let's let's have some more responses Come on guys, we have been a lovely audience so far. Okay, a lot of people are saying population is the root cause or it's the biggest social concern.

Then it's unemployment. Of course, it's also important to see how these concerns are linked to each other. Okay, they are not functioning individually. They are also linked. to each other and we are therefore caught up in a vicious circle that the increase in population leads to an unequal distribution of resources which eventually leads to poverty and unemployment and a certain apathy towards education or the inability to afford education.

also important to see that a lot of social concerns around us are connected with one another and once we are able to see those connections we will be able to address them better we will be able to respond to them better rather than just looking at them as compartments what do you feel with us ma'am yes very true and i think now when you look at the biggest social concern in the 25th century india there are many of these concerns and i think With the initiatives that are taken by government, with the initiatives that the state is taking, and each one of us have a role and responsibility towards it, right? When you look at poverty, when you look at unemployment, whether it's lack of education, population, unequal distribution, and I think we all need to come up with solutions. We need to work with things. We need to come up with what you could say, solutions to these problems.

How can we solve at our groundwork level? Maybe starting it from your society. Starting it from a smaller group, there are a lot of these organizations which are doing work in these areas you know when it comes to eradicating poverty, unemployment, lack of education. How can you contribute towards them and how can they be more initiated? Like, you know, we need to find solutions to it.

You know, these are biggest social concerns, these are challenges. Yes, sudden and in spite of that, how can we make these things better? We need to find because otherwise what would happen?

The divide between this because of all of these problems, the development and the progress of the society gets affected, you know. So we need to come up with solutions, what better efforts or initiatives that we can take within terms of poverty, unemployment. What can you do?

You know, today, how can you provide employment opportunities, skills to people, you know, whereby they can create employment opportunities to them. Education, you know, there are certain areas where accessibility of education. How can you concentrate on areas where they actually. cognitive education is a major concern find out for that first of all we need to understand the root cause of the problem and then come with solutions and it's and i do need to have a holistic perspective towards it i think then only it will make okay we'll have a better outcome okay think this was a good reflection from your side and i think it must have got all of you thinking about some of these issues that we are facing as a society um okay uh now of course one of the questions that we started this particular module with was how can we as individuals make a difference right so we have a few examples for you of people who have as individuals made a difference and they are still contributing to bringing about that kind of difference in society so let's look at some of these examples does anybody recognize who this personality is who is this famous person anybody in the comments okay guys come on it's from the movie uh the movie was based on this person come on oh yes okay do we have a response has anybody responded very good very good it is sonam vangchuk i'm sure that you all remember that famous amir khan movie yes uh three idiots uh amir khan's character was loosely based on sonam vangchuk we are not saying that it was a complete representation uh but the character was loosely based on uh Sonam Vangchuk's contribution in Ladakh. Now, what do we know about him?

We know that he is a mechanical engineer by profession and he has been working in the field of educational reforms for more than 30 years. It was in the late 80s, 1988, when he founded this movement called SECMOL, Students'Education and Cultural Movement of Ladakh, which basically aims to bring about reforms in the government school system in the Trans-Himalayan region of Ladakh. Right. And that is the kind of school that we saw glimpses of also in the movie, because it was a school. school that operated on very very different experiential principles of learning.

Sonam Vangchuk also launched Operation New Hope which was supposed to bring about a triangular collaboration between government, the village communities and the civil society to you know eventually lead to a reform in the government school system right. So he is In a lot of ways, he has been very instrumental in changing the face of education in the village community of Ladakh. And someone who's completely dedicated to that cause, someone who has altered our way of, you know, thinking about education and how education is not only about books or rote learning or just...

you know examinations it's also a lot about life okay why are you getting education you are getting education so that it prepares you for life and that's something which sonam bangchuk has been instrumental in helping us understand and he's definitely an individual who has brought a lot of difference and who's still bringing a lot of difference i'm sure that you will agree with me when i say that okay let's look at the next uh you know example that we have for you anybody recognizes her guys come on quickly reply who is this personality to give you a hint she was a social activist yes she's for the famous Narmada Bachcha Vandolin Mohit, can you give me a sign? Yes, very good Parizad. It is indeed Medha Patkar who has been at the centre of the Narmada Bachao Andolan, which was basically the people's movement meant to stop the construction of a series of dams that were planned on the Narmada river because that would lead to a displacement of a lot of villagers and certain tribal communities. who depend on natural resources for their sustenance. And she is someone who has been associated with the activism, ecological activism and saving the ecological resources for the tribal and the village communities that depend on these resources to a very large extent.

It's important for us to remember that while we are moving into a completely urbanized way of life, many a times we tend to forget that there are still many communities in our country that depend a lot on natural resources for their means of sustenance. Medha Parker was very instrumental in helping people recognize the importance of ecological balance. conserving our ecology and preserving our environment because it is a means of sustenance for a lot of our communities and not just that it is important to also maintain an ecological balance in order to in order for us to have a healthy life right today many ecological crisis or ecological catastrophes are taking place there All the scientists and researchers are telling us that it's only because of some incorrect decisions that we have taken as human beings to try and spoil the ecological balance or undertake construction in certain areas where it is not the best thing to do, which is actually the cause for so much of ecological crisis and many natural catastrophes also that we are facing. So it's something worth thinking about and Medha Patkar of course is one such individual whom we look up to when it comes to certain ecological and environmental consciousness. and a certain consciousness about communities that depend on these ecological resources.

Many a times you may realize that okay some particular cause does not pertain to you because you are not a part of that community but at the end of the day we have to realize that we are all human beings, we are all a part of the human community. So if something is concerning to anybody be it someone belonging to a different community, it is still something that is of concern to us as human beings. So on the human level, we need to reach out for each other.

On a human level, we need to make that effort to bring about a difference. As Firdaus ma'am said just a while ago, that we have to create that trait of kindness in us. Thank you. and a certain degree of compassion. That it may not be that I am going through the problems that someone else is.

So that does not mean that I can completely, you know, put blinkers and forget about the problems that other people or other communities may be facing because I am not a part of it. No, that is not the main approach to life. The main approach to life is to broaden this. horizon to get rid of those blinkers and look around us and try and see how as human beings we can stand with each other and how we can try and reach out to one another during times of difficulty right yeah let's get the third example that we have because ma'am can i invite you for this one sure and can you see this this one this person do you remember it He won the Nobel Prize, yes. This is a man who has worked immensely for the cause.

Yes, very true. I was just trying to give more hints. Prisha has said Kailash Satyarthi. And I think Kailash Satyarthi's example teaches us a lot. Yes, Sukanya, Kailash Satyarthi, very good answer.

It teaches us a lot about how one individual's action could make an impact in society. How one individual's effort also could... save lives of larger number of people it could bring to light certain societal issues for which we may see it happening around but we don't say anything or we may not able to contribute it but through the organization that he has formed today a lot of people can be a part of it can contribute immensely he's known to be a sky right is fighting for child slavery, child trafficking, for all of these immense work that is done and also some way down the line bringing in the next generation of child labour, right? The begging children on the streets, you don't know what part of Biden makes all of these things happen. So you have a lot of these laws instilled.

things that situations have changed a lot. I know that society wants to change it completely to still have child labour issues you know the child labour is evident in terms of it these are children who are working in an organised sector where they have their childhood right and when they are fortunate for all of these things child trafficking slavery child labour understand the detrimental damage or impact it has on their childhood so it's a man a very proud you know initiative So you have people waiting for the other contributions for him, getting it from India, for the cause that he worked for child labour. It's something which you could say is commendable, which is also a serious cause of concern in today's time. It doesn't mean the issues of child labour, child trafficking, all of these are completely gone. These are also issues that confronted the society.

We were doing a question, what are the challenges that confront us? Even these are kind of challenges which confront us. there are laws there are legislations which are there but these are problems and somewhere has received an award was not just a recognition of his efforts also the recognition that these are problems which are there there are solutions which are made and you don't need just one person like him many other people need to join in the cause work to eradicate these things and there are a lot of these ngos which are doing work in the area of child labor or rescuing these children for child staffing there are a lot of organizations which are doing the Ranishtha, Ujjain, all of them said we should be learning from each other. We should learn from each other.

We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other.

We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other.

We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other. We should learn from each other.

Veika, can you reply in one... Is my voice audible now? Yes, thank you.

I guess it's not really clear. I'll just check. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Pirdaus, can you speak again? Yeah. So what I'm trying to say is the lessons that we learn from these individuals...

is that each individual can make an effort we all have in ourselves maybe a small change that we can bring in our own families, in our own neighbourhood, in our own... oh so sweet, I don't know what the network glitch that we are facing just a minute ago No, Firdaus you've gone on mute I think Firdaus, I think the mic is on mute. Oh, I was on mute.

Sorry. Can you hear me now? Yeah, now you're audible.

Were you able to hear me? I was speaking and I just realised I was on mute. Yeah, maybe just the final 2-3 sentences that you said, if you can just repeat them. Let me sum up in two-three lines the entire thing. What I said by these people never thought that why this issue is something which is not concerning me, this issue is something which is not bothering me.

They were the ones who fought for society, who worked for society and tried to make the society a better place. So don't ever think what is in for me, what you can do for society, how can you meet a better person and I think when you do it for others you in yourself you become a better person. Whether when you do things that all these values empathy, kindness. good moral values, virtues, you do it more than what you can do it. You know, we all live, you know, we all live life for ourselves.

Sometimes when you do it for others, you live for generations to come, you know. People will remember for you, for your good deeds. That was our purpose of showing this and I think I'm sure there are many more individuals who contributed immensely. Due to the paucity of time, they picked up on few individuals.

You can even... for put out names in chat box you feel any individuals who you think have contributed to society according to you yeah that would be nice if some of you uh think you have any inspiring uh individuals or inspiring idols whom you look up to for their contribution to society please share some of the names with us in the chat box it will be a nice way for us also to know um who are the people whom our students look up to and that will also help us to get to understand you all better. Oh it's written in abhikas, it's Ratan Tata Sir, Sudha Moosi, yes lovely lovely I think that shows the Ravadasan that we are doing it that's really great yeah. Yeah it's nice to see that some of you are observant of the society around you. Some of you already are noticing certain individuals and how they've contributed to society.

And you are already looking up to them as, you know, stories of inspiration. So it puts in us a lot of hope that, you know, we are on the right track. And eventually you will also find your calling. And as ma'am said, it's important sometimes also to go a little beyond ourselves and look around us and see how we can bring about a difference.

Because definitely these are some individuals who have brought about a difference, even though when they started out, maybe there was doubt, there was uncertainty. There was a lot of protest that they had to face, but still. they held on to their belief and they held on to their intention to bring about that change and i think that intention is something that we all have uh in ourselves there is just a requirement for us to recognize that intent that we all want to contribute to human community we all want to bring about a difference yeah i can see a lot more examples yeah very heartening okay um so with that we have our next reflection the second reflection uh for this particular session uh please i request the students to uh take a picture take a screenshot or note this down somewhere uh we ask you to pick a social cause and suggest how you can as an individual address it uh you can think of any two ways and maybe reflect on this in your journal.

I hope that some of the discussion that we have had about the different individuals who have made a difference and some of the issues that we are facing as a human community will really help you think about this aspect a little more. And I'm sure that you all will have some unique ideas and suggestions from your side, which you think will lead to a difference. So please make sure that you put a reflection about this discussion in your journal. Please respond to this question. Okay.

I will share that. Having said that, we have come to almost an end of our discussion in the third session of SIP. uh deeksharam 2024-25 which was focused on exploring family and society uh the session was dedicated to uh exploring the dynamics and connections between self family and society these are the three very important concentric circles that we encounter as individuals uh we've also seen significant ways of bringing about a difference as an individual that as individuals also our act actions carry a lot of power, they have a lot of significance and we can bring about a change. And it's also important for us to see how our actions are value-based, right? For example, we discussed how in families, if we can have a certain value-based approach, we can be empathetic.

we can be mature we can be compassionate towards each other we can be conclusive all of these different values will really bring about a greater degree of synergy and greater positivity uh in familial interactions even in terms of society we saw how certain value systems of um you know uh going beyond yourself uh having the approach of kindness having the approach of understanding towards other people. All of these are values that really will color our actions in a meaningful manner. So it's important to realize that value-based actions can bring about a difference because all of the individuals whose examples we saw, they basically had a value system in mind when they decided to bring about a change. So that's something which can really lead to a lot of improvement. Of course, efforts need to be consistent, whether at the level of self or the brain.

We had a session on YouTube, which will end in 5 minutes, so I will stop it. Yeah, I think the mic remained on. No, no, actually, we are in college, so they were just coming to check on things.

Yes, it's an Amica membership. saying we all have an individual responsibility whether it's in terms of our family, society. The most important thing is appreciating whether you are appreciating the diversity, you're appreciating the diverse opinions that you're having in the family, in society and also taking responsibility for your actions. Also understanding that we may not always be correct. We always need to improvise ourselves.

We need to learn. You all make mistakes but what's important is to realize that you've made mistakes. It's to do a course correction and I think to learn from each of it and appreciate your success.

Learn from your failures. It's a lot. You know when you're family and society the reason for putting up and how both of them are so very related how both of them are so connected and must one of them it was your voice is cracking slightly Yeah, sure.

So I think students, now is the moment that you've been asking us about. We will be taking a record of the attendance, which Firdaus ma'am will share the link for. And please ensure that you fill the attendance. It's going to be the link will be active for some time. So ensure that all of you fill the attendance.

Firdaus ma'am will just share the link. It's just a sentient bit. Just give me a second.

Students, please ensure that you continue with journaling and self-reflection. We have given you some reflective comments. And we have given you some reflective questions also that we would like.

for you to look at. So please ensure that you do so. Please maintain the journal and we will definitely ask you to submit it very soon.

We will also be having the next session of Deeksharam on the 13th of August when we will be exploring some more aspects about you know human beings we will be looking at nature and the world so again we will have two different speakers who will take you on this journey of exploration so ensure that you do so ensure that you attend all of these sessions and continue to journal continue to reflect that's basically the point of this entire uh journey okay i think the dos ma'am has shared the link for attendance uh please and Whatever comes to your mind, whatever you can do it, please start talking. And also, ask something very specific. It would let you know what you feel there.

What you could say. So, whatever is your learning outcome or learning thing, it would be a reflection of all of those things. Whatever is fresh in your mind, write itself on a sheet of paper.

Keep it there. Well, it's... explain you how to do the entire journal submission in our other sessions.

UID is not a compulsory question Anushka so you could just mention your contact number or something like that. No, no I think students if you have collected your ID card the UID number is written at the back of your ID card if you have not done it you can just skip the question it's not a compulsory question you can still submit the form. or we've got responses people i think are able to fill up the thing yeah um so thank you once again students for participating in our session today it was wonderful to have live audience and i hope that you enjoyed the interaction with polls and with comments of course there are some limitations of the online platform but we I'm sure that we made the most of it by being as interactive we once again thank you for being a very very active enthusiastic and interactive audience before we all leave the car we are going to leave the car and we are going to leave the car and we are going to leave the car Firdaus your voice is cracking again but I think read the comments I think you will be more happy I am very happy that you all enjoyed the session and we sure have a bunch of more sessions for you to make the most of this is the month that we will ask you guys to uh commit to us for a little longer uh and then of course we assume that you will be comfortable in jain college and okay see you all next week on the 13th of august we have our fourth session of sip which is on nature and the world thank you