hello Bashar any you good day cast your vote uh I go for uh five because uh I think uh do none of you have your own opinions five five five five five five five I'm joking with you I I think focusing on uh the fact that everything exists um in the now help lot of synchronicity yeah help uh um moving away from being attached to the past all right because there is no past to be attached to yes if you understand there's no path to be attached to it should be easy yes that's correct then you don't have to work so hard at it right yeah all right my work here is done so um uh I or maybe not no I uh well of course I have questions oh of course you know you can make statements you don't need questions and the Paradox is that sometimes when you make a statement you actually open a door far wider for us than the question does but nevertheless if you have questions by all means don't let us stop you thank you so uh for for me I'm noticing that uh what I want to focus on uh in life yes is two challenges what is the first chall the first one is uh relationships yes uh um I feel feel like uh I haven't been uh able to attract I feel like I want to be uh I want to experience a relationship and experience a family you have no relationships of any kind in your life I had uh but uh nothing that uh you had so you know no one you have no friends no family no I meant I'm sorry I meant in in a romantic relationship as someone to share my life with oh all right but you are sharing your life with many people as as in a you know uh I think you're missing my point why are you calling that out as different than anything else why are you making that stand out and making it seem so different to achieve other than the relationships you already have created uh maybe because I have a def a specific definition of of that uh relationship that is different from say friendship or all right I'm not saying that there aren't relationships that are different in that context but nevertheless I'm asking why are you making it stand out as being so different than attracting any kind of relationship it might be that your definition is making it more difficult to attract because you're creating it to be such a rarified thing uh I believe that's uh correct you're putting it on a pedestal yes well hard to reach isn't it when it's on a pedestal if you bring it down to earth like any relationship I'm not devaluing it not invalidating it but if you allow it to be like any relationship generally speaking then whatever unique aspects that relationship has for you will be easy easier to access but you can't put it on a pedestal and expect to reach it does that make sense yes this is very similar to the idea of having a particular assumption insistence or expectation for how something should play out and as we have already said the formula for following your excitement is to drop all of that assumption and insistence and expectation for what the outcome ought to be or how it should look or in what form it should come so putting things on a pedestal is very similar to that expectation and uh I'm I'm noticing that I'm not only putting it on a pedestal but I'm also becoming very picky as time goes which you would think uh I would think it would be the opposite but uh so I have like this the really strong um do you not trust your life to bring you what you truly need do you have to engineer every detail to make sure it's right because becoming more picky as you say is the shest way to get reflections of others who are going to be just as picky about you remember physical reality is a mirror and if you become too picky not saying you can't have preferen but if you become judgmentally picky then what you're going to get is a reflection of people who are also going to be picky about whether or not they want to interact with you because that's what you're giving off make sense yes is this helping you relax some of your need to engineer this and is it increasing your ability to trust that your life will unfold as it needs to a little bit more naturally uh yes and uh to some extent when I ask myself uh okay if if this never happens will I still uh lead a happy and fulfilled life that's an excellent question to ask yourself asking that question is the right track and my answer to myself is yes but I'm not sure if that's kind of like a mind kind of like type of answer or that's what I truly believe allow yourself to believe it if you wish you don't have to but if you allow yourself to believe that you will still be truly happy even if that relationship never occurs then you'll be truly happy and when you are truly happy you make it far more likely that such a relationship will occur that's the Paradox because you don't need it in that context in the sense of neediness in the sense of desperation so when you're happy because you're happy then all the things that are capable of entering your life to reflect the happiness that you choose to have regardless of whether they show up or not will be more capable of showing up remember manifestation is not the product of bringing something to you that you don't have manifestation is the product of making visible what you all already have but simply don't see it because you're not in the same wavelength if the idea of that joyful relationship is representative of Happiness then be happy regardless of whether the relationship is there so at least you give the Rel relationship a greater probability of showing up to reflect the happiness that you already have because you don't need the relationship to make you happy do you understand yes is this helping absolutely what is the Second Great challenge of your life it's somewhat you touched on uh in your answer you kind of like touched on it already which is right so it might be the same challenge in different clothing it's it's very possible oh all right yes I know uh it's it's about uh Financial abundance yes well we did touch on that so yeah I um do you wish to be abundant yes I mean then be abundant in all ways not just financially why limit it many people think oh well if I have a lot of money then I'm really abundant when in fact having a lot of money could actually be shutting the door to other forms of abundance that would actually be greater money is fine because that's a valid symbol on your planet but it isn't always the path of least resistance to True abundance where it's needed it will come in where it's not needed it won't and sometimes it not coming in is actually a way for you to get an idea that maybe another form of abundance would actually work better in that circumstance such as we describe with regard to the photographer you understand uh yes and uh you know I I I'm always prosperous but it's there's like it's almost like there's a a wall where it kind of kind of TAPS out and again you're creating the wall with your definitions there are no walls except as you define them but again you may be defining that wall because you believe you need more of a particular kind of abundance than any other and as soon as you make one form of abundance unequal to to all the rest you throw the whole thing out of whack all forms of abundance must be equally valid in order for any form of abundance to come to you more easily as soon as you single one out as being more important you shut the doors through which all the other forms could come and you actually make it more difficult for even the form you're focused on to manifest because now it can't count on the support of all the other forms of synchronous abundance that may be required for that form to manifest because they all work together they all work together they are not segregated all forms of abundance support all other forms of abundance as I said in the example with the photographer even though she was willing to simply be flown around the world in exchange for the photographs the airline still paid her so her willingness to allow one form of abundance actually attracted another another form of abundance and another form and another and another because they're all interconnected so don't insist on just one form otherwise you well Short Change yourself thank you so you can't say uh I'm just gonna you know it's it's a game I'm just going to play focus on this one thing and figure out you can if you wish but I'm simply telling you that sometimes when you do that you're taking the longer road but if that's the road you wish to take if if that's the path you're exploring if that's the theme you're looking into then by all means that's what you will keep doing until you have gotten every single ounce of understanding and learning out of it that you chose to get out of it and I'm not going to stop you or dissuade you from taking that path I am simply telling you what the underlying mechanisms are all about so that you have clarity about why you're choosing what you're choosing and why you're exploring what you're exploring so that you don't think anything is wrong you just understand that you're making choices and that there are consequences to those choices and that you can make other choices if you ultimately prefer to and that's all we're telling you it's up to you does that help absolutely thank you and few there was one question that was brought to me by uh one of the audience uh how can you tell if someone is lying we already answered that what difference does it make uh I'm just the messenger I don't all right but the idea really is ultimately what difference does it make if you know that whatever state of being you're creating for yourself is what you will experience no matter what anyone else's intention toward you is it doesn't really much matter if they're lying to you or not because you know that the only effect you're going to have in your reality is going to be a positive one regardless of what's going to happen with them you understand yes ultimately it doesn't matter all right thank you thank you you 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