Dealing with Haters and Bullies

Key Principles

• Avoid Engagement:
  • Do not read comments from haters or engage with their negativity.
  • Stay in your own positive bubble with loved ones and pets.
• Do Not Give Power:
  • Haters only have power if you give them a reaction.
  • Success and confidence usually deter happy, well-adjusted individuals from bullying.
• Jealousy and Envy:
  • Often the root cause of bullying and hate is jealousy.
  • Haters can be seen as "super-obsessed fans."

Personal Experiences

• Liz shares personal stories of being bullied, including by an abusive parent and school bullies.
• Emphasizes the importance of not having empathy for bullies and not excusing their behavior due to their own trauma.

Strategies for Dealing with Bullies

Do Not Have Empathy for Bullies

• Life may be unfair, but individuals choose how to act.
• Do not excuse bad behavior due to personal trauma.

Stop Being Nice

• "Killing them with kindness" is ineffective.
• Mirror their behavior instead.
• Keep distance and do not engage unnecessarily.

Share Nothing Personal

• Do not share personal information, as it could be used against you.
• Take power back by having no fear of exposure.

Don’t Take Physical Bullying Lightly

• Overreact to any physical intimidation to prevent future incidents.
• Use authority figures to address physical bullying.

Use Authority

• Tell people in Authority (e.g., bosses, principals) about bullying.
• Persist until action is taken.

Change Your Environment

• If bullying continues, change schools, jobs, or even move cities.
• Ensure a positive and safe environment for yourself.

Focus on Self-Improvement

Upgrade Yourself

• Heal from trauma of bullying through therapy, journaling, or other means.
• Build self-confidence and self-worth.

Haters as Fans

• Over time, some haters may become fans.
• Manipulate their emotion from hate to admiration.

Conclusion

• Do not let bullies and haters discourage you.
• Focus on safety and self-growth.
• Successful individuals often have histories of overcoming bullying.