ladies and gentlemen if you're in between the ages of 13 to 18 years old this is going to be the most valuable video you're going to watch in a long time my name is Colin and I'm a student at Yale University studying computer science and in this video I'll be sharing 13 life lessons that I would give to my 13-year-old self let's get into it lesson number one ignore what everyone your age is doing most of your friends from class are constantly comparing themselves with people of the same age look there's nothing wrong with that but if you want to beat your competition start before them a very simple example example if you're in 9th grade make friends with people who are in 10th or 11th grade ask for tips on how to Ace specific classes you're going to take guys there's a high chance they've already taken those classes and you can save a lot of time and pain simply by asking for tips and what you'll find out is that 99% of the time people are more than happy to help you you just have to ask with a smile the next life lesson is you need to stop worrying what others think of you in high school everyone's busy living their own lives and to be honest nobody really cares what you do until you become successful so there's literally zero pressure go start that YouTube channel you've always wanted to create go release that song you made go start that online business you've always wanted to try you're not missing out because you have different priorities than everyone else also develop a sense of inner confidence and learn to enjoy your own company because Solitude is where you'll find Clarity and creativity and once you realize this you become Unstoppable now the next life lesson is you need to get physically stronger go lift heavy weights play some tennis go swimming go for a run and if you can find a friend to do it with it's much more fun guys guys what you do doesn't matter as much as how consistent you are and you know what if you don't have a nice physique right now but you're actively working out that's still a win because consistency compounds and what you'll realize is that as you get stronger you also build more confidence it's not the type of confidence that comes from shouting I love you 100 times in the mirror it's real confidence that comes from your hard work it comes from your progress so get physically stronger because not only will you look good and become more attractive but you'll also feel good and when you feel good you'll get better grades become extremely confident and much more mentally sharp lesson number four stay close with kind people when you find someone who is high frequency someone who is kind and who has that certain Vibe that's the kind of friend you want to be around with maybe you'll find one or two of them in high school it's rare but once you do invest in those relationships and level up together and over time as you build yourself up you'll also grow your network and it comes from being the type of person who gives without any expectation of return if you see your friend struggling to do a math problem teach him how to it if you really like your friend's outfit in school say to them be real with it because what I've learned is that the best relationships in life are not built from taking they're built from giving so stay close with kind people because one loyal friend is worth more than 100 fake ones next party intentionally stop trying to live your youth by drinking and partying like a little monkey party as a reward not as an escape listen I've probably missed out on so many hang out with friends watch the soccer match and get a drink that's because 90% of the time I'm lock locking in and when I'm locked in I feel amazing now it's not to say that you can't go out to party once in a while like when I party I party hard and I have lots of fun but you also got to have a degree of self-control right don't just jump up and down for no reason unless of course it's krata or the weekend so you want to develop healthy old person habits early on like respectfully I'll have a cigar when I make a couple million dollars but until then I'll happily live like a grandpa now the next life lesson is to take more photos and videos than you think you should you might not realize it at the time but you will never get get back your high school years again guys in 10 years time you'll always be grateful for all the memories you captured all the nights you chilled with the Bros all the gym progress picks the late night study sessions the club meetings and even the silly videos where you try to do like a piano duet with your friend so become more of a documentarian take more photos and videos maybe even buy a film camera like me and trust me your future self will be extremely grateful you did it lesson number s become more interesting guys the way you become more interesting is by doing things that people are unwilling to do it's by by becoming the type of person who has unique experiences and a set of valuable skills so go learn a new skill start your own clothing brand read 100 books get a six-pack and create your own YouTube channel you want to do things that your friends can't easily replicate or do because that's how you gain respect also learn to become a better Storyteller and a better listener learn to ask more questions and you'll be much more charismatic and you'll also have much more fun conversations with your friends and family next develop a sexy hobby you need three Hobbies a physical hobby something that keeps you fit like the gym gym or running or boxing you need a creative hobby something like music art or film and a cerebral hobby something that keeps you mentally sharp I'm talking about reading books writing and chess as a young man having these three hobbies are going to improve your life in almost every aspect it'll improve your health your social life it'll also make you a much more interesting person so learn a new hobby it's also super attractive also you want to learn High income skills I'm talking about skills like writing sales programming video editing animation and photography these are skills you can easily learn on YouTube for free that can make you lots of money and honestly if you want to learn something like video editing the best way to learn is by creating your own YouTube channel it's by starting to Vlog and simply by doing the work guys you want to do a little bit of learning every day even if it's just 10 minutes yes formal education is important but so is self-education so start investing in your habits and skills today because all the returns in life whether that be in wealth relationships or knowledge they come from compound interest now the next thing you want to do is learn how to study effectively for exams chances are you've probably been trapped into making pretty notes or summarizing the textbook in high school perhaps the best study method you can do is active recall and I've made a couple videos on active recall you can check out but the basic idea is instead of just reading the textbook you're learning through answering questions you're doing past paper exams and you're spacing your study sessions so you don't forget that information easily now you also want to make your studying fun and you can make your studying fun by creating things like flashcards guys when you learn how to study effectively for exams you'll have so much more time to to do other things in your life and it's so fulfilling lesson number 11 learn to dress well learn to find good quality clothes and a style that matches your personality personally I like the Batman dark confidence aesthetic and my wardrobe mainly consists of black hoodies black t-shirts linen shirts and Suits but create your own style and more importantly learn to buy clothes that fit you well you want to buy clothes that are not too tight and not too loose another thing is you want to stay away from Big labels if you look at any billionaire they're not wearing no LV or Gucci in your face it's more lowkey of course later down the line you can experiment with your style and be a little bit more funky but earlier on I'd recommend buying more simple and elegant clothes also find a tailor near your house it's one of the easiest ways to make your clothes complement your frame and you look much more attractive the next life lesson is to build a relationship with God because I can tell you that in life you'll have those moments where you're completely in the highs but you'll also have those low moments and the combination of those high and low moments is what makes life beautiful but if you want to stay saying in those low moments I think it's really powerful to believe in something larger than yourself whatever that means to you and even where I'm at I'm humble enough to know I can lose it all but confident enough to know I can get it all back so take some time to pray and when you pray ask for big things don't be afraid to ask for things you can't even imagine or possible right now because anything is possible finally enjoy the journey these are some of your glory years these are the years that you can truly get ahead of your competition and the truth is you have so much more life ahead so so enjoy the journey of course you should have big goals and aspirations but have fun and be grateful for everything because nothing lasts forever not even pain so I hope you guys found this video helpful if you did share this video and help a friend out as always God bless the hustle we're all going to win one day and I'll see you in the next one [Music]