Thank you everybody. How great is Erica by the way? That's that's not easy to do. I'll tell you what. Uh and it's amazing. She's a incredible mom and doing working on Bible and 365 and Proclaim Street and then she gives an amazing address like that. And so um so many friends here. You know this is our 10th annual Young Women's Leadership Summit. We've been doing this for 10 years. Real women only because there's only such thing as real women. I want to uh say a special thank you to our friend here Karen Dudston from the Dudlesen Foundation. They've been so generously supporting us for years. So thank you. Without you none of this would be possible. And so we're just going to chat for a second here and then we wanted to open it up for questions from you which is the most fun. But no political question. I'll be here back. I'll be back here tomorrow. We can do that if you want to talk about all that fun stuff. Literally just want questions for both of us about relationships and raising kids and getting married and all that stuff that you might have questions about. That's what we want to focus this Q&A on. So Erica, great job again. I love you. I love you too, baby. And so a lot of these young ladies have competing pressures right now. Okay. Uh some might even have parents that are like, "Hey, you got to get a job. You got to build your career. You got to build money. Marriage can come later. Marriage can come later. However, some ladies might be getting different advice from this conference or from even inside. They say, "Boy, I might want to get married sooner rather than later." How do they balance that in a godly and biblical way? That's hard because usually those voices are coming from your parents. I mean, they were for me. And so it's hard because you're in that that in between of honoring your parents, but also knowing that there's a conviction in your heart to have a family. If you want, you can literally write down what your career, what you want that to look like on a piece of paper, put it in an envelope, go pursue. If you find the right guy, that's 90% of the problem is find the right finding the right person first, then building your life. And once you do find the right person and your family loves them, your parents are going to be way more understanding and into the fact of you having a family. I think that's 90% of the So, let me ask you, raise your hand. If you had to choose between amazing career, amazing family, you have to choose. Who here would choose amazing career? Raise your hand. That's fine if you do. Please. Like, seriously, please raise your hand. There's a couple hands. Amazing family. All the other hands. Got it. Okay. So for for everyone that rose the hand of amazing family, um how many of you every single day it's your purpose for being is finding a husband? Then every hand should then go up, but I thought you said you wanted an amazing family. You have to prioritize and aim at what you want the most. I might be the only speaker that says this these next couple days. You just have to make sure that you find the right I know. I know, but you have to prioritize it. I know, but you can't be like you can't be like a heat-seeking missile where you're like you see a guy in the back room and you're like, "Hi." Like, you can't you there's like some nuance. I get what you're saying. I understand his sentiment. If you are not if you're not married by the age of 30, uh you only have a 50% chance of getting married. And if you don't have kids by the age of 30, you have a 50% chance of not having kids. You should know that. Now, I'm not telling you anything that is that provocative. It's just the data, right? Having children are are a gift from the Lord. And unfortunately, our culture deemphasizes it. And again, you get what you aim at. You get what you prioritize. And um so yeah, I I just it's interesting because every hand except a couple. And that's what I'm not even saying which answer is right or wrong. Um it's just if that matters more for you, then everything you do in a daily basis should point towards that. To add on to that, for the women who are getting married after 30, that's okay. I'm I'm I'm trying to bridge the gap here because it is okay. It's not ideal. It's not probably the best statistical odd position for you. But it's but God is good. And nothing there's nothing wrong with it, right? Right. I find No, it's good. This is good. No, if if you just want happy talk, then that's fine. It's good. God is good. You'll find your human. I found mine and he's amazing. So, uh, how do you tell young ladies to navigate the pressures of hookup culture on a college campus where they feel pressured that if they don't get into, um, let's just say, sexual situations with a male counterpart, then they will not be able to find a boyfriend or a husband. The Last Rodeo, Angel Studios newest family blockbuster, starring Neil Mcdana, hits theaters May 23rd. Become a premium member and get two free tickets to see The Last Rodeo on the big screen. Plus, stream other Angel exclusives like Homestead, The Shift, and more. Help choose which movies get made and support films and filmmakers that share your values. Join the Angel Guild now at angel.com/charlie. Don't miss The Last Rodeo only in theaters. He's not meant to be with you. Like, honor your purity. Save it for your husband. That's simple. Save it for your husband. H talk more about how they should go about doing that because the pressures are so enormous from free contraceptives to the podcast they listen to. How many of you feel as if it's very difficult to maintain your purity on a college campus? Raise your hand. Okay. Not actually it's less than I thought. So it's easy. Good. Um no I guess it's fine. Um, how many how many people would you what percentage of young ladies by the time they graduate college do you think still are virgins? What? Less than 25%. So, it's not that easy. Okay, that's interesting. No, I just think I'm just trying to process it because um I I don't think the church talks enough about purity, right? I think it's it's incredibly important and we should tell young men and young ladies to save themselves for marriage. It's a beautiful thing, right? No, I agree. Because a lot of people will say, "Well, how do I know that I'm compatible with that person unless I test drive the car before I buy it? That's not a real thing. Don't listen to that lie." Because when you make that covenant with the Lord on that altar, don't let that fire burn out from the altar. That that love is so special and so powerful. You will have natural chemistry within that marriage. It's not like you're marrying a robot. Like you're you married your soulmate. You married the person who God made for you. You're going to be compatible. You you can you you should know that. So then the question that a lot of young ladies have, but how do you know how do you know this person is right? And second question, if these young ladies have a liberal boyfriend, should should they dump him? 100%. How many of you have a liberal boyfriend? You have a liberal boyfriend? Don't boo her. Pray for her. I was going to tell you, you can't change them. Just tell you right now, you can't change. No, you're you're great. Um, but uh, so how how does a young lady know? And is it ever too early to get married if they're 22 and they feel as if they found the right guy? Is that too early? I well if you're either way whether you're younger whatever age you are I think going through I know it has a stigma but premarital is amazing you get to learn so much about the person you're with and I have seen it prevent marriages that should not be happening because they are so young and naive with things and they're so lustful because they haven't gone down the road of having you know they're saving themselves so they're just like salivating go to premarital You'll learn a lot when you know he's the one. Here's an example. When Charlie sat across from me and he said, "I want to date you." You want to be with someone who has every intention to not mess with your heart. You're going to know. I know it sounds cliche, but you will know. He's not going to he's not going to treat you like an option. H how what advice would you give to young ladies where they are much more mo more motivated than their boyfriend? How many of you have this problem? Raise your hand. Oh, that's tough. It's a big It I think it's a big problem. Yeah. Now, I think that they you should both be motivated, but if the if the woman is much more motivated than the man to Would you agree that ends up causing structural issues, right? Because that because the man then ends up leaving his pants on the ground and the woman has to put them on and so then she becomes the bread winner because then the husband's just chill and is like, I'm fine with, you know, not going any further than the level that I'm at while the woman is aspiring to be more and more and more. So then you become uneven and unequally yolked in your relationship or marriage. And that's just a recipe for it becomes disordered. And there wasn't a ton of hands, but there were enough where it's a noticeable uh issue. And and I find it from the young male perspective um that look there's a whole longer speech I could give about the problems with male masculinity. How many of you are think that the current dating pool of young men is not great? Raise your hand. Okay. So no no this is very important. Every hand went up. This is very important. What if I told you if every hand of young men think that the dating pool of young women is not great? So who's right? Oh, you guys are right. Okay. [Applause] Okay. Um, I encourage you all to have a little more humility about that. Uh, what is one thing young women can do better to make themselves more appealing to men who say that the current dating pool of young women is lackluster? Why do I ask good questions? You Yes, I do this for a living. That's why he has such a good podcast and radio show, The Charlie Kirk Show. Are you guys liking these questions? You know, this might be so simple, but people pick up on the way you speak. I'm not talking about, you know, if you sound smart or whatever. I'm saying they will pick up if you curse. They will pick up if you're speaking life over someone. Men hate when women are gossiping. The literally the fire behind your lips is so powerful. And and if you can find a way to harness your tongue in a way that's biblical and you dress appropriately, you don't have everything hanging out, you you will attract a different type of guy. Now, if you're going to the club or wherever you're going and you're trying to appease a guy that is, are you going to bring him to your mom? Are you going to bring him to your grandparents? Like, really, just be the type of woman, the godly woman that God needs you to be to attract the man that he made for you. That's what you need to be. [Applause] What? Young men have serious problems. Um, we're working on fixing that, right? And it's easy to laugh, but you need you need young men. You do. And understand that young men are in a far sicker position right now than young ladies are. They're committing suicide more. They're checking out of society. They are on more anti They're on a lot of there's a lot of issues. And it's easy to kind of make fun of young men, but a society needs strong men and we need husbands and we need fathers. And everyone in this room should be part of that project of making men strong again. Everyone. And so let me first say what young young men need to embrace. How many of you would agree that self-control is an attractive quality that's hard to find in men? Every man, every hand goes up, right? I totally I I I I say this to young men all the time that a young lady cares more that if you can control your impulses and control your desires because that is a signal of what? Maturity. Not of infancy. Self-control is a signal of maturity. And a young lady, whether she can articulate it or not, when she sees maturity in a man, she knows that when there's chaos, that man will be able to navigate the family, the relationship through that kind of environment. Young ladies need to be willing to submit to a godly man when you meet one. And if you're not willing to do that, then you got to pray about that. Because a lot of young men in the dating pool say, "I don't want to be bossed around all the time." Just I'm just telling you what I hear from men all the time. The hypertoxic feminism is very very off pit off-putting to young men. And I know this is contrary to what a lot of people hear on college campuses. You know, you have to assert your dominance. You have to kind of call your shot. That's fine. However, an attitude in the dating pool is that it can be very off-putting to young men that are already put down so much in our society. They're called toxically masculine. They're called, you know, who needs men? the patriarchy. And so then they just largely disengage or they do even a worse thing which is they get involved like I'm just going to sleep with a bunch of women but not going to marry them. Right? The problem is on both sides in my personal opinion and again I I think that Erica hit it perfectly. Last thing I'll say and then we'll do some questions is men want what they cannot have. Men will do anything to solve the problem of scarcity. Anything. And If if men can get you quite easily, that is not an attractive quality to be able to have a man go on a journey with you. I'm just being very very honest with you. And there is one thing that men want more than anything else, and it's not Bitcoin. You know what it is. And as women have not been saving themselves for marriage, and men too, in the last 30 or 40 years, we've seen marriage rates collapse. There is a onetoone correlation on those two things. And so um all that to say that young lady everybody in this room you have more power than I think you could ever imagine. If everybody in this room collectively said that we are only going to save ourselves for our future husbands. Men will grow up in a way that you would never imagine. Like you can't believe because all of a sudden they like well well because you understand hookup culture has given men everything they've always wanted. They don't have to work for sex. They don't have to grow up. They don't have to do anything. And then women will just throw themselves at them and they could stay as grown infants for the rest of their life. And unfortunately does a lot of damage to young ladies. A lot. It does a lot lot of psychological damage and a lot of spiritual damage. So if everyone here basically said, "Nope, we're going to combine our our power and be pure and trust in Jesus and in God for our future husband." You would be shocked at how much the dating pool improves.