hi everyone dr. Nicola Peres the holistic psychologist here so this video is going to be on leaving your habit self first I'm going to talk about what your habit self is and then five steps to begin to practice breaking out of that habit itself so what is it so the habit self is the conditioned self from the past so what is conditioned our thoughts are conditioned our beliefs are conditioned our emotions are conditioned for in many ways now remember nicely when I say emotions I also mean our body and our body's physiology and our energy and all of those things that are based on that connection between the mind and the body also included are our patterns our pattern ways of being we are incredibly habitual creatures us humans so whether we're talking about our just behavior or daily habit patterns or our patterns and relationships how we show up how we relate with others how we relate with ourselves so that's what the habit self is because most of us are living our daily life in autopilot and when we are in autopilot what is running our day-to-day choices is that subconscious part of our brain and that's where our habit self lives so unless we start to make a choice to show up differently or have itself is going to be what's dictating our daily choices so how do we begin to practice breaking out of our habit self so five steps first is build a discipline habit muscle which means creating habits whatever they might be I always talk a lot about small daily promises a habit starts with one of those a very small promise that we practice keeping that's all discipline is a stated intention and then the action the follow-up of that intention so remember when you're setting up your intention keep that promise small I use that word for a very particular reason that small daily promise but this takes practice it's a new habit we have to create I am someone who was undisciplined in most aspects of my life so this was not an easy step that meant for me everyday first starting with one setting that as an intention and keeping it despite what might have itself was trying to dictate otherwise so begin to create habits discipline habits in your life somewhere anywhere one of my followers one of my community members it started with a glass of water so that's a perfectly fine or five minutes of silence could be a great habit that you build a discipline muscle around number two future self journal to create consciousness so I created a tool those of you who are not yet on my email list might want to jump on I will link it in the notes below so you can get these prompts this is a way every day I do mine in a journal so I just follow those prompts every day every morning and what that is it's the habit of two things really of creating an intention so this connects back in with one every day I set an intention you know to change or to be different throughout just that one day that's my promise that day journaling in this way also does a second thing it creates consciousness because remember when I'm in autopilot my have itself is gonna dictate my habits throughout that day behavioral interpersonal emotional whatever it is every morning if I set a new intention of showing up in a different way in the world I'm activating consciousness I'm showing up now as that person who gets to choose and break out of my habit self which might be the pivotal difference between later that day when I want to keep my intention of doing it and not doing it meaning when I created the intention and I brought it up to my conscious awareness that oh yeah I'm working on this new habit today I might be likely likely more likely to keep that habit later that day number three get past mental resistance so this is something I just want to throw out there for each of you listening your habit self is going to try to argue the case along the way so whatever the intention is whatever you would have been doing otherwise as dictated by your habit self you're going to hear that mental chatter all the reasons why not to do this new thing you might even feel uncomfortable doing this new thing it might show up in your body just don't feel right or normal because you're doing something unfamiliar so first and foremost don't anticipate that mental resistance isn't there it's going to be there and again it's gonna take the form of all of the thoughts all the reasons why not to do this new thing some of us might get it in our body just feel unfamiliar uncomfortable to ourselves practice getting past it practice showing up is that conscious self and keeping that promise to yourself to do it anyway and again this is just along with the habit of discipline something that just takes practice so up my my resistance is there and I'm going to choose to keep this promise over here because I know why I'm doing it which brings me to celebrate victories this can be such for a lot of us we think this is so inconsequential such a silly step it's so important each and every time you keep whether it's your discipline habit or you keep your promise of journaling or you create your intention to change and you keep it throughout your day notice celebrate yourself celebrate each and every time you do something despite your mental resistance telling you not to do it celebrate those victories it can be so motivating and so empowering to help you get past that mental resistance the next time and do it again so the final one is to begin to recreate or to reframe our stories around failure a lot of us have a relationship with failure that is very as I would call cataclysmic meaning if I don't do this one thing this one day I've now a washed I'm never going to do this again I'm hopeless I'm helpless I can't change that's not going to set you up to have a chance at keeping that promise that next day so for a lot of us this journey is reframing those stories and something I would always remind to my clients is each moment reminding yourself they each moment literally each moment gives you another opportunity to make a new choice so even if you made a less than positive choice this past moment this next moment in front of me I might say you know what I am gonna keep that promise I am going to keep my discipline now but I am going to go journal or whatever it is for you so a lot of us can do ourselves a great disservice by changing that relationship with failure and by reminding yourself actively that each moment really does afford you with another opportunity I hope you guys found this video helpful those of you aren't subscribed if you did like what you heard today that would be awesome if you hit the subscribe button