Timothy chalamet has two traits you don't often see go hand in hand he's self-admittedly very awkward and yet women find him incredibly attractive so uh Timothy I'm waiting for him to get like a little bit older you know like so so talented I'm obsessed with Timothy chalamet ER yeah yeah yeah I'm not alone no you're not alone not at all no he's like lady crack I just bought a chalamet and Netflix t-shirt he's a Little Dream of a human this is interesting because Timothy is not your stereotypical jock alpha male in either looks or personality he's shy and at times seems uncomfortable when speaking looking down fidgeting or putting his hands in his pockets how can someone who's self-admittedly awkward be so attractive while he's definitely handsome much of Timothy's attractiveness comes through in his personality you can hear it in the way people describe him he has that kind of energy that draws you in yeah yeah so charismatic part of what makes Timothy so magnetic is how well he handles potentially awkward moments so in this video we'll go over seven tricks you can learn from Timothy to turn your awkward moments into moments where you're actually making yourself more attractive the first thing you'll notice in a lot of Timothy's awkward moments is that even when he feels nervous he radiates positivity here's a quick example when you come out of the gate like this do you worry about like what you're of course I'm working yeah right his words say he's worried but he's got a big smile and positive energy by not feeling the need to hide that you're nervous and by having that positive body language you make yourself attractive you seem simultaneously genuine and confident here's another quick example for context in the movie call me by your name Timothy has sex with a peach it's understandably something he's a bit awkward about rather than shrinking into himself he maintains upbeat positive energy when he talks about it once again laughing as he speaks there's a scene where um I don't know how to describe this uh there's a peach and life one has to explore sometimes right and the exploration commences right exactly he's even able to make a joke about it and so people have been mentioning this to you you say like are you worried I'm worried like 50 years from now I'll be like signing pieces behind a desk someone who draws into themselves when embarrassed can make you feel uncomfortable because you mirror their discomfort but if you react like Timothy does with his positive body language you actually make it fun to be around you when you're embarrassed positivity is a key part of being charismatic it can even help you recover from one of the most feared social outcomes being made fun of most people dread the possibility of being teased for their awkwardness this makes them hesitate in social situations over analyzing what to say because they're worried about looking bad but you don't have to fear being teased in fact you can come across as attractive after being made fun of similar to the first point the trick is to appear unfaced by smiling or laughing through the tease watch this next clip to see a lower energy example Jimmy Kimmel asks him a question about his GQ cover photo that would make most people feel awkward but Timothy answers with a calm voice and a smile and I think you've plucked your eyebrows a little since absolutely absolutely listen uh I'm French us French people again what's the plan for the Oscars who are you bringing with you with all my family my mom my dad and my sister it's not easy to smile when someone teases you but we'll go through a mindset in about 30 seconds that helps tremendously first here's two more quick examples to watch notice how Timothy Smiles each time he gets teased for what he said I I got Paparazzi for the first time the other day you got Paparazzi how do you say it yeah it's a verb how do you say it when it happens I went with my mom and I didn't think that was going to be like the most fun plus one but it was was like a really great time you can't say that yeah it's camera's mom that one love you Mom okay some people mistakenly think that being teased in front of someone automatically makes you seem unattractive or low status that's actually not the case close friends will often tease each other as a sign of endearment the mistake that makes you seem unattractive or low status is if you take on defeated body language after being teased such as a frown a dropped gaze or a quieter voice this makes it seem like you think the tease is an actual criticism that said you don't want to fake a smile the goal is to genuinely not take being teased personally there's an easy trick to this don't assume negative intent in ambiguous situations it's tempting to think that someone who teases you wants to hurt your feelings however assuming negative intent will only make you feel more wounded and insecure eventually that insecurity will leak out into conversation we covered this in detail in our video five common habits that make people instantly dislike you so we'll go through it quickly here when you read negative intent into ambiguous comments you leave a bad impression like Brie Larson did in her viral wired interview Woodbury Larson work out like hypothetically would I at some point is that like a personal attack or something or is that a request do you think I should uh yeah I work out a lot thanks for asking if you think of something as a personal attack it will always feel like a put down instead of a friendly tease so how is Timothy able to smile genuinely and interpret teasing as friendly he believes that nobody cares that much about your flaws for instance listen to him discuss the terrible haircut he had to walk around with when shooting the king very appropriate for the film are you happy it's grown out yeah I'm happy to be done with it and uh you know the big lesson is like nobody cares and that's the lesson of life I guess but uh I don't know for things of hair personality whatever you think you think people are no one cares no one cares now that said there are real bullies and if people are actually bullying you you don't want to just smile and take it you want to stand up for yourself if you want to know more about that topic we'll link to our video how to stand up for yourself without starting a fight in the description of this video now in most awkward situations simply smiling and laughing will be enough to get you through it but sometimes that feeling of awkwardness gets stuck in your body you try to repress it or ignore it but it just won't go away so you end up stuck in your head feeling uncomfortable in those instances rather than try to ignore your awkwardness call out the awkwardness watch this next clip to see Timothy do this on The Tonight Show last time you were here was just uh right before you got nominated for the Oscar and you went to the Oscars and that is so weird to hear out loud I know they do man I thought this was gonna be easier this time yeah and not easier at all okay are you freaking out right now no no it's all good it's all good was that your first talk show or no that was my first it was your first appearance it's counter-intuitive but by acknowledging that he feels awkward he's able to move past feeling awkward discomfort grows when everyone feels that something is awkward but no one acknowledges it the person who does call it an awkward moment gets points for having the confidence to do so here's another great example of it this is from his interview with Alan talking about call me by your name when anybody sees this you are so sexy in this movie you really you really okay you are right I mean yeah I like oh my God it's gonna be a lot harder to lick you in the face now no I'm here by calling himself out he lets the awkwardness move through him so that he can go right back to looking her in the eye very few things are actually inherently unattractive or embarrassing it's your reaction to them that cues other people to think that what happened was bad we already spoke about one reaction that makes you less attractive which is acting defeated another is trying to hide that something awkward happened rather than calling it out and laughing at it the classic example of this is when you trip and fall some people look mortified others just laugh at themselves if you act mortified people will think it was embarrassing if you laugh people will think that you're confident because you're not embarrassed by what happened watch this next clip to see what I mean [Applause] [Music] by smiling laughing and calling himself out Timothy seems unfazed being unfazed by something that most people would find awkward is attractive the point isn't to do embarrassing things on purpose but if you say or do something awkward by accident a charismatic recovery can make you more attractive Timothy basically spells that out here when reacting to that last clip nice recovery dude it's all about the recovery so let's say I was sitting in this chair right now no it's all about the cover yes when you get up now a lot of this advice will be helpful for people who clam up in awkward situations but there is another Camp of people who react to awkwardness by doing the opposite they talk a mile a minute and non-stop if you find yourself rambling when you're nervous the trick for you is to pass the conversational Spotlight to the other person this will buy you time to calm down and it makes sure that you aren't doing all the Talking here's two quick examples from Timothy when he wants to pass the spotlight do you have your like awards that you won for they're all weirdly like they're my moms now and uh and they're like with all my like childhood Taekwondo trophies so uh it's like a very weird thing how have you been man everything's cool oh stop it no no no there's so nice Army tells this story better than I do so I'll let him cut me off at a certain point but you know we reversing the Villa we were we were shot the film or the film takes place and Luke our director one day says okay let's do rehearsal we're gonna go into the backyard join us and so I mean are we enthusiastic we had our scripts and we went in the back in the backyard the points we've mentioned so far can help you be more attractive early in an interaction but to develop lasting attractiveness you should do one more thing share your higher purpose truly Attractive people have things they care deeply about grander purposes in life than just being attractive for example watch Timothy talk about why he wanted to do the film beautiful boy I do want to be not too serious about this this is a serious thing like a lot of people and a lot of young people are going through an addiction crisis in this country right now and for whatever reason there's a bit of trepidation to talk about it and that's what this movie I think hopes to address in some ways whatever your ambition is whether it's in your career or just a hobby having priorities Beyond dating makes you more attractive talking about your big goals has another added benefit as well because you care so much about it it's likely to subconsciously give you more conviction and confidence when you speak for example listen to Timothy talk about why he felt it was so important to try to normalize gay love stories in cinema his awkwardness does come through but you can see his vision for the film inspires him to speak with a conviction he doesn't always have and it's important man this is a love story that people need to see it's we live in a weird world world right now this is a unabashedly uncynical yeah I'm like pitching this movie I don't know what I'm doing but like seriously this is a great movie and like it's it's important to be seen so for any and all that want to see it's it Okay so we've talked about conversational specifics now let's talk about a mindset that will help you be more confident and attractive when meeting people if you don't know Timothy's big break and the movie that made him a sex symbol in many people's eyes was call me by your name the movie centers around a romantic relationship he has with his co-star Army Hammer it's a bold role to take for Timothy as Ellen lays out here the commitment and the the beautiful way you told this story and especially knowing that you're young and and you're straight and you did this it made me love you even more because that that it was a beautiful job well thank you that's like that means the world coming from you I really think that most young straight actors would have felt awkward taking this role so how is Timothy able to convince himself to do it why wasn't he worried listen to him explain it in this next clip and I have the tremendous gift of absolutely nobody knowing who I am so I thought if this doesn't work then yeah on to the rest of life that's it that's the mindset that will let you approach someone you're attracted to and spark up a conversation without feeling nervous it's the mindset that frees you from the fear of rejection that creates so many awkward moments if this doesn't go well on with the rest of my life if you think that a particular conversation needs to go well it puts so much pressure on you to perform this makes you nervous and likely all your subconscious body language will be stiff and uncomfortable ironically the solution is to give yourself permission to have conversations that don't go well when you approach someone you're attracted to with the mindset of I hope we hit it off but if not well then on with the rest of life you will immediately carry yourself with more confidence and present yourself more attractively okay so stepping away from awkwardness for a second let's discuss a basic framework for what makes someone attractive this is an oversimplification but it's easiest to think about it as three buckets what you look like your charisma and what they know about your achievements different people value each bucket differently but those are the three areas you can work to improve if you want to be more attractive and have a better dating life and there's no denying that Timothy xiaomi's attraction is greatly benefited by that third bucket he is an incredibly talented movie star Timothy shadowman is just like amazing but I think that that's because he's he's so talented the good news is if dating is something that's important to you and you want a better dating life all three of those buckets are improvable to some degree that said by far the fastest and easiest one to improve is your charisma if you want the fastest way to improve your charisma check out our program Charisma University it's literally guaranteed to work in 30 days or you get your money back it's only 20 to 30 minutes a day and it's structured with a daily action guide so that you know exactly what to do each day to become more charismatic now you can read all about the 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