Now, tayo po'y magpapatuloy sa ating pag-aaral. In fact, this is our finale. Ito na yung huli.
Kaya huwag nating kakaligtaan ito kasi napaka-importante po ang kultura. Ang kultura po ay sako po dyan ang ating pananampalataya, ang ating mga practices. Dyan ho.
usako po yan ang ating mga patunguhan. Kaya sa bahagi na ito, tinitinan natin yung pinakamalaking component ng kultura, which is our core values. Ano yung mga pinapahalagahan natin? Halimbawa, balikan lang natin sa Pilipinas.
Magsa-September na naman, magpapasko na naman, bagong taon na naman. Naalala ninyo bakit nagpapaputok ang mga Pilipino pagka New Year? Kasi ang paniniwalaan lang, sa bahagi ng kanilang practices, tatanda niya, paniniwala at practice, nagsasama yan eh.
Sa kanilang paniniwala, itong pagpaputok, ito ay pagtataboy sa mga demonyo. Tama? Tataboy mo yung mga...
demonyo. Eh, madalas, ginagawa natin paputok sa labas. Kaya pag taboy ng demonyo, takbuhan sa loob ng bahay. Diba? Kaya tuloy, pagdating ng bagong taon, ang gulo-gulo ng pamilya.
Diba? Ang lungkot, diba? Kasi minsan hindi natin... pinag-iisipan yung mga ginagawa natin.
Kaya tuloy, nakakalimutan natin, minsan pinapahalaga natin sa bagay na wala naman talagang katuturan. Nakuha ninyo, magdudulot pa minsan ng kapahamakan sa iba. Magkakaroon ng sunog, nagkakaroon ng karamdaman, napuputukan ng kamay, napuputulan.
Hindi ko sinasabing masamang magdiwang. Okay naman yun. Kaya lang, ang iniisip lang, anong klaseng kultura ang mag-aangat sa atin, hindi magpapabagsak.
Kaya nga, ang Biblika. culture ay napaka-importante. For example, sa atin po, ano mga pinapahalagahan natin?
Konting review lang ho. Ito yung ating mga pinapahalagahan. Kung baga habang inaabot natin yung ating mission at vision, ito po ang ating parameters at ating motivating factor.
Because we love God and we love others. Kasi hindi naman tayo magmamahal nang hindi muna tayo nakaranas ng pagmamahal mula sa Panginoon Diyos. Kaya foundational po ito. Kaya nga yung buong acronym ho.
yan ay love. Kasi importante ho yan. Kaya sabi natin, if this is our, ano kumbaga, dito tayo makikilang kultura, dapat nakikita sa atin yan, yung love na yan.
Loving God and obviously as a response to His love, tapos nag-overflow yan eh. Kaya lalabas mo rin sa iba. Ngayon, ang pagmamahal na yan, sumusunod yan sa salita ng Diyos. Hindi lang sa salita ng Diyos, kundi mga appointed authorities.
Very challenging yan. Kasi milagyan ng Diyos tayo ng mga appointed authorities na kung saan lalo natin makikita ang kadakilaan at sovereignty ng ating Panginoon Diyos. Kasi He is above our authorities.
May mga pagkakataon that our hearts are going contrary to the authorities given to us by the Lord. So paano natin gagawin yan? Dadali natin yung issue sa Diyos. Kasi kahit na sa anong bagay, hindi ko pinapalala kahit sa mga ibang mga kakilala kong kasama ko, mga pastor, kakilala ko. kung mga minister sa ibang church.
Habi ko, ang pagbubukas ng pinto ng ministeryo, hindi tayo, si God yan. He opens and closes the door. Okay ba yan?
Kaya ganun din sa opportunity, trabaho, wala yung salitang, pinuliti ka ako, tinanggal ako kasi, magkampi-kampi sa... Walang ganun. Walang ganun kasi.
Ay, barkada kasi yan. Kasi ang totoo niyan, ang nagbubukas ng pinto at nagsasara, Diyos lamang. Okay tayo? At minsan ginagamit niya, niya din yung mga kasamaan ng tao. So among the evils of men, minsan ginagamit ng Diyos yan, inaalaw ng Diyos yan to fulfill His purposes.
Ibig mo sabihin na i-influence ang kasamaan? Hindi. It is just but a reality na nandyan yan, kaya nagagamit ng Diyos yun, parang dahil wala namang makapagpipigil ng palatuntunan ng Diyos eh. Kaya kahit yung masama, akala mo masama, mabuti pala, kaya all things work for good for those who love God and walk according to His purposes. Purpose.
Kahit na kung nari sa bahay, hindi mo gusto yung magulang mo, sometimes even that, God is using para ma-inspire tayo to do something else. O kaya to bring out who we really are inside. Ako iba yan? Nasusundan kayo?
Walang sisiyan na kasi kaya ako ganito, kasi asawa ko ganito eh. Kaya ako ganito, kasi magulang ko ganito. Hindi. Ganyan ka because that was the choice you had.
made. Kailangan maintindihan natin, tika muna, may Diyos ako eh. Kaya ang pipiliin ko si God. Kahit susunod ako sa paraan ni God.
Kahit na ganito yung ginagawa ng tao, ito yung tamang sinabi ng Diyos sa gawin ko, ito susundin ko. And you will see how God will bless us. Okay, so tuloy tayo. Hindi lang yan. Napaka-importante rin po na, obviously, knowing that God loves us or God loves us and we are to obey His word, well, in our response to His grace, we volunteer what He has given us.
Anong binigay sa atin? Ating buong pagkatawan. Kaya sabi ng Bible, Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters. Sabi niya gano'n. Offer your bodies as living sacrifice because of the mercies of God.
Okay ba yan? Bahay sa mercy ng Diyos, i-offer mo yung katawan mo. Hindi yung isip mo, buong pagkataon mo, i-offer mo.
Huwag lang yung mga wishes. mo. Huwag ganun.
Maganda yung wishes pero yung wishes, wala yun. Ang totoo, you offer your body. At ano sabi niya?
A living sacrifice. Patay na buhay. A buhay na patay. Ang gulo, no? Kasi yung sacrifice, magsasabi mo sa...
sacrifice, patay agad yun eh. Ano siya sabi niya? Every day of our lives, we have to make a choice. Itong katawan na to kay God na to. Eh nagtatalo yan, yung gusto ng katawan at saka yung gusto ng Diyos.
You have to die to yourself every day as an offering, a living sacrifice to God. Doon yung maintindihan kung gaano kasarap ang Christianity kasi patay ka na. Ang patay hindi nag-aalala. Kaya yung mga worry ng worry, sobrang buhay ka pa. Kailangan ka mag-alala.
ang patayhin. I-offer mo yung sarili mo sa living sacrifice. Okay? Naintindihan?
Kaya, dapat hindi, yung mga takot lagi, na hindi maintindihan, baka nandito, ako, wag ko kayo mag-alala sa ganyan. Kaya, let me remind you, next week, there would be a great celebration. Kaya, maaari sabihin, wag, bubuksan natin ang lahat ng available na overflow rooms para lang ma-accommodate. Okay?
Now, itong encouragement ko sa inyo, kung feeling nyo, meron kayong iimbitahan, may may I encourage you, punta kayo ng 12. 12. Tapos abangan nyo yung inimbitahan nyo. Okay tayo? Tapos sila paupuin nyo dito.
Paipayan nyo para makatulog. Ha? Okay?
Para ano, ibig sabihin, welcome them. Talagang let them enjoy the celebration. In fact, maraming mga gagawin, makikita nyo sa paligid, pati sa kabilang building, makikita nyo yan.
Kaya I'm encouraging you to bring your friends. Lalong-lalo na yung mga pinagpe-pray nyo makakilala sa Panginoong Diyos. Amen po?
Pakisabi mo sa katabi mo. Ay ko, magdadala ka ba? Ano?
Paligsahan. Paramihan ng bisita. Wala namang premyo yun.
Ang atin, I pray that when we desire to bring friends, because we want them to experience the reality of Jesus Christ, which makes us volunteers. Tama? Kasi kung hindi naman natin nag-i-enjoy sa Diyos, ba't ako mag-volunteer? Kaya dito naman, ang pinaka-importante, kabo-volunteer ng tao na nakakalimutan may pamilya siya.
Di ba? Naalala ko tuloy yung iba, hindi lang ma-win yung asawa, kasi sabi niya, paano ka naman maniniwala sa'yo? Palagi ka na nandun, nagbo-volunteer ka sa church, sa mga ministries. Hindi ka naman nagluluto dito sa bahay.
Lagi na lang akong gutom. O di ba? Nakalimutan.
Yung iba naman, mga bata, kayo volunteer kayo ng volunteer sa iba't ibang mga activities sa church, sa ministry. Hindi naman kayo naghuhugas ng plato. Hindi. Hindi kayo nag-aaral lang mabuti.
Tuisyon P kayo ng tuisyon P. Narinig nyo na yung mga ganon? Ay bakit?
Dapat hindi nyo narinig yan? Kasi kung responsable tayo, dapat hindi, di ba? Bakit ganito?
Dami nating naririnig na mga ganong bagay. Nakakalungkot. Kaya we have to what?
Engage the family. Huwag nating kakalimutan yun. Kahit nga mga buhay ng mga pastor, alam nyo bang pinakamalaking problema? Mga anak ng pastor, madalas nakakalimutan.
Kasi nga, kang isip nila, compete. Repetensya sa Diyos. Kasi ministry ng ministry. Hindi tama. Kasi ang nais ng Diyos, kunyari sa leadership pa lang, if that is the model, ibig sabihin, that is what God wants everyone to experience.
Sabi niya, how can you manage the household of God if you cannot even manage your own household? So, doon pa lang, pinapakita na ng Diyos, ito yung model mo for everyone to understand na yung Christianity, it affects the family. family.
Tama? Kaya huwag nating kakaligay. We have to engage the family. Now, alam nyo po ba? Ito po.
Bago ako magpatuloy, naalala ko lang. Kilala nyo siya, no? Siya po si former...
Actually, late former President George H.W. Bush. Noong tinanong po siya, what is your greatest accomplishments? Noong buhay pa po siya, eh, yung nagtatanong, he was expecting that he might mention World War II as a Navy pilot, o kaya he might say, I was eight years Vice President to President Ronald Reagan, or he might have mentioned, you see, I became a President, ako rin mismo, I became a successor of him. O kaya he might have said, ako naging head ako ng CIA, or his years na naging US ambassador ako to China. Ang dami niyang pwedeng sabihin accomplishments.
Pati yung Operation Desert Storm, pwede niya rin sabihin. Pero alam niyo kung anong sinabi niya? In the great surprise of the one interviewing, eto sabi niya, my greatest accomplishments is that my children still come to see me. At his age, he died at age 94. Mga na-80s plus 80s, mag na-90 na siya. Kung meron akong matinding accomplishment, yung mga anak ko, andyan pa rin sila.
Punta pa rin ang punta sa akin. They respect me, they love me, they keep on coming to me. Sa marami sa atin, hindi nyo man aminin, hindi nyo na nakikita anak nyo. Di ba? Yung iba hindi na natin alam, saan na sila?
Ba't hindi sila umuwi? Ang dami na natin problema ganoon. At ito pong pinakamasakit na baka magulat ho kayo.
The reason why this is so important to God. Because the family... is the basic unit of the society. Kumbaga, kapag sira ang pamilya, sira ang bayan. Kaya don't measure success on our achievements.
Measure our success based on on our family. Yan ang sukatan. How is our family? Alam nyo, ang sakit-sakit ng loob ko, bago ako umakyat dito, may nag-text.
Balita. Huwag ka naman magtaka kayo. Bakit pag kami nag-text, hindi sinasagot ni Pastor.
Depende. Kapag si God nag-text, sinasagot ko agad. Joke lang. Pakinggan niya yung balita. Ito ha.
Biroin nyo ang title ng article, A Nation of Illegitimate Children. Referring to who? To what nation? Philippines! Tingnan nyo ha, pakinggan nyo yung sinabi niya.
Sulat ito ni Jemmy Gatman. Dula. If ever there is a crisis, the Philippines must urgently confront. Utterly paramount is the deteriorating state of our families and children.
From the Philippines... Authority, PSA, data, we see that in 2010, 765,000 illegitimate babies were born. After one year, 2011, it increased to 1.8%. Hoy, okay ah. But after four years, by the end of Noy Noy's presidency, it had risen to 49.2%.
49.2%! At grabe, tapos meron niyo mga 851,000 babies na panganak na i-legitimate. O ito pa, afterwards, the trend seemingly solidified.
In 2018, more than half, 54.3% of Philippine birth were to unwed mothers. By 2020, that rose to 57% or 870,000. 820 illegitimate babies. Notably, indication are that more males are born illegitimate than females.
Ang sad, no? Naiintindihan po ba natin ang nangyayari? Now, tinignan niyo po kung yung mga batay lumaki na wala single parent.
Kawawa, mayroong isang angulo na hindi niya maintindihan. Kunyari kung mga males ang maraming na ipanganak na illegitimate. wala silang tatay because they were being taken care of by a mother.
Anong mangyayari dyan? Wala siyang male model na model. Wala siyang model ng manhood. Ang hirap ata nun.
Dadami ang walang magulang na anak. Ito, ito, ito. Tingnan nyo, yet, the state of marriages, thus the condition of children with those marriages is equally disturbing.
Bakit? 20% of marriages in the Philippines will be broken. Kasi wala silang model eh. Ito pa, 83% of such broken marriages marriages involving children. A World Health Organization study finds that there are 50 million solo parents in the Philippines with 95% or more than 14 million of whom are women.
Finally, with a steady decline in marriages in the country comes, ironically, a continual increase in the number of annulments. Anong nangyari? Now, pag-isipan niyong mabuti.
When we had, meron kaming segment na tinatag na yung payong kapatid. When I was trying to explain, kumbaga bago kayo man lang umabot sa kasukdulan, maayos niyo na yung pamilya niyo sa simula pa lang, ang reaction, may nagmumura, may nagja-judge us, kayong mga hipokrito kayo, I was beginning to see, ibig sabihin, These people are also understanding the Bible. Anong nangyari sa atin? As Christians, we are the salt and light of this country. Anong nangyari?
Nasan yung influence natin when it comes to family? Ang lungkot, di ba? Kaya ho, ito pong bagay na ating pinag-aaralan ay napaka-importante.
Kaya we need to engage our family. Huwag natin silang pabayaan. Hindi kailangan ikaw ang magulang.
Kung ikaw ang anak at kayo, ikaw yung Christian sa pamilya, you are the light in that family. You are the salt in that family. Whoever you are, you may be the wife, you may be the husband, you may be the child, or the sons or daughters.
It doesn't matter. But you be the light and salt in the family. Itong sabi, tinan nyo po kung gano'ng importante ho yan.
Kaya sobrang ang sakit. Kasi sabi nga ho ni Zig Ziglar, as the family goes, so goes the nation. Kaya hindi binibiro ang pamilya. Ang masama, nung nagpakasalang marami, hindi nga natin naintindihan yan eh.
Kahit ako, hindi ko alam pa paano mag-anak. Wala akong experience. Si misis meron na. But what I'm trying to say is this.
Akala nila magiging tatay ka lang. Hindi eh. Mag-aalaga ka ng anak.
Ang masama, iba ayaw na mag-alaga. mag-anak. Teka muna, ganyan ang problema na sa Europa ngayon.
Alam nyo ba sa Europa, yung mga tao because of their selfishness, ayaw na mag-anak. Kuro pangarap nila ang ginugusto nila. To the point na wala na silang younger generation, samantalang isang reliyon, anak ng anak. Tuloy, nasaakop sila dahil lang sa panganganak. Pag-isipan niyo mabuti, ngayon nagkakaproblema sila.
Tingnan niyo na lang sa news. Pero ito ang sa atin. Kaya we need to engage our family.
The challenge is this. Listen. Sino sa inyo may pamilya?
Kawawa ang iba sa inyo. Parang mga singaw. Lahat tayo may pamilya. Di man tayo nakatira sa sarili nating mga tahanan, may pamilya tayo.
Kung wala mang kayong biological family kasama ngayon, at least you have a church family, you have a community family, sana meron. Now, anong ibig kong sabihin? Wherever you are, every family, make it a target to disciple them if you believe that you are a follower of Jesus. Don't wait for somebody else to do it. You and I should take initiative.
Laban natin itong bansa natin. Ilaban natin yung pamilya. Ilaban natin.
Kasi yan ang panawagang sinibigay sa atin ng Diyos. Kaya every family is a discipleship group. Maari kung ikaw ay tatay, you're a Christian.
Hindi ko alam gagawin ko eh. Kaya tayo may GLC. Hindi ko alam gagawin ko. Kaya ka meron tayong mga D-group.
Pwede kayo sumama doon. Tuturoan din kayo doon. Wala na tayong excuse.
Kasalanan na natin yan. Kahit sa pamilya, kasalanan na natin pag hindi pa tayo naging handa. Hindi natin pa yung sabihin, hindi ako marunong maging tatay bago kayo kasal.
Hindi ako marunong maging tatay. Meron mga libro. Yung sinulat ni Pastor Peter, motivate.
Panalo. Naka-influenza sa akin ng malaki. Di ba?
Walang excuse. May mga nauna na sa atin. Kaya itong challenge sa atin, tingnan niyo po ha.
Si J.D. Anwin, isang social anthropologist. Sinulat niya ang sex and culture. Tingnan niyo ang kanyang conclusion.
Civilization with strict sexual ethics. Talagang sinusunod yung tamang strict sexual ethics. Prenuptial chastity.
Hindi na i-involve sa premarital sex. Strict monogamy. Hindi yung hanap ng hanap ng iba.
Kaya nga si Lord, ang nilika niya, Adan at Eva. Hindi Adan at Eva-iba. Walang ganun. The steak monogamy tend to prosper and achieve high cultural material success. In contrast, societies that adopt more liberal sexual practices often experience what?
Decline over several generations. Bagsak. Sexual morality is a critical factor in the rise and fall of civilization.
And he studied 86 cultures without exemption. Nung naging maluwag sa sexual immorality, naging maluwag sila, bagsak sila lahat. Ganyan din ang nangyari sa sinasabi, ayan din ang nadiskubre ni Edward Gibbon. Siya po ang may akda ng The History of the Decline and the Fall of the Roman Empire. Alam nyo, ano sabi niya?
Tingnan nyo. The decline of civic virtue is closely related to the family. The moral and ethical foundation of the Roman state was rooted in the strength of the family unit.
Dahil sa lakas ng pamilya, lumakas ang Roman Empire. The erosion of traditional values, discipline, responsibility, Responsibility, loyalty led to a broader decline in civic virtue. As Roman society became more decadent and individualistic, puro karasarili lang, Papa don't preach, I'm in love, yan mga ganyan. Ayan, the weakening of the family structure contributed to the overall decay of the empire's moral fabric, undermining its ability to sustain itself.
Lungkot no? Now ito pa, si Carl Zimmerman, Dr. Carl Zimmerman. Zimmerman. Family and civilization sinulat niya yan.
Ito sabi niya. Marriage, kaya daw downfall ng civilization, marriage laws is sacredness. It was frequently broken by divorce.
Traditional meaning of the marriage ceremony was lost. Alternate forms and definitions of marriage arose and traditional marriage vows were replaced by individual marriage contract. Doon na lang nakabatay.
Feminist movement appeared and women lost interest in childbearing mothering, preferring to pursue power and influence. Wala. Kaya nga, salamat ako sa Diyos yung asawa ko.
Kahit magaling siyang tumugtog, membro siya ng banda, nung magkinasal kami, pagkatapos nung nagkaanak na kami, sabi ko, last na yan. Hindi ka natutugtog. Sabi niya, sa totoo lang, hindi namin inisip saan kami kukuha ng kakainin, saan kami, walang ganun.
Kahit malaking kita niya sa akin noong time na yun. Si Lord nagpo-provide. Basta alam natin anong... priorities. Amen po?
Tuloy tayo ha. Public disrespect for parents and authority in general increased. Grabe no? Talagang wala na.
Disrespectful na sila. Juvenile delinquency, promiscuity, rebellion, accelerated. People with traditional marriages refused to accept family responsibilities. Ayaw na nila.
Now, desire and acceptance of adultery grew. Increased tolerance for sexual perversion of all kinds. particularly homosexuality with a resultant increase in sex-related crimes. Now listen to this. Yan si Anwin, yan si Gibbons, yan si Zimmerman, hindi mga Christians yan.
Yan ay mga secular students at talagang doctorates na talaga inaral ang sibilisasyon. At pare-pare yung kalang sinabi. And you know what causes na umangat ang sinabi.
sibilisasyon. Barbaric ang maraming bansa. The Christian values.
Ngayon, tinatalikuran yan dahil bumabalik tayo sa nakaraan and one day, huwag saan ang Pilipinas ang unang biktima. Dahil sa kasiraan ng pamilya, babalik tayo sa nakaraan nang wala ho na nabang pinupuntahang bayan. Naintindihan po. It's very challenging. Hindi lang ito para sa magulang.
Maging sa sa mga kabataan. Magising-gising ho tayo. Kasi ano ba nangyayari sa ganito? Tulad ng Israel, na dumating ang bagong henerasyon, na hindi nila kilala ang Diyos.
Hindi nila alam ang dahilan kung bakit umangat ang maraming bayan. Alam nyo ba kung bakit umangat, pati sa edukasyon? Because of the Reformation. In the 1500s, because of Martin Luther, tinuruan ng maraming bata para magbasa.
Kasi doon na nagbabasa lang, mga noble, mga clergy. Pero tinuruan, umangat yan. Kaya sumabay ang enlightenment actually sa bahayan ng ano yan. Dalawa, yung enlightenment, secular, tsaka yung Christianity, umangat yan.
Pero ang nagdala talaga nung reformation. Kaya nga ho yung mga tao, taging masipag pumunta yan sa Industrial Revolution. Alamin natin ang kasaysayan, maintindihan nyo. Kaya pala.
Kaya pala. Because they understood the gospel. Now ito pa.
Kaya naman, maging sa Samuel, yun ang problema. Si Eli ha, may anak. Ang pangalan na anak, sino? Hopni at Pinehas. Tama?
Okay. Ano sila? Ano sila? Tingnan nyo ha? Priest to the Lord.
Kaya dito, hindi issue dito yung pagiging religyoso ha. Kasi ito, priest. Tingnan nyo.
Now the sons of Eli were worthless men. They did not know the Lord. ang lungkot naman.
Pari na, hindi pa marunong, hindi pa alam ang kilalaan Diyos. Yun ang sinasabi. Kasi marami, religious, religious, atin-atending ko, pero hindi na naintindihan yung power ng Panginoong Diyos.
Hindi na kilala. si God. Kahit tayo, Christian nation in the Far East, hindi natin kilala si God.
Sayang! Sayang! Kasi kung kilala natin si God, hindi dapat ganito, bayan natin.
Okay pa tayo? Huwag kayo may inis, ha? Gusto ko lang maintindihan natin ito mabuti. Kahit bakit, ano ba ginagawa nito?
In that day I will carry out against Eli, all that I've spoken concerning is house from beginning to end. Sisirahin ko yung kanyang, ano, yung kanyang pamilya. Bakit?
For I have told him that I... I'm about to judge his house. Binalaan ko na siya.
But he's not listening. For the iniquity which he knew because his sons brought a curse on themselves and he did not rebuke them. Maraming, kahit mga magulang, kahit mga Christians, hindi na na tinutuwid yung mali. Basta sa atin, di dapat loving tayo.
You see, Christians, loving. Pag mali na, hindi, sasabihan mo na. Hindi naman masamang magsabi.
Sa tama lang paraan, nakuha natin, Hindi naman yung parang nagbawala, maliw, pa'y naggagawa mo! Sabunutan mo yung anak mo ganyan. Walang ganun. Hindi naman ganun eh. Kaya di mo naman sabihin, anak, mali yung ginagawa mo.
Huwag mo nandalin sa social media. Kaya na mag-usap kayo, pamilya. Diba? Yung iba nagsasagutan sa social media eh.
Diba? Ay, huwag kayong tayo. Minsan tayo naggaganyanan. Magkakapatid sa social media, mga Christian sa social media nagsasagutan.
Ano ba? So hindi natin yung Bible, go to one-on-one, privately. Usap tayo.
Para maayos, huwag sa social media. Kasi may mga nanggagatong dyan, mga demonyo. Sige pa, sige pa, sige pa.
Sige pa. Nagpagatong ng apoy. Di ba?
Hindi mabuti yun. Tinan nyo nangyari. These are the commands. Kaya itong utos ng Lord.
Decrease laws and the Lord your God directed to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess. God is now building a new nation. Kaya sabi niya, ituro nyo ito ha, so that your children and their children, o tinan nyo ha, patuloy. pati apo na.
Hindi lang yung anak. Iniisip mo na kaagad, generation, pati apo. Okay tayo? May fear the Lord, your God, as long as you live by keeping all His decrees and commands that I give you so that you may enjoy long life.
Anong heart ng Diyos? Bakit na binibigyan ng utos to? Bakit na sinasabi to sa atin? Para mag-enjoy kayo. Hindi lang yung long life na mahabang buhay.
Ang ibig sabihin yan, sa sobrang sarap ng buhay, ayaw mo mamatay. O, naunawaan po. Okay tayo?
Kaya sabi niya, ang gandang klaseng buhay. Tingnan niyo. Kaya, pakinggan niyo Israel.
Magingat kayo as sumunod kayo upang maging maayos sa inyo. Maging maganda. Kaya go well with you.
And that you may increase greatly in the land. Tumami kayo. Flowing with milk and honey.
Pero pinagpala na kayo. Umaapaw ang gatas. Maraming baka. Marami. Di ba?
Tapos di lang. yun. Flowing with milk and honey.
Ang daming pananim. Eh, nasa desierto yung mga paligid na bayan yan. Just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors promised you. Now, look at this. Hero Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is one.
Hindi na yung may Diyos ng dagat, may Diyos ng bundok, may Diyos. Wala na. Isang Diyos lang. Siya lahat. Ang Diyos ng lahat-lahat.
Kaya there is only one God. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart. Kilalanin mo na your heart, your soul.
soul and your might, lahat yan galing kay God. And if you acknowledge that, you will give back everything that you owe to Him. Tama?
Tama lang. Dahil galing sa Kanya lahat. Di pa sa Kanya lahat. Nasusundan. Anong pangganda nun?
Ibig sabihin, you need to know Him more. You need to love Him more. You need to be intimate with Him more. Hindi mo ibibigay ang sarili mo sa isang taong.
Hindi mo pagkakatiwalaan. Are you following? Nasabi niya, this words which I am commanding you today shall be on your heart.
Heart. Don't just make it in your head. Heart.
Yung talagang nag-uumapaw, yung nagpa-flow lahat ng dugo sa lahat ng pagkatao mo. Okay? Pinapump niya lahat doon. Yan ang sinasabi niya. Kaya sabi niya, you shall teach them.
Look at the words. Ano yung word na diligently? Talaga sa lahat ng pagkatao mo.
Sa lahat ng paraan, masipag mong ituro to. Ay mga anak, tamad na ako. Kayo na matindan sa service. Kayo na, ayoko na, pagod na ako. Buong linggo ako nagtrabaho.
Pwede, kayo na, kayo na. Naranasan niyo na yan? yung makaranas yung wala dito.
Nasa bahay yung naiwan eh. Yung iba tamad na tamad. Pagdating dito, come on, diligently. You're not doing this to anybody. Sabi niya, your sons shall talk of them.
Tignan nyo, usap kayo. Usap kayo. Ibig sabihin, maganda rin na sunyo, nag-uusap kayo eh. Naka-upo kayo when you sit in your house.
Bo, may fellowship talaga kayo. And when you walk by the way, bo, magkasama pa kayo maglalakas. Walang tampuhan.
Alam nyo ba, mag-asawa, nagtatampuhan, ang bilis maglalakas doon isa. Ito hindi. Nag-uusap kayo.
You're enjoying company. Then when you lie down, magkasama pa kayo sa higaan. Tapos when you rise up, sobrang magkakasama kayo. Kaya huwag na huwag kayong papayag na sa... Sabihin ng mga anak nyo, gusto ko ng privacy.
I want space. I want to have my own room. Excuse me.
Maganda, magkakasama kayo. You can learn from each other. Yung mga nangihingi ng space, may problema yan.
Nakuha, kahit tayo, pag gusto mong mag-isa, may problema ka. Sigurado ko. Kasi sabi ng Bible yun eh. Yung mga gustong humiwalay, may kasalanan. Dumalayo.
Napansin nyo ba yung pagka hindi tayo okay, dumalayo tayo? Tapos lahat isisisihin natin. Kasi sila eh.
Kasi sila eh. Kasi sila eh. Aminin nyo man hindi, totoo yan. Kung ayaw nyo maniwala, mali ako. Pero yan, isipin nyo mabuti.
Be honest. E naman, para lalo natin maintindihan how it is being applied to life, alam nyo, I praise God. Yung ating senior pastor, he is very intentional in teaching family, talaga making sure that every family is really a disciple.
group and a follower of Jesus. Kaya blessed na blessed ako sa kanyang pamilya. Una, ang gagandang lalaki, ang gagandang babae, ang kanyang mga anak.
How I wish na ganyan din ang pamilya ko. Iba lang yung ganda namin. Sila wizards, kami Hobbitron.
Maliliit, cute. Tapos lahat sila may pamilya, doon ako humanga. Ayos silang lahat, they love the Lord at lahat sila may pamilya na, may asawa na. And all of them, they they love the Lord and they serve God.
Naamiss ako, classmate ko sila. Ang gagaling nila, ang sisipag nila, ang talagang mahal nila si Jesus. Tapos hindi lang yun. Meron pa silang anak na. Dalawampu't dalawampu't, wag magdadalawampu't tatlo na.
They were really blessed by God. At hindi lang niisip yung madami na anak, kasi busy kami, bakit kami magaanak? Hindi. They're building generation of followers of Jesus who love the Lord wholeheartedly. Di ba ang sarap?
Arap! Ngayon, sila mismo, naka-influenza sila sa akin. Kasi sa totoo lang, kung hindi ako natuto sa kanila, sabog din ang pamilya ko.
Just to give you an example, tinanong ko minsan ng mga ano. How? can I be a better father to you?
Pwede namin sabihin kahit ano. Of course. Hindi ako magre-react.
Kahit ano. Akala ko, sasabihin nila, you're perfect, you're good, nung sinabi nila yung totoo. Maniwala, gusto ko sila lahat palayasin. Ang sama!
Pero, nagtimpi ako alang-alang sa Diyos at sa pagbamahal niya sa akin. Sabi ko sa kanya, patawarin niyo ako. Hindi ko alam na ganyan ako kasama. tulungan nyo ko magbago. And sa awa naman ng Panginoon, kahit pa pano, malaki na ang pinagbago ko.
Tanungin nyo na lang sila. Ayoko naman magsagta para buhatin ang sariling bangko. Di ba? Tanungin nyo na lang sila.
Basta ang alam ko, yung anak ko, kahit 33 years old na siya, bago pumunta sa opisina, tatawag sa akin. Pagdating sa opisina, tatawag sa akin. Kasi malayo siya eh.
Nasa Pangasinan siya. Lahat, kwekwentuhan niya ako. Bawat bahagi, uuwi siya, magkikwento sa akin.
Diba, eh, may edad ng lalaki. Sabi nga niya, talagang nakikipag-usap ka lagi sa daddy mo? Oo, bakit?
Nagkikwentuhan kami palagi. Tapos, ito namang pangalawa, ikakasal na, praise God. Dahil, mahal nila ang Diyos. Yung kambahal, ganun din. Sa madaling salita, ang Diyos ay napakabuti.
And I learned it from them. By the grace of God. Ginamit sila ng Diyos. Now, para hindi maloose yung transmission, gusto kong makinig tayo, straight from His own mouth, yung principles ng MRI.
Are you ready? Babalik ako para sa ating panghuling bahagi. Okay? So, panoorin po natin si Pastor Peter para ituturo sa atin yung principle ng MRI. What is MRI?
Today, medically speaking, it's called magnetic resonance imaging, right? To see inside. You want to impact the inside of your children, of your parents, the heart? Use MRI. What is MRI?
Number one, you model. Number two, you build relationship. Number three, you have to be intentional.
Let's go to the first principle. What does it mean? Model. Well, this is the principle of modeling. Everybody read this together.
Modeling. Together. Children, copy us positively or negatively. They copy you.
Your disciples are copying you. Your office mates are copying you. Whether you like it or you don't. They copy you. The Bible is very clear.
The principle of discipleship. Be imitators of me as I am of Christ. That's it.
Be a model. The power of modeling is so crucial. You know why?
Because children copy. To prove to you, modeling is so crucial. Everybody, stand up. Stand up.
Are you listening to me? Alright, form a circle with your forefinger and thumb. Form a circle.
Are you forming a circle? Higher? Alright. By the count of three, I want you to put this, okay? Look at this.
Put this in your chin. One, two, three. Why are you putting that in your forehead? Because children copy.
They don't listen. You are children. Why did you put it here?
Why did you put it here? Because you copy. So tell your neighbor, children copy, they don't listen.
Okay, thank you, sit down. To give you the example of this principle, I've asked Edric, Joy, and his son to share with us the principle of modeling. Let's welcome them. Afternoon. So, we're going to be sharing from our hearts how modeling has worked.
We're going to start with Joy, Eden, and then myself. Go ahead, honey. Okay, so first I just want to say that, you know, all of us are works in progress. In fact, it's so funny because on the way here... this morning, in preparation, we asked each other, is there anything that we're doing that will cause you to stumble?
Are we messing up in our modeling? And then when it got to asking each other, I asked Edric and he said, well, I think you can improve on, sometimes you're too pushy. Maybe it's your age, maybe it's your hormones. And then instead of apologizing and acknowledging, I started defending myself.
And we started having an argument in the car. And my littlest daughter, Kaylee, she looks at us, she said, Oh, this sounds like me and Catalina when we fight. Yeah, so, you know, of course, as soon as we got here, the Lord convicted me because my dad said, Don't forget to share in your testimony that how do we receive correction and criticism well?
How do we model that? So of course I had to apologize to Edric and to my kids and praise God, we're okay now, right? We're okay.
We're okay, good, yeah. And so you know, growing up, by God's grace, my parents were great models. They were godly, they loved the Lord, they loved us.
But I really wanted to emphasis this aspect of their modeling, and it was modeling Christ-likeness through humility. And one of the most recent examples I can think of was recently when I was really, really deeply hurt about something that my dad did. and at first I didn't know how to approach him about it, how to talk to him about it because he's never really done something that's deeply hurt me but this one thing really, really hurt me and disappointed me. And so when we had the occasion to talk, I shared with him, you know, from my heart and it was the first time I really broke down into tears and I said, you know, Dad, you know, you're my spiritual... Role model and hero.
So when you did that, it really, really wounded me. And, you know, I saw him, my dad was also tearing. And he was very humble. He did not try to defend himself. He did not make excuses.
He just said, you know, sweetheart, will you forgive me? Because I am a flawed person, and I'm so sorry. And then he hugged me, and it was very restorative. And I share that because I think a lot of times, when we're thinking about modeling, it's such a high standard, right?
It's like Christ-likeness, and it can be so discouraging. But when we model humility in our... relationships, by listening to one another, by acknowledging areas where we need to improve or change, and seeking to understand each other, it really causes healing to happen.
And so by God's grace, my dad and I, I would say, are much closer today because he's modeled that in our relationship with one another. So praise God. And now Eden's going to share what he has also learned. Good afternoon everyone. So as my mother shared, Every story has its conflict.
And earlier in our family's years, my dad was very dictator-like. And I call this period the dark ages of our family's history. I felt this way because when I thought of my future, I wanted to be a better father than my dad by not copying all the mistakes he had made with our family. I only looked at his problems.
Looking back, however, I was very irrational at this stage, but I was still hurt by my father. What hurt me was that when I watched him speak about things, which I saw him speak, he would speak a lot with my mom, with our family, but a lot of these things I didn't see him apply in our family and in his own life. And so this deeply hurt me. And as my mom shared earlier, authenticity is very important, but willingness to change doesn't matter if change doesn't actually happen.
It is important to admit your mistakes. but more importantly, you need to improve afterwards. Otherwise, this is just hypocrisy. And so it says in 1 John 3 verse 18, Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth. Our generation seeks to know truth, but when truth is not applied at home, it is searched for elsewhere.
There is a longing in our hearts for true, holy love. The verse from 1 John emphasizes the need For truth in our actions, that God's love may be experienced by others when we model it. All our relationships, can we really say, as my uncle also shared, copy me or imitate me as I copy Christ, as Paul says in 1 Corinthians. Do we truly apply the word of God in all of our relationships?
As children, it is so important for us to see our parents do this. Most often, the only Bible we may read or understand is the lives of our own parents. I praise God that my parents were willing to change.
I praise God that they were willing to change. And they really changed. My father improved.
And this made the love of God real in my life. Because he was there. Can I switch mics? The love of God was made real in my life because it was lived consistently by my parents. God opened my eyes to see how blessed I've been by my dad and even my mom.
There were many godly characteristics in my dad. And so now today I can say by God's grace, the biggest role model of what it means to be a man next to Jesus is my dad. Love you. Thank you, son.
So I want to close our family sharing very briefly by saying the truth is, copying Christ is really hard. And what I've learned even through this journey that Aiden shared is our goals should not necessarily be perfectional though we want to get that way, but there must be progress. And by God's grace, how do we experience progress? For me, the way I did that that was, first, I needed to realize how utterly dependent I am on Jesus.
If we're going to copy Christ as our model, we need to make sure we get to know that model so well. So, I tried my best to do that, even as I would mess up in my dark ages as Eden talked about. So, focus on progress.
Focus on Jesus. Focus on Him as the model. I never fully appreciated the words, Thy Word is a light unto my path and a lamp unto my feet until I realized I need I need to know Jesus more. I need to know Him daily.
I am so desperately dependent on His words to guide me, to take me forward. Because without that, I'm a mess. I also realize that we cannot journey alone.
As a father and as a man, and many of us, we can be models in any of our spaces as students, to your classmates, to your workmates, even in family as we're sharing here. But what I learned... is I cannot journey alone. And this is why we have this beautiful discipleship structure. I have men that are discipling into my life.
My sons, as I disciple them, they started, I also started opening up to them so they would hold me accountable so they could tell me how I could improve. That helped me. Then other...
men around me, and even the men that I disciple, that whole ecosystem, family, really helped me as I journeyed to remind myself that, hey, I cannot journey alone. If I'm going to become like Christ, I cannot journey alone. I want to close with this.
It can be very overwhelming. I'm in a season where people that know me well, it's a very complex time. But I remind myself of this one last thing.
Success is not necessarily the end goal. It is getting done today what I know I need to get done today. So I take it a day at a time.
Today, I want to be a Christ-like model. And that's my encouragement for you. Take it a day at a time.
Be a Christ-like model today. God bless you guys. Praise God. We will pray for them.
later on. Remember, modeling is not perfection. Modeling is about authenticity.
When you make a mistake, humble yourselves. Modeling is admitting when you make mistakes. And all of us will make mistakes. Modeling requires you be present with your family, you be intentional, and you have to give them time.
So, this is the principle that I'd like you all to have in modeling. It's a sobering truth. You must be what you want your children to be. or your disciple to become because they will become what you are. Let me repeat.
You must be what you want your children to be because they will become what you are. And I praise God for my wife. My wife is one of the best model when it comes to respect and submission to authority. And you will notice all my children, they respect authority.
Honey, thank you for modeling. And thank you for the forgiving heart. My wife forgives me every day. Praise God.
Now, relationship. What is the principle of relationship? Before we go to relationship, I'm going to tell you something. We are just giving you bird's eye view of principles.
Because next month is Family Month. We will discuss this in more details. And not only that, at the end of September, there's going to be a family seminar.
And we are going to discuss all of this in details. Will you be interested to learn all of this? Alright, in the meantime, let's talk about relationship. What's the principle of relationship?
Together. Please read with me. Louder. The closer the relationship, the greater the influence. Who invented this idea?
Jesus. Look at Mark 3.14. Everybody read. He appointed twelve.
For what purpose? So that they could be with Him. You need to build relationship. No time together, no relationship. For what purpose?
So that He could send them out. That's the model of Jesus. Relationship. That's why the Bible warns you, warns me in 1 Corinthians chapter 15, verse 33. Everybody read this.
Do not be deceived. Bad company corrupts good morals. So my question to you is this.
Who are the best friends of your children? Who are they spending time with? Do you have good relationship with them?
Because if you don't have good relationship with them, you are not going to influence them. Notice the principle of relationship. Let's read together.
Number one, to build relationship. The power, everybody read, the power of influence is proportionate to the closeness of the relationship. The closer you are, the greater the influence. The closer the children are to their parents, the less they are influenced by their peers. I guarantee you, your classmates, your friends, they will want to influence you.
But if you are close to parents, they will have the greatest influence. vice versa. The more peer-oriented the children are, in other words, their life, they are so close to their friends, to their peers, the less they will be influenced by their parents. So simple.
You want to disciple people? That's why we meet regularly at least once a week. Without meeting, how will you influence your disciples?
Now, to give these illustrations, I've asked my son, Paul, and his daughter, Alana, to come. Let's welcome them. Thank you, Dad.
It's so true. The importance of having close relationship makes all the difference when you're trying to influence your family member or the people in your life. And I want to just take this time to thank you.
My mother, you know, growing up, we were, I went to a Chinese school, and then for three years, my mom pulled us out of school and she homeschooled us. And that is a lot of time with us siblings. And those were some of my best memories.
of school growing up when my mom homeschooled us. So thank you mom for pouring into our life and for building relationship. You truly have impacted our lives.
And my father, though he was a very busy man, this is something very... simple that we can all do. He had started a real estate company and started the church at the same time.
He would come home for dinner. And so my mom would make us wait for my father so we could have family dinners. And that's one way that our family developed close relationship.
You know, when you have close relationship, you're willing to share vulnerable things that are going on in your life. I remember when I was struggling and wrestling with pornography, I could actually go to my parents. Because I had a close relationship with them and share with them. Because I knew in their heart, like my dad shared with us earlier, that he truly, and my mom and my dad truly love me and truly want what's best for me.
And the same thing with God. God really loves me. loves you, and He wants what's best for you. So why wouldn't I be willing to share if I'm struggling with something? But if there was no relationship, I would not share that with my father. So I want to thank you, Dad and Mom, for building close relationship with us through the family dinners, and then when we could, we would take a vacation just our family, and then once a week, we would do devotions.
And my dad actually used those devotion nights. Not just to build relationships, but to help teach us children how to teach the Bible through one verse. So thank you, Dad and Mom.
And my daughter, Alana, she'll share with you also how we've tried to do that in our family. Hello, everyone. Growing up, my parents were intentional in spending time with me.
My dad would play with me and read me stories. But for some reason, me and my mom clashed when I was younger, and I used to argue with her a lot. So my dad decided that it would be best for me and my mom to go on a trip together, just the two of us.
And during this time, I was really able to spend quality time with my mom and we grew closer. Now, I can freely say that me and my mom are close and our relationship is strong. This doesn't mean it's perfect relationship, but if we make mistakes, we both try to ask for forgiveness right away. She is now the woman that I look up to.
As a family, we try to have family dinner together where we can just talk about our day and just about life in general. And we made it a rule to have no phones at the dinner table so we don't get distracted and can have meaningful conversations as a family. The relationship my parents built with me did not stop when I was young.
They continue to be intentional and spending time with me today. My dad sometimes brings me to my early morning volleyball practices. and me and my mom go shopping together sometimes. These are a few things my parents have done that have helped our relationship stay strong. Please keep praying for our family as we are all a work in progress.
Thank you. Thank you, Alana. You heard from Alana, and if you see our family photo, there's actually three other siblings, and Caleb was with us this morning, but this guy, Andrew, he's the youngest.
He's 10 years old, and about three weeks ago, we were, Jenny and I, were going to a family retreat. And before we left, my son came up to me and he just broke down. He said, Dad, I don't feel like I can talk to you.
I said, why not? He said, you're so busy. He said, do you remember the time that I wanted to show you a song that I wrote and you said that you would come to the piano and hear me play it?
He said, Dad, you never came. And he was just in tears. And I was deeply impacted by that.
And I share that with you because we're all works in progress. And when I heard that, I praised God that my son, because we do have a relationship, he could share that with me. And I could pivot my life and make adjustments so that I could actually spend more time with him. And that's the beauty of what we have here.
You know, all of us are work in progress. And I praise God that a long time ago, Jesus Christ intercepted my dad. Because if it wasn't for Christ, we wouldn't have this family.
raising a family that genuinely loves the Lord and it's all by His grace. And I want to give you that vision too for your life and for your family. That through Jesus Christ and your intentionality, your family can also have a Christ-centered relationship. So keep praying for us and I praise God for this principle of building relationship. Back to my dad.
Thank you. Paul, Alana, we'll pray for you guys later on. The reality is, time flies. I do remember when they were young. You have only one shot, opportunity, with your children.
They grow up very fast. Now, my grandchildren are even taller than me. But friends, you need to make time to develop relationship. Relationship is something that people underestimate.
Rules without relationship will lead to rebellion. Discipline without relationship will lead to resentment. Teaching. Values without relationship will lead to rejection. So don't get shocked if you have problems.
To impact family members, loved ones, disciples, what's number one principle? Model. Repeat after me. Model, model, model. Repeat.
Model, model, model. Number two. Relationship.
Say that with me. Relationship, relationship, relationship. Number three, intentionality.
What do we mean by intentionality? Well, intentionality has the idea of this. Purposeful. Let's read this together.
Good results seldom happen by chance. They are a byproduct of intentionality. That means you need to plan. You need to be purposeful. You need to be deliberate.
Most parents, most of us, are not intentional. You don't live life purposefully. It is haphazardly. accidentally, incidentally, randomly, you can't do that. Life is too short to waste.
It's precious. So be intentional in whatever you do. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 2, verse 6. Everybody read. Train up a child in the way he should go. When he's old, he will not depart.
That word, Train up a child. Train. That's where you have Deuteronomy chapter 6. Be diligent to teach.
Not just teach, be diligent. You train. That word train comes from the Hebrew word, chanak.
What does it mean? It is used to describe a midwife. After delivering the baby, putting her finger on the palate of a baby with dates, you know, some kind of a sweetener, so that the baby will desire to create an appetite for the baby to suck the mother's milk. Creating the right desire.
In that same word, Train up is used to describe how they train wild horses. Wild horses are totally useless unless they are trained. You break the will of the horse but not the spirit. Most of our children...
are not trained properly. You have never touched on the will. They need to learn to die to their own will and say yes to the will of God.
We are full of self-will. There are still people today serving God full of self. Their will has never been surrendered completely to the Lord.
My friend, intentional, that's the heart. And I ask my son and his daughter to come and give us an example of what does it mean to be intentional. Let's welcome Peter and Tegan. Good afternoon.
Good afternoon. Train up a child in the way he should go and win. he is old, he will not depart from it. Many of you know that growing up, I struggled with self-discipline, pleasure, and as a result, made many mistakes in my personal life, as a father, as a husband, in work, you name it, I made the mistake. But I will never look at my mom and dad and say, why didn't you teach me?
They always did, it's just that I sometimes didn't listen. And today, as I become older, I stand before you an example of God's grace through parents who never stop being intentional in teaching and training us in love. I can say so much, but the two... things I just want to highlight is one, they would teach us and train us in all areas of life.
So I remember when I was younger, I was quite unhealthy. I would get sick a lot. I was overweight and my parents would force me to exercise. and I didn't like to exercise, so they would take me walking with them. They would make sama, and we would go running around the subdivision.
And today, I love exercise. In fact, I take my children, I ask them, you want to run with me today? And Tracyn and Taylin over there, I ask them if they want to swim, or bike with me, so I try to do it as well.
In work, being responsible, you know, when we were young, we had chores. We had to wash dishes, We learned to make our beds. And I try to help our children do it too. I ask them, have you cleaned the table? A lot of work needed.
And he would take us to the office. And then, most importantly though, they would teach us about God and who we are in Him. And I try to do this with our children. And she'll share in a bit.
But till today, you know, even in the dark times, when we forget who we are, God uses what they taught. Thank you. Because she's pregnant, I have so much going on. You know, the other day we had a family dinner and my dad said, Son, you want to walk home with me? I was like, oh, dad wants to walk.
And then sure enough, as we were walking, he said, You know, I noticed your schedule is so busy. Don't you think your wife would like you around when the baby's born? Now, he didn't.
Of course, I'm going to be there. But his point was, wouldn't it be nice to give her more time? And I agreed with him.
You know, at first, I felt a little irritated. I'm a little proud. Dad, I got my schedule covered. But then I remembered.
Be humble, listen. And then my mom, God loves us so much through my mom. She knows we're busy so I saw her one day just in our house. And what she was doing, she was spending time with my little children, just teaching them, drawing with them, anything, helping us parent. So up to today, they are so intentional.
And I would like to introduce my daughter, Tegan, to share her story on intentionality. Good morning. My name is Tegan.
I'm 14 years old. Today, I'd like to share how my dad is intentional with me. One of the ways he's been intentional with me is when we go walking and spend time together. When we go walking, he usually tries to focus on one thing, and that one thing is that he desires for me to fall in love with Jesus on my own, and to live to please Him.
My dad says that if I love Jesus, everything will fall into place. And the key to falling in love with Jesus is Jesus Himself and spending time together. time with him. Thank you. That's all.
Thank you. Thank you, Peter. Tegan. You know, you may think this is just our family.
No. We have many other families. Today, I'm delighted to invite Dr. Glenn and his son to share with us what they went through also. We have this seminar.
It's called Family Breakthrough. And we do these exercises together. So let's welcome Dr. Glenn. and Gabo to share with us. My name is Dr. Glenn Obligacion, my wife Dr. Ellen, and I have been with CCF for the last 38 years.
In 2003, I became one of the pastors of CCF and was given the privilege of handling different ministries over several years. During a family retreat last 2010, I heard for the first time, directly from my wife and and children about the emotional wounds I have caused each one of them. I was told that during our regular family meetings, I would display pride and unforgiveness.
I was unwilling to listen and understand them and would often judge them. Despite repeated exchanges of apologies and forgiveness, I continued to wound my family with my words and actions. I pleaded with God to take control of my heart, and I also did my part in praying for my family.
Ito ay part of the improvement. I tried to listen when they would share things from their hearts. I intentionally went out of my way to reach out and rebuild relationships with them, all the while praying that God would give my children the grace to forgive me and that He would completely heal our relationships.
However, I still sensed that my children's hearts were far from me. Good afternoon, my name is Gabo. I'm the youngest of five siblings.
For the past, for seven years, I served as a worship leader, a campus missionary, and a youth coordinator here in CCF Maine. Having grown up in CCF, I had always heard it taught, including by my father, that we are to humbly admit when we are wrong and ask for forgiveness. However, whenever we, his children, would point out a character issue of his or try to correct him, he would respond with anger, defensiveness, denial, or blaming others.
As his children, it hurt so much to see him teach the church about humility, but then display pride at home. This made me feel like our family life was fake and hopeless. While I tried to grow in my relationship with Jesus, I was also harboring bitterness towards my dad for his hypocrisy.
I then carried these wounds into my ministry life. I was critical towards my ministry leaders. I told myself that I would not end up like my father or my authorities. But because my motivation in ministry came from bitterness, this led to more pride, and this pride led to lust. And for so many years, I struggled with secret sins that I became the very thing I hated the most, a church leader who was a hypocrite.
The pandemic came and led to more intense arguments and clashes at home, but one day, the Lord deeply convicted me that I was dishonoring Him. I spent time confessing my sins, forgiving each person who had hurt me, including my dad, and recommitting myself to the Lord. Immediately, I confessed these realizations to my parents and siblings.
They responded with grace, gentle words, tight hugs, and tears of joy. I saw that the Lord used my confession to further encourage the need for vulnerability in our family. I saw the Lord softening my dad's heart as well because he started asking me questions like, Son, what could I have done better so that you would have felt more comfortable to open up to me? My whole family journeyed with me in my lowest moment as I healed.
And during this time of healing, the Lord led me to study in a seminary named IGSL. It was here that the Lord sent me a Christian counselor who's been meeting with me weekly for the past three years, helping me process everything that's happened to me so that I could continue growing in God's grace and forgiveness, especially towards my family. Although I had stepped down from ministry at that time, I gained a restored fellowship with God and a renewed relationship with my family.
The greatest healing that the Lord has done is how He has helped me view my father in a more gracious and understanding way. I realized that Dad was adjusting to the expectations of being a Christian husband, father, doctor, and juggling the pressures of being a pastor as well. Today, I have a renewed love for my father and for my family. By God's grace, today I get to enjoy serving alongside my dad, something I never thought I would be able to do before. The Lord has made me realize that parenting is a lifelong process.
As a follower of Christ, I am supposed to lead by example. However, I failed to do that with my family. I now realize that I need to watch the tone of my voice.
Stop using sarcastic words, listen to understand instead of listening to reply. And I need to acknowledge whenever I'm wrong. Colossians 4, 6 says, I need to let my speech always be with grace as though seasoned with salt, so I will know how to respond to each person. My heart rejoices that I can now minister not only to but also with my son Gabo for God's glory.
I learned that families can be restored. We only need to focus on Jesus, humble ourselves, and be intentional in our ways. Praise God that He is in the ministry of restoration. To God be the glory. Praise God, Dr. Glenn Gabo.
We'll pray for you guys later. Ladies and gentlemen, Amen. It's never too late to become better. It's never too late to change. So I want to encourage all of you to realize you need to learn, develop a lifetime of learning to become better father, better mother, better leader, better discipler.
There are many topics we like to teach you in parenting. Okay? In discipleship. For example, have you taught your children who they are in Christ? Their identity.
Many people don't have good self-image. The world, what is the world trying to do? Family, the values of family.
Friend, how do you choose friends? Marriage, this is big topic. Who God is? Not about God, who God is.
And why we believe what we believe. By the way, all of these are in a book that I've written. It's called Motivate. I think there are still a few copies left.
But we will present this to all of you guys during the conference called Refresh. Refresh your family's journey. This is not for parenting only.
It's for singles. It's for young people. September 21. We have many guest speakers. Believe it or not, we have sports, we have youth program.
It's for the entire family. May I suggest you better sign up because you are going to run out of space again. This is September 21. As we close, I'd like you to ask yourself, what legacy will you leave behind? Sooner or later, you and I will be gone. You have a legacy.
Good or bad, whatever it is, you will leave something behind. Question. I want you to think about it now.
Ten years from now... 20 years from now, 30 years from now, how do you see your life? How do you see your family? Think about it.
50 years from now, what do you want to see with your life, with your family? May I suggest, live a purposeful life. parang aloof na sa isa't isa.
Hindi mo alam, papano? Kasi nga, may wounded spirit na eh. Nasaktan na.
So, paano tayo magsisimula? Tulad dunin ng Panginoon sa Kristo, He took initiative to reach out to us. us.
He was the one who came and became human. Siya pa nagpakumbaba. Kung baga, whoever is, whoever God is talking to, siya ang unang mag-take ng initiative to fix the issue.
Kaya gusto kong iwan to sa inyo, do not ask kung kayo'y magulang what your children can do for you. Ask what you can do for your children. Mga anak, do not ask what your parents can do for you.
Ask what you can do for your parents. Kasi tayo'y binigyan ng Diyos ng ganoong kakayanan. Kanya lang, hindi siya madali.
Kaya nga, the principle is M. Ano yung M? Modeling.
Tayo magsimula. Kung tayo anak, then model to them what love is. Kung tayo magulang, lalong-lalo na, model to them what kind of character we want our children to follow or imitate.
Then, ano sabi? Build relationship. Relationships. Importante ho yun.
I praise God na close ako sa anak ko. Nung maliliit sila, isa-isa dinidate ko yan, isa-isa. Kasi hindi pa pwedeng excuse yung business eh. Kaya nga, intentionality.
Sasadyain mo talaga. Hindi pa pwedeng hindi mo sasadyain. Kaya ho, kahit mga anak ko, nasa dorm sila nakatira. Ay, talagang kailangan kong sagutin ang text nila.
Kahit anong busyan, kailangan mo yung pansinin. Kaya ho, priority sila sa aking mga communications. Kasi sasadyain mo talaga.
And I challenge every one of us, be intentional in bringing our loved ones to Jesus Christ. Kaya natin? Hindi.
Unless Jesus is in us, hindi natin ito kaya. Kaya I praise God, God is offering Himself to us para magawa natin ito. Tayo pong lahat ay yung muko at pumikit.
Tandaan ninyo, sabi ng Lord, impress this, this command, loving God with all of our heart, soul, and mind, to your children. Teach them to your children, but impress this. First, into your hearts.
Naniniwala ka bang mahal ka ni Jesus? Naniniwala ka bang mahal ka ng Diyos? Naniniwala ka bang He died for you and rose again from the dead for you?
Naniniwala ka ba that because He is alive, He has promised you the Holy Spirit? sa ganun, mabuhay tayo, imitating Christ. Living and following the path and the ways of Jesus.
Naniniwala ka ba that you can build relationship just as Jesus did? Na nagpakumbaba siya. obeying His Father, becoming human, just to relate with us.
Na siyang nag-a-adjust sa atin para maintindihan natin ang kanyang pagmamahal at kanyang pag-ibig sa atin. Intentional siyang naparito. Pinagplanuhan ninyo before the foundation of the world para ikaw ay ma-set apart to be holy and blameless before Him. Naniniwala ka ba?
Kung naniniwala ka at sinasabi ko, sabi mo, Lord, I want to surrender my life to you. Kapatid, huwag mong pagpaliban. Gusto ko rin pong maging model sa anak ko, maging model sa kapatid ko, maging model sa magulang ko. Gusto ko rin pong mabuild yung relationship ko sa kanila. Gusto ko rin pong Panginoon maging intentional makilala nila kayo at maging intentional na makita nila ang katotohanan nyo sa buhay ko.
Pero wala pong ganung kakayanan. Friends, kung ikaw ang sinasabi, kung ikaw yung dinidescribe ng Panginoon Diyos ngayon, ngayon, I pray. Be humble, raise your hand to God. Ako po yun, Lord.
Ako po yun. I need you. I need you, Jesus. Yes. Yes, wag kang mahiya.
Yes. Hallelujah. Maging sanataas.
Yes. Hallelujah. Sa mga nagsitaas ng kamay, sabi yung Panginoong Jesus, patawarin po ninyo ako. Alam kong ako dapat ay ilaw at asin ng libutan, pero hindi yun mangyayari at hindi napalitan ang aking nature.
Kaya, Panginoong Jesus, pagharian ninyo ako. Tinatanggap tinanggap kita bilang aking Panginoon at tagapagligtas. Tinatanggap ko ang pangakong kaligtasan.
Tinatanggap ko kayo lamang ang tanging paraan upang ako'y ma-reconcile sa aking Ama. Kaya't salamat po, Panginoon Diyos. Salamat, Panginoon Sokristo, na pinagkalooban mo kami ng Balal na Espiritu upang ipamuhay ang prinsipyo ng modeling, relationship, at intentionality.
Salamat, Panginoon. kahit naman Panginoon pagharian nyo ang buhay ko. Thank you Jesus.
Thank you Lord. At Panginoon salamat po for those who raised their hands and prayed to you Father God para nang sagayon mapamuhay namin ang MRI principle. Dalangin ko naman pong ingatan nyo pong bawat pamilya namin.
Mahihina po kami. Alam namin hindi po kami Panginoon mabuti sa maraming bagay. Pero I thank you Lord God that you are alive.
and that You are willing to help us. Kung paano tinulungan Niyong Panginoon si Samson, kung paano tinulungan Niyong si Joshua, si Gideon, mapagtagumpayan kahit sa hina nila, Panginoon Diyos. Alam namin, gayon din ang gagawin Niyo sa bawat isa sa amin.
Sa gayon, makasama namin ang bawat membro ng aming pamilya sa kalangitan, sa kawalang hanggang nagdiriwang kasama kayo. At sa gayon din, Panginoon, makita namin ang aming mga... kababayan.
Mahangu Panginoon sa mga kalikuan na aming nakikita sa bayan na ito. Bilang isang illegitimate na bansa. Panginoon, maawa kayo.
Alam kong ang mga anak ay naghahangad ng pagmamahal. Dalangin kong makita nila ito sa amin. Bilang mga mananampalat at tagasunod ninyo. Panginoon Diyos, tulungan nyo kaming magliwanag ng mabuti.
Tulungan nyo kami, Panginoon Diyos, maging tunay na asin at mapigilan ang kabulukan sa mga... bansan ito. Tulungan nyo kami, aming ama, na tunay kaming humayo at tulungan bawat isa'y maging alagan ninyo. Katulungan nyo kami, Panginoon Diyos, sa biyaya ninyo, umaasa kami, Panginoon, ang isang mabuting kinabukasan sa bansang Pilipinas dahil sa mga anak ninyong susunod sa inyo at siseryosohin ang inyong salita upang sabihin sa kanila na mayroong tamang paraan at tamang pamumuhay na magbibigay ng maayos na kinabukasan.
Salamat po muli, Panginoon Diyos. Sa pagkakataon ito, dalangin namin na sa aming pag-awit sa inyo, we will all declare, as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Praise the Lord and God bless everyone.
Magandang araw, CCF family. Welcome to Sunday Fast Track, where you ask real-life questions and we give you Biblical truths. Ako po si Albert Sarmiento mula sa Elevate Youth Ministry at kasama po natin ang ating speaker na si Pastor Bong saking upang sagutin ang inyong mga katanungan.
Magandang araw po, Pastor Bong. Magandang araw din sa'yo, Albert. Para po sa ating unang katanungan, sabi po dito, may kasabihan na in-earn ang respect or respect begets respect. Bakit po? o paano ko po re-respetuhin ang aking pamilya kung di sila nagpapakita ng respeto sa akin?
Ayan. Alam mo, napakaganda yung tanong na yan. Kasi sa totoo lang, pansinin mo ha, kahit sa kasabihan, Respect begets respect. So you want to be respected, you first also respect, di ba? Paano ko re-respetuhin?
Sabi mo nga, yung pamilya. Kung di sila nagre-respeto sa akin, di ikaw ang mauna. You take the initiative.
The truth is this, the Bible tells us, for example, children, honor your parents. Wala namang qualification yun eh. Ang sinasabi, galang mong yung mga magulang. Kaya, i-respetuhin mo sila.
Ngayon, Kung hindi man sila ka-respe-respeto, at least ang attitude mo ay respectable. Kaya bakit mo gagawin yun? Dahil hindi issue dito yung magulang o yung tao na bapat mo bigyan na respeto, kundi yung respeto mo sa Diyos.
Kasi because you respect God, you obey God. And for sure, katulad din ang sabi ito, it will beget, what? Respect from them.
Kaya misan ikaw mauuna talaga eh. Tapos magtataka ka, they will also change. Don't expect na magbabago sila.
bag hindi ka na nagbigay ng respeto. Kasi ang mangyayari niyan, disrespect begets disrespect. Amen.
Thank you so much. For our second question po, Pastor Bong, paano namin may impluensya ng aming pamilya na ayon sa salita ng Diyos, kung kami ay nakabukod na at may sarili-sarili ng pamilya o tirahan? Alam mo ko, isa sa mga pinakamagandang paraan to develop relationships, communication. Diba?
Or, ibig sabihin, lalo pa ngang... Talaga intentionally, buwi mo yung relationship. Paano?
Kung nakatira ka sa nakahiwalay ka na, di bumisita ka. Mag-communicate sa kanila, maliba na lang sa ibang bansa ka, but still don't destroy the communication. Andami na natin platform where we can fellowship.
With our parents, with our loved ones, like for example, Zoom or kaya Messenger or Viber video calls. Kaya walang excuse. Kaya nga sabi nila, pag gusto, maraming paraan.
Pag-ayaw, maraming dahilan. Kaya hindi kumubumukod ka na, kayong dalawang mag-asawa, kayo ngayon ay together to build relationship with your parents, build relationship with your siblings, build relationship with your family. Para ano?
Para ma-influencehan sila sa Lord. Kaya ang utos ng Lord, Go! That's intentional.
Make disciples of all nations. Baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. And teaching them to observe.
everything that I've commanded you, then I am with you always to the very end of the age. So, ang pag-build ng relationships like discipleship pa rin, go! As in, be intentional.
Don't wait. For our last question po, ang pinaka-common na issue o dulot ng pag-aaway sa pamilya ay pera. Ano po ang inyong mapapayo sa mga pamilyang may problemang pinansyal at paano nila may hihilom ang nasirang relasyon dahil dito?
Ayan. Siyempre, yung pagkasira ng relasyon ay yun ay epekto lamang ng ugat na problema. Ngayon yung pinansyal, mayroon din yung pinag-uugatan. Ano yun?
Una, marahil hindi ka marunong mag-manage ng pinansyal na biyaya ng Panginoong Diyos. O hindi mo ginagawa yung iyong responsibilidad para maging sapat yung iyong pinansyal na pangangailangan. So anong dapat mong gawin? Una, ayusin mo yung ugnayan mo sa Diyos.
Kasi sabi ng Bible, seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. So pag naayos ka sa Diyos, sabi ng Bible, if you walk pleasing to the Lord, even your enemies will be at peace with you. So makikipag-ayos ka ngayon.
Marahil magiging mapagpakumbaba ka, ingi ka ng tawad, makikipag-ayos ka ngayon sa asawa mo o sa anak mo. Then mag-uusap kayong dalawa on how to handle and to produce wealth. Because God Himself will inspire us dahil the ability to gain wealth, sabi nga sa Deuteronomy, comes from God. So kung ayos kayo sa Diyos, kahit yung lalaki, he treats his wife in an understanding way, though yung kanyang prayer will not be hindered. Di ba?
So pag nagpe-pray na kayo, then the Lord will teach you how to handle and to gain wealth. Kaya naaayos yun pag naaayos na yung relasyon sa Diyos at aayusin ang relasyon sa isa't isa. At magtulong kayong kumita sa biyaya at... talino na galing sa Panginoong Diyos. Maraming salamat po Pastor Bong sa pagsagot po sa aming mga katanungan.
Bago po tayo magtapos, kami ay nagagalak na imbitahan kayo para ipagdiwang ang unlimited na faithfulness ng Panginoon sa ating paggunita sa 40th anniversary ng CCF. Next week na po yan, August 24 and 25. Isama niyo po ang inyong pamilya at kaibigan, especially yung mga nais niyong maka-encounter kay Jesus. And that's it for our CCF Sunday Fast Track. God bless.