Overview
Coach Corey Wayne analyzes an email from a follower who failed to make a romantic move with a dance class partner, resulting in being friend-zoned. The discussion centers on the consequences of hesitating, lack of confidence, and failing to act on romantic interest.
Background and Situation
- The emailer from Hungary followed Corey Wayne's advice for seven years.
- He met a talented female dancer in a class and gradually developed feelings after spending more time together.
- Despite multiple hangouts, including private sessions at each other's homes, he hesitated and did not make a romantic move.
- The woman eventually invited him to group outings and brought a friend to a planned lake date, signaling a shift in her interest.
- She also invited him to a trip to Greece but later backpedaled and became less responsive, citing a busy schedule.
Core Lessons and Analysis
- Women are aware when a man is interested but lacks the confidence to act, often leading to the friend zone.
- Hesitation and acting as a platonic friend send mixed signals and reduce romantic attraction.
- Confidence and decisiveness are attractive qualities; repeated avoidance of making a move demonstrates insecurity.
- Attempting to fly under the radar as "just friends" rarely leads to romance and usually ends with lost opportunity.
- The emailer’s inaction over an extended period made the woman lose interest and view him as only a friend.
Recommendations for Future Interactions
- Be clear and direct with romantic intentions instead of disguising them as platonic interactions.
- Take action when alone together if romantic interest is present, such as moving for a kiss.
- Stop pursuing when clear signs of disinterest appear; focus on other potential opportunities.
- Use hangouts that create a romantic atmosphere, like drinks after class, rather than repeatedly practicing dance privately.
Decisions
- Do not continue reaching out to this woman for platonic meetups.
Action Items
- TBD – Emailer: Limit communication to seeing her in class; do not call or text her outside of class.
- TBD – Emailer: Interact with and dance with other women in class to widen opportunities.
- TBD – Emailer: If inviting her out again, choose a clearly romantic activity and be direct about intentions.
Key Dates / Deadlines
- Weekly live streams: Thursday (2–4 p.m. EST) and Friday (1–3 p.m. EST).
Questions / Follow-Ups
- How can the emailer begin applying advice more consistently to gain real-world experience?
- What signs of interest should he look for in future encounters to avoid hesitation?