hey sibs uh for today's video I wanted to share with you uh exactly how names are passed down in Spanish-speaking countries which is actually very different from english- speaking countries and the most amazing thing about it to me is that I've never really understood it until very recently so once upon a time Alberto met Clara and they got married now Clara could have changed her name to Rees de Gomez taking de Gomez from her husband's first last name but she was not so traditional and that's actually not that common in most places anymore so she just kept her name as is and did not change it at all now then they they after a little while they have two little babies Andre Gomez Reyes and Anna Gomez Rees you can see the children take their first last name from their father and the second last last name from their mother years pass and Andres and Anna grow up and then they meet and marry their spouses Andre Marys Maria Ruiz Marquez and Anna Mary estan alvare Kos and each of them have a little baby Andre and Maria have little Pablo and again Pablo gets his first last name from his father and his second last name from his mother and then little Fatima is Fatima Alvarez Gomez taking her first last name from her father and F second last name from her mother so they both have Gomez in their names but in different in different ordering because they the name comes from a different sex parent so to see all three generations here's Alberto now grandpa and he is uh his last his first last name has traveled all three generations Gomez has gone to his son and his grandson and to his daughter and his granddaughter but his granddaughter's child will not get Gomez because it will not be passed on because it's the second last name and for the ABA claraa uh NE her F her first last name Rees goes to both of her children but then is immediately lost in the next generation because the second last name is not passed on to their children so the so still we have patriarchy the father's last name moves on down through several Generations so you can trace the mothers is lost after one generation then eston and Anna take their little family and they move to the United States and they start having to fill out forms in the United States asking for their first name and their last name and now they are stuck because if they use their first last name then they are leaving off part of their name but if they use their real last last name that's not really what they would think of as the important surname and they can't do that either so what a lot what they might decide to do is to Simply drop their maternal last name they still have the two Americans confusing situation where the mother's last name does not match the fathers and does not match the child either um but at least at least the most important of their names from their point of view is is maintained another thing they might do is they might try to hyphenate but I can tell you since as Mary hyphenates her last name it causes all no end of trouble and people give you funny looks and can't figure out how to look up your name right and if they go with a hyphenated route then absolutely none of them have the same last name at all uh friends that I have from Costa Rica actually went with the uh just dropped the maternal last name uh method which like I said looks a little confusing to us as Americans because that means that the husband and wife's last names don't match and they're not even like hyphenated to match like like Mary and I are um and it just goes to show that um there's certain things that we really are blind to because we really have this very ingrained in us that you have a first name and you have a last name and you we always expect that there's at least some kind of equivalent in every culture and it's not necessarily true anyhow something to think about and until next week stay shiny