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Looking Glass Self Theory

Jun 16, 2025

Overview

This lecture explains Charles Cooley's "Looking Glass Self" theory, emphasizing how our self-concept is shaped by our perceptions of how others view us.

The Looking Glass Self Theory

  • The Looking Glass Self was developed by Charles Cooley in 1902.
  • The theory examines how our personal identity is influenced by social interactions.
  • Our self-image combines both our internal feelings and imagined external perceptions.
  • Different relationships and social roles lead people to view us in various ways.

The Three-Step Process

  • Step 1: We consider how we appear to others (friends, family, strangers).
  • Step 2: We imagine what others think of us (e.g., funny, shy, standoffish).
  • Step 3: We develop feelings about ourselves based on our perception of their opinions.

Influence of Imagined Perceptions

  • According to Cooley, we are influenced by what we think others think of us, not their actual opinions.
  • These imagined perceptions can be correct or incorrect.
  • Misinterpreting how others see us can negatively impact our self-esteem and confidence.

Example Scenario

  • After a date, not hearing back may lead someone to think they're disliked, affecting self-confidence.
  • In reality, the other person may have positive feelings but is waiting for contact.

Key Terms & Definitions

  • Looking Glass Self — the idea that our self-concept forms from our perceptions of how others see us.
  • Self-concept — the overall image we hold of ourselves.
  • Imagined perceptions — beliefs about what others think of us, not necessarily their true thoughts.

Action Items / Next Steps

  • Review and reflect on how your self-image is shaped by interactions and imagined perceptions.
  • Consider examples from your own life where you misinterpreted how others viewed you.