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Expectations and Relationships: Lecture by Liz

Jul 3, 2024

Expectations and Relationships: Lecture by Liz

Key Points

The Importance of Expectations

  • Expectation Setting: It's crucial to set and communicate your expectations in relationships.
  • Self-Worth: Look at positive examples to understand that you deserve respect and equal treatment.
  • Provider Mindset: Instead of wealthy men, focus on those who have a mindset of a provider.

Misconceptions About Feminism and Financial Support

  • Double Standards: Society often finds it acceptable for single mothers to provide for multiple children but criticizes women who expect financial support from men.
  • Workload Inequality: Women often carry the burden of both domestic and professional responsibilities, which is unfair.
  • Anti-Feminism: It's not anti-feminist for a man to provide; it can actually be empowering.

Personal Experience

  • First Boyfriend: Wealthy but lack of a provider mindset.
  • Current Partner: Not as wealthy but has a strong provider mindset, leading to a stress-free financial life.

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Societal Expectations and Dating

  • Expectations from Men: Men often expect women to meet high standards but don't reciprocate the effort.
  • Deserving More: Women deserve to be spoiled and financially cared for.
  • Provider Men: Men with a provider mindset are more valuable than wealthy men who are stingy.
  • Addressing Wealth: Explain your expectations subtly without demanding.

Practical Tips for Women

  • Mindset: Don’t settle; set your standards high.
  • Ask for Things: Don’t hesitate to ask for financial support or gifts.
  • Competitiveness: Men are competitive; use this to your advantage.
  • Appreciation: Show appreciation for small things to encourage more generosity.
  • Make Him Think It’s His Idea: Guide him to make the choices you want.
  • Financial Stability for Future: Focus on generational wealth and long-term security.

Feminine and Masculine Styles

  • Personal Comfort: Dress in a way that makes you feel confident, whether that's feminine or masculine.
  • Divine Feminine: Receiving support is part of respecting the divine feminine in relationships.

Psychological Tips

  • Perceived Competitiveness: Compare favorably to other women being treated well to spur competitive instinct in men.
  • Avoid Negative Pleasantries: Never say you don’t need a man; it diminishes support.
  • Show Need: Even for small tasks, show that you need and appreciate his help.

Empowerment in Relationships

  • Receiving: Accepting help and support is important for maintaining balance in relationships.
  • Wealth Through Generosity: Supporting women can lead to greater personal success for men.