there is one crucial piece of the manifestation process that most people just do not get but once I finally understood it everything started to shift this is what got me out of some of my lowest rock bottom moments and helped me step into the life that I used to think was completely out of reach and what I'm going to talk about today it's real it's backed by science it's practical it's doable it's not just some fluffy woo woo stuff and best of all it is so absurdly simple but I promise if you stay with me until the very end of this video and actually implement what I'm about to share your entire life will change because this one simple shift in your manifestation process is what's going to make everything click so if you've been trying to shift your reality and nothing's landing this is the missing piece this is why it hasn't been working for you and this is how you finally fix it hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name is Jills and I help women step into their power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self create their dream life so if that's something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around so there is a reason why you're not manifesting the life you want and I'm just going to get right on into it all right so let me paint you a picture let's say that you want to get onto the roof of your house you can stand there on the front lawn and keep jumping over and over again trying to get to the top and sure maybe one day with the perfect jump the perfect angle the perfect wind gusts maybe one day you can actually do it but that sounds kind of stupid right what's the easier option you go into your garage you get your ladder you take it out to the front of the house you put it against the wall and you climb up step by step and then eventually you reach the top easy peasy now I realize this analogy sounds dumb but this is how most people try to manifest they keep jumping hoping they'll magically land where they want to be even if that jump is obviously way too high instead of just using the ladder that's literally right there so what I'm going to talk about today is what I call the ladder technique and it's what makes manifesting so much easier and make so much more sense and trust me by the end of this video everything will be crystal clear so here is something I want you to understand you don't manifest what you want you manifest what you believe is possible for you i repeat it doesn't matter what you consciously want what matters what you believe is possible for you and what you are in alignment with you can say all the affirmations in the world you can script visualize do all the things but if deep down you don't actually believe that that thing you want is an actual potential option for you then it's not going to happen here's what most people don't understand about manifesting you manifest from your subconscious beliefs not your conscious ones like okay let's say you want to be a billionaire sounds fun right who doesn't want a bunch of money but be brutally honest with yourself for a second when you imagine being a billionaire does it actually feel real do you think that that reality could actually exist for you do you think "Oh yeah this is right." Or does it feel like a joke like some silly fantasy or a haha funny kind of moment that little disconnect this is the thing that you need to understand and that little disconnect is based upon your internal set point so let me explain this is really important your subconscious creates this energetic set point we all have these different energetic set points in our life for love for money for success for happiness for health some might be really good really high love might always feel so easy and so happy for you but some other ones might naturally set lower like maybe money is always a struggle for you and these energetic set points determine what feels normal or safe or real in your life and so if what you're trying to manifest is way too far from your current reality and your current set point it creates resistance it's like if you keep trying to jump to get on top of the roof of your house you can keep jumping all you want and putting in all this effort but you're never going to get there because it's just too far away from where you are now you might consciously want that dream life you might consciously want a billion dollars but unconsciously you might feel like that's not for me or that's not realistic or I wouldn't know how to handle that your manifestation doesn't feel like something you know is going to happen it feels like a joke your subconscious mind sees it as a joke because it's too far away from your energetic set point now I'm using a lot of money examples just because money is so easy to talk about when it comes to manifestation there's obviously so many beautiful things that we can manifest and attract into our life but let's just keep talking about money for a sec so this makes sense that person who can barely afford rent and eating ramen for every meal and working two jobs and just struggling to get by are they really going to magically believe that becoming a billionaire is a real realistic option for them do you think that they're just going to slip into that energy and fully embody it like it's no big deal let go of all their limiting beliefs rewrite their entire identity and suddenly feel at home in billionaire energy probably not think about how big of a jump that is and how utterly far away it is from their current identity and their current reality now nothing is impossible but it'll feel impossible now this is not about playing small or accepting that you'll never get what you want or limiting yourself or not dreaming big this technique the latter technique it's about working with your subconscious beliefs working with your nervous system to make those dreams feel possible it's just approaching it in a different way you're not shrinking your vision you're building your capacity to hold it we all know that manifestation is about energetic alignment right that's nothing new but if you can't be energetically aligned then you will not receive it and so that is exactly why we use the ladder and let me show you exactly what I'm talking about practically using my own personal rock bottom moment to make a long story short about 8 years ago my life just kind of imploded my mother had recently passed and one day I had just woken up with an autoimmune disorder i just woke up with it one day and it never went away and it was very painful and very uncomfortable and not to mention I had a bunch of other health issues too but I was just struggling i hated my job i was always tired and I didn't look great honestly and it was just my rock bottom moment every day was miserable and painful and the one thing that I needed to address more than anything else was my poor health because it was such a big cause of my suffering i didn't care about anything else at the time i was so miserable that I just needed to heal so that was my focus i was focused on healing my body manifesting good health and in that healing phase of my life you know how people say like "Oh if you want to manifest what you want do affirmations." So I was like "Okay." And I remember this so vividly i would stand in front of the mirror i would look at myself and I would do these affirmations for good health right i would say "I am so healthy i am healed i love how healthy I am i feel so good in my body." And it just felt like a total joke i was standing there doing these little affirmations about how healthy I am while feeling so uncomfortable and so unwell and because my energetic set point for my health was way down here and I was trying to pretend and affirm that I was all the way up here it just felt like a joke and this is the important part i couldn't believe it those words that I was saying about being healthy I couldn't believe it i was way too far away from being truly vibrantly healthy that I couldn't believe it i couldn't tap into that energy and that frequency and embody it i couldn't make it feel real so instead I used a ladder i shifted my words to something else instead of saying "I'm super healthy," I said "Every day I am healing every day I'm making progress i am getting stronger and healthier every single day i trust that I'm healing now that was something I could believe that was something that I could get behind that I could actually embody that I could actually feel was real for me and so that is what I affirmed to myself until eventually I started getting better i did start feeling a little bit better every single day my health improved a little bit and it got to the point where once I started saying those affirmations I was saying you know I am healthy i am healed they could actually feel real for me now i could actually embody that energy i could believe that that was possible for me now but I wouldn't have been able to get there without that first step that's what the ladder is it bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be so that your system can get on board you can only ever manifest what you believe is possible for you so if your manifestation is way outside of your zone of possibility and keep in mind this is going to be totally individual for every single person there is a large chance that you will keep trying and failing jumping and jumping trying to get up there but always staying exactly where you are whereas if you just took the freaking ladder out and used those steps went up step by step you would eventually get exactly what you want but you wouldn't go from 0 to 100 you'd go from 0 to 20 to 40 to 60 to 80 to 100 so here's exactly what the ladder technique is so with manifestation you can think of it like a ladder so think about your desire what you want to manifest what you want and then think what is the highest peg on that ladder that I can fully believe for myself and fully get behind what is the highest peg on that ladder that I actually believe could potentially be a reality for me for example let's just talk about money again to make this simple it's just very easy to understand when we talk about numbers if you're making $1,000 a month and you want to make a million dollar a month that's what you want that's what you want to manifest think about it do you actually believe deep down that it's possible for you that you can shift into the energy and the frequency and the feeling of a million dollars a month and believe that it's actually possible for you that is a huge jump now nothing is ever impossible but for me and probably for most people that is such a big jump that there is no way I would be able to embody that feeling it's very difficult to tap into an energy and a frequency that you are so wildly unfamiliar with so instead you can ask yourself if I want to manifest making a million dollars a month what is the highest peg on that ladder that I can fully get behind right here right now what is the highest step that I can actually truly believe for myself and see as a reality remember we're starting at $1,000 a month so what is the biggest step that you can take that you actually believe is possible for you so maybe that's you making $10,000 a month that's what you can believe and get behind maybe for someone else that's making $5,000 a month maybe for someone else it's much much more but you test it and you feel it out for yourself when do you start hitting that internal wall and feeling that resistance when does your subconscious start seeing it as a joke instead of an actual potential reality this is something that you have to tap in and feel for yourself where do you hit that point where all of a sudden you can't feel what that feels like anymore that's when you've gone too high so let's say for you the highest step on the ladder that you can fully believe in is $10,000 a month that's the highest you can go and believe in right now that is what you focus on that is what you manifest that is what you shift your identity to and then once you reach that you hit those 10k months you stabilize that that feels normal for yourself then you move to the next highest step you can get behind maybe that's jumping to $25,000 a month whatever it is then you use your little mental ladder to step into that that is what you focus on that is what you manifest then you move to 100K a month then you go up and up and up right you use the steps of the ladder every new level you hit this is important every new step on the ladder that becomes your new energetic set point it becomes your new normal and so you shorten the jump between where you are and where you want to go until eventually you reach that $1 million a month again you're not using this ladder to play small or tell yourself that you're not deserving of big things you're using this ladder to slowly shift your subconscious beliefs and slowly shift your energetic set points so that you will eventually be capable of attracting in and receiving more let me give you another example from my life YouTube i didn't start YouTube by trying to envision myself as this girl with hundreds of thousands of subscribers and her own business that was something that I couldn't have ever believed but you know what the highest peg on the ladder for me was the one that I could fully step into and fully get behind and fully believe for myself it was just being able to create and post a YouTube video that's it that in and of itself was so far outside of my current reality my current identity and my comfort zone that that was the furthest I could go that was what I tried to manifest just having a YouTube channel with some videos and then once I made that step I stabilized it for myself it felt normal to me then I moved up to another step oh maybe actually I do believe it could be possible for me to get a little bit more visibility not millions of views but just like maybe a few thousand views and then once I hit that step again I asked myself what do I believe could actually be possible for me without that resistance and you know what I thought hm you know what actually I maybe could hit 100,000 subscribers one day i actually believe that that could be possible for myself now and then more and more and you're just using those steps of the ladder to catapult you upward by the way just in case you're interested in launching or growing a YouTube channel I'm releasing a YouTube growth master class very soon sharing everything that I learned over four years of doing this all of the strategies all of the tactical tips just being fully transparent about everything even things like how to make money and how much money I made i know building a YouTube channel isn't for everyone it's not everyone's goal but if it is yours or if it's been something you've been thinking about for a while you can join the weight list the link for that is in the description below okay but let's use another example of how to use the ladder technique to manifest let's say that you're single but you want to manifest a super loving committed emotionally available partner you can stand in front of the mirror and say "I'm in the most amazing relationship it's so fulfilling my partner loves me so much he adores me we're perfect for each other we're so in love but deep down it'll feel like a joke because you are so single your past relationships were always messy you've never really had one good healthy solid relationship and it just feels far right and because of that your energy can't align with it because it doesn't feel real you don't know how to tap into that energy and that frequency and your subconscious doesn't actually believe that you can have it so instead you climb the ladder maybe your first step is I attract kind emotionally available people and you sit with that you sit on that step until it feels normal and natural then I'm in a happy healthy relationship that brings me peace and then eventually you can get to I'm in the deeply loving soulmate level relationship that I've always dreamed of each step raises your energetic set point it feels believable so your subconscious doesn't push it away and that's what allows you to receive it or let's say you want to manifest your dream home big beautiful house big yard maybe you've got a view of like the mountains or something you've got this luxurious pool but right now you're living in a tiny box of an apartment with really annoying noisy neighbors and no natural sunlight if you try to jump to I live in my dream house it's coming i can't wait your subconscious is going to be like uh-huh sure so instead you ladder it what's the highest peg on that ladder that you can get behind and start there maybe it's finding a new apartment that's a little bit more spacious has amazing windows in the kitchen and has a balcony then you use that step of the ladder to jump into more and this is actually where the whole be delusional thing comes in here right people always say to be delusional when manifesting that that is the key to manifestation what they really mean is be bold enough to believe in something that's way bigger than your current reality and your current identity the more delusional you are the higher up the ladder you can jump because you're able to instantly drop those old beliefs and those old identities and align with something new in order to manifest something you need to be aligned with that version of you if your beliefs your identity your energy don't match that new reality it won't happen that's why the ladder helps it gives you a way to build that alignment gradually so your system doesn't freak out and reject it because sometimes trying to go from 0 to 100 is just too much from zero to 20 now that's something that you can get behind in belief that's something that you can actually embody and from there you just keep going up now here's something that most people don't realize about manifestation manifestation is largely just nervous system work now that doesn't sound as cool or as sexy but in order to manifest what you want or if you want to make a quantum leap in your life you can only ever do so based off of what your nervous system can actually hold and feel safe with and has the capacity to receive if something feels too unfamiliar or unsafe or overwhelming to your nervous system you won't manifest it and that's why I always say one of the biggest practical tips for manifesting what you want is to normalize it because the only way to normalize something is by expanding your capacity to hold on to it and actually experience it you might say you want the milliondoll business or the soulmate or the viral fame but if that level of visibility or pressure or love feels too unfamiliar or too unsafe in your body your system is going to push it away instead of attracting it like you want you'll be repelling it not because you suck at manifesting or because you need to do more journaling or because you didn't do that full moon ritual but because your body is literally doing what it's wired to do to protect you and you can't just ignore that or try to bypass that and so this is where people mess up they try to make these big giant leaps all the time and don't understand why they keep sabotaging themselves or shutting down but it's not that you're failing it's that you're overwhelming your nervous system and that is why the ladder technique can be incredibly useful it helps you expand your capacity slowly and safely and in a way that your system can actually accept this is the missing piece to manifestation if you don't believe it's possible for you it won't happen if you don't have the nervous system capacity for it it won't happen if you can't fully embody it and take on that identity and feel what it feels like before it even happens yet it won't happen if you keep trying to jump from the ground to on top of the roof it won't happen but if you use that ladder all of a sudden it's a lot easier all right now let's break down the framework for how to actually use the ladder technique in your life no matter what you want to manifest it's super simple but like I said don't underestimate its power just because it's simple this is where it all clicks so step one get clear on your desire first you have to know what you actually want like what is your dream here do you want to manifest making $10,000 a month do you want to manifest a deeply loving relationship do you want to manifest feeling confident and at peace in your body you don't need to overthink the how right now just get clear on what your desire is now step two find the highest version of that desire that you can actually believe in now here's the important part instead of jumping straight to the dream ask yourself what version of this goal feels believable to me right now like not what feels amazing but what can I actually see myself having what would make me go "Oh you know what that is a little bit outside of my comfort zone but I believe that for myself i could do that i could jump into that." That's your next peg on the ladder that's the version of yourself that you get behind that's what you focus on manifesting and then step number three is to embody that version until it feels familiar and safe once you've decided on that believable step that we were just talking about you live there practice stepping into that energy embody it be it think her thoughts make decisions she would make feel the way she would feel take action in the way she would let that version become your new normal the goal here is to make it feel so familiar so safe so utterly ordinary that your nervous system chills out and it's like "Yep this is just who we are now." And then you will bring that reality into your life trust me you will and then once you do that step four climb to the next level from there so once you're sitting at that next level and it feels solid you just reset your energetic set point and you use that step of the ladder to now go higher move to the next version that you can actually believe in the you who's making even more money the you who gets engaged the you who can run four miles without stopping whatever it is and you just keep moving from one believable step to the next and before you know it you're on the roof so here's what I want to leave you with your dream life isn't just going to magically show up because you want it bad enough it's going to show up when it starts to feel normal and when you can actually believe it and when you actually have the nervous system capacity to hold it that is the missing link for a lot of people because the faster something feels like you know what I actually do believe I can have that i do believe that can be a possibility for me i can feel that being real the faster it actually lands and comes into your life if you want to make big mega quantum leaps in your life you basically have two options option one you go full-on delusional you stretch your beliefs so dramatically and so fast that you instantly take on a new identity not impossible but very very difficult or option two you use the ladder you'll know if you need that ladder based on how that manifestation feels in your body if you feel a lot of resistance or if that thing feels like a joke then it is okay to use the ladder it's just there to help your system not freak out or shut down every single time it tries to call in something big so instead of trying to leap from where you are now into some wild fantasy version of your life just focus on making the highest next level step feel safe believable and kind of ordinary because once it feels normal it sticks and change happens like that and usually this approach will get you farther in life over the long term big jumps might feel exciting but if your energy can't hold it if you can't believe it if you can't embody it if you don't have the nervous system capacity for it you will just keep landing in the same place i hope you got value from this video and I hope you understand just how powerful this little ladder technique is and let me know if it resonated with you it is quite simple but it's been a game changer for me and I really do believe it's the missing link for a lot of people in their manifestations but if you stayed until the very end leave your favorite yellow emoji in the comments below so I know and if you found this topic interesting if you're like "OMG this is me i need help with this my energetic set points are way too low." No matter what good things happen you always fall back right to the same place then you need to go watch this video here it'll help you understand why this happens and how to get past it so I will see you over here or I'll just see you next time in my next video bye