Human Romantic Relationships Overview

Jun 9, 2025

Overview

This lecture summarizes key theories and findings related to human romantic relationships as covered in A-level psychology, focusing on evolutionary, psychological, and social explanations for attraction, relationship formation, maintenance, breakdown, virtual and parasocial relationships.

Evolutionary Explanations for Partner Preferences

  • Human reproductive behavior is shaped by survival and reproductive needs.
  • Sexual selection involves intersexual selection (mate choice, usually by females) and intrasexual selection (mate competition, usually by males).
  • Females tend to prefer mates with resources and dominance; males prefer signs of fertility (e.g., youth, 0.7 waist-hip ratio).
  • Studies (Dunbar & Waynforth, Clark & Hatfield, Singh) support gender differences predicted by evolutionary theory.
  • Criticisms include reinforcing gender stereotypes (alpha bias), not explaining homosexual preferences, and being socially sensitive.

Factors Affecting Attraction

  • Self-disclosure: Sharing personal information increases liking and relationship quality (Social Penetration Theory).
  • Reciprocity and appropriateness are key; over-disclosure or indiscriminate sharing can decrease attraction.
  • Physical attractiveness is valued due to perceived genetic health; the halo effect causes attractive people to be seen as more capable.
  • Matching hypothesis: People pair with partners of similar attractiveness to avoid rejection and maintain relationships.
  • Filter Theory: Attraction depends on social demography, similarity of attitudes, and complementarity.

Theories of Relationship Maintenance

  • Social Exchange Theory: Relationships are maintained through cost-benefit analysis and comparison to alternatives.
  • Equity Theory: Satisfaction is highest when both partners perceive equal rewards and costs.
  • Investment Theory: Commitment increases with satisfaction, investment made, and lack of attractive alternatives.
  • Research suggests investment theory explains why some stay in unsatisfying relationships.

Relationship Breakdown

  • Duck’s Phase Model: Relationships end through stages—Intrapsychic, Dyadic, Social, Grave-dressing (and Resurrection).
  • Reasons for breakdown include pre-existing doom, mechanical failure, or sudden catastrophic events.
  • Breakup process is supported by research but may vary by age and context.

Virtual Relationships in Social Media

  • Online relationships develop faster due to absence of gating (no face-to-face barriers).
  • Communication lacks non-verbal cues, and anonymity can increase intimacy but also misrepresentation.
  • Studies show online relationships can be as durable as offline ones, but theory needs updating due to changes in technology.

Parasocial Relationships

  • Parasocial relationships are one-sided, often seen between fans and celebrities.
  • Three levels: entertainment-social, intense-personal, borderline-pathological.
  • Absorption-addiction model: Fans seek escape and identity; behaviors may escalate like an addiction.
  • Attachment theory links parasocial relationships to insecure childhood attachments.
  • Research supports links to anxiety and problematic real-life relationships; some positive social roles exist.

Key Terms & Definitions

  • Intersexual selection — Mate choice based on desirable traits, typically by females.
  • Intrasexual selection — Competition among the same sex for mates, typically by males.
  • Self-disclosure — Sharing personal information to build intimacy.
  • Halo effect — The tendency to attribute positive traits to attractive individuals.
  • Matching hypothesis — The idea that people choose partners similar in attractiveness.
  • Social Exchange Theory — A theory viewing relationships as cost-benefit analyses.
  • Equity Theory — Focuses on fairness and equal rewards/costs in relationships.
  • Investment Theory — Commitment is based on satisfaction, alternatives, and level of investment.
  • Parasocial relationship — A one-sided relationship with limited or no reciprocal awareness.

Action Items / Next Steps

  • Review detailed explanations of models and studies in longer videos if concepts remain unclear.
  • Use flashcards or the psych boost app to test your recall on these theories and studies.
  • Prepare model answers for common exam questions on relationship theories and research.
  • Read further on recent developments in online and parasocial relationships.