why is your ex being so stubborn and what can you do right now to make him make her open their eyes and respect you more and more hello guys and welcome to love advice TV my name is Alex camont I'm your relationship expert and in today's live I want to talk about a very specific topic because I've seen so many people since 2007 they were suffering because their ex was really stubborn it means that their X and your eggs is not really talking to you your ex is not really respecting you they are not giving you attention we are in a special time of the year they will not wish you happy holidays they will not give you more attention than that and this is what it's driving you crazy because your ex came from being in love or being a partner to basically considering that you are too strangers right now and I can understand that this situation is really bothering you because you're investing a lot you love that person you want to see that you can reconnect and so you're looking for signs that we make sure that you can reconnect to each other and in reality what you receive is only your ex not giving you attention not really respecting you not valuing what you have done for the last years or decades and so this is what is not easy to accept the idea that there is maybe nothing more special anymore between the two of you but let me tell you this is also a lot there is a lot of a game in this situation okay thank you Janet Kate Carl Josie Sofia um Cal as well thank you for being here and tuning in doing the live you know that we are live every Thursday at 1 30 p.m eastern time so what you need to know exactly is the reason the reason why someone would become good someone would be so stubborn that they don't want to talk to you and also they will be the last person I want you to judge that they will be the last person to look at your situation and acknowledge the change so your ex would be the last person to acknowledge the idea that you have changed that you're different and that you can be maybe the best version of yourself unfortunately this will could not come immediately in a sense so now that you're watching this video I want you to know that this is just a human characteristic what does it mean when we make a decision we need to show everyone that it was the right one so that's why your ex is very stubborn he or she will not talk to you he or she will not give you attention because in their mind they just want to show everyone surrounding them that they made the right decision and they will stick to it even if they are not happy even if they are suffering they will stick to their decision and so that is the reason why your ex is so stubborn it's because of let's say what other will think about them it's to show that basically the mental decision and they are right and nothing nobody cannot challenge nothing nobody cannot tell them nothing so when we realize that we know that your ex is just kind of a playing a game because even if your ex is suffering like crazy even if your ex loves you and wants to come back they will try to control their emotions and what we do here at love advice TV and the reason why we do all of these videos and we do private coaching and we help you and we assist you it's because we want to make sure that your ex is still feeling the pain looking at the way you're changing so they can decide to come back for a new story for a new page of your book and not for the past okay so your ex would be very very very stubborn because of the idea that they need to look good in others eyes okay they need to make sure that they make the right decision and everyone will see that that's the reason number one reason number two nobody nobody even myself we don't want to say that we were wrong so we don't want we try to keep our emotions as much as we can until it becomes too difficult and we decide to come back to you right so your ex is doing this because of their ego you need to understand that there is nothing wrong with you you didn't do bad mistakes you are not chasing them it's just their ego that want to make sure that they will control the situation and that's why we become so stubborn and we stay in our position because we want to make sure that we can't say that we were wrong imagine that okay so it's because of what people will think of them it is because of their ego that they become so stubborn and the reason number three is what I see also sometimes in coaching your ex would be so stubborn because you're giving him the Contour he knows she knows that you want to chase them right so you're giving a lot of attention a lot of love you still wants to talk about the past you want to explain yourself you want to find Solutions and because you're doing everything this person is just having so much attention and comfort that they will be stubborn disrespectful they will not listen at you and they will be like I always say they will be the last person the last person looking at your situation and thinking that you have changed so your mom your father your friends will tell you my God you have changed you're amazing your ex will never tell you that and this is why you need to control your emotions guys this is the reason why it is very important for you to not look at their behavior what they think of you what they want um what do they say because then you're just in a phase of reaction okay and me as your relationship coach I want to get the control I want to do actions and see your ex react from there okay I don't want us to be in a position where we need them and so if I'm here today it's because I want to tell you that we can reverse the situation okay I have done it and words of thousands of time it is crazy but I've got so many people right and that is my book is the best seller in eight languages so I know it is possible but you need to understand that what you want will come but what you want will come only when your ex will have no other choice when your ex will not be able to control their emotions because they love you they see that you have changed and they want to be with you so it's most of the time a modern on how can we reattract your ex how can we make your ex so in love so crazy about you that we get that attention and so if you look in the description right below uh in the chat I will include a link to a special gift so we are creating free gift free resources because it's some matter to be able to dive in and to show you that if you want your ex back it is possible when we open a new page it is possible when we know that they will be stubborn and that is okay with us we don't want to make we don't want to make them change their mind but we want to show them that tomorrow will be even more exciting than yesterday and usually that is the biggest mistake I will see when I do coaching I will realize that you're selling the past something that your ex doesn't want hello Mercy watching from Istanbul that's amazing hello verusia hello also Bolan this is just amazing to have you here guys I want to show you that you know when you realize that there is always a reason this person was gentle you love that person because that good intention they had a good good personality and I know that if not you will not be watching this live right but sometimes we stay focused on this and we don't look at the situation and the human nature nobody wants to say that they're wrong nobody wants to tell everyone that they made a bad decision everyone has a big ego even if we don't want to say it we have a big ego and basically our goal is to open the new page so grab your gift to know how to reverse the situation how to make your ex consider where you are right now what do you want what is important for you okay I will see you from there and I will show you that it is possible to get what you want but it is always a matter of showing that we are changing showing that we are moving forward not listening to our ex not reacting to your ex not trying to do good because every time you try to do that you will come up as needy okay so I want to make sure that we will change that thank you so much Jason for being here Karina as well and kampam that's just amazing to have you from Zambia Nigeria us everywhere in the world because you're learning right you're learning why why are we experiencing such a breakup when we love each other when we have respect for each other when when we have experienced so much great memories why are we now destroying ourselves it's because of the ego and it's because of what other will think of your ex so your ex will try to not come back okay so I know it's not easy to control some emotions I know you want to try to understand your ex and you know with this special holidays we don't know sometimes how to react the goal is to focus on this new page okay focus on the new energy focus on the idea that nothing happened not the relationship neither the breakup let's try to come back from stretch from scratch story and you will see that this will be one of the solution okay King Dev Alex when we start to reconnect how many times to reach her out per week so usually it depends of everyone's situation that's why I want you to come on with mexican.com coaching because I can do private session with you guys but usually it's twice a week okay the word is every three four five days we can initiate so we can send the first text message and we see how it goes okay okay catering my friends so she speaks fine she says hello thanks so much chatter and you can just tell her hi from me bonjour in French thank you sir comments because of you we exist and Thrive thank you so much you know what guys I'm here I'm really dedicated to you and I know that when you have someone that is very stubborn you want to shake them you know you want to shake them and tell them hey open your eyes I have changed I am not this monster I'm not this bad person I can change I can evolve but when we do that they want to stay in their position because of their ego now if you make them smile instead of making them Shake why if we make them smile and if we enjoy the moment and if we can just we attract them their love will just come up because the love is here it is just below the negative emotion so we have the negative emotions and the love so the love would come up because of the smile and attraction and the way we will be able to communicate with that person okay cat saying Alex my boyfriend would ignore me for 12 hours straight and we live together why do this he do this because he want to show you that he's in control so man will do that because they want to make sure that you act their way they want to punish you and they want to show you that I am the man I do what I want and you follow me when you see that gate it is important to not ask question not Chase not communicate and be more distant as well because you know with we are with we tend to think that we are scared also to use the distance because we think that by being distant we will lose that person but usually it is actually the opposite because I'm distant I will be able to get more I will be able to get more attention okay I will be able to be focused I will be able to get what I want okay meanings someone that would be initiating someone means your ex so let's try to do that hello Sonia hope you're doing good for more real so let's try to do that and stay as much consistent as you can okay guys because that's where we want to go Rafael hi Alex my ex-birthday is in two days we haven't spoken in three weeks not even Christmas wish should I wish her a happy birthday or not say anything at all I think we'd be a great idea to send a quick message small message and usually I will give it to you usually it's always a low first name I hope you're doing great this is an amazing day for you enjoy but be careful on and you put a specific alcohol let's say but be careful on champagne with a big Smiley the goal is to try to reconnect with a positive energy because after three weeks if she's willing to reconnect with you that means that we can just try to get closer and closer we will not get her back soon we will not go fast but we will be able to reconnect okay guys so of course Kate I'm here for you hello Angie so my goal is to tell you this the no contact is only one step okay after that we can try to reconnect if she's open great we can connect as well we can create a little bit more if she's not open if she's not responding if she just say thank you then you know that you need to take more time because she doesn't want to talk to you right now because of their emotions because of the situation because it's not the right moment and that's okay with us we never Force anything but we try to communicate with a different type of energy and this different type of energy is what we will experience and need in order for us to get more results okay and so when someone refuses to apologize or take responsibility it is because they don't care and if they don't care it's because you are too needy in their eyes and in January I will do a master class so it's a big life for one hour and one hour and 30 minutes on co-dependency because I've realized that sometimes it's not because your ex doesn't love you it's not because you have done mistakes it's because you give too much control to your ex so tell me in the chat would you like to know when will be the date of this master class on codependency and how to regain control of your love life because that's what can make you most most can make you stronger more positive that can make you feel better instead of just giving and giving and giving okay so that's that's really what I would recommend you Marty say yes so it will be no money Friday the 13th okay 13th of January at 1 pm eastern time if I don't mistaken but I will send you the link I will give you all the infos just make sure that you grab your gift okay I will attach the link in the chat because you will get the link you will get the gift so it you will get the link for the new the next master class there is one from Adrian on January 4th there is one from me on January 13th okay why do we do that because when we do a master class we can dive in we can go deeper we can give you more than just a YouTube live okay because it's longer so let's do that I will still see you next week guys next week at 1 30 p.m eastern time I'll be there to tell you how we can change the situation but remember that I want to conclude on that your ex is to burn because of their ego because of what people will think of them because of the idea that we don't want to open a new page we are trying to get them back and they know that right and the last thing is that they know that you will be needy so if you continue to just give too much attention your ex can't take you seriously they can't take you seriously and that is the reason why we will change that and we will get what we want so that's really where we want to connect right now that is really where we want to be and what will be the next case okay but I want you to be in this in this new mindset with so much great Behavior attitude and put yourself first you will see that this is so attractive men and women they love to see someone coming up like okay I've changed I'm proud of myself I'm good and this will be just the perfect result and the perfect solution for you so make sure that you will smash the like button right we are on Facebook and YouTube make sure that you join the community love advice TV you have Coach Adrian coach Abby Coach Danny myself if you come on with my ex again.com coaching we can do private session together because maybe you have some regrets maybe you love that person more than anyone else and I'm here I've done it for 15 years now I'm here to tell you exactly what to do I will see you very soon guys next week and make sure that you stay strong listen why your ex is stubborn don't try to force make your ex feel emotions when they feel emotions they want to be with you they want to be closer to you and that is an amazing tip for us okay I will see you very soon guys take good care of yourself the link is in the chat grab your free gift and you will be in the newsletter to receive the link as well for the new master class in January let's do it and let's stay strong I will see you soon bye guys