Hello and welcome back to my channel, Man with Mer. Alright you all, I'm going to be doing a reaction to the song Family Line by Conan Gray. I've never heard them.
This has been requested for such a long time and I'm so sorry that it's taken me this long to get to it. Like I feel like it's negligent on my part that I have not done this yet. So I'm excited to do it today.
I'm not sure what to expect. Please like and subscribe. Let's just go ahead and get right on into it.
My father never talked a lot. He just took a walk around the block. All his anger took a hold of him and then he'd hit. My mother never cried a lot. She took the punches but she never fought.
Till she said I'm leaving then I'll take the kids. So she did. Good for her. It's so weird I was just talking to a client the other day who...
I have a family member that did this to their wife and this is this is a thing parents can have trauma and bad childhoods and not know how to handle things but you reach a certain point in a certain age where you're no longer a victim and you are responsible for your healing and you are responsible for breaking cycles I don't even know the history of it but I'm glad she left But she took those punches. Disgusting. I say they're just the ones who gave me life.
But I truly am my parents'child. Scattered across my family line I'm so good at telling lies That came from my mother's side Told a million to survive Scattered across my family line God, I have my father's eyes But my sister's when I cry I can run but I can't hide From my family line This one's tough. So many clients I've worked with, friends of mine, just that experience where these people brought you into the world and ever since I became a parent I've never really understood. People who abandon their families or don't treat their families well or their children well because it's just like they're a part of you and you just... I mean, the amount of like mama bear energy and the knowing with my son and just the...
I would do anything to protect him. Anything. Anything. And that has to be so hard as...
just thinking about parents give you life, but they don't actually treat you with love or act like your parents. And they're supposed to keep you safe and shield you from things. And clearly this person was not shielded from abuse, neglect.
I mean, he's talking about his father's eyes, but I have my sisters when I cry. It's like, yeah, because your sister also went through what you went through. Man, brutal.
And also... You know the genetics sometimes don't... you can't run from them. Where you'll notice things about yourself that you inherit from your parents that you didn't even realize. And then sometimes, you know, the things that you inherit from your parents are the things that you are most disturbed by or that you don't like about yourself.
And it's like, if you can't run from that, it's hard to live with yourself. I hope I'm making sense. Okay.
It's hard to put it into words How the holidays will always hurt I watch the fathers with their little girls And wonder what I did to deserve this How could you hurt a little kid? I can't forget, I can't forgive you Cause now I'm scared that Leave me Scattered across my family line I'm so good at telling lies That came from my mother's side Told a million to survive So Scattered across my family line God, I have my father's eyes But my sister's when I cry I can run, but I can't hide From my family line Gosh, I'm actually gonna cry. Oh, that high. That high note just gets me. And the...
And it's making sense now when the singer is saying, like my mother's family line, like, lied a million times, so you have to lie to survive. She's probably asked her children to lie about things in order to... survive in order to to live and it would be so painful like when you have a parent that you've done such ugly things and you have you physically look like them I don't know My family loved me Oh, that I didn't try to excuses i was a kid but i wasn't clueless someone who loves you wouldn't do this all of my past i tried to erase it but now i see what i've been changing my sharing face is sharing Last name, but We are not the same Scattered across my family line I'm so good at telling lies That came from my mother's side Told her millions of I can't hide from my family life From my family life Okay, I totally just shifted from sadness to effing rage and anger right now.
Do not have children if you cannot be a parent, if you cannot love them unconditionally. It makes me so angry. And I'm going to honor this anger and this rage in me right now because I want you all to. Because it signals...
Getting to that place of knowing, like, you deserve better than this. You deserve to have been protected by your parents. And yeah, kids are crazy smart.
They know what's going on. They can read the nonverbals, the movements, you know, saying that he's not clueless. And it's like, no, like that.
Do a better job of protecting children, of protecting your children. Do a better job. I truly don't feel like it's that hard. And also know that you can be born from someone and absolutely not be the same as them.
There are so many people right now that are being cycle breakers that are changing this generational trauma that's been passed down that they've witnessed that isn't yours to take on to carry on into your adulthood and yeah how could you hurt a kid who hurts a kid Yeah, you can share looking so alike, you can share a last name, but that's it. And that's fine. Blood isn't always thicker than water.
Anyone that abuses you, you do not owe them anything, okay? For any of you struggling with this, there's a great book called Leaving Home. I will try to link it below so that you can see it.
And also... So... It's not just that they didn't deserve that, it's that they also didn't deserve to have the wound, the abandonment wound, where now the way that you're treated and the lack of love and cruelty. frankly causes you to feel the fear of abandonment and that is what causes anxious attachment styles so I hope that this is a powerful reminder to you all that like you might share the same DNA you might be able to trace your parents through ancestry or 23andme but it still does not define who you are the choices that you make are your choices and Someone else's actions do not define you.
I don't necessarily experience this song from like looking at my parents in this way, but I definitely do from being in an abusive relationship, marriage, and having to be, you know, the mom that he's talking about here that is protecting the child. And it... It makes me really angry and I know that it's just incredibly important to protect your children.
And I hate that there's so many people out there that have to be so strong and just deal with so much before they ever should. have had to face what life can be like as an adult or what real problems are like to keep someone from having a peaceful childhood i mean how dare you you know it's awful i love you all thank you for recommending this please let me know your thoughts sending you love