Ladies, when it comes to men and relationships, there's something that we can learn from the young lady named Isis who goes by the new trophy wife. It really pains me to make this video because it's a very unfortunate situation that she went through. I'm not going to say exactly what happened, but if you saw the video, I Married a Monster, you know exactly what happened to her and her daughters.
Now this young lady, she has a YouTube channel devoted to being a trophy wife and being in hypergamous relationships. See, she teaches people how to get married to men who have money. And she's not the only one. There are many channels that are teaching women about hypergamy and how to go after the bag.
And even if you are a woman who is teaching those things, No woman deserves to go through what this young lady went through. I want to make that very clear. There is no victim shaming or any of that. She did not deserve what her and her daughters went through.
But this can serve as a cautionary tale as into the problems and the issues with teaching hypergamy and teaching women to go after men for money only. There are many women online teaching women that the most important part of marriage is that a man be able to provide for everything you need and everything that you want. Men undoubtedly are supposed to be providers, but what women do not understand that being a provider, a man being a provider and a protector, that is the bare minimum of what he should be doing.
So for all of these channels to amplify the idea that a woman should go after a man for money only, that is the bare basics of what you're supposed to have as a wife in a relationship. A man who is a traditional masculine man, he understands that his role is to provide and protect. But when you have people teaching women...
out of balance teachings about hypergamy, provision, and what they should expect from a marriage, you get a bunch of women who have set themselves up to be in relationships with men who will do them more harm than good. This young lady said that she got married after a week of knowing this man and she met him on a dating site. Number one, meeting somebody and then getting married after a week, that is way too soon. The reason why is because you have not given yourself the opportunity to see that man when he is at his worst and when he is at his best.
Being a woman and being in a relationship with a man, you want to see the character of a man first and foremost. You don't want to look at how much money he has in his bank account and make that the totality of who he is as a man. There are men who have a lot of money, but they are not generous.
And there are a lot of men who have money and they will use their money and their financial resources as a weapon against you if you're not careful of who you're marrying. Many men like to use weaponized, they weaponize the things that you think are good and use them against you. And I can hear someone saying, so let me put this disclaimer.
Of course, this is not for all men. This is not for all hypergamous relationships. This is not the outcome for all women who have a man who takes care of her.
And this is not the issue for all women who get married after a short period of time. But more times than not, when you don't allow yourself to truly get to know the character of the man, you often find out later when you're in kind of deep. That you married a monster.
That you married someone who doesn't have respect for you as a woman, doesn't have any dignity, doesn't have any morality. And because of that, you looked at the dollar signs only and now you're dealing with someone who is a danger to you. So getting married to someone after a week of knowing them, unless that's your cultural belief or some kind of tradition in your belief system, That is not something that I would advise doing.
You want to see the man when he gets upset with you. How does he respond? When he gets angry at his family members, how does he respond?
When he gets angry at life events, if he has issues at his job, how does he react? You want to see the temperament of the man because more than anything money is important but a woman, a woman who is truly in her femininity, who is wise and understands that she has wants but she has needs that absolutely have to be met. Most women want comfort and stability more than anything and while a man's money can make you comfortable, if his temperament and his character is that of a monster, he's going to be able to make you comfortable.
You will never have peace. You will never have comfort. Even if that man has a black card, even if that man has nine zeros on the end of his bank account, you will never have peace. But these are not the things that are being taught on these hypergamy channels. Women are being taught to seek after men who have these big corporate jobs.
They own businesses. They hang out in country clubs. They're showing you all the tips and tricks and strategies.
on where to find these men, but they're not telling you what to look for other than his status and how he appears on the outside. But how about the character of the man? Back to stability and comfort. When a man has the character of a man who can be a husband, he understands that while he provides for you financially, he still loves and respects you as a woman.
And women are being taught that love and respect is not even necessary. Like marriage is one business arrangement. And marriage is not a business arrangement. Marriage is more than that. Are there some business aspects of marriage, if you want to call it that?
Absolutely. When you're dealing with things such as insurance, wills. Power of attorney, God forbid something happens to him or happen to you.
You know, you have bank accounts. These are all legal financial matters. But the root of doing those things should always come from a place of love.
First and foremost, the love and respect that he has for you as a woman and the love and respect that you have for him as a man, as your husband. But what's being taught is that You want a man who can set you up financially. You want a man who can give you capital for your business. You want a man whose resources are so abundant that you can use whatever he has and multiply it and get everything you want out of this life. In essence, there's nothing wrong with that if you're with the right kind of man.
But the issue comes in when your mind, when your eyes as a woman only see dollar signs. When you look at a man and see dollar signs only, you overlook the fact that this man may be a monster. He might have issues with substances. He might have a sordid past.
You don't care about any of that when you're not being taught that his character and the way he carries himself and treats people, that actually matters. And people follow the advice of some of these relationship gurus. who are teaching women only to go after money, and they're getting you into dangerous situations. Now, there are some women such as like Shira Seven.
I like Shira Seven because a lot of what she teaches, she's teaching women confidence. She's teaching women how to be entrepreneurs, how to take the money you get and make it your own. But what she's also teaching is that love doesn't matter.
um just how you look matters that's all that's going to matter for a man when you truly want a relationship of substance it's going to take more than that but the one main thing that she taught women that i think a lot of women overlook especially this woman that just went through what she went through she also teaches women that if you have small children you need to make them your focus if you have little kids you shouldn't even be worrying about a man like that you Until those kids are old enough to fend for themselves and be more independent and can tell you certain things. As feminine women, wise women, you should never place getting a man's money over the well-being of your children. And stop.
I'm not saying she did that. I'm saying in general, when you have small children and you're looking to date, you're divorced, you're separated, you are not in a relationship, whatever it is. and you're choosing to date men, you have to take into account your children. And I have seen too many times, not just people on YouTube or celebrities, people in real life. You have women who are choosing men over their family.
You have women who are so greedy. for money that they're putting their daughters, their sons in harm's way, all because this man is taking care of them financially. And this is where as a woman, I'm going to say the most unpopular thing that a lot of women, they've kind of been brainwashed into believing that a man solves all of your issues.
But let's be real. Sometimes a man can make things worse when he is the wrong man. You have women that are actually choosing men over their children. There have been women who send their daughters, send their sons away to live with the other parent or to live with some family members all because the bozo clown that you're with doesn't want them around and because he's providing for you financially you dismiss your own children. There's nothing wise, feminine, or elite about that.
That is foolish and on this channel I teach women how to be wise, feminine, leveled up women. And leveled up feminine women do not marry men they barely know all because he has money. Because when you are a confident feminine woman, while you want a man to provide for your needs, you want a man to protect you, you're not willing to sacrifice your sanity, your safety, and your mental in order to get the bag.
You know that you can get the bag all on your own if you had to. Don't have to, but if you had to, you could. And when you idolize men, such as these channels are teaching women how to do, you put yourself in harm's way.
And then marrying for other things than just love. I'm not saying that you should marry for only love. Because yes, let's just keep it real.
Love does not pay bills alone. But when you truly love a person, love a man, and let's put it even higher than that. When you love yourself, You take your time when it comes to men and relationships and love.
You have a standard, not just for how much the man makes, but you have a standard for how you will be treated as a woman. You will not deal with a man who cheats on you, but as long as he gives you his card, gives you his credit, gives you access to all of his money, you don't care. That is not feminine behavior.
That is not ladylike behavior. And it is definitely not the setup for a healthy long-term relationship. It absolutely is not.
As wise feminine women, we do not go after men for money only. And then online dating. Let's talk about that. I am more traditional in my mindset around men and relationships.
I feel like going on the internet. and trying to match yourself up with someone based on a picture, this is my opinion and I'm entitled to it, I think that's a little bit foolish and a little bit desperate. When you feel like you have no other resort except to resort to putting your picture online in order to get the attraction of a guy, it's like, let's just say what it is. To me, that's being lazy. You don't want to do the work to go out and just be the girl that you are.
Be beautiful, be personable, use your feminine charm to attract a man so you have to go online and put your face there and see which one will pick you. That's kind of low level in my opinion. Can it work? I've heard of people having long-term relationships where they met online and it works.
But for me and in my opinion and for women who are more traditional in their mindset, we are not so desperate and hard up for things. That we're just going to go after the first dusty that gives us attention. And we care about how our men treat us. Don't let anybody fool you into believing that a feminine woman doesn't care about how she's treated.
Feminine women, women who have standards and who are wise and have discernment, they want to be treated well in addition to having the man's money. And if you look at people like Shira Seven, she's not... a billionaire, a millionaire of her own omission. But her husband, I don't care, don't let her fool you.
She loves that man. She loves that man. She respects him.
She loves her children. And it shows in how she speaks. It shows in the way she speaks about her relationship.
If you've seen clips of her and her husband, if you've seen her talking, her whole demeanor changes. She loves that man. She cares for him. So I don't want you all to be fooled. And You got to remember too, a lot of these gurus online, not her, but a lot of them that's teaching about men and relationships.
Ladies. They don't have your best interests at heart. They're promoting a product. They're promoting strategy.
They're promoting a movement. The hypergamous movement, it's just that, a movement. Is this an endorsement for you to date a dusty, to date a man who's broke?
Absolutely not. But what I'm trying to warn you of and to make you aware of is that when it comes to vetting men and relationships, especially for marriage you want to go after something more than just his money you don't want to be with the man who's going to be having you working around the clock because he cannot provide but you also don't want to be with a man who will use the fact that he takes care of you against you and think that he can mistreat your body your mind and your spirit all because he's holding his bank account and his money over you you There are men who are just like that. They are absolute monsters.
And if you're not a discerning, wise woman, you will fall for this hypergamous movement and say, well, as long as my man's able to give me all the money I need and buy all the things I need, that's the most important. A man having money does not make him a good man. That is the bare minimum of what a man should have.
He should have character. He should have stability. He should have dignity. He should have respect for himself and for you and your family if you have children.
He should be the type of man who loves you so much that while he provides for you, he's not going to hold it over you as if you owe him something. And that is a lot of the issue with the hypergamous movement also for women who are impressionable and lack wisdom. You will go into relationships feeling like you owe this man something all because he's doing what he's supposed to do as a man.
And wise women understand that you owe nobody anything. If a man is treating you well, you owe him to treat him well in return. But if a man is providing for you financially, that doesn't mean he gets to just mistreat your body and treat you like you're an object.
And a lot of women, because they're carrying themselves like objects, They are okay, not saying this doesn't, I'm not talking about the trophy wife, I'm not talking about her, but a lot of women who are in that same wavelength, who are in that same type of hypergamy movement, they deal with things that they shouldn't all because the man is giving them money. That's not wise, that's not feminine, it's not ladylike, and it definitely isn't a healthy relationship. So ladies, when it comes to this hypergamy movement, when it comes to men and relationships and what you should be looking for, when it comes to a healthy marriage and a person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, it has to be about more than just money.
He has to have money, but some women, most women are comfortable being comfortable. Meaning if a man can provide for your needs and give you some of your wants, he doesn't have to be a millionaire. He could work a regular blue collar corporate job.
But if he is able to provide and he's a decent man, has decent character, loves you, love his children, and for me, preferably loves God, that's the kind of man you want. But to go after these men who look good on paper and then mistreat you in person and you overlook all of those red flags all because of the money, that is not wise. And I advise you. against doing that. So my heart goes out to the trophy wife, this young lady and her daughters.
And I'm so glad that she left. And I hope that this be a wake up call for her and others like her. And I'm sure she is not the first one that this has happened to.
And yes, this can happen to a woman in a regular relationship who has been married for years and decades. There are women, women going through things as we speak. But the point of this video is that we have a whole movement that's pushing women to go after men for money only and overlook all those red flags essentially because they're not being taught properly. And lastly, this brings me to my point of think about who you're listening to.
We have so many voices floating on the internet, on YouTube, and women are essentially just listening to everybody. when it comes to relationships, dating, and men. Sometimes I feel like women need to just turn off a lot of the voices and get quiet, listen to themselves, listen to God most importantly, and let that be your direction on the type of husband, the kind of life that you want to live. Don't allow so many voices to cloud your judgment to now... You are in a situation that you didn't have to be all because you're following the latest trend of what they say a wife should be, of what a husband should be, hypergamy and all of these different things.
Get quiet before God and really get retrospective, introspective within yourself and think about what you want without all of the outside noise. Okay. Like and subscribe to the channel and share this content. Hit the notification bell so that you're aware when I post a brand new video.
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