e for e e e sh [Music] sh [Music] for e for we I e all e the e e ch for three the only Ru the rule my rule I did what are you ready ready okay all right good afternoon everybody are you having a good time at dreamforce all right well welcome everybody to dreamforce we're so happy that you've been able to come here and that you're willing to spend all this great time with us we're so excited to have you here it's an incredible incredible conference um of course we've kicked it off today was that dream pitch session amazing with Chris sacka and Mark Cuban and will I am and Shazad rafati did everybody get to see that well not only was it all the people in this room and in the campus but 2.8 million people watch that online incredible pretty incredible uh well now we have an incredible program for you and I know there's a so many things to pick and choose from here at dream Forest I mean we' even brought in 40 monks from Plum Village France to help everybody meditate and learn mindfulness oh they're here the monks are here stand up monks and nuns the monks and nuns are here please welcome them thank you for being here very good welcome to the monastics thank you very much for being here great to have you here well we're so excited and uh uh today's awesome tomorrow will be incredible mostly because my keynote is just awesome you're going to love it I'm going to do a really great job no I don't know um but I do think that uh tomorrow will be a great day because we have two incredible things happening well three incredible things we do have the keynote we also have um well that's of course don't forget about the 7:00 a.m. walking meditation with the monks right and the nuns what time 88: a.m. okay all right oh sister true dedication is here fantastic all right so 88: a.m walking meditation very exciting tomorrow the keynote at 1:00 Melinda Gates is going to be here at 5: talk about is everyone excited about Melinda Gates yeah and then our friends from Ireland you two is going to be here tomorrow night how about that are you excited about that isn't that yeah I'm very excited about that that okay all right so um let's uh let's get this program going uh you know this is been uh the reason why it's so exciting for me to have Tony Robbins here at dreamforce is because when I started looking for business tools and ideas and ways to transform myself I found Tony Robbins and I went to uh his seminars got his tapes when there used to be tapes back before there were CDs there aren't even CDs anymore and um I had such a great experience with him he taught me so much and we were able to bring Tony robbins's ideas into how we actually run Salesforce which is through our V2 mom process and kind of our core alignment uh capabilities with Salesforce and and how we actually run our company a lot of that is based on the philosophy and teachings of Tony Robbins so that is why it's exciting for me to be able to share that with all of you and to bring Tony Robbins into the dreamforce community and to bring Tony Robbins into the Salesforce community and I'm really excited that this year we're broadcasting Tony Robbins out uh on the internet as well so it's so exciting for everyone joining us around the world welcome to dreamforce and I'll tell you what there's a couple things you need to know a couple secret things you need to know about Tony Robbins number one he's the only guy I know bigger than me number two he doesn't like to go into a room where people are sitting down so everybody needs to stand up and are you excited for Tony Robbins all right so let's start some let's get this energy moving are you ready for Tony Robins here he [Music] come good night that tonight's going to real good night that tonight's going to real good good night tonight night let's live it up I got my money let's spit it up go out and smash it like oh my God jump out that sofa let's Ki it off I know you will have down just it all down I let it go the way I face [Music] my look at dancing just take it off let's play the town we shut it down oh [Applause] to hear you out [Applause] there thank you please have a seat I wasn't asking for you to stand that's Mark's approach but I appreciate it you all look a little stunned when he's telling you just stand up and clap listen I don't know what you're thinking right now I don't know how you know me some of you may know me from 25 years ago and I'm kind of stuck in time as a guy in an infomercial with you or you think that I'm Mr positive thinking I never was um but I my whole focus in life has been how do you get people to make decisions that change their life you and I both know business is all decisions your life is decisions and I came by not to give you a speech and not to give you a pump up but to make sure how many of you came to dream Force because there's some things you want to take to the next level who's in that place say I and in order to get ourselves to make decisions many of you how many of you had decisions you needed to make for a very long time and you kept promising yourself you make the decision take action but you just didn't do it who's done this before say I as well I awesome who's been in a relationship way too long say I why the hell would you stay you knew it was wrong for them was wrong for you so decision making is what frees us and all the time I hear people say you know what it took me 10 years to change this part of my life and when I talk to people I say really if you look at your life it wasn't 10 years it was a moment there's a moment when your life changes there's a moment when your business changes there's a moment when Mark was talking to me and he came to my third seminar I never forget him and he talks about Bigg he is he I am he's standing in the front row it's his third one in a row he's hard to miss and he comes up and he gets in my face he goes I want you remember me I've made a decision today I'm working with this company called Oracle and I'm leaving I'm going to start this new company called salesforce.com you kick me over the edge third time through and he said we're going to do aund billion dollars a year and we're going to change business around the world next year they're going to hit 10 billion which he and I talked about in Fiji about four years ago decisions are what created this joggernauts force and this environment is so unique and I came by today to see if you might want to make a couple of decisions who'd be up for something like that say I I now whether we make a decision not has a lot to do with not just our intelligence because I love coming here people ask me you know what is dream Force this thing you're going to again and I say it's kind of like Coachella for geeks and texts and I said but I've been here as a keynote three out of the last four years so what does that say about me right what I love about this environment is it's wickedly smart you got some of the smartest people and you got people that are really truly socially conscious but how many of you are very smart and sometimes don't make smart decisions say I and so one of the things I'd like to do here is cover two things two areas we'll talk about business here and we'll talk cover some fundamentals here that I think if we put focus into them they can guide better decisions and they can make a difference in your career whether you're in the company if you're a small business they can help you take yourself to the next level over these years I've kind of grown a little bit from the guy that does motivational talks to now I have 31 companies that I've started or I'm a founder or initial investor in and we do over5 billion dollar a year in sales in seven different categories we've got thousand employees around the world and it's just uh it's grown so much and I've learned so much and I've had the opportunity of going on this ride with Mark here for 17 years so I've learned a few things in that area so I'd like to share them with you but the second area I'd like to talk about is your own personal life how many you got some areas in your own personal life that you'd like to massively take to another level improve transform say I good so I'm curious why are you here Ma'am why did you come to dreamforce put you right on the spot can we give her a microphone give her a hand please come on give her a real hand for God's sakes what's your name where you from she's got a microphone my name is Dar and I came from Russia I just moved to San Francisco and there is my hi to San Francisco here wow and why did you come here for dream Force though uh because um my husband runs digital genius company and I'm interning in this company right now and trying to imerge in all this community you got to work on your happiness that's clear we really need to help you out with that give her a big hand thank you very much how many of you how many of you came here because you know the world is changing faster than ever and as corny as it sounds it's only going to accelerate say I how many understand that this is the way to get your Edge whether you're a small business mediumsized business you're a giant Enterprise and you come here year to figure out the technology that you think is going to lead you I'm curious how here for those reasons how many of you came here because you're in this speech today CU you go that Tony Robbins guy maybe I get some free stuff maybe he'll share something with me okay good I got that I got who you guys are how many of you came because you do in this room anyway for this session with me because you didn't want to change something in your life or improve it how many you came for that reason this morning okay and how many of you came because you want to change for example earn more money I'm curious okay you can say I go for it little energy and how many of you came here because you want to change something like a relationship ship or increase your energy physically I'm curious let me see your hands how many of you have no idea why here it was just on the docket so you showed up let me see your hands so one of the things that if we're going to make a shift this is a wickedly smart group but you can be really smart as we said and not use your intelligence at the full level you cannot maximize who you are and so while I want to honor Mark and I love this experience here this experience has really got to also have a level of energy if you want to go to another level that's not fake and artificial I'm not a positive thinker how change business is by getting people to make decisions and you do that when you're energy rich not energy poor and working with people over the years I've had the chance coaching Mark obviously all these years but I've also had the chance to work with guys like Steve wi if you know Las Vegas basically revamp that entire city one of the Geniuses in the field multi-billionaire I've had the chance to work over that time with Peter goober many of you know he owns the LA Dodgers 52 Academy Award nominations he's also in a position where he owns the Warriors and has built that organization remember where it used to be and where it is today and as I look at these people I find what they have in common are two things number one above anything else Richard Branson be another one Hunger Hunger I believe is even more important than intelligence intelligence is so important but there are a lot of very intelligent people that never maximize their capability how many know somebody very smart that can't fight their way out of a paper bag say hi so intelligence is so valuable but hunger is even more and if you've come to a program like this I know the hunger is there but the second think it requires is a massive amount of energy because what I found in life is many times people have the ability to do things they know what to do they just don't do it and a big part of that is energy so when I was back there feeling the energy we got the music it's so quiet in here you're being quiet right now most of you are doing what you've done most of your life when you went to an education environment and what is that you're now learning the way you did when you went to a 20th century School in a 20th century school what do we learn the bell rings and what are you supposed to do immediately report support to your what position and when you get to that position you're supposed to sit down and start a conversation with the people around you is that right you're supposed to initiate is that right no when you went 20th century School you were taught sit down be quiet be passive wait till someone tells you what to do today if you wait for someone to tell you to do if you don't talk to your neighbor you're out of business who's with me here say I so I'd like to change this because how many of you in this room have ever gone to an environment where you learned something that you thought was really truly valuable no one sold you on it you personally thought this is really something that could change my business change my life you were excited about it but when you went home you literally never applied a bit of what you've learned who's ever done this before raise your hand say I oh come on if you're not raising High hand you lie about other too raise your hand say I who's done this more than once in your life say I who still feels intelligent say I so we're all smart people why would smart people learn something get an environment like this and then not maximize it it's because we've all been conditioned by our traditional education which was designed back in the 19th century 20th century where you're designed to get a job where you were supposed to report at a certain position someone told you what to do basically it was an assembly line today that's not true so I like to break out of that because research shows if you sit and listen to me passively like you are right now you're being very nice smiling nodding your head being sweet I appreciate it but if you do that research shows 3 months from now you'll remember about 10% of what was set which basically was wasting your time and wasting mine too I don't want to waste yours much less mine so if you listen and take notes it jumps up to the 40 50 percentile even if you never look at the notes again because just writing it down drives the groove deeper so I'd encourage you to do that I don't see many of you with any form of notes but I know you have your phones some of you do but if you have no notes you must not have had a very high expectation of much value coming out of the session clearly but thirdly if you physically engage your body which is like do your voice your body your energy engagement is part of what we're going to talk about here in business it's at the most pathetic level in a long time worldwide even though we have all these tools for productivity we have all these tools for distraction and as a result most people are not maximizing so if we want to transform the thing we really need to be able to shift is get ourselves engaged at a different level so what I'd like to ask you to do is from here on out if you're willing to is let's start with some energy because let me ask you a question if you have two people in a relationship let's just go intimate for a moment and you have two people and both these individuals are really they're in a magnificent state of mind and emotion their life is going beautifully they're happy as could possibly be and they enter a relationship two really happy people what's that relationship going to be like you tell me if you know nothing else what kind of relationship's going to be if you got two people in a great Peak State tell me what's it going to be like now if I'm having a soliloquy you won't get anything out of this and I'm asking you tonight answer the question just so you ref refer back to and you're a firm I'm doing it because if you sit passively you won't remember anything but if you activate your nervous system by raising your hand by asking questions by yelling out the answer then Angel rise who's willing to do this if you are raise your hand say I awesome so if you're going to take it to the next level maybe we just do it right away because you guys are so in that nice beautiful deep trance are you really like this all the time I doubt it seriously you're going in that school learning process and I don't want to have you waste your time that way so let's do something to start with stand up shake your body out just for a second been sitting Shake It Out Shake It Out wake it up and here's what I like you to do high energy two high energy people what kind of relationship are they going to have if they're both feeling great what's the relationship be like come on tell me are they going to deal with challenges in a great state yes or no so our state is the most important thing that influences our capability our results in life lots of people have capability but activating it comes from energy when you are energy rich you have a different life the higher energy the more things can get done if there are problems in your high energy State can you solve them quicker yes or no yes and what if you got two people in a medium like okay States not even about each other their life is kind of okay what's the relationship like come on guys what is it okay it's okay what you got two people in a crappy state in a lousy State and they love each other what's still going to happen tell me quick it's going to be a lousy relationship you're going to have pain you're going to have problems that's also true in business the more energy you have the more things can be organized quicker faster make it happen you can solve problems when your energy poor even smart people don't maximize and the problem is in our culture today because of technology technology is starting to condition us instead of us just condition the technology today we sit so passively if you walk into most businesses today everybody's in a deep trance and you can see it because there's very few rooms that I walked in that are As Dead As this one it was when we started here and yet I know you're not dead you're the peak of the performers in the world but we're internal when I say that and there's nothing wrong with being internal but there are times we got to be externalized to make it work who's with me on this say I I and so what I'd like to do is let's see if we can do something a little different because what we don't want to leave here with is have you come here listen hear those interesting thoughts and go on we want to go home and make the shifts in our lives who's up for it say I I so to do that we're going to do some unconventional things to get things moving in here so we have a different level of energy so I'd like you to find somebody nearby right now point in and go I own you no say it like you mean it I own you no say it with more intensity I own you no I own you now you say I own you what you're really saying in that moment is I am challenging you you low energy person and what we're going to do is where does energy come from ladies and gentlemen someone tell me where does energy come from food does energy come from food how many of you remember last Thanksgiving where you were last Thanksgiving yes and in Thanksgiving what' you do you had plenty of food and after you ate everything in sight and said I'll never eat again and someone said pie you went okay who remembers and at the end of that what did you do go for a run what did you feel like after all that food tell me you want to lie down and go to sleep there's no energy there's no productivity there's no joy there's just sleep right so it's not food where does the energy come from come on how many agree with me that if without energy we are not going to maximize if you agree ra and Shout yes thank you very much so let's start to create the energy so where is it coming from it's not food sleep how many you ever slept for 8 hours and you're still freaking tired raise your hand how many know people that look tired just to be around them they make you feel tired say hi so it's not sleep who's ever had a night when you had no sleep whatsoever you're totally ex and then boom something happened you're awake for hours who knows what I'm talking about say I I would say you where the energy comes from is psychology it's a decision about who you're going to be and what you're going to tolerate or not in yourself and those are the highest energy if I said to you Richard Branson energy rich or energy poor quick okay Mark many off energy rich or energy poor yes the room when I walked in here energy rich energy poor po good so should we change that yes or no good unless when I say Point somebody and say rep playfully you turn them I own you what you're really doing is challenging them and I want to see if you can do something fun I do this with the best athletes in the world presidents you name it sounds crazy but what we want to do is we found that you can change your energy just by changing the way you move for a few moments if you decide to energy equals emotion emotion is energy in motion and so if you try to get yourself pumped up in your head It Go in circles and we're not looking for pump up we're looking for fuel fuel that will move things how many of you can tell me where you were the moment you heard the news about 911 way back when how many remember where you were anywhere in the world cuz there's all kinds of countries here could you see it can you know exactly where what if I said where were you on 811 nobody has a clue why information without emotion is barely retained information with emotion can get you to take action get you move the reason people traditionally don't act on what they've learned is they sit in a passive State like we've all been trained to do that's why before I talk about anything I want to shift this with you if you're willing to who's up for it awesome then be a little playful we're going to do it again when I say oh you get really crazy and then what we're going to do is you're going to outdo their energy for just 30 seconds you're going to jump celebrate like a little kid like the most energy you have trying to outdo their energy for 30 seconds right look at somebody Point go I own you now I own you now I own you I count of three let's clap together on three go crazy one one two three go [Music] [Music] come on now [Music] high five your partner and say you rock baby grab a seat in a peak [Music] Sate now look look at the person next to you and see if this is what they did where's a chair somebody have a chair here for me you got that chair see if your partner did this flip it up here if you would feel the energy did it go way up yes or no yes is it still there yes or no mostly but look at your neighbor and see if they did this after all that if they went like this and they went something like oh my god oh this what is this crazy Robins guy doing let's get back to the damn event can we please make sure the person next to you has as much energy in their chair make as much energy in your chair as you did when you're standing let's see you do [Music] it Dre about the things we could be but baby i' been hard we become strong [Music] [Applause] I found your neighbor on the Rock from a [Music] seat you're making me work it's hot as hell in here how does that feel better yes or no if you feel better than before raise your hand and say yes say yes say yes yes now question high energy place are you going to maximize or are you going to underd deliver which One Max is energy a habit yes and I want to make sure we maximize that habit so maybe since the energy has been lower we should try something every one of you in this room is a person of influence some of you don't look at it that way some of you do some of you it's your identity you're a leader but how many consider yourself to be a leader of something let me Seize Your Hands awesome what does a leader do what makes you a leader what's your job no not motivate you got great people you need to motivate them I'm not here to motivate you you don't need motivation a leader gets results and how do they do it they maximize resources and the greatest leaders in the world have always found a way to maximize better than anyone else and in order to maximize resources one of those steps is intelligence one is that is hunger see Mark is about as hungry today as when I got to know him 17 years ago we known each other 27 years but 17 years ago we really started working together personally and if I look at Richard Branson he's as hungry today as when he was 16 years old working in a crypt coming up with this idea called virgin hunger is incredible energy is incredible but we also have to ask the question what makes people fail who here in this room has ever failed to achieve what you really want in life a goal a dream a desire raise your hand say I I again if you don't raise your hand you lie about other too don't you come on we've all failed so when you failed tell me why you failed no one wants talk about failure do they everybody loves talking about success but let's be honest when you fail to achieve your goal why or if it wasn't you how many had other people fail you let me seiz your hands say I so now we got all the victims perfect so here's my question question when you failed to achieve your goal why did you fail tell me what's that you quit too soon very nice that's an honest answer give a hand that's great give a hand for that please come on oh you got energy now don't you Hallelujah someone else Hallelujah fail why you fail someone else why lacked courage very honest thank you someone else why' you fail didn't take action got distracted fear come on what else La didn't have the right people people said didn't have the right leader sir right come on what else didn't have the money didn't have the capital didn't have the technology didn't have the contacts what's that making excuses which all this is isn't it by the way I've done this who's done this who's made excuses like this to yourself let me sh your hands the first time I ever asked this question was when I spoke at Ted way many many moons ago was when it was really tiny here in Northern California and they got up and told me you have 18 minutes in my shortest seminar by the way the reason I'm somewhat stressed I want to add so much value to you today and I got less than three hours and I walk in the room and your Energy's low I'm like I really want to serve you I didn't come here to do a freaking speech I don't do that I came here because I love this man I came here because this community is going to create 1.9 million jobs in the next four years pretty [Applause] amazing by the way those are not McDonald's jobs like we've been seeing in the current economy we're living in a time that's crazy isn't it living in a time where we are in America we're the economy everybody looks at our feeble economy is what people are looking at and wanting that's how bad it is in the world we're living in a time where people don't know what to think next where the economy around the world has been inflated not with dollars or money we don't even print it anymore we couldn't afford to we put ones and zeros in computers we're living in a time for the first time in 5,000 years of banking where a banker now says to you in most parts of the world here's what I'll do give me your money and I'll charge you and take your money negative interest rates how do you explain that who's dumb enough to do that Toyota is offering you bonds right now do you know what they're offering for their bonds 0.001 it'll take you 69,000 years to double your money one time that's the world we're in today we're in a place of such uncertainty and I'm here because there are tools that Mark and I have used over the years and all the people I know that change their lives and their businesses I'm also here because this is a community that I know is socially conscious because I know what the values are of this man in her mind as well I'll give you an example when I look at how to create answers I don't look for the excuses I look for what can be done and what I found is this when I first did this at Ted years ago I asked this question because I walked in one the only times it was about as quiet as this room and I asked people and you know the room in those days was very small it was the heads of Google the guys from Yahoo Steve Jobs was in the room pretty great group in fact it was the day that they came out with a technology that made this happen they showed it for the first time from MIT they pinched things and pictures grew you can move things with your fingers and we were so blown away and Microsoft went and bought the entire thing that was demonstrated was a tabletop with pictures and Steve Jobs quietly walked back and went I'm going to use that for a phone and change the world right so here's what I said that day I asked this question I said how many of you have ever failed not one hand went up I said I know you're out there I can hear you breathing I said how many you failed and now everybody raised their hand and I said when you failed why' you fail and I heard some of the same things I heard here what were the things people said didn't have enough time didn't have enough Capital didn't have the right technology didn't have the right contacts right didn't have the right people didn't have all these things and in the voice in the darkness because it's a very dark room I heard this voice say didn't have enough Supreme Court Justices and I looked out it was Al Gore vice president Al Gore there and and everybody started clapping right like crazy and I looked at him and I said that's one way to explain why you didn't become president of the United States but I said it's not an accurate one I said of course easy for me to say I never ran for president but let's see if what you guys if I'm true or not when you told me all the reasons why you failed you told me resour ources you were lacking courage is a resource right time is a resource money is a resource people are a resource technology is a resource but here's the challenge resources are never the real problem we all know it if we look around think about it you can get the resources if you're resourceful enough resources are not the challenge it's resourcefulness so what is it we're really missing it's some form of human emotion that we have learned to Value less and less in a technologically driven Society see if you're creative enough can you get the answer yes or no yes or no and creativity is a resource if you're committed enough can you get the capital yes or no if you care deeply enough for other people will you get people to help you yes or no are the answers there if you're resourceful enough yes or no and in fact whenever you see people in business that fail they'll always tell you they were missing resources when they really just weren't resourceful enough this man is incredibly resourceful I'm resourceful every person that I work with who's gone from nothing to a billionaire and I've interviewed 50 of them just in the last four years to give you an idea which is why I gave you that book I'm not going to talk about that I just wanted to give you a gift because I literally spent four years of my life interviewing these people and they none of the people I interviewed were from the lucky sperm Club they all built it from scratch they did it by doing one simple thing you got to do in business which is finding a way to do more for others than who than you yourself but more than anyone else in the industry you got to find a way to add more what and when I did these interviews one of the things that came across when I was doing this is these people just took no excuses they knew they could get the resources if they were resourceful enough so what are the ultimate resources creativity Joy love determination flexibility with those things there's nothing we can't get who agrees with me on this say I I and then I turn back to if I friend in Al Gore and I said you know so I heard you say you didn't have enough Supreme Court Justices but last night I watched you give a speech and he gave his Inconvenient Truth speech for the first time and he was so passionate Al Gore was passionate it was an amazing thing I'd never seen it before and I said to him I've never seen you that passion ever before I said I watched the debate between you and George W bush and I wanted to vote for you but I couldn't you just had have the energy you kind of had an attitude I said you were not resp resourceful I said it never should have come down to justice as having to make that decision it's cuz you were not resourceful enough and there's this pause in the room and all of a sudden everybody stood up in Democratic Northern California and started clapping like crazy and I'll stood up and came by and gave me a little high five a little hug and afterwards they said get and run for president again I said no no no but the point is it's resources and if you're resourceful enough you can do it so when I was writing this book I decided to get a little resourceful myself and I thought gosh I have I grew up dirt poor no money for food and somebody fed my family when I was 11 years old and they came to the door literally on Thanksgiving and knock on the door and here is this tall guy standing there with bags of food and a in a pan on the floor on the ground with an uncooked turkey and I'll never forget he said is your father home and I said just one moment and I ran to get my dad thinking he'd be so excited and unfortunately he was not he was annoyed even though we didn't have any food and and the man said sir this is a gift from you someone knows you're having a tough time they want you have a beautiful Thanksgiving and my father saidwe don't take charity and he went to slam the door in the man's face and the man kind of had his foot here and it bounced off his foot and he's holding the bag still and he said sir he said this is not a handout everyone has tough times this is a gift the person's doing it anonymously they just want you have a great Thanksgiving and my dad said we don't take charity he started to slam the door again this time he put his shoulder into it and hid and bounced off of it he and then he said something my father I thought my father was going to punch him he said to my father don't let your family he point straight at me don't let them suffer because of your ego Oh I thought there was going to be a fight my dad gave him the Scout took the groceries threw them on the table slammed the door never said Thank you and that day impacted me it's why I'm here right now because that day I had to figure out a question in my mind which is how could my father be so angry about someone help helping and how come I was so happy and the reason is right now as you're listening to me in every moment of your life you're making three decisions you might want to jot them down and see if it's true right now the first decision you're making is what are you going to focus on because whatever we focus on we feel and most of us let the world control our Focus you know people say we're in the information age we're not in the information Age The Information Age died a long time ago we're drowning information we're starving for wisdom aren't we and so the bottom line is you look around down and I see my father and what did he focus on he focused on the fact that he had not provided food for his family how would that make you feel if you knew you had failed at that level you can get he was beating himself up I focused on the fact there was food what a concept I was so excited he focused on he had not provided it the second question we ask every moment in our life is what does this mean is this the end of the beginning is this person dissing you is this person attacking you is this person challenging you this person loving you is this person coaching you whichever meaning you make is going to determine your emotion am I here to pump you up and motivate you am I here to serve you am I here to offer you some pieces you can make some decisions from that could be life-changing if you want them to you get to decide but whatever you decide is going to be your experience today and every day of your life and most of us don't make these decisions consciously we've got a conditioned response based on our past so for most of us the future is pretty much going to be like our past we might might make more money we might do better in business but we run the same problems over and over again how many can relate in some way inside here raise your hand if you can say I my dad said the question what does this mean I know what it meant to him because he said it out loud over and over again to all of us I knew he Focus didn't have the food he didn't provide it because he said I failed my family I am a failure there's no food for my family there couldn't be a bigger failure and the bottom line is out of that experience he made the third decision what I going to do what he decided to do was to leave our family shortly thereafter which at the time was the most painful experience I thought of my life but it turned out you know your worst experience of Life can become your best if you decide to use it and for me I said my God there's food but the big thing that changed my life was the meaning and the meaning was strangers care that's the meaning I pulled out of it my father always said no one gives a damn about anybody else and I had plenty of evidence in the way we lived our life and the people around this you know there wasn't anybody coming to help before that ever and we were always in a challenged place when I start believing strangers care it changed my whole life one belief can change your life today you can make one decision in the next little time we're together and literally change your life without hyperbole without BS without exaggeration not positive thinking because our beliefs create and our beliefs destroy our lives and we have to become conscious is which ones are empowering us we use them more which ones are pulling and most of us are going so fast respond to our world that we don't actually stop and really check in and feel what's really going on so my third one is what am I going to do I decided someday I'm going to give back I'm going to do this for other people because this changed my life and so I have I started when I was 17 I decided to feed two families and it was I didn't have any money but I was like committed I went to the grocery store and I got two baskets and I thought I'm going to feed two families for like three days I'm going to make this incredible Thanksgiving for them I I know what it meant to me it's going to mean that to them and I went to the store manager since I had much money and I said here's what I'm doing I'm going to feed two families help me out give me a discount and he gave me 10% off and I thought cheat bastard but I took the 10% and it was the best shopping spree had ever gone on in my life and I'll never forget I called a local church I was connected to and I said who do you know that needs help but won't ask for it because that was us and they gave me the names of two families and I'll never forget I went to the first family and it it's it shaped everything my life cuz I borrowed an old van from a friend of mine a little I didn't know how to drive a stick shift so that was a very interesting drive and I went took the groceries and I pulled up to the first house and I wrote a note and I done it before I got there and it said this is just a gift from a friend have a beautiful Thanksgiving and just know that you're deeply loved everyone has tough times and if you can someday do well enough do this for one of a family and pay forward I put love a friend I didn't see who I was and they had someone else write in Spanish in the back just in case they didn't speak speak English which was really helpful cuz when I got there they didn't speak English and this woman about this tall opens the door and she sees me holding these two things I wore t-shirts and jeans because I wasn't going to be the giver because I remember that insulted my dad so I just made sure that it was just like I'm the delivery boy and this woman screamed and she grabbed my neck and she pulled me down and started kissing the side of my face and I was like no no Delivery Man delivery man she goes no no no no and she I couldn't understand and then she finally says GI gift God gift God gift from God and so I started get a little teared I was like no delivery guy and and so I kind of motioned where I put these groceries and I'll never forget she motioned me in and as she did she had four children and one hit one leg one hit the other they were starving for love and attention and they were really starving for food too and when they saw this they were so excited it just lifted my soul and so much so that then they followed me back out to get to the truck to the van I got some more bags when they saw the pumpkin pie it was over and the moment that has seared into my memory of my life that changed my life was seeing at the end I didn't want to leave but I had to I go to the other food and then one little boy just would not like go my leg looking up to me and it was just one of those surreal moments in your life cuz I was that boy one day not that long ago and so I walked in there and I tried to give him a hug and finally try to excuse myself and a to speak any Spanish I felt embarrassed I should have but uh I turn the woman and she's crying crying like this and smiling and crying quite a mixture of emotion and I'm feeling myself trying not to cry and then you know all of a sudden I try to say Happy Thanksgiving and I noce I said feliss Navidad I knew those two words right and I got in the van I'll never forget I put the thing in Reverse backed up I looked up in the rearview mirror and I saw her face with the four kids there and I left out one little detail but I found out her husband had left her a week before with kids with no money and no food I had no clue you want to talk about guidance God fate whatever you want to call it but it was there Grace is what I would call it and I remember I just started balling uncontrollably and I thought why am I crying it's such a beautiful moment and I realized in that moment the worst day of my life was the best day of my life cuz what I have ever been there if my father had been the man I wanted him to be in my life if he had stayed if he had done the things that I would want him to do I wouldn't have the drive and so I fed two families that time that Thanksgiving and then I went from there to 4 and then to eight and then I got a little small company I started and they all got involved and then I got to 100,000 people then I got to a million then two million and about I don't know about 12 years ago I fed two million people through my foundation and then I matched it I've been matching every year since then four million people a year to be fed to give you an idea and then when I read this when I was writing this book I got really resourc God these guys are multi-billionaires I'm moving in that direction which is a incredible privilege and I'm doing this good work but I got to step up my game because while we're watching these guys make billions we're also in a world where the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poor and it isn't right and we all have something we can do about it and people like you are the ones that will do that if we succeed we have more we can give if that becomes our our ethic our way of being and so the bottom line is I thought you know what how many people have I fed in my lifetime and at that point I'd fed 42 million people over the course of my life and I thought what if I did that in one year and I got resourceful and I found out how to do 50 million people and then I got more inspired and I fed a 100 million people last year through my partnership with feeding America I'm feeding a 100 million this year another 100 million I'm going to Fe a billion people in the next 8 years feel good hello to my people Sayo to I'm telling you it's not so you clap for me I'm not I'm not wanting your attention I'm wanting your help so the real reason I'm here is the other reason is I'd like to call to you to do so well that you can do well for others and if you won't give a dime out of a dollar I can promise you won't give a100 million out of a billion this guy did it when he had nothing I've done it when I had nothing that's why I'm doing it now doing well that's really wonderful and I was here in San Francisco and I just happened to see somebody here I was reading the newspaper and I was here earlier this year I was doing some business and I saw that a group of nuns a group of sisters from notam were getting kicked out they're feeding the homeless and they're about to become homeless and one of the richest communities in the world here San Francisco with the Tech Community and I couldn't believe that no one was doing so I went met these sisters and said let me negotiate with your landlord I don't think he wants to be hated by all humans and I met Kevin Fagan over here from San Francisco Chronicle and I asked him how do I get these nuns he introduced me to them and sat down with him and I went and negotiate with this man everything's negotiable and there was great leverage do you want to die you want everybody to hate you so I worked it out so my intention was work it out give him $50,000 so he wouldn't raise the rent keep them in and then I promised them I'd get them out within the year and help them find a new place but I got so inspired the nuns started looking for place and I was going to help them lease it but they started looking to buy a place it's like how are you going to buy a place you have no money they said we're praying to God that someone will show up and buy it for us I'm thinking so I bought them a place they have their own place let's give a hand to the sisters cuz I hope you'll help them out would you stand up give them a big hand they're right here sisters not B shettle down give ah hand all be clear don't [Music] noons fear so I thought I don't even live in San Francisco what am I doing doing it here but if you're resourceful you do what's right wherever you are and then we got him a place and then the people are fighting us on the soup kitchen and then so I need a new place for them to be so markets never acknowledge it but I have to acknowledge I called my buddy I said Mark I bought the soup kitchen how about you buy a condominium and Mark did he bought the place that they all live how a h for Mark Benny off over here pretty amazing here so before I go any further if you find real value by the time I'm done here and I believe you will significant value since you came here and paid something I'm sure I'd like to invite you to match me in helping either these local sisters or feeding America and I will match whatever you give give $10 $10,000 up to5 million I'll personally match this room is filled with some players if you're at that level I'll do it if you want to get resourceful and give 10 bucks or resourceful and give 10,000 or resourceful and give 5 million I'll match you or if you just want to help these nuns out and want to point it out I bring this up really simply because whether it's becoming president United States or feeding your family or feeding the world or changing your business comes down to resourcefulness they asked Sam Walton in the 19 1974 had 78 stores and if you read The Wall Street Journal and if you read a bunch of the reviews done by the financial Community they all said in that year sell does anybody know why they said sell sell Walmart in 1974 78 stores why would they going to sell him because they said he's out of what the RW what is it what resources he has no more resources he has no more cash he has no more capability and plus who else is going to watch buy this cheap except this crappy little parts of the South no one's going to want this anywhere else and at that time who are the biggest retailers in the world remember Sears and Kmart what happened to Kmart bankrupt look at this number of stores, 1300 851 the combined market value of Sears and Kmart was 65 times Walmart where is Walmart today ladies and gentlemen how many stores throw up there it's the dominant player on the face of the Earth today you got 11,000 stores and a half a tril ion in sales $1,000 investment back then if you didn't listen to these people and you never put another dime in it would be worth $25 million today because people underestimated his resourcefulness business is resourcefulness your career is resourcefulness you want to move up get resourceful and the only we going to do that number one it isn't enough to be intelligent I know you're smart as hell but sometimes being so smart puts an ego on us and makes us not maximize our resources who's with me on this raise your hand say I and I'm here one to say listen if you lose your hunger if you're willing to settle for less than you can be or do or create or share then you're selling yourself short and you're going to make your life have not the juice it deserves who's with me here say I I so if we want to know what it takes to succeed you already have it every one of you is resourceful but if we want to take it to another level what's the level we want to get resourceful at let's talk business first then your personal life okay is that fair are you still with me great by the way if you think about this if you want to know what it takes to succeed in business if you own your own business how many your small business here where there's an owner in the room raise your hand if you're an owner of a business awesome how many you kind of a mediumsized business here how many are Enterprise size let me see a sh Enterprise sized businesses how many you have no idea what size your business is or you're too tired to raise your freaking hand thank you very much so whatever your business size or Capal is if we want to know what it takes to grow a business all you got to look is the most successful businesses or you could go back to Peter Ducker Peter Ducker said it 30 years ago he said all business is is two functions Innovation and marketing Innovation and marketing employs everyone else you can't have accounting without a company who in constantly innovating and marketing so let's write down what those are because it's also true in your career if you want to move up within a company or grow your company you've got to innovate and Market what is innovation it means finding a way to do more for others than whom anyone else if you become the dominant force that will be more for others than anyone else it's probably you begin to realize business is a spiritual game cuz what do every religion in the world talk about every great philosophy of meditation talk about treat Thy Neighbor like Thy Love Thy Neighbor like Thy and yet how many people really do it if you're innovating you're looking for new ways to make life better and the way to do that if you want to jot down one thought that'll change the game that most in high intention quality business owners fail to do at small business and medium and certainly an Enterprise is they forget they start falling in love with their products and services that is death in the world of constant change you have to fall in love with your clients this guy over here and I'm I'm blowing smoke you it may sound like to you but I love Mark I love him dearly I've known all these years and you must have great respect for him you wouldn't be in this room we've all benefited from what he's created that Vision made from decisions but this man is nothing but Innovation it is in my opinion Forbes how do you win most Innovative company five years Row for a half decade straight you do it because he's not fall in love with his products he's always willing to change the product he don't give a damn the product he cares about you he's thinking constantly about how can I make life better for you he just got traveling before he got here to eight different cities he works Around the Clock he's so excited he's going to do another eight cities right afterwards because he wants to know what do you want this entire company that dominates its industry is driven by that concept of innovation you don't fall in love and don't fall in love with your job fall in love with somebody you want to serve within that company those clients because if you do that you'll move up within the company as well if there's no limit to what you can do if you add more what add more what come on guys add more what I know you're starting to drip down into that state nothing wrong with it but let's get in our bodies because I know you intellectually but most of us know the truth intellectually but we don't do it people know what they do they don't do what they know because you got to get it where it's activated so innovation that's what Innovation is about but if you innovate like crazy that's not enough you still got to Be an Effective marketer fact who's ever seen someone who has an inferior product or service to your own and they've had bigger Revenue sales impact raise your hand how many you seen this how many you been annoyed by this say I and why because they either innovated more and you were wrong they were a better product but very often they were a better marketer does the best product or service always win yes or no no the best marketed product will work at first but if it's going to be sustained it has to be the best product and the best marketing companies like apple companies like Google companies like the company you're in right now Salesforce these are the companies that do both Innovation and marketing and if you're an employe of someone and you're saying what's my ticket to make my life the way I want it it's Innovation and marketing within you it's finding out what can I do to add more value to this company what can I do add more value to our clients what can I do to make that happen and then how do I make people know how do get people want to do business with me want me to move up in the organization that's what it really comes down to now here's a question marketing today is marketing today easier or harder give me your first gut reaction nice and Loud which one say it again easier or harder harder I'm here a lot harder raise your hand if you think it's harder raise your hand if you think it's easier okay well the room is about 6040 it sounded worse than that cuz harder people talk harder it's hard hard both of you are right it's easier and it's harder it's easier because there's more ways to Market and there's cheaper ways to Market there's social media there's on these incredible opportunities it's harder because there's so much more competition it's hard to get people's attention today isn't it right everyone is trying to get attention where is advertising today tell me where is it everywhere it's on it's on bananas it's on people's t-shirts it's on their ass it's it it's crazy in fact right now a lot of retailers that deal with Millennials are in deep trouble right now cuz they don't want to wear a label of somebody's brand on anymore it's a whole different culture and you're seeing these companies that are going right now massive droping profits trying to figure out what the hell do we do why because they didn't innovate enough they didn't Market enough to find out what does this person really want need they fell in love with their product they fell in love with their service they didn't fall in love with their client understand what do they want what do they need what do they fear and by the way that's true whether you're the business or whether you work in a business that's number one job for all of us that's what makes the economy go who's with me here say I I you know how many 15 years ago research showed that the average person if they were exposed to advertising would see an average of four exposures before they took action that was the average some people do it the first time some people do it nine times but the average is four does any of you know what the average is today oh they just put it up there thank you very much that was very helpful 16 so those it said harder you're right it's harder CU it takes so much more but that also is precluding that your message isn't very engaging if it's engaging enough you can get them in the first time now how do you do that today well if you're a small business you go how do I compete we've seen all these companies disappear right there used to be these small bookstores and then who came along Barnes in Noble and they thought they owned everything and then who came along Amazon and guess what that's the game who did you use to search with years ago before Google what company I can't even hear you right Yahoo right but no one searches Yahoo now right they got displaced that displacement came from Innovation and marketing raise your hand if you follow here say I I so if you and I are going to break through it if you're a small business I'm sure you're freaked out about it if you're a business business you think I'm just going to spend more money today spending more money isn't enough today people want something that's authentic and real who's with me on this say I and without that you really can't even get their attention the old ways don't work how many of you don't even see banner ads anymore they're like invisible to you when you're on the web raise your hand say I if that's true do me a favor raise your hand if you literally don't see the banner ads raise your hand I want you to look around the room and look at the percentage that don't even see it so lesson one no Banner hats what you have to do today is find a way to add more value even in your marketing where your marketing is providing value where you're providing information insights where you become a trusted resource this organization is a great marketing organization and the way they Market is they don't just send you a bunch of stuff and say buy it they put on conventions like this and say let's bring the very best that exists let's bring whoever we can let's do whatever we can to make sure these customers lives are better and that's why you have an allegiance the technology works but it's more than that remember back in 1997 when a little company called Apple was not the most profitable company in the world when they were on the verge of bankruptcy and they seem to have no resources but they had one thing still they had groups of people I was one of them that like my whole companies they all went to Microsoft and I was like I'm keeping my apple and my creative team is going to have apple we stuck even though it was no software it was terrible but they created something different watch this no disrespect just you give me the real feeling I'm going to say a company name you make a sound you associate to that company make the sound don't hesitate from the gut Microsoft Microsoft Apple Apple that's the difference there's billions and billions of dollar difference in those little emotional differences that you can hear in a voice think about the difference in what's there so having the ability to create a raving fan client not a satisfied customer satisfied customers go away raving fans stay and so the component that I want you to look at though is what will really create that now big companies will try and do still major advertising in fact I got a phone call a couple years ago right before the Super Bowl and it was a group from Nike and they said we want to do a commercial and we'd like you to star in this commercial and I said listen I'm your wrong guy I love your product and I said for years I did freaking infomercials I didn't want to do infomercials just no way to get my message out so then I'm you know you're in between spray on hair and fake diamonds and stuff and I said I hate it but it got me the president of United States as a client it got me sha Williams as a client it got me Hugh Jackman as a client it got me Steve wi as a client because people got exposed to my actual products that they bought and it made a difference in their life so I said you know I don't really want this but I'm doing this and I sure as heck don't want to do a commercial and I said I love you know great great shoes great everything go no this is really special they said Kobe Bryant has created a new shoe it's the most incredible shoe and I'm thinking right what's the difference between Nike and Adidas marketing isn't it true what is really the difference in those shoes nothing you just have learned a brand just do it or you've learned a brand I don't even know Adidas that I'll show you why Nike's doing better right for some people right it's no difference but they said listen hear us out we're going to do a commercial you're going to love this because the commercial is going to be where Kobe's going to pretend to be you and then he's going to be coaching the most successful people in the world and he said you'll be one of them you'll be sitting there but you'll also we're going to also have you know uh we'll have Serena Williams there and we're GNA have Kanye West and we're gonna have Richard Branson I said Richard's one of my friends I said Serena's one of my friends and clients I know Kanye if I call them now they're going to tell me going to be in the commercial and they said if you are they will so I called Richard we're supposed to have a meeting like two weeks there in London I said are you really going to come film this he goes if you are I go great we have the meeting in La I'm in for it right so we do this little commercial now let's see if this commercial let me show it to you for two seconds they showed it at the Super Bowl watch you're at the top of your games you've got prestigious Awards you're a Chinese meast star you own outter space I did you got here by exit so what's next where do you go from the top you go over the top powerful stuff the Kobe system is about adaptation attacking fast and strong how do you know when you're in the Kobe System look at your feet how do you use the system put on the shoes listen to [Music] me any questions what if you're really successful he makes a good point you're welcome what the hell is that what the hell is that and that made them sell a lot of shoes in their mind because all they understood is something that makes no sense did anybody see anything about shoes that made any sense in this no because the marketing was can you imagine how much it cost to put all those people in the room and do this little endorsement that was a huge sum of money those are some of the biggest players on Earth and they got the return cuz people don't buy products they buy emotions they buy identities if you buy a Volkswagen you're buying a different identity than if you're buying a Ferrari and people buy Volkswagens think people buy Ferraris are absolutely stupid and people buy Ferraris think people by Volkswagen go what's wrong with them because we all identify things and branding is that identity so today though you can do this with almost no money you're a small small business or even a big business it's now it's about using your brain to Brand differently there's a some of you remember the Chilean miners do you remember the Chilean miners that were stuck underground for what 70 days whatever it was how many remember that that story you should because it was all over the world and when they were about to get out somebody really smart figured something out we don't to spend that kind of money we can get a bigger impact than that right away if we're just a little bit creative if we're a little resourceful remember and so a little company called Oakley said what's going to happen with those people will come out and they've been underground for 2 and a half months they're going to be Blinded By the Light so they flew one of their guys with 32 pairs of glasses which cost them about $2,000 and that's probably whatever not even $2,000 and they got a half a billion dollars of advertising that picture was on every major newspaper every TV pieces around the world that's difference between being resourceful as a marketer or just going and spend a ton of money and hoping you can still be part of that old order how many follow say I I now you might say but Tony we our company we sell data we sell something else we don't sell something emotional people don't buy for emotion you're wrong they still buy an identity here's a product that someone spent $25,000 make this commercial they never put it on TV and they got almost a billion people to watch their commercial watch [Music] w [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] make you make you I just want here you out there $225,000 right not bad you know Harry Potter they're opening a brand new Harry Potter that they're going to do down in Universal Studios and people are waiting for years and of course Universal had a budget I apologize I don't remember the number but it was a gigantic marketing budget but fortunately the person running marketing was much more resourceful so you know what she did she decided she was going to spend not $1 on Advertising not a Penny she wasn't going to make even a commercial to go on the web she called the 12 largest bloggers in the world who are experts and followed on Harry Potter she said at midnight send them a special invitation there's only 12 of you you're if you're late by one second you're off the call we're going to give you a special insight to what's coming she spent an hour on the phone telling them the story of what was going to happen and within 24 hours more than 250 million people around the world knew everything about what that Park was and didn't spend a penny cuz she was resourceful don't tell me you don't have the resources if you don't it's because you're low energy it's because you're so freaking smart you're in your own way you're yet your brain being smart you're staying in your head I tell people stay in your head you're dead it's the heart where you'll find the Breakthrough who's with me on this say I and that's also true with your company or whether you're an individual and the company wants to move up because I know some of you like well that's great for the company what about me this is really about you in the end how you could be more resourceful to innovate bring more value if you brought that to Universal do you think that woman's going to move up in that company you think people in that company are going to want her to be a top executive there is no limit the only limit to our impact is our creativity and caring if you're care enough and you're creative enough there is no limit but most of us allow our mind to get in the way and we get caught up or we just do what we've been doing and we do it a little bit better but that's not going to to make you feel alive it's not going to feel Joy in your life now here's a question is it possible that the Breakthrough you're looking for by the way how many came here looking for breakthroughs for your business or within your career ra if that's one of the main reasons you came here besides to party because you kept me all out last night I know you're out partying like crazy how many came here for some breakthroughs raise your hand say I I great breakthroughs are sometimes counterintuitive sometime it's the littlest thing they'll do it I want to get you to think about this in this business cuz you could make breakthroughs that one thought of because they're looking for the big thing if you're a tech person if you're a salesperson we all think a certain way based on the way we've been conditioned and trained but if you think outside the nine dots if you do what everybody else does you do a little bit better you have a little Advantage but if you do what no one else does you have a gigantic Advantage so I'll give you an example what did Steve Jobs do in 1997 when Apple was almost bankrupt and he had no real money one thing he he made a deal with Microsoft which was like evil empire to Apple but what did he do what was what did he do to come up with a product he didn't have time he came up with a product that most people would say well there's no innovation in fact his Engineers the people inside they're all saying this is a piece of crap you want to build he said trust me we're going to do this I don't think he said trust me he was a little more intense than that right he said this is what we're going to do don't question me I think is what he actually said you probably know what he said you were good buddies back then and so what happened he I know what had happened cuz one of my dear friends said to me one day we're talking about computer for some reason I don't know why but he says my grandmother wants a computer for the first time and I said what kind he said that's what I asked her and she said a pink one you remember what happened with the old iMac do you guys remember that breakthrough that's what kept the company alive and all it was was what color were computers before that what color were they throw up beige weren't they right and all of a sudden all he did was come out and bring color that was massive Innovation now how much creativity how much money did that cost that's what we're talking about when I talking about being Innovative you want to think outside of it I'll ask you a question where were you in 1999 where were you living what were you doing for a living were you partying like it was 1999 who remembers where you were in 1999 okay now that you're there stay there for a moment 1999 answer this question for me if in 1999 what was the dominant computer company in the world who was it quick Microsoft controlled what 98% of all computers through their software 98% that's a fairly large market share right now at that time Bill Gates had a really beautiful Vision brilliant Vision he wanted to get rid of all those botanic and cyclopedia and he wanted to create this online resource that would allow you to be able to know all the knowledge of humanity for everyone any time and he had a budget that was virtually unlimited and some of the smartest people literally in the world that worked to Microsoft Is it true yes or no smartest people unlimited money that's called unlimited resources now his competition was a group of people working as volunteers all volunteers no money no background no experience no infrastructure and supposedly not as smart because they certainly weren't paid that kind of money to be smart if I asked you in 1999 who would you bet on be honest if you had to put a sum a large sum of money Microsoft with all the resources or a little group of volunteers called Wikipedia who would you have bet on tell the truth nice and Loud go that's right and you would have lost heavily and the reason I tell you that is really simple when we talk about Innovation when we talk about breakthroughs sometimes the littlest thing is the biggest thing the littlest thing by the way being first is not enough any anymore either you can be first and then Apple comes away and takes it from you afterwards right being first is not it there was a company called Vimeo that was first in the marketplace doing what now most of you think YouTube does in fact if you looked at it back then we saw Vimeo and you saw YouTube twoyear difference between them I know Chad who created YouTube brilliant guy and what he did was really good what I teach he modeled them he saw what they did he modeled them if you looked at them visually back then they looked very very similar they did the exact same thing but one was sold for $1.65 billion doll a couple years later and the big big difference what was the difference look at them visually look pretty much the same someone tell me what was the $1.65 billion difference no they uploaded the same way speed they had the same speed in fact Vimeo was a little bit faster they had a little bit more efficiency in the beginning somebody just said it you must know the story sir there were look it up put it up on their screen there there was one share button versus nine share buttons on YouTube somebody said The more you ask ask and you shall what receive if we ask enough times they'll share but when people share you get that geometric multiplied effect that we all understand now that difference is the difference between two large companies one of which is kind of nice but is dwarfed by YouTube and the other which went on to become the basis of where most people put their time and their energy for a lot of people for creation so I want you to get that if you I are going to go to a different level all you got to understand is it isn't beyond your reach it's beyond your reach if you're low energy it's beyond your reach if you're unresourceful it's beyond your reach if your ego tells you you're so smart we need to put our smarts aside and use them with enough emotion and connection to say how can I add more value that's where the game really changes who's with me on this say I now so that comes down to then how do we really make sure that we succeed then how do we get this resourcefulness in our companies how do we do it within ourselves let's start with a company the most challenging thing in the world today is a term you know in business we always these terms they come buzzword we hear them so much but the reason they start out is because they're usually true and that buzz word is engagement right I know Mark is obsessed with engagement I'm obsessed with engagement when I walked up here I'm run up here they wanted me to run from back there it's hot as hell and I'm looking around and nobody's engaged what the hell and so I know I can't serve you if we don't become engaged together oh I can't do that if I just here and talk to you talk at you so that's why I asked you and I really thank you for participating and we want to keep that energy going because we've gone long enough that you've begun to go back into your learning trance and you're being very kind and participating I'm really grateful for it but the higher the energy the more you retain who's with me here say I so just for a moment the person next to you make sure they're in a peak state in the chair wake them up come on wake them up wake them up come on wake them up wake them up [Applause] [Music] go let go it's here I found your partner say you rock baby grab a seat but don't sit down like you did before sit down in a peak state in your chair now create a spch energy as if you were standing wake up the people on [Music] side it's all about when you going no matter where you been [Music] Make Some Noise come on now now if you feel better than before make that this and say yes say yes say yes yes sit up in your chair make sure the people on either side are in a peak State otherwise adjust them much better let's talk about engagement the hell is engagement engagement is where everything grows what's our job in business our job is to add more what win once in a while or every time if you do it for decades you become a brand if you become a brand people bend down on one knee reach buying other things to buy Coca-Cola even though very often when you do study studies and they've done in the past some of their competing Brands seem to have a better taste test result people don't give a give me the coke because it gives them certainty because it becomes part of their identity right so our job is to engage people and if we look at engagement involvement passion connection massive focus on how to do more for the client than anybody else what how we doing that how we doing well most of us Pat ourselves in the back but throw up the statistics this is scary and crazy and it shows you why economies around the world are where they are right now according to the Gallup poll which was done in 142 countries intensive 133% of employees worldwi are truly engaged at work meaning they're passionately connected to the sense of mission the value and when they're at work they're trying to maximize their time for the benefit of that mission that means by the way 87% are not engaged now it's better in the United States we're better than anywhere else in the world we have the highest engagement a whole 29% think about that that means 71% of us workers are disengaged that's pretty crazy does that make you crazy and I know it's true you know I went did when I went on this last book tour I did 110 interviews it's crazy the most that had ever done and so I was going all around and I won't mention the companies but I was going all the media companies and I walked into these buildings I got 31 companies I I have very passionate values about how we play the game of life right and I walk through these buildings and the world because we're so technology driven It's so dead but I'm walking around watching people on their personal Facebook tweeting doing all stuff and the energy is so low because there's no Mission and you look around and go how do these companies survive and if you look at our economy our productivity has dropped everything else dropped because now we're so distracted because we have so few companies that have that mission connection today and the ones that do they dominate completely dominate in that process process now what should really concern you is the next statistic 24% are actively disengaged what does that mean it means they have no passion for their work they lack any motivation to get the job done they're unhappy and they're likely to attack the company if you're trying to grow your business and one quarter of them are trying to screw you over that work for you that are your partners how many know people like this in your own business come on raise your hand if you know them nice and high raise your hand if you look around the room clearly Donald Trump has at least one of those and send his taxes to the New York Times right somebody was actively disengaged at the Trump organization send his tax returns and kind of gave him a whole another challenge for him to deal with once again in case he didn't have enough before this that's how bad it is now here's what's great the companies that do have engagement have an unbelievable competitive Advantage you name what are some of the companies that have the most engaged employees instead of me telling you you tell me tell me they're already putting it off there thank you so much your timing is wonderful we put sales force do they have you engaged yes or no what other company gets a Convention of 100,000 people to come and spend time for days throws the best parties with YouTube gives you the best technology and you want to come back how many have come back here more than once to this dream Force let me show your hands that's called engagement but the employees at sales for engaged cuz markk started out with a vision from the very beginning we're both into contribution in the very beginning he said Tony going do this 111 plan that now Google uses right 1% of our stock 1% of our profits 1% of our time I'm sure he'll go over the newest statistics in his his talk tomorrow so I won't say a word and steal that from it's his company his ideas but I'm impressed I'm sure you will be too Google Starbucks zapo you name it Tony Robbins somebody that's not that's not that's oh that's the slide of Tony Robbins okay I'll get that they're trying to put us with Salesforce we're not in that that realm not yet anyway so the point is what these companies have is an advantage here are the statistics that theud showed throw them up there real quick for us if you would one the things you see immediately when you look at these companies they 20% higher profitability on average 10% higher customer ratings 28% less theft 48% fewer safety incidents I'll tell you what else they found nearly two times greater satisfaction at work 1.7 to be exact and they're three times more likely to stay how important is that to a company sustainability right today the average cost if you lose a sales executive it cost you a million dollars in business and it'll take 12 months before you were back to the same level to replace that person all because you didn't fully engage so how do we get people to engage we get them to engage because think about this how can you get us to engage if you're not fully engaged and how many of us have been guilty of getting overwhelmed stressed frustrated whatever and not being fully engaged who's been there before even in this room of engaged people raise your hand say I so if we the hungry driven ones can let this happen to ourselves you can know what's happening with everybody else that's not as driven as you are in this area so it is a challenge to say the least how do we solve that challenge well you can't move someone if you're not moved you can't touch someone if you're not touched and that's why what we're here to do today when I talk about in a few moments maybe the most important thing of all and that is making sure that you are fully engaged in a way that produces the maximum results that you want so rather than me tell you if I tell you to be me telling you here's I want you to do stand up just for a second real fast stand up shake your body out shake it out just for a second Shake It Out Shake it out and put yourself in a group of three people as fast as you can if you got a notebook with you you're welcome to do it but go grab three people real fast and one of you grab a notebook or a phone or an iPad or something and what I'd like to do all three of you raise your right index finger towards the ceiling in your group all three of you okay point to the leader of your group now whoever's got the most fingers you're it if you all pointed at yourselves we know a little bit about your group okay so here's what leader here's what I want you to do I want you in fact just sit down first for just a moment now you know who your group is in a moment you're going to jump back up with your group I want you to write down the answer to a question throw up on the screen for me the questions real quick I want you to write down an hon answer as to how engaged are you to your maximum capability how would you rate your level of Engagement with the people you lead and manage on a scale from 1 to 10 10 is absolutely off the charts mindboggling they blow your mind one is that I got a dead group of people right and what do you need to improve what do you need to improve to increase that engagement instead of me telling you you tell me you tell each other and the third question is what specifically do you need to do to Eng engage your people at a different level what could you do because we're going to share this because then you get some ideas from the other two people as well and finally what do you do what do you do a less than adequate job engaging what could you do better with that person in other words think of someone you're not good at engaging if you're good engaging everybody how many you have a problem child someone who does not maximize their resources within your team raise your hand if you got somebody like that good then I want you to write down that person and ask yourself instead of they're screwed up what could I do what where am I not engaging how could I engage them more so five quick questions and then I'm going to put you with your team go music for Maestro oh Father tell me do we get what we deserve oh if you have nothing to write down you don't even have a phone pull something out and where down we [Music] where down we go tell where down we [Music] go way down we go W you let your [Applause] feet time has come as we all all go down hey ever for the F my do you D looking right in the eyes yeah oh go say we run you down down to the dark yeah somay we run you down down take and they will run you down down to your FL yeah you can't grow no more and well down we go [Music] down say we [Music] down I say we run you down down to your car oh way down [Music] [Music] w what [Music] bab down we [Music] [Music] down oh we down so we down [Music] run away with me lost souls and re run Wilde soon as you're ready get your group of three you can stand up it'll give you a little more energy perhaps get yourself a group of three and share real quick where do you rate yourself 0 to 10 what could you do better what could who could you who are you having difficulty with and how could you be better with them real fast amongst your group of three here we go see if you see a pattern here we go [Music] go forth and have no [Music] fear come [Music] close it like we're it like we're again [Music] [Music] I'll have The Underdogs I'll have the new kids I'll H the out SP birds and Co breaks it's our time to make a move it's our time to make a our time to break the rules let's speak I I'll take [Music] oh [Music] [Music] [Music] thank you feeling my way through the darkness gued by a beaten heart I can't tell where the journey will but I know where to start they tell me I'm too young to understand they say I'm caught up in a dream will pass if I open that's fine by so wake me up when it's all over When I'm Wiser and I'm older all this time I Wasing myself didn't know I was l so wake me up when it's all over when I'm WI and I M all this time I was finding myself and didn't know I [Music] [Applause] [Music] be sure to switch and hear from your partners be sure to switch we got a minute and a half left one and A2 minutes left here from your partner switch the world but I only have I I don't have wish I could stay forever this young not afraid to close my eyes a game made for everyone and love is a prize so wake me up when it's all over [Music] get [Music] here 30 seconds left 30 seconds I was lost I didn't know I was lost I didn't [Music] [Applause] know welcome [Music] thank 10 seconds [Applause] all right clapping wake your body up stand up take a little noise out there come [Applause] on yes a standing for moment shake your body Out Shake It Out wake it up give me your score how many of you were a perfect 10 in your engagement as a leader raise your hand okay one wire good very nice how many were nine ra you you gave yourself a nine who was an eight okay now I want you to look 90% of this room maybe 95 is below an eight on a 0 to 10 scale by your judgment not mine I'm not so judgmental of you as you are and if you're below an eight how could you possibly maximize your resources much less enjoy yourself because listen when you don't give your all I remember I I I got a chance to interview coach John Wooden anybody remember who John Wooden is greatest basketball coach in history of the world college basketball won 11 national championships 88 games in a row and it wasn't like the bulls with Michael Jordan every year was new players it's College I remember he taught me something he said Tony I asked him which one was his team that he was most proud of and I know a little bit about basketball I'm old enough to remember luel Cinder Jabar K Abdul Jabar people like that I thought that was going to be the group for sure the winningest team that was not the team he picked he picked the team i' never heard of and I said why that team they didn't perform as high as these other teams why would you pick them as the greatest team you ever work with he said Tony because they maximized their abilities he said you know what he taught anyone ever worked or was coached by coach wooden he taught people really something simple he taught them how to be great men and the way he did it was he said it's really simple stop thinking about the score of the game and focus on one thing you can control how much you give every moment you're on that Court he said there are going to be days when you win and when you lose but the only days you're going to know when you win you lose is going to be by your measurement of yourself if every single moment you're on that Court you engaged at level 10 or above of such a thing were to exist and you gave every ounce of yourself every minute on the court then it doesn't matter what the score is you won cuz you became more and you gave more and in life we don't get to keep anything except what we give because that's what makes us become something different his entire mindset by the way was if you give your all every single moment in the court and every one of us does if all of us are 100% engaged he said 99% of the time you're going the highest score sometimes someone's getting lucky they'll get a different call the ball will drop but you can't control that you can control you so if you're below an eight which most of this room is it might be time to change and maybe that's what I felt when I walked in this room and the energy was lower it's like it's not a judgment it's just I want you to have the enjoyment that comes a 10 how many can remember a time where you were so engaged in something that bombs could be going off you would know you were like right there in the zone nothing else could distract you who's ever been in that place say I make a sound of how it feels when you're in that state make a sound go for it now make the sound of level seven engagement and then imagine doing that every day so then you want to find some new technology that will get you excited again and the technology is only as good as our engagement who's with me on this say I I so now I want to ask you real fast round robin while you're standing with your group what makes someone engaging what makes someone disengaging make a list you have one minute go together do it together don't sit down do it together [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] CAU up in a will pass me by don't open up my that's fine soake [Music] up [Music] I'm all this time what makes people engaging what makes you disengage from people what makes you not trust them not engage with them not connect with them make two lists what makes them engaging what makes them make you disengage [Applause] [Music] [Music] I try of world but I only to 10 [Music] seconds what makes them disengaging makes you not trust them or not want to do business with them or not spend time with them all right time sh somebody tell me give me an example of two things that make them engaging two or three make them engaging two or three make them disengaging anyone raise your hand let me grab somebody we'll grab a microphone how about yes sir right here give him a hand give him a hand for God's sake what's your name sir where you from uh name's Poncho and from San elizab Bo he tell us three things that make somebody make you want to engage with them tell us three things make you want to disengage or not be involved with them yeah so engagement uh positivity uh levelheaded Mission oriented okay uh disengaging unappreciative grumpy and unjust very nice give him a hand very nice somebody else real quick somebody else how about this young lady back here yes ma'am give her a hand oh give her a Salesforce hand for God's sake what's your name where you from hey I'm Jennifer from Whidby Island Washington all right tell us three things that make people engaging tell us three things that make you not want to engage and them more disengage uh empathy drive and positivity okay disengage would be lazy mean and somebody that has the worst case scenario attitude very nice give her a hand give her a hand one more one more yes ma'am give her [Music] hand what's your name where you from hi my name is Laura I am from San Francisco great tell us and we came up with one person three things for someone to be engaging would be Drive positivity and openness okay um disengaging would be victim low energy and a me not we attitude give her hand thank you very much put your notebook down but stay standing put your notebook down shake your body out a little bit and let's try something really fast let's see what you do inside yourself to turn on engagement to turn it off now human emotion is energy in motion that means if you want to change how you feel you can do it by how you move if you try to do with your head you can go in circles can't you rationalize go in a nut so I want you to try something real fast we're going to do a real simple exercise I want you to discover how you can change your own engagement and your own interaction with people by seeing what you do in your body when you go to engage someone and I'm going to give you some deliberate scenarios we're going to do three real fast number one when I say now I'm going to ask you introduce yourself to as many people as possible as you can in two minutes when you do that I want you to introduce yourself to people you don't know but I want you to do it from a different emotional state I want you to do it as if you think this is the stupidest exercise in the world and it's a waste of your time and why do you have to talk to this idiotic person in other words you're not going to say it but I want you to walk up to them like it's a total waste your time hi how you doing you're going to shake their hand like like like you know you sir come here you come here come here what's your name what Adrian a Adrien Adrian get the hell out of here give him a hand ladies and gentlemen it's adri [Applause] for so I want you to deliberately walk up and be in a state where you really think it's a was your time I don't have to talk to this person but you're going to do it anyway and I want you to notice listen notice what you do to be in that state in your body what do you do with your face what do you do with your breathing what do you do with your posture do you go straight towards them or do you hesitate I want you to notice not only how it feels to be greeted that way that'll be obvious I want you to notice what you got to do to be in a state where you disengage with someone like what it's a waste of your time get to as many people as you can in a minute and a half and notice What You Do by the way you're going to be in a state where you don't want to do this you're just doing it because you have to [Music] go I can't get S okay stop wherever you are in the room freeze freeze wher you are in the room now it wasn't hard for some of you freeze cuz you didn't go and you went hi hi I'm done now how many of you couldn't help yourself you're like hi hi hi I saw a few of you out there how many actually did it how many actually did it raise your hand if you really did it say hi so I want to yell out the answer because we have about what 7,000 people in this room and they're from all over the world so it's a great test ground for human beings raise your hand if you had to change your body to go in this lousy state in some way raise your hand if you change your body say I I raise your hand and say I if you change the muscles in your face to get in this little annoyed State say I I uh tell me did you did you increase your breathing more full or more shallow in this state nice and Loud which one which one shallow did you talk louder or quieter quieter which one quieter which one did you talk faster or slower in this state which one slower kind of like the room when I walked in here and I want you to get this there are 7,000 people here from what 100 plus countries and you're all saying the exact same thing and I didn't tell you those things you're telling me because in order to go in that crappy State that's you all have to do if you use your body that way you're going to feel lousy no matter who you're around and many of us don't we think it's other people and it's the state we put ourselves in so there's a pattern here that's pretty Universal isn't there so let's try something shake that out of your body get out of that state and and let's try a totally different state this time this time I want you to do this like you're a little kid if you do it like an adult you're like why are we doing this stupid exercise but if you're a kid you have fun with stuff who's want to have some fun with this say I awesome and here's what I want you to do in a moment I want you introduce yourself to as many people different people again but this time I want you to do it from a state where you're defitely afraid they're going to reject you okay now don't tell me you never who's ever not done something because you're afraid of being rejected or failing raise your hand say I so wouldn't it be useful to know what you do to put yourself in that place CU if we know what it is we could what change it because it's in your body it's not just in your head and when you know the pattern you can change it so I want you when you do this to exaggerate your fear do you know why cuz Achievers never get fearful we just get stressed and stress is the achiever word for fear isn't it if I follow the trail of stress it'll bring me to your deepest fear and the fear we all have is I might fail and then it means I'm not enough and if I'm not enough I won't be loved those are the deepest fears that people have inside their head I want you to do this I want you imagine really like a little kid shows their fears adults like I'm Not Afraid make this tension in their face right their body I want you just really go for it it's kind of like you know like if I came up and said hi what's your name he B how you how you doing give her a hand it's evolved ladies and gentlemen give her a [Music] hand so I want you exaggerate it's kind of like how many of you in this room have ever watched like let's say the Olympics the Winter Olympics on television and you're sitting in your chair and you're watching someone skiing or snowboarding is you're sitting yourself to yourself doing this who knows what I'm talking about here say hi I want you to exaggerate so you see what you're doing on a more subtle level just one minute as many people you can but like a little kid you're definitely afraid and I want you to see what do you do different with your face your shoulders your breath your voice the way you shake hands and let's see if it's different or the same as when you're really annoyed I think you're going to find it's quite different ready go definitely afraid they're going to reject you [Music] W [Music] [Music] LIF to cut me off like we were okay clapping shake out of [Music] that have your friends collect [Applause] [Music] change now shake yourbody out get out of that state question did you use your body the same or different than when you're pissed off and annoyed which what yes raise your hand if you change the muscles in your face in a very different way than when you're annoyed raise your hand say I I did you talk louder or quieter than when you're pissed off faster or slower slower yes did you go straight form or hesitate did you breathe more full or even more shallow than when you're annoyed which one can you hear everyone saying the same thing what are the chances of seven th000 people from 100 countries without Direction saying they're feeling the exact same thing in their body when they're feeling the emotion it's because we're all unique but when you use your body one way you're going to be pissed off you use another way you're going to be feeling fearful and how fast can we change how we feel then if all we got to is change our movement how fast like that let's take one more shake your body out okay this time how many of you own your own business let me see your hands how many of you are leaders of the business raise your hand okay how many of you are parents raise your hand how many of you have a relationship check this out a relationship with a human with a human then this shit's going to work for you here's what I want you to do when I say now I want you to greet people but we're going to change the motivation because I hate the word motivation I've never been a motivator but I do believe motive does matter if your motive is just to manipulate most of us have pretty giant meters and we can figure F that out at this stage can't we I mean even reality television is so we know what's true how many know what I'm talking about here say I I so the mo of change is going to be this I want you to approach somebody and greet people and meet people in two minutes but we're going to have a different understanding if this person does not like you in the first three to five seconds of meeting you they don't like you in the first 3 to 5 Seconds of meeting you they are not going to do business with you and your children are not going to eat next week or just in case you don't have kids we'll do it this way if they don't like you in the first 3 to 5 seconds then everyone you care about dies like pigs in hell if it was that important I bet you use your body and face differently wouldn't you so by the way when you go to do this I'm talking Full Tilt like it really is true and let's see if you use your face your voice and your body differently ready go greet people like that come on let's go yeah let's [Music] go all right all right okay all right okay all right okay return to the Mac get what it is what it do what it is what it is looking for a better way to get up out of bed instead of getting on the Internet and checking the new H me get FR sh walking little bit of humble little bit of cautious somewhere between like Rocky and cos for the game no no yall can't copy up B Moon walking this here it's party my been on Broadway and we did it all way gr music I sh my skin and put my bones into everything I [Music] record Su money stay on my craft and stick around for those pounds but I do that to pass the torch and put for my town trust me I'm my i n d e p n d e n H chasing dreams since I was 14 with the out here now if that felt better say I say I I question did you use more of your body or less of your body more more muscles in your face or less more more voice louder Voice or quieter faster or slower than the other two we did did you hesitate or go straight for them straight did you touch them did it feel good why you should have seen who I touched no because emotion is created by Motion in other words listen to me if you use more of the gifts your creator has given you you will experience the gifts you think you're looking for somewh everything you want everything you want to feel is already inside you my friends break it [Music] up here's my question was that the how many feel very different right now than we began raise your hand if you feel much better than we began raise your hand say I say I question that last greeting you just gave by the way do people ever judge people would never judge someone in real life in the first 3 to 5 Seconds of meeting them would they was that the best greeting you're capable of giving a stranger yes or no yes or no was that the best greeting you're capable of giving a stranger yes or no quick how many say yes how many say no okay the majority you're saying no now if you're saying no let's review the assignment shall we we said if you don't give your best then everyone you care about dies like pigs in hell and you still didn't give your best we need to talk you know what if you said you didn't give your best I actually respect you cuz what we all know in our souls is whenever we think we've given our best what do we always find out there's always another what is it true so let's go there one final time you go what are we going to do get naked no no no here's what you're going to do this time I want you to greet somebody like they're your long lost lover or best friend like oh my God it's Susie moving there she is oh my God I see her there she is oh wow how are you wow so good so good to see you I want you to greet people like your long lost best friend or lover 1 2 3 go [Applause] [Music] [Applause] right down it's dark the jungle is your head can't rule your heart I feeling so stronger I thought your eyes are wi though you Soul it can your hello hello it's everything I wish I didn't know to do give me some I can see CL it now CL it the night is full of holes it's full of tripping Sky of ink with gold they twinkle at the boys and dance atast sh the building somebody go I own you I own you 1 2 3 [Applause] [Music] go give me something I can feel if that feels better before make aist say yes stay yes say yes yes did you use more of your body or less more more muscles in your face or less more more oxygen or less more did you talk louder or quieter louder faster or slower did you hesitate to go straight for him straight did you touch him did it feel good why oh you already forgot because emotion is created by is there greater engagement right now yes or no do you enjoy yourself more or less than where we began more and I did nothing you just decided to [Applause] [Music] [Applause] engage how do we make this pragmatic in this state would you be able to engage others yes or no what if they don't want to engage come here you little bastard I'm going to hug you you go I can't go to this the president of IBM Charlie I bet it'll change their states how many feel the difference in how you feel right now say I I then don't let this go and the only way you can do that is if you start to measure see we can't manage something we don't measure you know that but how often do you measure your state and yet this is where all engagement comes from cuz if you're not fully engaged how can you ever expect other people to be Mark is fully engaged agree or disagree age that's why you're all here so you must have some respect for this man I sure do if you do handle [Music] right w the only challenge for some of you go yeah but I'm not crazy like Mark but see successful people do what the failers won't if you do what everybody else does we know what that is come to work with a good State intending to work hard positive intent most people come to work to screw off and you have the best intent but you're tired see I am full of mercury I'll explain in a moment it's why I'm sweating so much I sweat anyway but I've got mercury poisoning That's why my body shaking but I'm here to give you a million per I'll do a million per and I've done that for 39 years every day of my life that's why I have a brand you can have a brand too but you have to measure you have to say Where am I 0 to 10 and if I'm freaking below nine what am I doing with my life in an intimate relationship where are you Z to 10 in your engagement if that's below nine you have no passion you might have love but you don't have passion if you're below a seven you're probably friends and there's nothing wrong with that but you can a friend and not be married to them it's a very different game I'm suggesting to you that this is the most important element in life because what's going to make you feel alive is engagement and you're in control of it how fast can you change your emotional state your engagement how fast can you change it my friends how fast by a radical change in your body you can do it this quick try something right now make a crazy sound of excitement just make a sound go make the sound try another one try another one how many of you used to make crazy sounds when you're a kid for no good reason till people told you to shut up and you know what you let yourself become conditioned into what Society has taught us to be to be appropriate and what that's cost you as spirit it's cost you the flow and when you look at the people that you're most entertained by if you look at when you watch YouTube if you watch a business person like Mark who you really feel moves you it's because they do what nobody else does cuz they put themselves in stay he doesn't feel like it every day any more than I do but he still does it every day you know why he does it enough until it becomes him it's like an athlete you build muscle there's emotional muscle what's more important than emotional muscles they are the spiritual experience of Life what's more important than courage courage unused what happens to it if you don't engage your courage enough if you don't engage it over and over again what's going to happen to it grow or Shrink which one faith invested what happens to Faith that you don't actively use it dwindles passion unexpressed does it grow or Shrink my friends which one and everything you want in your life you can have if you have the resources of these emotions but these emotions come from being in a peak state so whether I'm working with presidents of countries of which I've worked with many royalty athletes the best performers in the world the entertainers they're all Geniuses this and I get the phone call cuz they want to go to the the next level cuz they're already great but they won't settle cuz they're always looking to be more cuz they know a 2% difference like this you take out a week from now you know 10 degree difference a month from now six months from now you have a different life or people come see me when they have a challenge they're either the best in the world or they're challenged they got a birthday with a zero on it right they lost their job or they built their company they sold it for $500 million and now they're bored and they want to figure out what to do people suddenly when they get hungry is when they look for answers I don't deal with people aren't hungry they think I'm an idiot I'm some positive thinking guy because they're never going to investigate the truth they don't want it but who comes to me is somebody is hungry and what we want to do is fan our hunger but tie to that a new simple discipline where am I 0 to 10 and if you're below an eight you're hurting who yourself you're hurting your family you're hurting your business you're you're part of that group even though you probably never identified with that group that's not engaged because you're more engaged than they are I know but you're not engaged at the level that you deserve who's with me here say I I this is what engagement feels like now if you'll sit down before you do I would like you to get three crazy hugs and then grab a seat and we're going to give you one last piece here that's really important three crazy high fives or hugs whichever you prefer [Music] [Applause] go and then sit down in a peak state [Applause] [Music] [Applause] now in your chair let's create the same level of Engagement as if you were standing wake up the people on either side of you crank it up let's go I C my daddy [Applause] okay now I'd like to give you what I really came for how many have enjoyed what you've gotten so far here say I I good my mission is to share something else with you and I think that you're going to find this maybe the most important part of why you came here without even knowing it and it's simply based on this I'm totally committed to helping people my mission is to help people live an extraordinary quality of life what is is an extraordinary quality of life it's life on your terms not mine it's not my view what is it you want most what would your ideal life look like how would you live what would you do what would you share what would your impact be and most people have not spent much time thinking about that for a long time because they've been so disappointed everybody as a kid thinks this way and then gradually we have enough disappointments frustrations sometimes betrayals from people we care about that we get gunshy31 I'm pessimistic I'm skeptical let's be honest you're being gutless it takes no guts to be skeptical it takes no guts to be pessimistic it takes no guts to go on the internet where no one knows who you are and write about people so you can make yourself feel good by having the illusion you made someone smaller so you have the illusion you're moving up and our society is filled with that so extraordinary Life Is Life on your terms what would an extraordinary life look like for you and my bet is most of you have an extraordinary life but how many know how great your life is how many still want more raise your hand if you want more say I how many want more love more joy more success more freedom how many want all these things say I I then whatever success is For You Some People Extraordinary life looks like three beautiful children Some People Extraordinary life is a billion- dollar company some people's extraordinary life is writing poetry some people's extraordinary life is working the tenderloin District helping those people not just feeding them but loving them everyone's discovered what an extraordinary life is for them and if you know what it is that's the first step then you need two Master skills please drop them down these two skills are what will give you that life the first skill is the science of achievement the science of achievement is whatever you want to achieve There are rules and if you follow the rules you can win the game so for example if we talk about our bodies it's a science to be vitally healthy to be strong meaning There Are Rules everyone here is biochemically unique but are there some Universal rules that if you violate them you're going to have low energy or disease in your body yes or no you bet you will are there a set of rules that if you abine by them you're going to have an abundance of energy and a vital level of Health yes or no so I don't care what you believe if you jump off a cliff you are going to drop I don't care what you believe if you violate the science of your health you're going to have problems the same thing is true financially I spent four years now been six interviewing some of the most brilliant Financial Minds literally in the world Warren Buffett Carl icon Ray doio and by the way one of them I just mentioned you probably didn't know the name of how many you know who Ray doio is look at this room 7,000 people only a couple dozen the richest people in the world all know who Ray do is Ray do you can thr on the screen has produced more returns for investors than anyone alive including Warren Buffett everyone talks about Buffett but Ray Del is the guy Ray is interesting amazing man this guy when I interviewed him he was is a man who is the largest hedge fund in the world rich people give their money to hedge funds and when they give it to hedge funds a big hedge fund might be like 15 billion raise $165 billion 10 times bigger than anybody else when I interviewed in that day the Prime Minister of China head of China called interrupted our call for coaching about what to do with the currency this the level this is a man to give you an idea who's produced a 23% compounded return for 20 consecutive years think about what all the ups and downs the bare markets bull markets all that stuff total genius you don't know them because you put couldn't get access to them to give you an idea but I got access it's been a fan of mine it turned out for 20 years which is really helpful and I went in for a 45 minute interview and as my nature I go deep and four hours later three and a half hours I left and one of the most important questions I asked him was this because I wanted to write this book and I wanted to give people anyone somebody's a billionaire somebody just starting the journey somebody is a baby boomer thinks they can never get free or somebody like just got out of college Millennial going how do I ever get out of debt I want to be able to help all those people and by the way I donated all the profits of that book $5 million in advance before it even came out so we could feed 100 million people that was not 100 million I had to write some more checks but it got me started right so I asked him I said what what if you couldn't give any of your money to your children and you could only give them a set of principles of distinctions a scientific plan a strategy that would cause to be financially free what would it be he said Tony and I asked this to every one of these 50 multi-billionaire investors they all had great answers his was the best he said Tony I have spent 15 years of my life obsessed with that question he said because not only do I want to take care of my kids but I also have all these Charities that when I die I want those people to continue to be helped and he said I have an organization of 1,500 people who work around the clock to come up with the best ideas and they all compete with each other it's a very very tough place this place called Bridgewater where he runs this operation it's very unique and it's doggy dog competition to come up with the best stuff and he goes I know I won't be here for that and he said I also know that markets are always changing and he said I noticed something everybody tells you what to do financially and they say diversify and they tell you put this much in bonds and this much in stocks and that's supposed to protect you and he said no one talks about the Dirty Little Secret which is when the markets Drop Like 2008 2000 it all goes down but no one says anything about it CU eventually comes back and then the same people solds you other things go well that's just the market we don't know what to do and they do the same thing again and it happens again and people can lose half of all they earn overnight right so he said I want to find a sustainable solution and I'm not going to tell you the details here that's why I gave you the book because I want you to have this for yourself but the bottom line is he laid out this plan and he has well known for putting together this thing called an all- weather portfolio all weather means he doesn't know where the Market's going to go the smartest people in the world are not the ones on CNBC telling you where the Market's going to go cuz no one knows the smartest people in the world every one of them told me I don't know here's what I think and I'm going to be wrong LS of times so I diversify and put together a portfolio that'll win no matter what his has been the most successful and so I asked him to explain it to me and he did in detail now I did 18 hours of prep for this one interview with him and he said on the air multiple times that there's no one that's interviewed him they more prepared for an interview than I he and I pitched and catched and because of that I got to this final level where he explained it to me and I said you know what you just told me the most important set of principles to Financial Freedom that anyone has ever shared that I'm aware of in the world he goes well that's true he was not he didn't disagree with me about it and I said but there's only one problem you said here's how you bake a cake use some sugar use some chocolate use some dairy products I said but you didn't tell me the amount he goes Tony I can't give you that that's my secret sauce he goes you have to have A5 billion net worth and you have to give me a 100 million minimum to start or I don't even talk to you and I haven't taken money for 10 years I said that's my point you're not going to give anybody this anymore you've closed your fund you're running it for the people you're running it for and you just Untold me that if someone goes to the average adviser they're good people but this is a poker game will only the best in the world win at the financial level unless your financial advisor is won a bunch of gold medals he told me you're screwed because it's only a matter of time till there's a real problem I said you're the ultimate gold medalist in the whole world and you know the answer and I saidou a totally generous man you're going to give away half your net worth I said why don't you help people right now give me the formula and I got him laughing once I got him laughing I knew I had it and he goes well I couldn't do it because I use leverage I said design one without leverage for the average person he goes well you know it wouldn't be perfect I said your the idea of not perfect they call him the D Vinci of investing some call him the Steve Jobs of investing I said your idea not perfect will be better than anybody on Earth well and then he said let me think and I felt this tingle down the back of my spine because I wasn't writing this book to make money I was making this book so I could help people around the world I watched people in 2008 lose their homes in Mass lose every half of what they had and that wasn't a statistic that's how I grew up so I wanted the answer and he starts laying this goes well let's do and he gives me this exact formula which he's never revealed ever in his entire history I was shaking inside and he goes go test that go hire someone to test it and back testing goes back testing doesn't mean anything you know past performance doesn't equal future performance because people usually do over three or four five or 10 years do it over the entire modern year of investing 75 years and see how it did now think about all the ups and downs in the last 10 or 15 years 2000 dropped 50% 2008 50% and everybody's waiting for what's going to happen next and over all World Wars all that went on we went and tested I two different firms one guy called me 11:30 at night he's never called me 11:30 at night he goes Tony Tony I got to talk to you I said what happened he goes in the last 75 years this made money 85% of the time and when it lost money 15% of the time when it made money at average 10% when it lost money the worst loss was 2008 and it was a loss of 3.9% when everyone's losing 50 that's all you lost if you could go to Vegas and be right 85% of the time make 10% and the few times you lost you'd only lose less than 4% how would you be going to Vegas on a daily basis so I put that in the book by the way all my partners and friends are like let's make this into a company let's I said no this is anybody can do it and I just gave it to you so you can do it too and I'll tell you why I gave it to you also because this last January do you remember where the markets were we had the worst January in the history of the stock market $2 trillion doll disappeared how fast my friends in a matter of like 10 days and everybody all the rich people and all the successful people in business including this gentleman over here they're all in Davos and so everybody's freaking out the market drop like 600 points in the middle of the day and people like is this the end are we funny seeing the end and they went to who they go to and Davos they brought in Ray and he walks up and Delio and they said what should people do and raise very quiet calm guy he goes well Tony Robbins wrote a book where I gave him my formula and he literally said that and described it and if you done what he did when the market was down for example in the very first month down 10% and people are freaking out it was up 1% right now as of two days ago I don't know what it is to add in look but as of two days ago the market was 7.8% this is up 12 and 12.21 it's 47% greater than the market and you do it once a year you adjust it once a year now I'm not telling you put all your money in there I just want you to know there's a science to achievement and that's true of Finance that's true of your body has true of a lot of things and by one more thing I'll tell you I have a partnership now with the number one rated firm I'll throw up on the screen for you if you're interested gentleman who's rated number one wealth manager three years in a row by Barons no one's done that in history it's called creative planning and for the last two years he's been number one wealth manager in America by CNBC we have 20 billion in assets I'm on the board of directors I'm also the chief investor psychology and I'm Peter's partner so if you go there I benefit so you know but I want you to know if you want to get a second opinion he'll do it for you for free and the reason he's rated number one is most wealthy people have what's called a home office where they have a group of people not somebody just selling you a product you have somebody who's a fiduciary it means legally they have to put your needs ahead of their own if they told you to buy Apple this morning and they buy it this afternoon cheaper they have to give you their stock Peter's number one in that area so if you want you can go to get a second opinion.com that's my commercial for you but he'd do a review for you and you can implement it yourself or you can work with him but the level of detail he do is amazing so I gave you the book so if you want to take care of that of your life you can but my larger point is simple there's a science to achieve and the science achievement can get you from where you are to where you want and anything and the way you speed it up is you find who's most successful and you model them write down this success leaves Clues success leaves Clues if someone is able to succeed year after year after year like aalo like you know Peter had created planning then perhaps they're not just lucky and you might want to find out what they're doing and Avail yourself of it because you can press decades into days you can have trial and error learning or you can go to someone's already figured out and say how how do I do this and save yourself that time I'm here today because my whole life has been modeling people so I could achieve more but here's why I came this morning this afternoon this evening whatever the hell it is now I came here because my deeper mission is for you to master the second key to an extraordinary life and it's the one our culture values a lot less and it's a hell of a lot more important and when I tell you you're not going to be impressed you're going to go that's it because that's the way we're trained to think the second master lesson to an extraordinary life is the art of fulfillment the art jot it down of fulfillment what do I mean by the art of fulfillment success is a science what do I do to Succeed in Business there's a science there's a set of rules but what fulfills us is totally different look at this woman's glasses right here take a look at these glasses here can you see can we get a camera on these glasses these are very special glasses no not me her there they are there's the glasses no look towards the camera where the hell that is so she has got a very special idea of these glasses you can't really tell if they're still in an angle here my point is these glasses what do you think of these glasses I think they're awesome too I don't see anybody else with glasses like you that's right because these fulfill her other people go what are those crazy ass glasses she's wearing right right we're all different I'll give you an example Steve wi is one of my dearest friends in a one of my clients as I said earlier built half of Las Vegas Right multi-billionaire started with less than nothing his dad went broke had a $400 million debt he left College figur how to pay that off keep his family above ground and now one of the richest men in the world and very brilliant guy and I'm having these conversations with Steve and I'm thinking of myself I I he calls me first of all and he says Tony where are you I'm thinking why is he asking that I said I'm in Sun Valley Idaho we both have vacation homes there he goes I'm in Sun Valley Idaho he goes guess what I said what he goes It's My Birthday aren't you going to come see me and I laughed I said of course I'm going to come see you Steve I didn't know you're here but of course love to he goes Tony really I want you to come over because he said I gave myself a birthday gift there is a painting that I have coveted for I can't remember the number of years think 18 years I'm making it up but almost two decades and he goes I've coveted I've wanted it it finally came up for sale and he said I outbid everybody at sopes for it and he said I paid $82 million for this painting I'm like wow so picture what you think an $82 million painting means to you my picture was like a Rembrandt something you know from you know that period at least right you know just something gorgeous I don't know something religious spiritual something and so I drive to his house and I got all this anticipation to see what this painting is going to be like Steve's such a wonderful human being wots me in goes Tom come on check this out and he walks me in the room and there on the wall is this painting put it up on the screen so people see it and I looked at and I said I paused I held my breath for a moment I said Steve I thought it was like The Emperor's New Clothes I said dude it's a red orange Square he's no no it's a rough Co I said I know but it's a red orange Square $82 million I said dude give me a 100 bucks in an hour I can do this I promise you he didn't like that I got him laughing right you know but here's why I tell you the story because what will excite you and fulfill you will it be different than this person even if that's your son different than this person different than you even though we may love each other what fulfills us is not a science it's an art and if you don't know what's going to fulfill you what are you doing all this for how many people do you know that achieve their ultimate goal have you ever done this ever achieved a goal and then your brain went is this all there is who here has ever had this moment raise your hand say I isn't that moment worse than failing because most of us in this room if you fail you don't fail what do you do you get up and just what try something else you're going to keep persisting till you find it right but if you succeed and you're unhappy now you're what I call technically screwed right I mean it's the worst feeling in the world because you're just not fulfilled so every one of us needs something different to have that sense of fulfillment but I can tell you two things that we all need to be fulfilled as principles not as rules number one we must grow if you don't grow it doesn't matter how much money you have it doesn't how many Academy Awards you have it doesn't matter how many people respect you it doesn't matter if you have four perfect children it doesn't matter if you have so much love you're not going to feel it how many follow what I'm talking about here say I so if we don't grow we what you grow or you die if you don't grow your business it's dying if you don't if your relationship's not growing it's dying there's no Plateau who's with me on this here raise your hand say I I so I'll give you a perfect example of this I feel like we lost in this country a National Treasure a little bit more than two years ago I'm talking about Robin Williams how many of you in this room I want you to raise your hand not if you liked Robin Williams raise your hand if you Lov this man raise your hand if you loved him keep keep your hand up nice and high if you would keep your hand and look at the number of people that love this map it's 98% of the room there's only 2% in this room that didn't like Robins Williams I've asked this question this year in Sydney Australia and Tokyo in uh Beijing China in uh South America and Peru I've been all over the world I've did 16 countries this year every place I've asked every place I've gone in every language being translated on average 98% people raise their hand saying they loved him and I always say don't raise your hand if you liked him now here's my question about this incredible Soul Robin was he a master of the science of achievement yes or no yes or no he had a dream to go to Hollywood and do his own TV program how many people have that dream and how many actually get it he did it he had a dream to not only have his own TV show but he was going to make it number one and some of you are ancient enough like me to actually remember that show what was it called Moran Mindy some of you it's replayed enough you still know about it right number one show then he said I want to have the most beautiful family and he did it achieved it then he said I want have more money than I could ever spend and he achieved it then he said I want to make movies and he did it then he said I want to make movies and I want to make movies and I want to win an Academy Award watch this for not being funny his primary skill and he won an Academy Award for drama for dramatic performance he did all of that and then he hung himself how do he explain that now some people say well he had Parkinson's he had this he had that he suffered his whole life he used alcohol he used cocaine he used everything he get his hands on because he made everybody happy except whom himself and he left a beautiful bride wife and children who loved him and hundreds of millions maybe a billion I don't know the real number I can only tell the anecdotally every country I've been in 98% of the people translated in those countries tell me they loved him and it wasn't enough yes he had Parkinson's later had Lou Lou what they call Louis bodies in his brain but he suffered his whole life because he suffered because he made everyone happy he never mastered the art of fulfillment he thought it was all about the science of of achievement that's why I came by today cuz you guys are masters of achievement or you wouldn't be in a room like this and I know there's different levels of achievement but it's all relative right if you're in a room like this you're hungry you're driven you're some of the best you came here because you want more you don't settle like most people but I'd hate to have you wake up someday I know you're not going to hang yourself but to have that emotion of feeling like life is not the richest experience that it could be and it's only because you were so driven by the cultural conditioning of achievement and I'm not suggesting don't achieve I achieve but I also fulfilled I know people that are so fulfilled this little character over here is massively fulfilled because he knows it isn't just achievement it's really about something bigger he's got a mission he's got a sense of meaning he knows what fulfills him and he lives it Richard Branson is one of the most fulfilled human beings you're going to meet isn't because he's a multi-billionaire he's achievement but his great benefit is he's fulfilled I can't name a dozen people I've met and I've Met 10 million people 50 million I've worked with but 10 million people that I've had these deep relationships with and at least 50 multi-billionaires and I couldn't name more than a half dozen that I could tell you honestly are really truly fulfilled by their own description without it ain't money that's going to do it for you it's not achievement that's going to do it for you it's the best time to wake up would be now and so this experience is what my life's work is is to get people to experience the joy while you're here and if you'd asked me a year and a half ago two years ago uh was I living that I'd say of course I am and I would have believed at 100% I was I've had the most amazing life I have a woman as my wife who I would die for been together 17 years I'm not blowing smoke this woman is the greatest thing to ever happened to my wife and it it gives me if I had nothing else in my life there I have four amazing children I have three grandchildren I've got 31 companies I got a thousand employees I'm in all these industries I got to do what I want when I want at the level I want I have Financial Freedom all those things and I come from nothing so I'm proud I did achieve but more importantly because it's been meaningful the way I've done I felt fulfilled that's why I'm here I don't need to be here I didn't come here for money I didn't come here for a talk I didn't come here to pump you up thank you very much thank you good good so how do we create that fulfillment here's what I found out I've always talked about even as I started this morning this afternoon when we talked about high energy right energy rich by the way financially poor is not as bad as energy poor you low in energy everything's going to break down your relationship's going to break down how you going to have passion when you're exhausted all the time you might love each other but you're not going to have real passion how you going to be a great parent when you're exhausted all the time how you going to create breakthroughs when you're making it through the day and what sucks the energy out of us is not food or sleep we can do those things that are important we can do without them at times if we have to it's lack of meaning and we're ending a world that's about to disrupt itself massively because the very technology we're creating is going to disrupt according to Oxford 40% of all jobs over the next 15 to 18 20 years what are we going to do in four or five years when there's 3 million truck drivers in this country Ford just announced in four years they'll have self-driving trucks why would I hire someone can only work eight hours legally because I got to give them rest why I can have a truck that only 24 hours and it doesn't crash and it doesn't get drunk and it doesn't give me and attitude and I can depreciate it and that technology going to get better and better geometrically and no one is preparing those truck drivers we're going to have a massive disruption in our culture so maybe what we really got to do is really decide how to make sure we find ecstasy in this moment right now cuz whatever challenges are let me tell you something problems and happiness have no relationship can you have huge problems and still be totally happy yes or no come on guys yes or no but our brain the mind won't tell you that you're more than your mind you got a heart you got a soul you got a spirit but most of us because of Technology have gone more and more here and this is a great tool the mind but you got to train it to do what you want some people have seen any of you seen my doctor documentary uh um I'm not your Guru do anybody see it by chance awesome you know one of things people ask me about is why do you jump in that 56 degree water every day are you insane and I do it because it's a discipline where I've trained my mind when I tell her what to do we don't negotiate I don't let my mind run me I let my heart and soul run me and I've trained this brain to use to use it when I need it for strategy for tools but your mind will never make you happy only your heart will your mind won't even allow you to enjoy an apple if you Ty the Apple it's going to go is it organic where did it come from where do I put it where do I throw it away the mind is just how many know what I'm talking about here say I so one of the pieces that will shift things for you is instead of energy rich or energy poor high energy or low energy I was in India with a dear friend of mine named chrishna j and he said Tony what if you switched those words and just called it beautiful States high energy states and low energy states are suffering States I said wellow that I think that would be an accurate description he goes well then let me tell you what my spiritual vision is I said okay tell me your spiritual vision he said to live in a beautiful state every day no matter what even when it doesn't go my way because life is too short to suffer who believes that by the way say I I I was intrigued I said he said why he said why why do you call that your spiritual vision he goes because when I'm in a beautiful state I don't have to think about how to treat other people I always do the right thing and when I'm in a suffering State even though I'm a good human being I treat people poorly so let's talk about it for a moment if I asked you one of the greatest experiences of your life what was it a moment I'm sure you've had many pick one what's been one of the most beautiful magical magnificent sacred sexy sensual loving meaningful experiences of your life just one of them I know you got plenty if we went through that you could tell me the story but I'm out of time so you can't tell me the story but if you told me the story and we did this for a while which I've done with people before you'll always see the same pattern the pattern of what makes you most alive is things that give you these emotions you want most beautiful States like love or Joy or gratitude or excitement or hunger or drive or creativity see you don't just have happiness if it's only one state you're going after your brain needs variety you ever you know ever been so happy you smile so much your face hurt who knows I'm talking about here so we need lots of beautiful States but here's what I could tell you when you're in a beautiful state everything goes now what's a suffering State I don't I don't think anyone in this room I could be wrong I sure know if you would asked me a year and a half ago do I suffer I would have laughed suffer are you kidding you see my wife see my life see what I got to do see who my friends are I have the most magnificent life and I wouldn't be being phony I was being totally authentic it's just just like Achievers aren't fearful they get stressed no achiever suffers but they do cuz it's not consistent that word is not consistent with our identity is it but what if suffering was any state that takes you out of your heart and soul and makes you feel fulfilled like frustration anger overwhelm stress worry concern and by the way I would get pissed off and frustrated but I would say to myself that's not suffering that's part of life that's what I believe and whatever you believe you'll live and I then began to realize no it's not suffering states are the result of the brain we have a two million year old brain in our bodies and it's designed not to make you happy it's designed to make you survive and that's what almost everybody does they survive happiness is your job and I just come by to remind you how you can do it and have it be sustained if you want to know who's interested then just for a moment generate some energy in your chair right now with a person next you get some energy going One More Time come on take it up come on come on come on come on come [Music] on so if you want to be happy here's my question first how many of you in this room want to be happy for the rest of your life no matter what let me ask you a second question how many are not just wanting it are totally committed to be happying every single day for the rest of your life you say that now the only way you can have that is you you make the connection that problems and happiness have no relationship how many you know somebody who has a life you'd love to have and they're still pissed off or worried or concerned freaked out raise your hand right you go if I was there I wouldn't feel that way cuz the mind is always looking for something because this two million year old brain is basically survival software and what it's doing is always looking for what's wrong and whatever you look for you'll find try this for a second look around this room and look for everything that is brown as fast as you can I'm going to test you look around anywhere anything that's brown brown clothing brown people Brown anything look for it look for Brown look for brown I'm going to test you look behind you don't miss anything that's brown look for Brown look for brown close your eyes tell me everything you just saw that was red raise your hand if you saw a lot more Brown than red raise your hand say I open your eyes look for red Now look for red look for red everywhere look for red anywhere you can find it look for red look for red raise your hand if you found a lot more red this time and say I I why did you find more red this time because in an old book called called the good book it says seek and ye shall in fact seek and you shall find whatever you look for you're going to find even if it's not there I'll proiv it you how many Saw big called it brown just to feel successful how many Saw burgundy and called it red just so you could get bigger points if you think someone's a jerk will you find jerkiness in them if that's not there won't you shade it yes or no if you think they're a good person will you find goodness in them yes or no if you think you're a jerk will you make yourself and a jerk by finding some Part of Yourself yes or no so we get what we look for the brain is looking for what's wrong remember this as long as you live what's wrong is always available so is what's right it's all a matter where you go and this brain survival software is looking for what's wrong so it can fight it or flight it but there's one problem we don't have a saber-tooth Tire to run from anymore so now it makes up things like oh my God what are people thinking of me so I better shade the picture I put on Instagram so I really come across even better or do I have enough money in a country here in the United States for example where the poorest of the poor and I I you know I'm focused to help the poor I was the poor but if you're in poverty in the United States or you're one of those people marching saying those 99 we're a 99% or those 1% jerk offs they don't care about anybody you're lying when you do that because you're the 1% of the world if you're in poverty United States you're the 1% of wealth in the world but conveniently you're not thinking about those people only about yourself and the reason is write this down suffering always comes from an obsession with yourself suffering disappears when you're trying to give or Focus or share Beyond yourself when you obsess not when you take care of yourself we got to take care of ourselves but when you obsess about yourself it's there a woman says to me no it's not I'm not obsessed about myself I'm obsess about my children my children I'm so worried they're not doing well they're they one of them's on drugs I saides but the real reason you're suffering is because you feel you failed them if you ever look at when you continuously suffer it's because you're focused on yourself raise your hand if you can see this right if you think about the thoughts what you're not getting what you're not experiencing what you're not finding and what's interesting is when we're inside our own head about ourselves we're in that survival software and we go into this scarcity that freaks us out and we don't treat people well somebody asked me just recently they said how do you explain what kind of person could do what we saw in niece we saw in Paris we saw in San Bernardino we saw in Orlando like go in someplace and kill other human beings men women and children they don't even know cold blooded murder I said I can't tell you who did it but I can tell you who didn't do it it wasn't a fulfilled person it wasn't a happy human being happy human beings fulfill human beings human beings in beautiful states don't try to hurt other people they don't try to steal from other people they don't try to tear other people down they don't write about them on the web and they sure as hell don't kill people plant bombs or shoot people with bullets it takes a really Disturbed person to do that and you know what most people are Disturbed at times because the mind will make you disturbed even though you're not cuz it's a device it's going to fight or it's going to flight and if you let this run your life you go to sleep you're going to have the pain that all of us feel at times but I came by today to remind you that you're in charge and that you can change it with just a couple of distinctions and what are those distinctions number one you have to first identify that you do suffer even though you would never say that I would never say I'd suffered I'd say of course I get pissed off and frustrated but that's such a minority of my time is any moment worth suffering over in this life and when you're suffering by the way suffering begets more suffering is it true when you're suffering do you affect other people even if you don't try to hurt them to say something do they feel it do your kids does your husband does your wife do your co-workers feel when you're suffering yes or no so you're stealing from that energy and it's simply because you didn't do the following steps here they are want to know them here they are one you got to identify your favorite flavor of suffering cuz we all have one is yours worry is it pissed off is it concern is it feeling less than feeling not enough what is your favorite flavor of suffering what is the emotion that puts you in a state that's unresourceful and when you're unresourceful it's hard to solve it isn't it you might say but I want to just go solve this you can solve your problems so much faster in a resourceful state in a beautiful state than a problem State because when you're not hooked you can get through to people but when you're hooked people feel that and they don't how to react to it and it fires off their suffering and people they unconsciously start to not connect and then we end up with that disengagement that at the lowest level shows up in business and the most important level shows up in your intimate life for those you love and so if we want to change it you got to discover so what if I asked you right now young lady with the glasses you stand out so nicely what's your favorite flavor of suffering that I'm not enough what's your favorite flavor of suffering sir not being recognized well you just got in front of 10 million people across the web and yeah you're doing good Shine Your Head Up Give a Little Kiss for that you're you're acknowledged now right okay what is your most favorite flavor of suffering worry right mine was frustration you know what I found out I realized my happiness was so cheap all it took was this for me to become unhappy cuz remember I told you I got 30 one companies seven different you know areas different types of businesses all around the world thousand employees I got a question for you what are the chances of somebody screwing something up right now with that many companies all around the world on three continents thousand plus people what are the chances someone's messing something up right now what are the chances tell me quick 100% And all I need is have this nearby look at there's one right there there's a text I can see it somebody's messed something up and what does mess something up what it take for me to lose my happiness someone not to do what I think they should do ideally now and the more people you care about the more people you interact the more the greatest chance that this is going to be happening all the time so I'd find myself happy happy happy a oh go oh man I'd use a different word f you know something you know when I was really suffering I'd go to a different language who knows who who uses different language when you're suffering let me see your hands here right part of you know you're suffering by the language you and so I began to realize I'm giving up my happiness over this if in order for you to be happy everybody's got to do what you think they should do you're never going to sustain happiness I would love for you to be happy the rest of your life I can't do it for you but I can tell you how because I'm doing it you have to decide what's your favorite play of suffering and then you have to make the most important decision of your life and I never would have said this before I would have said the most important decision in your life I believed in the past is who you love who you spend time with is who you become I still think that's one of the most important decisions of your life but my wife and I both agree now the most important decision is deciding not to suffer anymore that life is too short and that you're going to find Joy beautiful States in every moment and you're committed to it even when it doesn't go your way even when it rains on your parade see I don't want you to ever feel pain if I could help it I don't know you but I hate suffering because I grew up suffering I had four different fathers I had a mother that loved me achiev would beat the hell out of me she put liquid soap down my throat till I threw up cuz she thought I was lying and I wasn't I it was crazy stuff but if she' had been the mother I wanted I would not be the man I'm proud to be CU I I wouldn't have this dry why would I be here why would I go feed a billion people why would I do the things I'm doing so you know what sometimes not getting what you want is what makes you into something that's got something more to give so if you make this decision I don't want you to ever have pain if I could help it but I can't so that means you make the decision I'm going to be happy even if someone I love dies because what good is it for you to live in suffering when they die would they want that but we have cultural conditioning that makes us think that we're supposed to do this and so many people think suffering is a positive emotion or it's Noble suffering people don't Inspire others they don't lift others see while you're suffering you're not there for the other people that don't understand what you know who are crying that are hurting that you could be comforting but you can't do it when you're suff uing you're inside of you who understands what I'm talking about here say I so if you make the decision well I say a decision most people's idea decision they State a preference I've decided I'm going to do this but they aren't committed if you're totally committed what do you do I always tell people if you want to take the island burn the boats because as long as there's a way out our brains will take it so my invitation to you is really simple you can get free of suffering but in order to do it you got to realize it's all your expectations that make you suffer I'll give you one quick example I'm fortunate enough like Mark I have my own plane so I can fly you know anywhere in the world and I travel this last year to 16 countries so it's a great privilege to have a bed and go