Overview
This episode of French Connections delves into "la bise," the French cheek-kiss greeting, exploring its origins, rules, regional variations, etiquette, and workplace challenges, clarifying common confusions for foreigners and locals alike.
Origins and Historical Background
- "La bise" originates from Latin traditions, symbolizing polite courtesy rather than romance.
- The gesture is widely used in France and other European, Russian, and African regions.
- Social norms around la bise have evolved, including pauses during major health crises like the plague.
Basic Rules and Etiquette
- La bise is customary among friends, family, and sometimes colleagues.
- Men typically shake hands with other men unless they are close friends; women may exchange la bise with both genders.
- Formal situations (e.g., with employers, in-laws, or professionals) usually call for a handshake.
- Key steps: make eye contact, step forward appropriately, put a hand on the arm or shoulder, touch cheeks, and make a kissing sound.
- Never actually kiss the cheek, and avoid omitting the kissing sound.
Regional and Social Variations
- The number of kisses varies by region, typically two, but can be between one and four.
- Which cheek to start with and the number of kisses differ even at the village level, causing confusion even among French people.
- Men are increasingly participating, especially among friends, reflecting changing gender norms.
Challenges and Trends in the Workplace
- Work environments can be complex; some find la bise unhygienic or time-consuming, while others feel excluded if skipped.
- In large offices, la bise can be impractical or controversial, leading to alternate greetings like high fives or simple verbal hellos.
- Social judgment may arise if la bise is omitted.
Tips and Popular Culture References
- When unsure, follow the lead of the French person.
- Humorous takes on la bise, such as Paul Taylor's viral video, highlight common social dilemmas and awkwardness.
- Despite confusion, many appreciate la bise as a cherished aspect of French culture.