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conversation or a boring conversation you're like dang I really don't want to be here and you know the other person don't really want to be there and y'all just kind of sitting there awkwardly looking around you start looking at your phone and scrolling through your settings and stuff like that you know you're not doing nothing you know so you're probably scrolling through your emails you know you ain't got no emails scrolling through your junk junk mail folder and stuff like that bro you you're not doing nothing bro so no one wants to be in a position where they're in an awkward conversation or a boring conversation bruh I'm about to tell y'all the most important life skill or this is one of the most important life skills right here bruh why because a good conversation can get you a business connect it can get you a friend it can get you a girlfriend you know I'm saying The Power of Words and conversation is very very very powerful bro so you need to learn how to get good at talking to people you know I'm saying girls people just in general all of that bro so this is what you need to understand first about avoiding awkward conversations awkward conversations don't come about because the conversation is just third the topic is just awkward usually right it's because the people that are talking are awkward people you have to understand that Brad not everybody is very well versed in having conversations some people they're anti-social or they you know what I mean they got social anxiety stuff like that bro and that's what leads to awkward and boring conversations you know I mean we've forgotten the art of being able to converse with each other bro we're social creatures humans are social creatures but now we're so used to texting and dming and liking photos and stuff like that to where you can't even go on a date with a girl you know what I'm saying because you don't even know what to say you know I mean you you know how to slide in her DMS you know how to like her pictures you know how to slide up on her post you know how to do all this slick stuff on IG and social media and Snapchat and Instagram and Facebook and stuff but you don't know how to actually talk to a girl in person which is an important skill because how you gonna ever get a girlfriend how you ever gonna have uh enter a talking stage how you ever gonna have a wife how are you ever gonna have a relationship with anybody if you don't know how to talk to somebody in real life in person bro you know what I mean that's why you have to develop this but understand that people are generally these days pretty awkward because they have no idea what to talk about because they have nothing to talk about they're too scared to talk about things right which is why the first tip right here is to really embrace yourself bruh and this might sound like a corny tip but I'm telling you to be honest most people do not Embrace their own unique personality everyone has their own unique personality the problem is everyone's trying to be like one one template everyone's trying to be like this person or that person that's why you follow people on Instagram that you look up to influencer celebrities you keep molding your life and your lifestyle and your personality after this one person but guess what you're not the only one doing that everybody else is doing that too everybody wants to be like this guy everyone wants to be like that girl and since everyone is molding themselves after a certain personality type so they can come across as cool or whatever or so they can fit in with people what it leads to is you neglecting your own personality so now of course you have nothing to talk about because you not even really being you you're pretending to be somebody else you got a whole mask on you know what I'm saying of course you don't know how to talk to girls because you're not even you you're not even comfortable in your own skin so how are you going to talk to somebody else how are you gonna talk to her and spit game to her how are you gonna have a conversation with her and get into seduction mode and stuff like that when you don't even know who you are bruh you don't even understand who you are you don't even understand your own qualities your own strengths your own traits you got to learn how to be comfortable with yourself because everyone has a unique personality bruh right and personality is not just you know what I mean the things that you put on social media bro it's not your astrological astrology signs and stuff like that that's not your personality bro okay you playing basketball is not a personality you playing football your sports is not a personality bro like what do you like what do you want out of life right what is yo like you know what I mean like what is your overall Vibe right what who are you bro who are you really if I ask you right now who are you who is this viewer ex-viewer watching this video how would you describe yourself in three words that's what your personality is that's what your personality is and once you really start to understand what your personality is and you start playing to Yo strengths then guess what you don't even have to worry about oh you know what I mean this is an awkward encounter and stuff like that because you're gonna start to realize like okay since this is my personality type I tend to gel well with these type of people right so so you'll avoid awkward awkward conversations and boring conversations because you'll know oh I like these type of girls these type of girls these type of girls you know what I'm saying so now that I understand that about myself now I can go about things differently now I don't have to go talk to this girl and realize oh man we don't even link we don't even like we're not even cool like that whole time you could have figured that out long ago if you an introvert and you looking on the gram you see this girl's posting all kind of thought pics and stuff like that you know I'm saying she always going live always posting on her stories always with friends and stuff like that then you see that girl is an extrovert you probably not gonna get along with her unless you're the type of person that likes extroverts as an introvert you know what I'm saying but it's all up to you you gotta learn how to what you gotta learn what works for you right you know I'm saying you really gotta focus on yourself in developing yourself but people don't want to do that you just want a girlfriend you just want to talk to girls you just want to get introduction mode you just want to get a whole lot of friends and stuff like that not even realizing that in order to attract those things into your life you have to focus on yourself first so that you can get those things so that you can be in a position to get those things otherwise bro it's all for nothing bro I'm just being honest now that we understand that you have a unique personality and that you need to start embracing that the second tip is this recognize that we as much as we have unique personalities we have a lot of shared experiences you ever see a meme or something like that and it's like dang I feel like we all went through that you know what I mean like dang you know I mean you ever see a relatable or relatable relatable meme bruh that a lot of people have seen that a lot of people can relate to and stuff like that bro I'm telling you as human beings even as different as we are with our personalities we have a lot of shared experiences so whenever you're thinking about conversations and stuff like that bro understand that you are not that different okay I feel like a lot of people feel like they're so alienated from everybody else everyone is so so obsessed with trying to be different and stuff like that you know what I mean because they trying to be special or whatever misunderstood whatever understand that most people are way more similar to you than you think bro they're way more similar than you think and when you really when you recognize this then awkward conversations boring conversations is going to start to decline why because now you can start to understand where this person is coming from a little bit better right because we all have at least a little bit in common at least a little bit right and when you start to find out what those things are with the other person now you get a little you know I mean you got a firm ground to stand on now you can understand like okay I could relate to this person in this way I could relate to this person in that way because that's all really that's one of the most important piece of conversation is being able to relate to somebody when you can relate to somebody in some way shape or form bruh I promise that conversation is gonna get way better and can lead to something way better than whatever it is that you're doing right now you looking at your phone now I'm saying and halfway talking to this person you can't relate to that person when you're looking at your phone you can't relate to that person if you're not paying attention you know I'm saying pay attention to what they talking to pay attention to what they talking about get to know this person and if you got something in common bro use that bro use that it's very very simple bro as soon as you got something in common with somebody something you could relate to somebody bro then you can use that and be like dang so I know the type of experiences you've been through that forms bonds that forms a connection between y'all too bro which brings me to another point that I wasn't even going to talk about but it's an important one make sure that you actually listening to the person that you have on a conversation with right too many times we get caught up especially when you're talking to girls and stuff like that you get too caught up in you know the end result what's gonna happen after this what is she gonna think about this and this this and this and that you're always thinking about what topics to think about bruh but the reality of it is when you do that you don't listen and when you don't listen you miss out on potential topics that you both relate on you start to miss out on figuring out who this person is you know what I'm saying and that's only going to lead to a more awkward conversation because how you having a conversation when it's like bro like this is not like this is not the Sims bro it's not the Sims dog okay you not like okay choose a topic to talk about and then they choose the topic to talk about and then Nature's something to talk about the Nature's something to say and YouTube something to say like that's not how this works bro you listen to what they're saying and you're responding bruh you're responding that's why when you're getting to know somebody it shouldn't be like an interview you just asking a list of questions because then you're not really responding to what they're saying you're just asking a whole list of questions and it's going in one ear and write out the other but if you were actually listening to somebody then you could pick up on things that they like you can pick up on things mannerisms things that they like to do things they like to talk about really quickly bruh really quickly with just a couple of questions to be honest and then you just ask more questions about those questions and then you make comments on those on those answers and stuff like that and then they make comments back too but this is what you got to understand as well as much as there are awkward people out there and as much as there's people that you can relate to out there you gotta realize that not everyone is going to jail with you bro there's three categories of people there's people that you're going to mix with immediately there's people that you might have to warm up to or they might have to warm or or you might have to warm up to them or there's people that you just not going Vibe with at all bruh which again is why it's so important to figure out who you are and what your personality type is be comfortable in your own skin you know what I'm saying because those three type of people it's gonna be completely different those people that you immediately click with stuff like that bro y'all ain't gonna have no awkward conversations because you immediately click with that person you probably have a whole lot of things in common or relatable with that person or whatever the case may be or your personality types you just mix you know what I'm saying maybe y'all both introverts maybe y'all maybe maybe one of y'all is is is is more quiet and one of y'all is more you know what I mean talking to it but the quiet person likes to listen to talking to people I don't know whatever it is you know I'm saying they might be people there's gonna be people like that that you immediately gel with and stuff like that and as you get older you'll start to realize who these people are better right because when you get older you have more experiences and you know exactly what type of people you start to jail with more which is why as you get older you tend to like have or have less of a desire to go and just make new friends all the time right because you already know who you link who you cool with who you not cool with and half the time it's really not worth it because it's a lot of people out here that's just not on your same wavelength it's just how it is where a lot of people just got different agendas bro there's also people that have to warm up to you or you gotta warm up to them this is the thing about warming up to people though you should never ever ever make it a big deal like never be too serious when you're in conversation bro okay because if you're too serious in conversation it's going to end up becoming small talk it's gonna end up being one of them acquaintance type relationships where it's like you talk to this person about sports or like things that are very very surface level and no one really likes those type of friend friendships if that's what you want to call them no one likes those type of conversations they're awkward they're boring they're like they don't lead anywhere you know what I mean it's like you'd rather just not have them so this is what warming up to people is kind of like it's like jumping in a pool right if you're too serious about it it's like you you're taking one step at a time you're going down the stairs you take one step at a time it's gonna take a long time for y'all to start warming up to each other and you may not ever do it at any point you know what I'm saying but you gotta jump into that pool because as soon as you jump into a pool what happens it's cold for a little bit but then you start warming up quickly right so if you want to warm up to people you can't be so serious you have to let your guard down a little bit and you have to be able to open up which is why it's so important to be confident because you can't open up unless you're confident in yourself a lot of insecure people they don't they like to remain closed off and garden and stuff like that because they don't oh I don't know what this person gonna think of me bro this is the thing what anyone thinks of you bro forget all of that bruh like who cares if they got an opinion about you bro if you if you are a certain way bro you know what I'm saying just be confident in how you are if you got a certain type of Personality be confident in that bro don't let nobody tell you that you lame don't let nobody tell you that you that you invalid because you like anime something like that bro be confident in whoever you are bruh and be able to open up to people and don't be so serious about it don't have to be dark and all this other stuff bro be a little bit playful be you know what I mean be joyful be happy don't take things super duper serious this is how you warm up to people bro this is how you get into good friendships and stuff like that bro because when you're not serious people tend to want to be around you more people are more comfortable around you you know I'm saying you ever be around a super serious person and you kind of like uncomfortable because it's like dang like you know I'm saying I don't want to say the wrong thing I don't even want to make a joke around this person because you know then they might take it the wrong way bro don't be so serious like learn how to relax that's how you become a likable and attractive person you know what I mean personality wise you just relax away more bro cause relaxed people are easy to talk to you know what I mean easy to approach easy to to have conversations with you know I'm saying and they end up being Banger conversations because y'all both just chilling it's not like this whole thing but the problem is especially today especially today bro we got so many people that that get offended by every little thing bruh that there's so many people they're just serious you know I mean you can't make a joke without somebody saying oh that offends me now that offends that offends this no matter you shouldn't say this and this and this and this and that Everyone likes to Virtue say knowing all this other stuff bro that's why it's so hard to find people that's just chill just relax bro you know what I'm saying that's why as you get older you want to make less friends because you don't want to come across some people that's always offended by everything but don't be so serious bro don't be that guy that's overly serious don't be the guy that does all the small talk and stuff like that bro all right and the final thing is this bro let your ego go let your pride down and this kind of goes hand in hand with being less serious let your ego go bruh a lot of people they don't want to talk about certain things that might make them you know I mean that that might put them in a bad light or whatever the case may be or not even a bad like they not many of my they might not want to talk about themselves you know what I mean they might not want to open up about themselves they might not want to tell jokes about themselves you know what I mean just be relaxed and stuff like that but this is what you have to understand about ego and pride bro ego and pride will will stop you from getting places in life okay because the more ego and pride you have bro the more you're gonna come across as this pretentious person people with a lot of ego and pride when they're in conversation they tend to brag a whole lot don't nobody trying to ain't nobody trying to be in a conversation with somebody that just brag it brag it right I mean like I don't care that you won your youth football league and you was an MVP I really don't care and you really being serious about it like bro it's not really that deep Bro let your ego down let your pride down bro and really just be open about yourself and really just stop stop bragging and stop trying to be like this stop trying to impress people I guess is what I'm trying to say because when you're trying to impress people that just comes across as desperate and you come across as it's just like you know what I mean just this this cocky person you know I mean this person that nobody really wants to be around and stuff like that bro don't be that over the ego overly braggadocious person and stuff like that it's okay to talk about yourself but bro don't be the one that's just bragging bragging bragging if you're around home if you're around the homies bro don't be always talking about like yeah bro I get girls like all the time like bro ain't nobody trying to be around that dude bro because it's like we know you lying first of all second of all it's like bro so what who cares bruh like you always talking about yourself bro it's not all about you you have to learn how to be less selfish bro you got to learn how to let other people talk gotta learn how to let other people speak because everybody got different experiences and stuff like that bro and you may not have the best experience but you keep acting like it bro but realize that when you let your ego and your pride down your conversation skills is actually gonna go way way up because now you won't be so scared to you won't be so scared to joke about things including yourself you know what I mean you won't be you won't be afraid to joke about laugh at yourself you know what I'm saying a lot of relationships a lot of friendships are based on conversation where you roasting the other person you know what I'm saying but if you got this pride in this ego you're just gonna get mad at everything that they say ah all right like bro relax it was just a joke bro it's like relax chill you know what I'm saying it's not that deep it's not that serious but a lot of people they look they they lose in that Common Sense where you just gotta chill it's just a joke bro you know what I mean like it's just we just chilling right now you know I mean we're just relaxed right now because everyone these days got anxiety everybody these days is so wound up everyone these days is a political figure because they want to stand for something that don't even make no damn sense but anyway this is hard to avoid boring awkward conversations I say you could use this for anything you can girls friendships whatever it does not matter but that's all I got for y'all make sure you join the Discord love y'all I'm out of here man peace