foreign [Music] section three section three section three guys is incredibly important section three is based upon the NLP presuppositions the NLP presuppositions is the cornerstones of NLP the NLP presuppositions is the things that we use that is that is the the cornerstones of what all our techniques are based upon so every single technique that you're gonna learn in the next 10 days is based upon these presuppositions so the map the very okay so sorry before we get into the presuppositions what is a presupposition anyone [Music] say characteristics um fundamentals fundamentals I like that fundamentals tell me that it's before yes before thought yes yes I would I get what you're going so when we pres when we when we presuppose something so when we suppose something we take that to be true basically so a presupposition is we pre-suppose that specific thing to be true does that make sense we presuppose that specific thing to be true so we breathe the bows although we might not have gone through this we presuppose that this is true now contradicting myself again these NLP presuppositions are not based upon truthfulness but upon usefulness so what do I what I mean by that is we don't say that everything here is scientifically tested and that is the way it is yes there is a lot of scientific studies that can show all of these things but with whatever is standing right here we are saying if I live my life according to the fact over the mindset that these things are true I will afford myself a far better quality of existence so I presuppose these things to be true so I live my life with a mindset that these things are true and when I live my life that these things are true what happens to the reticular activating system will find the evidence to support your beliefs you will afford yourself a far better quality existence why because let's say somebody does something really really bad to me and I believe in these presuppositions as though they are true I will just say well it's fine every single Behavior serves a positive intention for the person doing it yeah I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna step I'm gonna step back from my emotion and just ask myself what would be the positive intention what would be the deeper reason why that person did that maybe it was really just to let's say use the standard abroad for example it's like for me for example stuff that I usually hated when somebody would like belittle me in a public gathering and then sometimes my friends would like you know be little or make a joke about me or about other people because there's a girl but now you usually do now you're like hang on hang on the reason he did that was because he wanted to embrace the girl and now he's in a situation and now what happens now because you live according to the presupposition that that is true that every single Behavior says a positive intention you give yourself the ability to step outside of yourself look at yourself and like yeah okay maybe I should have shouldn't shouldn't have taken that thing so seriously what he said about me because it actually just wanted a bit of significance by impressing the goal a lot of what's going on here right now is almost like a lot of these things are steps of helping you to let go of the ego because I think as we go through this right now we'll start to see ah okay cool I get this is also a sign or a specific behavior someone will exhibit that is not attached to his or her ego because the map is not the territory ego is basically saying my map is the right map that's the ego and the ego is then well I'll I'll then prove to you why my map is the right map so the very first one there is the map is not the territory we take that as a presupposition in NLP when that person sits in front of you we take it that their map and your map is completely opposites not opposites but you can't it's not the same you can't because you have now gone through a divorce now tell that person exactly what it is like to go through a divorce because maybe they are throwing plates at each other and you and your ex-wife was a okay cool we are not divorce you go your way I go my way whatever the case might be you can't expect your experiences to be the same as someone else's experience and that is actually so beautiful in NLP if you're sitting there and thinking oh my word I don't have that advice and I haven't been this and this and this to be able to help people in a divorce or whatever the case might be that's the beautiful thing you don't have to go through those things we're going to touch on that tomorrow you don't have to go through those specific things to be able to help people Ruth in that specific experience because we don't give advice we ask questions and you have to become and that is what you'll have to be phenomenal in asking questions not necessarily being phenomenal in relationships or being through a divorce we'll get to that let's hold that for now very first one like we all discussed the map is not the territory okay are you guys all happy with that the map is not the territory we covered that with the maps of the world we understand that how I see the world how Earnest see the sees the world it's not the same thing [Music]