Empowering Women Through Sharing Experiences

It's been a little over a month since I had to end up leaving my husband. It's like I built this channel and this whole brand around being this man's wife. Trying to teach other women how to attract good men and provider men and all these different things and I truly held my husband or saw him as the bar. I didn't realize that. the person I married was actually going to be my biggest nightmare. I really thought that that man was my Prince Charming. You know, he portrayed himself to be this amazing, upright, righteous Christian man. And I believed him. I think shortly after we got married, and this is something that I haven't talked about, I started noticing certain things changed with him. Six weeks ago, I was changing my daughter, my four-year-old daughter. I noticed that when I changed her, she was red and very sensitive immediately. My first thought was, did someone touch her? I asked her, I said, baby, did somebody touch you? And she ended up saying it was daddy. I felt like my world ended on that day. And I just instantly started trying to think of how I could get my kids out of the house. A police officer escorted... The kids and I to another hospital where they were able to evaluate my daughters. It ended up coming out that he had actually been touching both of my daughters. We're only two and four years old. My worst nightmare. I myself am a product of R.A.P.E. That's how I came to be. It was also, you know... It's a child, a neighbor's husband, and he knows, he knows how much I cannot stand. men like him. This video is not to point the finger or judge anyone but this message may cut through the hearts and minds of some like a hot knife piercing you to the bone but I want you guys to know it is coming from a place of love and desperation for our young and beautiful women living in today's times. I have been heartbroken to see just how far we have fallen as a gender and I'm only speaking to women in this video because I am a woman. I also have lived okay. I have done many things I was not proud of. I've promoted a lot of stuff in the past that I would not even dream of promoting now. I'm speaking to myself first because I am an imperfect human learning to pick up my cross every day and be better. So I don't want you to watch this video ready to point the fingers at others but look at how it applies to you. But women, we have to change the narratives. We have to raise our values and we must care because we determine the state of the world. We determine the future. In today's video, I will talk about the unfortunate situation that happened with the trophy wife, but I will also have five key messages for women living in this new age. We can see what lessons we can learn and take from this from the future. But first, hey friend, welcome to my channel, Kareem Aloud Mental Gems. This channel is dedicated to leveling up in all areas of your life. So let us learn together, read together, but most importantly, grow together. Now, without further ado, let's get into this video. Before I get into the five main messages and lessons for women, because I really want this video to be more of educational and not, you know, what everybody else is trying to make it be. Let's talk about the situation a little bit. So this young lady, beautiful young lady, beautiful, had great intentions, I'm sure, very pure intentions and trying to level up women and trying to. you know, get you to marry up, et cetera, and polish yourself or find yourself and all of this. And I'm sure her intentions were really, really good. And she really thought, you know, I've hit the jackpot with this man, as she stated in her video, she made her content surrounded around her marriage and just want everyone to experience that same love or spoilage and this and that. Right. on this channel before i have spoken before where i said especially in my witches and witchcraft crystals love spells video where we talk about that culture you know on tiktok of women now even teaching other women how to do love spells to get a high value man how to do spells to get a high value man like it's gotten to the point where women in today's age are so stuck on marrying up leveling up that they're going to the occult world to do love spells to get the man that they want and being a Haitian from Haiti I showed you guys in that video and clips how those things backfire how they come back and they don't it don't work out how you want it to work out when you work like that and taking advice from witches on how to bag a man and how to manipulate to get a man taking advice from people you that are using manipulative tactics, and you're allowing that to come into your space, your body, your mind, your mental psyche, it's transforming you, and you think you're going down the right path. You're no longer, women are no longer vetting men, you know, to be good spirited or whatever. They just, hey, if he has money, there's even the advice that ugly men are generous. Seriously? Like, women, go marry an ugly man, because they're generous. They'll take care of you. They'll this, they'll that. And it'd be those same men that end up, you know, having their way with your children or, you know, doing things that aren't, you know. Women are no longer praying for their spouses or having patience and waiting on God. Women are no longer wanting men that are not only just providers alone, but have good characters, good morals that stand on business about justice and what's right. That is not money and power hungry by any means necessary. Right. Women will. date a man that will do anything to get the money, right? Power hungry, money hungry, and then get so confused once he starts to treat you bad or mistreat you and what's going on in your life, your family, your friends, etc. Become controlling or find another young hot thing, you know? Many times I talk about this on this channel and a lot of people had pushback and thought I was being pretty negative, you know, when I'm telling women go get an education, have the bag for yourself. It is 2020. five basically there's only a couple days left before 2025 please stop thinking that in this new age things are no longer like it was in a biblical where women were just stay-at-home wives in this economy you need you need unless your husband is a super multi-millionaire and he's okay with that life and even then you should have rainy day for yourself you need some form of income to make the house go. You need a two-income household, especially in this economy, right? Women should have savings for a rainy day. There's so many examples in the Bible, like the widow that lost her husband, and Elijah came to her house, and she was able to sell to provide for her and her kid after the bread and dough. Even the Proverbs 31 woman, she goes to the gates to sell the clothes that she's made. Many instances in the Bible, like Lydia, it was selling cloths of purple and stuff. There was a lot of businesswomen in the Bible. OK, even in the Bible, they were married, but they were still businesswomen. Were they just head of household? People think when you tell women to go get an education or to have money for themselves, that you're telling them to be men, that you're telling them to be masculine. And I did a video about why we don't have to compete with men. Long time ago. I can pin that in the comments for you guys to go check out that you don't have to compete with men. No one is saying when we tell you guys to go get an education, to have for yourself, to not be super dependent. We're not telling you to be men or to not be submissive to your husband. Far be it from me to ever go against the Bible. Y'all know I'm not going to do that. To tell you guys now you're the head of household, you running the man, you're talking to me kind of way. That's not even what I'm saying. But I'm saying many times in the Bible, these widows, things happen. Their husbands would die from war. What do you think they did if their fathers and brothers, no one would take them in their house? What do you think they did? What did you think these women did in the Bible times? They went and sold in the marketplaces. Who you think was selling in the marketplaces? Who you think was selling in the marketplaces? Even during biblical times, it was these women. They worked too. And there was never a time in history, I always tell you guys that, where women, especially black women, were not working. There was never a good old day for women. Every time women say, oh, I'm so mad at whatever women decided they want equal rights because I just want it. It shows me the lack of education and ignorance that there's people with college degrees, with huge platforms. There was some a time where it was good for women, especially as a Black woman, especially as Black women. We were always working, raising other people's kids, cleaning other people's homes. You never had it good. And if we went back like some of these women would want. Honey, you would not have a platform. I would not be here speaking to you if we're back in those days. Whether we were elderly, sick, married or mothers, we have always been expected to toil. There has never been a time in this country's history when the labor of Black women was not an expectation. In the 1900s, Black women were dehumanized not only as economic and reproductive property, but also as a disposable commodity. They were forced to... provide white men with outlet that in turn allowed them to protect the purity of their white wives. Doing so both hyper and defeminized them because it made the white women virtuous and pure and the enslaved woman lustful and vicious. Enslaved societies also had a deep division of labor between enslaved and white women. Enslaved women were expected to show strength and stamina in the fields while white women actually had a lot of power and powerlessness. ideally did little or no outdoors work. In the antebellum South, for example, black women who were thought to be subhuman by their white masters were not protected from violence. They were seen as beasts in the fields who did not need their bodies and virtue protected, while white women were seen as true women based on their roles in the home and their traits of innocence and weakness. But enslaved black women never got the chance to display the traits attributed to white women because they were always in the public sphere of work and never allowed in the private sphere of a home. Also, when punished, they were often forced to be n***ed, which contributed to their dehumanization and stripped away any of their femininity. On the flip side, white women were dressed head to toe, which ensured their nobility and womanhood. And so, black women were not treated like true women, aka white women. Instead, they were treated like black men. Consequently, the stereotypes that started to emerge surrounding black women, that they were n***ed, promiscuous and aggressive were used to justify the atrocities committed against them. Let's talk about the nine things that women could not do until the 1970s. Financial freedom. It wasn't until 1974 that all women in America were allowed to get a checking account, a credit card and a loan from a bank without the cosigning of a man, which is why so many women had to marry right out of high school in order to build any kind of wealth. It wasn't until 1978 that women were not allowed to be discriminated in the workplace simply because they were pregnant. A lot of employers wouldn't hire a woman if she was pregnant, and they would fire women if they found out they got pregnant. It wasn't until 1973 that all women in all 50 states were allowed to serve on a jury and voice their opinion with judicial matters. It wasn't until the 1970s that the Ivy League colleges and universities... started to accept all women in all their programs. It wasn't until 1977 when women were allowed to sue for sexual harassment in the workplace. Before that, they just had to put up with it. It wasn't until 1993 that women could file charges against their husbands for graping them. Before that, husbands could grape their wives as much as they wanted to. It wasn't until 2010 that insurance companies were required to charge women and men the same price. Because they were always charging women more for health insurance simply because we lived longer and we were more proactive about our health care, went to the doctors more and had babies. And even white women, they were at home, yeah, the husband was taking care, but guess what? They had no autonomy over themselves. These women were miserable, unhappy, the despicable crimes they went to. Go learn about the suffrage movement. Go actually learn history about how it was for women. These women were not happy. You would not have been happy. These men had all the power. They knew they could have multiple women on you. What could you do? Nothing about it. They knew you didn't have money or any place else to go. So they treated you however. It was rare to find a good man. So much so the Bible had to constantly remind men, love your wives like I love the church. God had to constantly remind men to love their wives. That's how much power men had. Even the idea of polygamy was never something that the Lord wanted. Men after their own hearts could not even control themselves. And I was reading Solomon today and the ending of his life and how he 700 wives, 300 concubines. And as he got old, the Bible said, as he got old, these women turned his heart away from God. And this was what God was saying. He never intended for this. And so I don't push that culture. I don't encourage it. When I say go get your education, go make something of yourself. I mean that. I've experienced, I've witnessed a lot. I've witnessed a lot. And this is why I'm cautious. I'm not letting, because once you get to a certain age, there's even comments when you give these advice. for married women that would be like you're not even married i'm not taking advice i'm like wow like it's like an insult to women if you're not married yet and you don't have kids by the age of 25 or something and it's like wow it's an insult and those same women i i really strongly believe because the married older woman in my life i was fortunate enough for god to put some very good married older women in my life that told me like it is yes i love my husband but sis take your time go to school get your education live your life Okay Okay, wait on the Lord. Don't be pressured. Don't let society bully you into wanting to settle so quick. This is a lifelong commitment. I don't intend to marry to divorce. This is a lifelong commitment. Who you marry matters. This is who will raise your children. Their character will be your children's character. These person can destroy your children, destroy your life, take years from your life. They can bring you back diseases. They can ruin you financially, spiritually, mentally, physically. It's a big commitment. Who you have kids with is an even bigger commitment. But people take it so lightly and we're going to talk about that. So I didn't want to talk about just how unfortunate the situation is. It broke my heart. She's so beautiful, right? And this is why I say, ladies, it is a form of witchcraft to use manipulation to get a man. to manifest a man your own will what you want and it's not pretty a lot of these women that manifested and they're telling you their life oh we're so happy and they're showing you all the highlight roles of their life they're embarrassed to ever come on here and tell you what they're really enduring because when you try to manifest things you're trying to do things in your own will not the will of god what you want you're not even praying over it is what you want and you're using manipulation and manipulation is the lowest form of witchcraft it's the basest form and i'm telling you guys i'm not just speaking to speak i came from this lifestyle don't indulge in this don't practice this do not listen to people who practice it pray and wait on the lord for your spouse be skeptical of everyone even if he has an image of a of a lamb trust me They come in and lamb wolves. They'll cover themselves in the guard of a lamb because even Satan can transform himself into an angel of light. Even he. OK. And a lot of times people are like, but he knows God. He's a man of God. He knows Satan knew God to Lucifer knew God. He was in heaven. He was in heaven with God. Third ranking in heaven. And yet he still fell. Trust me, take heed to that warning. Stop listening to people with the advice. I always tell you guys, pray over who you listen to. I don't care how good they sound. Pray over even me. Pray that the Lord guides you and who you listen to and take advice from or whose life you envy. You're looking at these people. You're envying their lives. and their lives is a pit of darkness dressed up with lipstick and it's not what you think it is i've lived long enough i know i look young but i'm not that young trust me i'm not that young i've lived long enough to witness a lot to see a lot and oftentimes the people you think are the happiest are the most miserable okay i know this was a long intro about this but let me get into the five key points and we're gonna go through these quickly Message for women in these perilous times. First, marriage is not the end all be all. And stop this marrying for the bag nonsense. Y'all see what happened. Y'all understand. Y'all hear the stories. All this trad wife. I've avoided speaking about that too. This super housewifey making 1940s glamour image. They're still working. Those trad wives that are on TikTok, YouTube, creating meals every car. Yo, they're work. It's a job. It's a job. And it gets to be a lot because you got to be consistent. These women are not housewives. Again, like I said with Candace, she talks about women not working and letting them. She's working. She's working when she's in that camera, flying to other countries to speak and do all that. She's not a housewife. These women are pimping y'all and to stay in home under the submission of men while they get the bag from selling you a lifestyle. Because the true trad wives. are not working. They're not on camera for you to see. YouTube is a job. If you're getting paid in sponsorships from TikTok, it's a job. I don't do sponsorships. I've never seen me doing sponsorships because them contracts, it's a job. I don't even believe in selling stuff to people like that. It's another story. I just don't do it, but it's a job. So don't think these are stay-at-home wives. They're selling you this dream, but they're working. Have your discernment to understand that. Why are you quitting your job going to be with a man right now? If Candace's husband was to step out on her or do whatever, blah, blah, blah, she could leave. If she found out her husband was touching on her children, she could leave and be just fine. She could leave and be just fine financially because she's working. But you who quit everything trying to go back to the great old times, what could you do? A lot of women are in the same situation as a trophy wife, but they can't leave. They don't even call the police because guess what? They ain't got money like the trophy wife started making her own, have her channel and stuff like that. So they got their income. A lot of these women make you believe that they're getting spoiled by men, but they're the ones spoiling themselves. They're buying themselves the bags and the trips and then trying to show you it's a man doing it for them to sell you the lifestyle because y'all gullible and y'all fall for it and look for it and end up in sticky situations. Number two is you are beautiful the way you are. Women have been conditioned to chase after youth and unobtainable beauty. The rise of BBL and philiculture is astounding. There used to be a time when this was not normal. Stars went through great lengths to hide their procedures. but now the average Joe could get fillers and Botox if they wanted to. Young women at the age of 18 are getting procedures done and distorting their faces. Who taught you that you were not enough? Who taught you that you needed to change or reach for a level of perfection that doesn't exist? Everyone looks the same now when you go online. Young women who are 20 are looking 40 years old. I did a video on why this generation is aging like spoiled milk. We're aging bad. Because they got a facelift at 19. Why are you getting a facelift at 19? Why do you need a facelift at 19? So these Love Island ladies are apparently all in their 20s But they're looking older. They don't necessarily look like they're in their 20s, right? I mean more like maybe in their mid to late 30s and we've done some videos On YouTube where we've talked about this with all the different injectables and all the different plastic surgeries that people are getting younger in life they're starting to look older you know and the women who are in their 50s and 60s who are getting you know facelifts and other procedures are starting to look younger so it's almost like everyone's looking like they're in their mid to late 30s and it's almost like this weird regression to the mean but if that's what makes them happy that's good but I think we are kind of losing our youth a little bit as we you know subject people to the same procedures And especially when they're overdone. This is something I like to call filler face. We see this a lot with celebrities that look really snatched on social media. There's a distinct difference in real life without any editing. Their face looks more puffy or kind of pillowy. Why does this happen? So filler is injected into our dermal tissue, but we have a limited amount of space here. And depending on what type of filler you get, some can even last up to two to six years in the skin. So with a lot of injections over time, just too much can be injected into that space, the filler can even begin to migrate, and eventually you could get this puffy look. I've been saying for a really long time that this female obsession with cosmetic procedures shows that we're not in a good place, and finally people are acknowledging something's wrong because women don't really look like human beings anymore. and they're calling it pillow face. Pillow face refers to this new trend where hundreds of thousands of perfectly beautiful, healthy women in trying to become even more beautiful, even more perfect, are literally disfiguring their faces with filler. And not only does filler never really dissolve, which causes pillow face, it also messes with the lymphatic system, which can cause cancer. So even though filler doesn't improve the way we look and it's also a risk to our lives, we women can't stop doing it. Because we've bought into the message that we women have an expiration date and god forbid we show any signs of aging, we become completely irrelevant. So we will do anything to stop that from happening, including disfiguring our faces or risking our lives. You are enough ladies. We need variety. We need different types of beauty. You don't have to be or look like everyone else. I love the 90s. You know why I love the 90s? because everyone looked different especially 90s supermodels from everyone had their own unique beauty some people their crooked nose is what made them famous the gap in between their teeth is not what made them famous not everybody got veneers and perfect straight teeth there's no more gaps there's nothing there everybody got the same shaped nose the same forehead because now you can even change your forehead size the same ears people are even doing ear surgery hand surgery fillers everywhere 90s had unique Beauty. Not everybody. You can't even differentiate people anymore because everyone look the same. Small bums matter. Embrace a small chest. Somebody have to tell you that. Everyone doesn't have to look like a Kardashian. This unfortunately is nothing new. We had stars like Marilyn Monroe and Rita Hayworth and so many that we're getting plastic surgeries. So many stars since the golden age of Hollywood. People make it seem like it's a new thing. This has been going on since the golden age of Hollywood. documentary channel I talk about it all the time plastic surgery was always there but for the stars that's why we thought they were so perfect and then it wasn't that their plastic surgeries weren't botched is that they knew how to manipulate those photos photoshop is not a new thing editing photos is not a new thing on my Merle Oberon video that I did on my documentary channel she had dents in her face from bleaching her skin and doing a whole bunch of stuff dents holes craters that it looked like the moon right but guess what in every photo they made her face look flawless the makeup artist did her makeup in such a way they covered every dent even when she was recording a film they would use the lighting trickery and editing to soften her face she is the reason why editing photos got popularized go learn about it Merle Oberon because yes she had the craze but she was beautiful she was talented so the studios found a way to work around it and edit it So there's nothing new under the sun. Hollywood glamorizes sickness and toxic diet culture. Hollywood has become a noose around our necks. And when have we become so brainless to keep falling for these trends? Everyone is obsessed with beauty and being more beautiful. So many videos on how to be more beautiful, but not enough on how to be mentally elevated, spiritually wise, and financially sound. A big butt can only do so much for you. Full lips will only take you so far. Remember that and love. yourself. Third talking point is let's bring back women who read, women who still have a mysterious charm about them, women who cared about not corrupting the minds of the youth, who has couth and self-respect. Women like Marilyn Monroe made it a point to photograph her self-reading because she wanted desperately for people to see her inner intelligence. She wanted to, in her own way, glamorize and promote for women to be educated and have substance. We are going to come back to Marilyn in a few to show you where she messed up with that, but what's being glamorized today is horrific. I saw a TikTok of what looked like a four-year-old little girl twerking to sexy red. A song that was talking about the vagina. I was so shocked. But guess what? So many women, it was women in the comments, were encouraging this behavior and calling anyone speaking against this as too puritanical and too uptight. And you know who that fan base is? A lot of these women's kids. Your daughters, your sons. I don't really have much to say about it. Because like I said, the way they acted when I simply called out the fact that she was an agent of chaos. And she has constantly been perpetuating the most negative, disgusting stereotypes about black women since she dropped. And it just continues. They love this. They told me that this is the representation that they wanted. So I hope that they are getting the representation that they feel like they needed, right? Because this is what they wanted. This is what they fought for. I can't wait for their children to be walking around with these lip glosses on and I hope that they are proud. Lip gloss brand and the names for my lip gloss is something that nobody would have ever thought of. I got one called Nut and it's the color of some nut. I got one called Gonorrhea. It's green like gonorrhea. I got one called yellow discharge. Like hot girls be having yellow discharge. Whole pink, whole brown. And clear with silver glitter. It's cute like this. Cute and it smell good. And it's so. A four-year-old twerking online. And she was singing along to vulgar music that she had no business listening to. let alone memorizing. Because for her to memorize it, she had to have listened to it multiple times. Social media has become like an adult explicit site with content that should concern us all. The less you wear, the more likes and engagement you get. Women start to believe that somehow this means they are a catch, desirable, and men just can't help themselves but to fall in love with them. When in fact, these men are just picking up easy fruit. If you see a mango, let me give you guys this analogy as a Caribbean woman, okay? I know what I'm talking about with my mangoes. If you see a mango tree with ripe, juicy mangoes at the top branches and some unripe mangoes at the lower branches or on the ground even, more would grab the lower hanging fruit or pick one off the ground because it requires less effort and work. But once they realize that the low hanging fruit is just not as filling or sweet, eventually you go the extra mile, grab a ladder or long stick and start to aim for the ripe, juicy mango in the tops of the branches. As a Caribbean who grew up around mango trees, my favorite fruit, I know what I'm talking about, okay? The best fruit are... always at the top of the tree because they get more sunlight, more nutrients. The lower the fruit is, the less sweet it will be. The lower the quality, that's where the term low-hanging fruit comes from. Because people know at the tree, whatever fruit is at the top will always taste better, have more nutrient value, more filling, and higher quality. That's just a fact. See, many women are low-hanging fruit. So they have all kinds of people that reach for them because they are easy to obtain. You don't need a ladder. You don't need a stick to just grab the low hanging fruit. You don't. But when a man wants a good thing, a more feeling thing, he will do the work necessary to get to you. And when he gets you, he will see just how bad the low hanging fruit was. See, men don't need to have their resources up to get you. Now, many times in the Haitian culture, it's tradition now to know this generation. I don't know, Western society has started to corrupt even the Caribbean's and all these places too. But I know all the women around me that are married, their husband had to get their resources up to marry them. Like the parents were not gonna let you marry their daughter if you couldn't provide a home for her, a car, none of those things, right? And the daughters could not get married if they didn't have a degree. And in Haiti, you either had to be a nurse, doctor, or lawyer. Those are the three main things you gotta be. So all Haitian women. when they come here most fields they go to is to be a nurse if you hate your comment below you know what I'm talking about so the woman knows you got to get your resources up to get me and you got to have high quality that's how it used to be I'm not speaking about how it is now so men had to go get their resources to get the woman they had to get their things together I'm not talking about high value in the context of oh super millionaire spoiling me no but he had to be able to provide his children had to not be in need these men will be working minimum wage jobs, even in Haiti, and have three homes. They're paying for their home with their family, paying for their kids'homes and all this in their minimum wage job. There was some hardworking men. That's the culture I grew up in. But now, today's women, the men don't have to have resources if you're low-hanging fruit. They don't need to go get a ladder to get to the top or a stick or climb the tree or work hard to get to the food at the top. They could just reach out and grab you. So that means any low-quality man. Spiritually, physically, mentally can just come out and reach out and grab you. And you make yourself so easy. This is why I said rise up. This is why a man will play in your face all day and boom, within just three months, marry this brand new woman he just met and leave you in the dust. You led with your sexuality. It's the same with society. Women who get their fame from being overtly sensual, their fame always fade. I have done so many documentaries on women like this on my documentary channel. The women who get their fame from sheer talent and personality last longer in the industry because guess what? People do eventually get tired of you. They do start to see it for what it is. They move on to the next young hot maiden in the scene. But a woman of substance, her beauty is lasting. This is why Marilyn Monroe, as she started to get older, wanted to glamorize reading as much as she could and was writing poetry, etc. She saw her beauty fading. and the public losing interest, and she herself grew tired of being a sensual icon. She saw her role in glamorizing two young girls to lead with their looks, and it tormented her day and night. But by the time she realized this, it was too late. No one cared about her intelligence. They just wanted to see her with her clothes off. I also did a video about bringing back shame, which I will put in the end cards also. But learn from these women and those who came before us. Not everyone is jealous. Not everyone wants your life. I want better for us as a whole. You know, I see women that post a certain way and it's like, dang, they really think if you say something, you're jealous. you know you just mind your business but deep down there's a point you get and like I said I'm speaking because I lived I used to wear the mini revealing stuff too okay I was doing it too and I thought I was doing something and I just feel sorry because I know where my mind was at at that time where I was at mentally but I was arrogant I thought I was good I thought I knew better I thought I was happy you couldn't tell me nothing somebody give me a speech one ear out the other because what girl you you're just hating you couldn't tell me nothing i will fight you back try to tell me about how i'm dressing how i'm presenting myself who you think you are that was me that was me but now i'm where i'm at and i'm like oh my goodness and i know one day these women will wake up and they will see no one's jealous yeah there might be some that are jealous there might because they wish you know whatever but not everyone is you Some people really just want better for you. I want young ladies to start elevating mentally and spiritually and stop giving these vulgar artists your money to help further influence the youth. Stop liking their posts. Stop engaging with them. And let's change the narrative for our future daughters. Imagine what life would be like if everyone just decided artists like Sexy Red, Christian Rocks, and all those, they just stop going to their concerts. Stop buying their albums. Stop supporting them. You want to keep talking about bending over? letting your vagina breathe, you're not getting my coins. And I'm going to make sure my children don't support that either. Imagine how different that would be. But y'all be on this video, thumbs up. Y'all be commenting, preach, Kareem. And you're still going to be following these people, engaging with them. You're still going to be listening to their music on that ride out with your girls, supporting them, giving them your streams. And you think it's just me? What can I do? Everyone's thinking like you. Everyone's thinking it's just me. There was a quote that said, a grain of sand never feels responsible for a sandstorm. Think of that. A grain of sand never feels responsible for playing a role in a mountain. It's a million grains of sand that creates a sandstorm. So when you have that mentality that, you know, it's just me. Think of the mountain. Every grain of sand is an individual. Think of it that way. And we as people, if all the grains of sand started to see themselves as uniquely responsible, things would change. Number four is who you have a baby with matters. Who you marry matters. Who you shack up with matters. Who you sleep with matters. I've been seeing so many successful and beautiful famous women get knocked up lately by men who publicly humiliate these women. Cheat on them. Don't marry them. and are even using these women, taking advantage of them financially. Please don't be dazzled and seduced by the media glamorizing this image. You have Nick Cannon getting gorgeous women pregnant for sport. And especially in the black media, women like Sexy Red, Skai Jackson, Summer Walker, Christian Rocks, getting pregnant and trivializing it. These women are gorgeous and you're like, do you know how gorgeous you are? Do you know how beautiful you are? How talented you are? Do you know? Women are more concerned about lavish baby showers than an actual wedding and two-parent homes. They are telling these young women that marriage is not important and it's okay. Every time you get a new boyfriend, like Summer Walker, then you can have another baby. And this is not judgment. This is not judgment. This is facts. And I did a video about judgment too. Righteous judgment, biblically. We are called to righteously judge. But this is not even judgment or condemnation. This is what's being exploited to your children and is shifting this new generation. This new generation is trivializing birth. You know you will never get the marriage you wanted from that man. So you go all out on the baby shower, making it so lavish to compensate for the dream wedding that will never happen. You're not thinking of the mental health of that baby as they get older. to be raised in a broken home, fatherless homes, or even if you eventually get married with another man who adopts a child, this child has to get enough therapy or special attention to not feel second best to the children you end up having with your new husband. You want your what? Hey! I've seen 2 million baby showers and zero weddings. Why do we keep doing this? So many blasted baby showers and no weddings. I'm not made for this generation. I'm not made for this generation. I actually feel like I might have to kill my dream of having a family and just get money instead because what is this? What is this? No sir, I didn't sign up for this. My mom died young, right? My dad went and married, had other children and guess what? You always feel, especially for the older and the younger ones come after. You always feel second best when those new kids come around with the new wife or the new husband. Comment below if you can relate. If you are a product of that, you know how you felt. Why put kids through that? No matter how good the man is, he adopts your kids, love the kids like it's your own. There's a piece of you that wish your real mom Your real dad was present and they were together and it torments you. And we're putting kids through that nonstop. It's glamorized nonstop. These kids got to grow up in these broken homes and y'all continue to support people like Nick Cannon, watch his shows and his backwards ideology. These football players with top hats reaching to the sky, speaking like this to young men. These men thinking that money is what gives them value to treat women any kind of way. It's criminal. You're a criminal. It's criminal to believe that your money gives you a green pass to treat people any kind of way. Women understand that even if you dodge and escape getting pregnant, you have just attached a soul to yourself and now you're so tied to a man who couldn't care less about you. And I did two videos on soul ties. what soul ties are and how to break soul ties all in my all things spiritual playlist. Go check that out. You now losing hair, getting back acne, snapping on people, losing your self-esteem, and even going to therapy to recover from narcissistic abuse, all because you didn't think it mattered who you laid with or entertained. You see, ladies, it is that deep. Everything is really that deep. Who you entertain, where you go. what you do really is that deep. Entertaining the wrong man, sleeping with the wrong man, giving the wrong man a chance. Being so desperate that you rush into something God never called you to, to be in, can really destroy your life. It can leave a lifetime of unimaginable hurt. Now the fifth and final is bring back mysterious charm. Move in silence. Leave a little more to the imagination. Start acknowledging God in all your ways and lean not to your own understanding. Acknowledge him for your future husband, your future career. Don't just manifest things, ladies. Don't just try to will things and speak things into the universe and stuff. Your own will. And some people get so, they manifest, they see it working, they get so arrogant and start to do it more and be like, I am the king of the jungle, I this and that. And then later on you see it's a new sign that anything you get from your own will. will never end right. Trust me, I used to manifest. I used to manifest, try to do things my own way, and it worked. It worked. And then, when God calls you out of it, call you out of it. Now, if God don't say move, I ain't moving. Every door is remaining closed until he showed me he opened that door. Trust me, I ain't moving. I'm learning every day more and more not to depend on myself at all my own intelligence my own wisdom let alone another human who's gonna die and perish and be buried one day too a human that's gonna poop just like me that farts burt just like me I'm not gonna follow after you I'm gonna acknowledge God that's it that's all that's all and i know it sounds crazy but look at the evidence evidence is all around you when we go astray i know this video like i said it's a tough tough truth but it's love it's love i want my older women watching that's lived that's gone through it leave comments below And tell these young women how it really is. Because a lot of this stuff is happening because y'all not speaking up. Y'all not sharing y'all stories. Y'all gatekeeping what you went through. And these young women are walking into traps. These young women are being lost because the older generation refuse to speak up, refuse to share their stories, refuse to testify of what they've been through, what they got out of. So these young women are listening to other young women, the blind leading the blind. It is because of older women in my life, and it's making me so emotional. God is so good that he brought these old women in my life that spoke up, that I avoided so much, that were okay with mentoring me. You're an older woman, go mentor these young women. Speak to them. Don't judge them. Don't just look at what they wear and how they dress, because you done lived too. You just now got better. You were in that life too at one point, and even if you weren't, understand how tough it is in this generation. to go down the broad way. The path to hell feels like heaven and the path to heaven feels like hell. Understand it's tough in these perilous times, these social media times to walk the straight and narrow. Instead of judging these young women, tell them your stories. You want to tell them about, oh don't get, don't terminate pregnancies, don't do this, don't do that. People who do that, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But you're not telling them how many you terminated. And this is why you feel so passionately about this. Why are you preaching abstinence and celibacy? Tell them your stories. That has more of an impact instead of just telling somebody not to do something. When you raise a child, you don't want them to do something. Tell them why. Tell them why you don't want them to just sleep with the first boy that comes and compliments them. Oh, you got pretty eyes. Now you're in the bathroom stall giving them. head. I don't mean to be vulgar. This is what's out there. I was in school here. I was in middle school with kids that were 10, 11 years old in the back of the bleachers giving grown man top because they complimented them or because they bought them a Happy Meal. In high school, there was 27-year-olds, 30-year-olds, even 40-year-olds picking up 16-year-old girls. 15 year old girls that were pregnant by them after school they'd all be there and none of these older women would tell these girls why they should avoid this hey I got pregnant by this man when I was 15 he was 47 and I had to give up that child to my aunt who now pretends to be the mother and it's broken my heart since because I don't want to come back into this child's life and ruin it Don't do the mistake that I did. Tell your story. Tell your story. I've terminated probably over 10 kids. Tell them that. Why? Because time and time again, I kept thinking, all these people love me, but I didn't want to ruin my life. Tell them. You was in a relationship you weren't supposed to be in with a married man who already had kids. You didn't want to ruin your reputation or his life. But you didn't want to end the relationship with him either, thinking that eventually it'll get better. Maybe you knew it would never be better. And every time you got pregnant by this man, you terminated his kids until the total, you can't even count. You can't even remember how many children you terminated. Tell them your story. Because it's the young generation that's fallen. They're arrogant. They think they know better because no one is sharing their stories. And when you speak to them, they think you're uppity, you're uptight, you're puritanical, you're doing too much, you're judgmental, you're critical, but they don't know you're speaking from hurt. They don't know you're speaking from things you've experienced, you've seen with your peers. You don't know how many friends I have that were kids getting pregnant by grown men. Kids, I live this. I had a friend that was 16 on her third child. by a grown man left her mother's house to live with this man in high school and us kids saw nothing wrong with it because we thought we were grown what advice i was gonna give her i thought she was grown i thought she knew better and some adults at the school knew they knew what was happening they said nothing they didn't protect these girls These other women, our coaches and all that, they said nothing. Everybody just mind their business and protect themselves. That's the society we live. It's no longer a village. It's no longer a village. Everybody, every man to himself. And this is why society is in a decline. People are scared to call things out. It's no longer a village. It used to be you cared about other people's kids when you saw them. You're an auntie to all. You're an uncle to all. You protect the kids. But now everybody is to themselves protecting their own reputations, protecting their own image. and y'all don't want to tell y'all stories some of y'all have platforms and y'all don't want to tell y'all stories i'm speaking to somebody you're watching you know i'm speaking to you because it's in your heart you're being convicted that you have platforms that you could help many and you're refusing to tell your story fear of what so what you get canceled by arrogant people they'll see eventually you know how many people i get so messages on instagram oh i used to hate how you speak i said I thought you were so arrogant, da, da, da. But now, you know, blah, blah, blah. There was one young lady. She sent me a long, long paragraph, hateful words. Just, oh, you're so this, you're so that, da, da, da, da. And then probably a year later, she came and followed me, sent me a message. Hey, Korean, I love you so much, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I love your content, this and that, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then... I'm about to, oh, thank you. I scroll up like, oh, she messaged me before and I saw the hate. Before I could even respond, she was like, I'm sorry for what I said before. I'm just realizing that, oh my goodness, so much has changed in a year for me mentally. You can get canceled today by the same people that will love you tomorrow. Speak your truth. Don't sugarcoat it. These people will remember. They may be resistant now because many times I heard the message. I'm telling you people used to tell me don't dress like that. That boy don't love me for real. I'd be resistant. But guess what? Who's preaching to you now? Who's preaching to you now? Thank God these people didn't give up on me. Thank God. So speak your truth. Share with people that need to hear the message and don't care. Why do you care? Many of messages, I'll stumble upon convicting messages and I'm like, if I send this to this person, they're going to think that, but I know they could benefit from it. Send it to them anyway. Send it. Because it was getting videos like this, messages like this from people that saved me. People that weren't afraid to tell me like it is, tell me the truth. That saved me. I'm not going to make this video much longer than it is because it is voiceover. But this is all I have to say. I love you guys so much. Leave a fire emoji in the comments if you watch until the end. And please share your stories, man. Share your stories. I will see you in the next one.

I didn't realize that. the person I married was actually going to be my biggest nightmare. I really thought that that man was my Prince Charming. You know, he portrayed himself to be this amazing, upright, righteous Christian man. And I believed him.

I think shortly after we got married, and this is something that I haven't talked about, I started noticing certain things changed with him. Six weeks ago, I was changing my daughter, my four-year-old daughter. I noticed that when I changed her, she was red and very sensitive immediately. My first thought was, did someone touch her?

I asked her, I said, baby, did somebody touch you? And she ended up saying it was daddy. I felt like my world ended on that day. And I just instantly started trying to think of how I could get my kids out of the house. A police officer escorted...

The kids and I to another hospital where they were able to evaluate my daughters. It ended up coming out that he had actually been touching both of my daughters. We're only two and four years old.

My worst nightmare. I myself am a product of R.A.P.E. That's how I came to be. It was also, you know... It's a child, a neighbor's husband, and he knows, he knows how much I cannot stand.

men like him. This video is not to point the finger or judge anyone but this message may cut through the hearts and minds of some like a hot knife piercing you to the bone but I want you guys to know it is coming from a place of love and desperation for our young and beautiful women living in today's times. I have been heartbroken to see just how far we have fallen as a gender and I'm only speaking to women in this video because I am a woman.

I also have lived okay. I have done many things I was not proud of. I've promoted a lot of stuff in the past that I would not even dream of promoting now.

I'm speaking to myself first because I am an imperfect human learning to pick up my cross every day and be better. So I don't want you to watch this video ready to point the fingers at others but look at how it applies to you. But women, we have to change the narratives. We have to raise our values and we must care because we determine the state of the world. We determine the future.

In today's video, I will talk about the unfortunate situation that happened with the trophy wife, but I will also have five key messages for women living in this new age. We can see what lessons we can learn and take from this from the future. But first, hey friend, welcome to my channel, Kareem Aloud Mental Gems. This channel is dedicated to leveling up in all areas of your life.

So let us learn together, read together, but most importantly, grow together. Now, without further ado, let's get into this video. Before I get into the five main messages and lessons for women, because I really want this video to be more of educational and not, you know, what everybody else is trying to make it be.

Let's talk about the situation a little bit. So this young lady, beautiful young lady, beautiful, had great intentions, I'm sure, very pure intentions and trying to level up women and trying to. you know, get you to marry up, et cetera, and polish yourself or find yourself and all of this.

And I'm sure her intentions were really, really good. And she really thought, you know, I've hit the jackpot with this man, as she stated in her video, she made her content surrounded around her marriage and just want everyone to experience that same love or spoilage and this and that. Right. on this channel before i have spoken before where i said especially in my witches and witchcraft crystals love spells video where we talk about that culture you know on tiktok of women now even teaching other women how to do love spells to get a high value man how to do spells to get a high value man like it's gotten to the point where women in today's age are so stuck on marrying up leveling up that they're going to the occult world to do love spells to get the man that they want and being a Haitian from Haiti I showed you guys in that video and clips how those things backfire how they come back and they don't it don't work out how you want it to work out when you work like that and taking advice from witches on how to bag a man and how to manipulate to get a man taking advice from people you that are using manipulative tactics, and you're allowing that to come into your space, your body, your mind, your mental psyche, it's transforming you, and you think you're going down the right path. You're no longer, women are no longer vetting men, you know, to be good spirited or whatever.

They just, hey, if he has money, there's even the advice that ugly men are generous. Seriously? Like, women, go marry an ugly man, because they're generous.

They'll take care of you. They'll this, they'll that. And it'd be those same men that end up, you know, having their way with your children or, you know, doing things that aren't, you know. Women are no longer praying for their spouses or having patience and waiting on God.

Women are no longer wanting men that are not only just providers alone, but have good characters, good morals that stand on business about justice and what's right. That is not money and power hungry by any means necessary. Right. Women will.

date a man that will do anything to get the money, right? Power hungry, money hungry, and then get so confused once he starts to treat you bad or mistreat you and what's going on in your life, your family, your friends, etc. Become controlling or find another young hot thing, you know? Many times I talk about this on this channel and a lot of people had pushback and thought I was being pretty negative, you know, when I'm telling women go get an education, have the bag for yourself. It is 2020. five basically there's only a couple days left before 2025 please stop thinking that in this new age things are no longer like it was in a biblical where women were just stay-at-home wives in this economy you need you need unless your husband is a super multi-millionaire and he's okay with that life and even then you should have rainy day for yourself you need some form of income to make the house go.

You need a two-income household, especially in this economy, right? Women should have savings for a rainy day. There's so many examples in the Bible, like the widow that lost her husband, and Elijah came to her house, and she was able to sell to provide for her and her kid after the bread and dough. Even the Proverbs 31 woman, she goes to the gates to sell the clothes that she's made.

Many instances in the Bible, like Lydia, it was selling cloths of purple and stuff. There was a lot of businesswomen in the Bible. OK, even in the Bible, they were married, but they were still businesswomen. Were they just head of household?

People think when you tell women to go get an education or to have money for themselves, that you're telling them to be men, that you're telling them to be masculine. And I did a video about why we don't have to compete with men. Long time ago.

I can pin that in the comments for you guys to go check out that you don't have to compete with men. No one is saying when we tell you guys to go get an education, to have for yourself, to not be super dependent. We're not telling you to be men or to not be submissive to your husband. Far be it from me to ever go against the Bible. Y'all know I'm not going to do that.

To tell you guys now you're the head of household, you running the man, you're talking to me kind of way. That's not even what I'm saying. But I'm saying many times in the Bible, these widows, things happen.

Their husbands would die from war. What do you think they did if their fathers and brothers, no one would take them in their house? What do you think they did? What did you think these women did in the Bible times?

They went and sold in the marketplaces. Who you think was selling in the marketplaces? Who you think was selling in the marketplaces?

Even during biblical times, it was these women. They worked too. And there was never a time in history, I always tell you guys that, where women, especially black women, were not working.

There was never a good old day for women. Every time women say, oh, I'm so mad at whatever women decided they want equal rights because I just want it. It shows me the lack of education and ignorance that there's people with college degrees, with huge platforms. There was some a time where it was good for women, especially as a Black woman, especially as Black women. We were always working, raising other people's kids, cleaning other people's homes.

You never had it good. And if we went back like some of these women would want. Honey, you would not have a platform. I would not be here speaking to you if we're back in those days. Whether we were elderly, sick, married or mothers, we have always been expected to toil.

There has never been a time in this country's history when the labor of Black women was not an expectation. In the 1900s, Black women were dehumanized not only as economic and reproductive property, but also as a disposable commodity. They were forced to...

provide white men with outlet that in turn allowed them to protect the purity of their white wives. Doing so both hyper and defeminized them because it made the white women virtuous and pure and the enslaved woman lustful and vicious. Enslaved societies also had a deep division of labor between enslaved and white women. Enslaved women were expected to show strength and stamina in the fields while white women actually had a lot of power and powerlessness. ideally did little or no outdoors work.

In the antebellum South, for example, black women who were thought to be subhuman by their white masters were not protected from violence. They were seen as beasts in the fields who did not need their bodies and virtue protected, while white women were seen as true women based on their roles in the home and their traits of innocence and weakness. But enslaved black women never got the chance to display the traits attributed to white women because they were always in the public sphere of work and never allowed in the private sphere of a home.

Also, when punished, they were often forced to be n***ed, which contributed to their dehumanization and stripped away any of their femininity. On the flip side, white women were dressed head to toe, which ensured their nobility and womanhood. And so, black women were not treated like true women, aka white women.

Instead, they were treated like black men. Consequently, the stereotypes that started to emerge surrounding black women, that they were n***ed, promiscuous and aggressive were used to justify the atrocities committed against them. Let's talk about the nine things that women could not do until the 1970s. Financial freedom.

It wasn't until 1974 that all women in America were allowed to get a checking account, a credit card and a loan from a bank without the cosigning of a man, which is why so many women had to marry right out of high school in order to build any kind of wealth. It wasn't until 1978 that women were not allowed to be discriminated in the workplace simply because they were pregnant. A lot of employers wouldn't hire a woman if she was pregnant, and they would fire women if they found out they got pregnant. It wasn't until 1973 that all women in all 50 states were allowed to serve on a jury and voice their opinion with judicial matters. It wasn't until the 1970s that the Ivy League colleges and universities...

started to accept all women in all their programs. It wasn't until 1977 when women were allowed to sue for sexual harassment in the workplace. Before that, they just had to put up with it. It wasn't until 1993 that women could file charges against their husbands for graping them.

Before that, husbands could grape their wives as much as they wanted to. It wasn't until 2010 that insurance companies were required to charge women and men the same price. Because they were always charging women more for health insurance simply because we lived longer and we were more proactive about our health care, went to the doctors more and had babies.

And even white women, they were at home, yeah, the husband was taking care, but guess what? They had no autonomy over themselves. These women were miserable, unhappy, the despicable crimes they went to.

Go learn about the suffrage movement. Go actually learn history about how it was for women. These women were not happy. You would not have been happy. These men had all the power.

They knew they could have multiple women on you. What could you do? Nothing about it.

They knew you didn't have money or any place else to go. So they treated you however. It was rare to find a good man.

So much so the Bible had to constantly remind men, love your wives like I love the church. God had to constantly remind men to love their wives. That's how much power men had. Even the idea of polygamy was never something that the Lord wanted.

Men after their own hearts could not even control themselves. And I was reading Solomon today and the ending of his life and how he 700 wives, 300 concubines. And as he got old, the Bible said, as he got old, these women turned his heart away from God. And this was what God was saying.

He never intended for this. And so I don't push that culture. I don't encourage it. When I say go get your education, go make something of yourself. I mean that.

I've experienced, I've witnessed a lot. I've witnessed a lot. And this is why I'm cautious. I'm not letting, because once you get to a certain age, there's even comments when you give these advice.

for married women that would be like you're not even married i'm not taking advice i'm like wow like it's like an insult to women if you're not married yet and you don't have kids by the age of 25 or something and it's like wow it's an insult and those same women i i really strongly believe because the married older woman in my life i was fortunate enough for god to put some very good married older women in my life that told me like it is yes i love my husband but sis take your time go to school get your education live your life Okay Okay, wait on the Lord. Don't be pressured. Don't let society bully you into wanting to settle so quick. This is a lifelong commitment. I don't intend to marry to divorce.

This is a lifelong commitment. Who you marry matters. This is who will raise your children. Their character will be your children's character.

These person can destroy your children, destroy your life, take years from your life. They can bring you back diseases. They can ruin you financially, spiritually, mentally, physically. It's a big commitment. Who you have kids with is an even bigger commitment.

But people take it so lightly and we're going to talk about that. So I didn't want to talk about just how unfortunate the situation is. It broke my heart. She's so beautiful, right? And this is why I say, ladies, it is a form of witchcraft to use manipulation to get a man. to manifest a man your own will what you want and it's not pretty a lot of these women that manifested and they're telling you their life oh we're so happy and they're showing you all the highlight roles of their life they're embarrassed to ever come on here and tell you what they're really enduring because when you try to manifest things you're trying to do things in your own will not the will of god what you want you're not even praying over it is what you want and you're using manipulation and manipulation is the lowest form of witchcraft it's the basest form and i'm telling you guys i'm not just speaking to speak i came from this lifestyle don't indulge in this don't practice this do not listen to people who practice it pray and wait on the lord for your spouse be skeptical of everyone even if he has an image of a of a lamb trust me They come in and lamb wolves.

They'll cover themselves in the guard of a lamb because even Satan can transform himself into an angel of light. Even he. OK.

And a lot of times people are like, but he knows God. He's a man of God. He knows Satan knew God to Lucifer knew God. He was in heaven. He was in heaven with God.

Third ranking in heaven. And yet he still fell. Trust me, take heed to that warning. Stop listening to people with the advice.

I always tell you guys, pray over who you listen to. I don't care how good they sound. Pray over even me.

Pray that the Lord guides you and who you listen to and take advice from or whose life you envy. You're looking at these people. You're envying their lives.

and their lives is a pit of darkness dressed up with lipstick and it's not what you think it is i've lived long enough i know i look young but i'm not that young trust me i'm not that young i've lived long enough to witness a lot to see a lot and oftentimes the people you think are the happiest are the most miserable okay i know this was a long intro about this but let me get into the five key points and we're gonna go through these quickly Message for women in these perilous times. First, marriage is not the end all be all. And stop this marrying for the bag nonsense.

Y'all see what happened. Y'all understand. Y'all hear the stories. All this trad wife. I've avoided speaking about that too.

This super housewifey making 1940s glamour image. They're still working. Those trad wives that are on TikTok, YouTube, creating meals every car.

Yo, they're work. It's a job. It's a job.

And it gets to be a lot because you got to be consistent. These women are not housewives. Again, like I said with Candace, she talks about women not working and letting them. She's working.

She's working when she's in that camera, flying to other countries to speak and do all that. She's not a housewife. These women are pimping y'all and to stay in home under the submission of men while they get the bag from selling you a lifestyle.

Because the true trad wives. are not working. They're not on camera for you to see. YouTube is a job. If you're getting paid in sponsorships from TikTok, it's a job.

I don't do sponsorships. I've never seen me doing sponsorships because them contracts, it's a job. I don't even believe in selling stuff to people like that.

It's another story. I just don't do it, but it's a job. So don't think these are stay-at-home wives.

They're selling you this dream, but they're working. Have your discernment to understand that. Why are you quitting your job going to be with a man right now?

If Candace's husband was to step out on her or do whatever, blah, blah, blah, she could leave. If she found out her husband was touching on her children, she could leave and be just fine. She could leave and be just fine financially because she's working.

But you who quit everything trying to go back to the great old times, what could you do? A lot of women are in the same situation as a trophy wife, but they can't leave. They don't even call the police because guess what? They ain't got money like the trophy wife started making her own, have her channel and stuff like that. So they got their income.

A lot of these women make you believe that they're getting spoiled by men, but they're the ones spoiling themselves. They're buying themselves the bags and the trips and then trying to show you it's a man doing it for them to sell you the lifestyle because y'all gullible and y'all fall for it and look for it and end up in sticky situations. Number two is you are beautiful the way you are.

Women have been conditioned to chase after youth and unobtainable beauty. The rise of BBL and philiculture is astounding. There used to be a time when this was not normal. Stars went through great lengths to hide their procedures. but now the average Joe could get fillers and Botox if they wanted to.

Young women at the age of 18 are getting procedures done and distorting their faces. Who taught you that you were not enough? Who taught you that you needed to change or reach for a level of perfection that doesn't exist? Everyone looks the same now when you go online. Young women who are 20 are looking 40 years old.

I did a video on why this generation is aging like spoiled milk. We're aging bad. Because they got a facelift at 19. Why are you getting a facelift at 19?

Why do you need a facelift at 19? So these Love Island ladies are apparently all in their 20s But they're looking older. They don't necessarily look like they're in their 20s, right?

I mean more like maybe in their mid to late 30s and we've done some videos On YouTube where we've talked about this with all the different injectables and all the different plastic surgeries that people are getting younger in life they're starting to look older you know and the women who are in their 50s and 60s who are getting you know facelifts and other procedures are starting to look younger so it's almost like everyone's looking like they're in their mid to late 30s and it's almost like this weird regression to the mean but if that's what makes them happy that's good but I think we are kind of losing our youth a little bit as we you know subject people to the same procedures And especially when they're overdone. This is something I like to call filler face. We see this a lot with celebrities that look really snatched on social media. There's a distinct difference in real life without any editing.

Their face looks more puffy or kind of pillowy. Why does this happen? So filler is injected into our dermal tissue, but we have a limited amount of space here.

And depending on what type of filler you get, some can even last up to two to six years in the skin. So with a lot of injections over time, just too much can be injected into that space, the filler can even begin to migrate, and eventually you could get this puffy look. I've been saying for a really long time that this female obsession with cosmetic procedures shows that we're not in a good place, and finally people are acknowledging something's wrong because women don't really look like human beings anymore. and they're calling it pillow face. Pillow face refers to this new trend where hundreds of thousands of perfectly beautiful, healthy women in trying to become even more beautiful, even more perfect, are literally disfiguring their faces with filler.

And not only does filler never really dissolve, which causes pillow face, it also messes with the lymphatic system, which can cause cancer. So even though filler doesn't improve the way we look and it's also a risk to our lives, we women can't stop doing it. Because we've bought into the message that we women have an expiration date and god forbid we show any signs of aging, we become completely irrelevant. So we will do anything to stop that from happening, including disfiguring our faces or risking our lives.

You are enough ladies. We need variety. We need different types of beauty.

You don't have to be or look like everyone else. I love the 90s. You know why I love the 90s? because everyone looked different especially 90s supermodels from everyone had their own unique beauty some people their crooked nose is what made them famous the gap in between their teeth is not what made them famous not everybody got veneers and perfect straight teeth there's no more gaps there's nothing there everybody got the same shaped nose the same forehead because now you can even change your forehead size the same ears people are even doing ear surgery hand surgery fillers everywhere 90s had unique Beauty.

Not everybody. You can't even differentiate people anymore because everyone look the same. Small bums matter. Embrace a small chest. Somebody have to tell you that.

Everyone doesn't have to look like a Kardashian. This unfortunately is nothing new. We had stars like Marilyn Monroe and Rita Hayworth and so many that we're getting plastic surgeries. So many stars since the golden age of Hollywood.

People make it seem like it's a new thing. This has been going on since the golden age of Hollywood. documentary channel I talk about it all the time plastic surgery was always there but for the stars that's why we thought they were so perfect and then it wasn't that their plastic surgeries weren't botched is that they knew how to manipulate those photos photoshop is not a new thing editing photos is not a new thing on my Merle Oberon video that I did on my documentary channel she had dents in her face from bleaching her skin and doing a whole bunch of stuff dents holes craters that it looked like the moon right but guess what in every photo they made her face look flawless the makeup artist did her makeup in such a way they covered every dent even when she was recording a film they would use the lighting trickery and editing to soften her face she is the reason why editing photos got popularized go learn about it Merle Oberon because yes she had the craze but she was beautiful she was talented so the studios found a way to work around it and edit it So there's nothing new under the sun. Hollywood glamorizes sickness and toxic diet culture.

Hollywood has become a noose around our necks. And when have we become so brainless to keep falling for these trends? Everyone is obsessed with beauty and being more beautiful.

So many videos on how to be more beautiful, but not enough on how to be mentally elevated, spiritually wise, and financially sound. A big butt can only do so much for you. Full lips will only take you so far. Remember that and love.

yourself. Third talking point is let's bring back women who read, women who still have a mysterious charm about them, women who cared about not corrupting the minds of the youth, who has couth and self-respect. Women like Marilyn Monroe made it a point to photograph her self-reading because she wanted desperately for people to see her inner intelligence.

She wanted to, in her own way, glamorize and promote for women to be educated and have substance. We are going to come back to Marilyn in a few to show you where she messed up with that, but what's being glamorized today is horrific. I saw a TikTok of what looked like a four-year-old little girl twerking to sexy red.

A song that was talking about the vagina. I was so shocked. But guess what? So many women, it was women in the comments, were encouraging this behavior and calling anyone speaking against this as too puritanical and too uptight. And you know who that fan base is?

A lot of these women's kids. Your daughters, your sons. I don't really have much to say about it.

Because like I said, the way they acted when I simply called out the fact that she was an agent of chaos. And she has constantly been perpetuating the most negative, disgusting stereotypes about black women since she dropped. And it just continues. They love this.

They told me that this is the representation that they wanted. So I hope that they are getting the representation that they feel like they needed, right? Because this is what they wanted.

This is what they fought for. I can't wait for their children to be walking around with these lip glosses on and I hope that they are proud. Lip gloss brand and the names for my lip gloss is something that nobody would have ever thought of. I got one called Nut and it's the color of some nut. I got one called Gonorrhea.

It's green like gonorrhea. I got one called yellow discharge. Like hot girls be having yellow discharge.

Whole pink, whole brown. And clear with silver glitter. It's cute like this.

Cute and it smell good. And it's so. A four-year-old twerking online.

And she was singing along to vulgar music that she had no business listening to. let alone memorizing. Because for her to memorize it, she had to have listened to it multiple times. Social media has become like an adult explicit site with content that should concern us all. The less you wear, the more likes and engagement you get.

Women start to believe that somehow this means they are a catch, desirable, and men just can't help themselves but to fall in love with them. When in fact, these men are just picking up easy fruit. If you see a mango, let me give you guys this analogy as a Caribbean woman, okay?

I know what I'm talking about with my mangoes. If you see a mango tree with ripe, juicy mangoes at the top branches and some unripe mangoes at the lower branches or on the ground even, more would grab the lower hanging fruit or pick one off the ground because it requires less effort and work. But once they realize that the low hanging fruit is just not as filling or sweet, eventually you go the extra mile, grab a ladder or long stick and start to aim for the ripe, juicy mango in the tops of the branches.

As a Caribbean who grew up around mango trees, my favorite fruit, I know what I'm talking about, okay? The best fruit are... always at the top of the tree because they get more sunlight, more nutrients.

The lower the fruit is, the less sweet it will be. The lower the quality, that's where the term low-hanging fruit comes from. Because people know at the tree, whatever fruit is at the top will always taste better, have more nutrient value, more filling, and higher quality.

That's just a fact. See, many women are low-hanging fruit. So they have all kinds of people that reach for them because they are easy to obtain. You don't need a ladder.

You don't need a stick to just grab the low hanging fruit. You don't. But when a man wants a good thing, a more feeling thing, he will do the work necessary to get to you.

And when he gets you, he will see just how bad the low hanging fruit was. See, men don't need to have their resources up to get you. Now, many times in the Haitian culture, it's tradition now to know this generation. I don't know, Western society has started to corrupt even the Caribbean's and all these places too. But I know all the women around me that are married, their husband had to get their resources up to marry them.

Like the parents were not gonna let you marry their daughter if you couldn't provide a home for her, a car, none of those things, right? And the daughters could not get married if they didn't have a degree. And in Haiti, you either had to be a nurse, doctor, or lawyer. Those are the three main things you gotta be.

So all Haitian women. when they come here most fields they go to is to be a nurse if you hate your comment below you know what I'm talking about so the woman knows you got to get your resources up to get me and you got to have high quality that's how it used to be I'm not speaking about how it is now so men had to go get their resources to get the woman they had to get their things together I'm not talking about high value in the context of oh super millionaire spoiling me no but he had to be able to provide his children had to not be in need these men will be working minimum wage jobs, even in Haiti, and have three homes. They're paying for their home with their family, paying for their kids'homes and all this in their minimum wage job.

There was some hardworking men. That's the culture I grew up in. But now, today's women, the men don't have to have resources if you're low-hanging fruit.

They don't need to go get a ladder to get to the top or a stick or climb the tree or work hard to get to the food at the top. They could just reach out and grab you. So that means any low-quality man.

Spiritually, physically, mentally can just come out and reach out and grab you. And you make yourself so easy. This is why I said rise up. This is why a man will play in your face all day and boom, within just three months, marry this brand new woman he just met and leave you in the dust. You led with your sexuality.

It's the same with society. Women who get their fame from being overtly sensual, their fame always fade. I have done so many documentaries on women like this on my documentary channel.

The women who get their fame from sheer talent and personality last longer in the industry because guess what? People do eventually get tired of you. They do start to see it for what it is.

They move on to the next young hot maiden in the scene. But a woman of substance, her beauty is lasting. This is why Marilyn Monroe, as she started to get older, wanted to glamorize reading as much as she could and was writing poetry, etc.

She saw her beauty fading. and the public losing interest, and she herself grew tired of being a sensual icon. She saw her role in glamorizing two young girls to lead with their looks, and it tormented her day and night. But by the time she realized this, it was too late. No one cared about her intelligence.

They just wanted to see her with her clothes off. I also did a video about bringing back shame, which I will put in the end cards also. But learn from these women and those who came before us.

Not everyone is jealous. Not everyone wants your life. I want better for us as a whole. You know, I see women that post a certain way and it's like, dang, they really think if you say something, you're jealous.

you know you just mind your business but deep down there's a point you get and like I said I'm speaking because I lived I used to wear the mini revealing stuff too okay I was doing it too and I thought I was doing something and I just feel sorry because I know where my mind was at at that time where I was at mentally but I was arrogant I thought I was good I thought I knew better I thought I was happy you couldn't tell me nothing somebody give me a speech one ear out the other because what girl you you're just hating you couldn't tell me nothing i will fight you back try to tell me about how i'm dressing how i'm presenting myself who you think you are that was me that was me but now i'm where i'm at and i'm like oh my goodness and i know one day these women will wake up and they will see no one's jealous yeah there might be some that are jealous there might because they wish you know whatever but not everyone is you Some people really just want better for you. I want young ladies to start elevating mentally and spiritually and stop giving these vulgar artists your money to help further influence the youth. Stop liking their posts.

Stop engaging with them. And let's change the narrative for our future daughters. Imagine what life would be like if everyone just decided artists like Sexy Red, Christian Rocks, and all those, they just stop going to their concerts. Stop buying their albums.

Stop supporting them. You want to keep talking about bending over? letting your vagina breathe, you're not getting my coins. And I'm going to make sure my children don't support that either. Imagine how different that would be.

But y'all be on this video, thumbs up. Y'all be commenting, preach, Kareem. And you're still going to be following these people, engaging with them.

You're still going to be listening to their music on that ride out with your girls, supporting them, giving them your streams. And you think it's just me? What can I do?

Everyone's thinking like you. Everyone's thinking it's just me. There was a quote that said, a grain of sand never feels responsible for a sandstorm.

Think of that. A grain of sand never feels responsible for playing a role in a mountain. It's a million grains of sand that creates a sandstorm.

So when you have that mentality that, you know, it's just me. Think of the mountain. Every grain of sand is an individual. Think of it that way. And we as people, if all the grains of sand started to see themselves as uniquely responsible, things would change.

Number four is who you have a baby with matters. Who you marry matters. Who you shack up with matters. Who you sleep with matters. I've been seeing so many successful and beautiful famous women get knocked up lately by men who publicly humiliate these women.

Cheat on them. Don't marry them. and are even using these women, taking advantage of them financially.

Please don't be dazzled and seduced by the media glamorizing this image. You have Nick Cannon getting gorgeous women pregnant for sport. And especially in the black media, women like Sexy Red, Skai Jackson, Summer Walker, Christian Rocks, getting pregnant and trivializing it.

These women are gorgeous and you're like, do you know how gorgeous you are? Do you know how beautiful you are? How talented you are?

Do you know? Women are more concerned about lavish baby showers than an actual wedding and two-parent homes. They are telling these young women that marriage is not important and it's okay.

Every time you get a new boyfriend, like Summer Walker, then you can have another baby. And this is not judgment. This is not judgment.

This is facts. And I did a video about judgment too. Righteous judgment, biblically.

We are called to righteously judge. But this is not even judgment or condemnation. This is what's being exploited to your children and is shifting this new generation. This new generation is trivializing birth. You know you will never get the marriage you wanted from that man.

So you go all out on the baby shower, making it so lavish to compensate for the dream wedding that will never happen. You're not thinking of the mental health of that baby as they get older. to be raised in a broken home, fatherless homes, or even if you eventually get married with another man who adopts a child, this child has to get enough therapy or special attention to not feel second best to the children you end up having with your new husband. You want your what?

Hey! I've seen 2 million baby showers and zero weddings. Why do we keep doing this? So many blasted baby showers and no weddings. I'm not made for this generation.

I'm not made for this generation. I actually feel like I might have to kill my dream of having a family and just get money instead because what is this? What is this? No sir, I didn't sign up for this. My mom died young, right?

My dad went and married, had other children and guess what? You always feel, especially for the older and the younger ones come after. You always feel second best when those new kids come around with the new wife or the new husband.

Comment below if you can relate. If you are a product of that, you know how you felt. Why put kids through that? No matter how good the man is, he adopts your kids, love the kids like it's your own.

There's a piece of you that wish your real mom Your real dad was present and they were together and it torments you. And we're putting kids through that nonstop. It's glamorized nonstop.

These kids got to grow up in these broken homes and y'all continue to support people like Nick Cannon, watch his shows and his backwards ideology. These football players with top hats reaching to the sky, speaking like this to young men. These men thinking that money is what gives them value to treat women any kind of way.

It's criminal. You're a criminal. It's criminal to believe that your money gives you a green pass to treat people any kind of way.

Women understand that even if you dodge and escape getting pregnant, you have just attached a soul to yourself and now you're so tied to a man who couldn't care less about you. And I did two videos on soul ties. what soul ties are and how to break soul ties all in my all things spiritual playlist.

Go check that out. You now losing hair, getting back acne, snapping on people, losing your self-esteem, and even going to therapy to recover from narcissistic abuse, all because you didn't think it mattered who you laid with or entertained. You see, ladies, it is that deep. Everything is really that deep.

Who you entertain, where you go. what you do really is that deep. Entertaining the wrong man, sleeping with the wrong man, giving the wrong man a chance. Being so desperate that you rush into something God never called you to, to be in, can really destroy your life. It can leave a lifetime of unimaginable hurt.

Now the fifth and final is bring back mysterious charm. Move in silence. Leave a little more to the imagination.

Start acknowledging God in all your ways and lean not to your own understanding. Acknowledge him for your future husband, your future career. Don't just manifest things, ladies.

Don't just try to will things and speak things into the universe and stuff. Your own will. And some people get so, they manifest, they see it working, they get so arrogant and start to do it more and be like, I am the king of the jungle, I this and that. And then later on you see it's a new sign that anything you get from your own will. will never end right.

Trust me, I used to manifest. I used to manifest, try to do things my own way, and it worked. It worked.

And then, when God calls you out of it, call you out of it. Now, if God don't say move, I ain't moving. Every door is remaining closed until he showed me he opened that door. Trust me, I ain't moving. I'm learning every day more and more not to depend on myself at all my own intelligence my own wisdom let alone another human who's gonna die and perish and be buried one day too a human that's gonna poop just like me that farts burt just like me I'm not gonna follow after you I'm gonna acknowledge God that's it that's all that's all and i know it sounds crazy but look at the evidence evidence is all around you when we go astray i know this video like i said it's a tough tough truth but it's love it's love i want my older women watching that's lived that's gone through it leave comments below And tell these young women how it really is.

Because a lot of this stuff is happening because y'all not speaking up. Y'all not sharing y'all stories. Y'all gatekeeping what you went through.

And these young women are walking into traps. These young women are being lost because the older generation refuse to speak up, refuse to share their stories, refuse to testify of what they've been through, what they got out of. So these young women are listening to other young women, the blind leading the blind.

It is because of older women in my life, and it's making me so emotional. God is so good that he brought these old women in my life that spoke up, that I avoided so much, that were okay with mentoring me. You're an older woman, go mentor these young women.

Speak to them. Don't judge them. Don't just look at what they wear and how they dress, because you done lived too. You just now got better.

You were in that life too at one point, and even if you weren't, understand how tough it is in this generation. to go down the broad way. The path to hell feels like heaven and the path to heaven feels like hell.

Understand it's tough in these perilous times, these social media times to walk the straight and narrow. Instead of judging these young women, tell them your stories. You want to tell them about, oh don't get, don't terminate pregnancies, don't do this, don't do that. People who do that, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

But you're not telling them how many you terminated. And this is why you feel so passionately about this. Why are you preaching abstinence and celibacy?

Tell them your stories. That has more of an impact instead of just telling somebody not to do something. When you raise a child, you don't want them to do something. Tell them why. Tell them why you don't want them to just sleep with the first boy that comes and compliments them.

Oh, you got pretty eyes. Now you're in the bathroom stall giving them. head. I don't mean to be vulgar.

This is what's out there. I was in school here. I was in middle school with kids that were 10, 11 years old in the back of the bleachers giving grown man top because they complimented them or because they bought them a Happy Meal.

In high school, there was 27-year-olds, 30-year-olds, even 40-year-olds picking up 16-year-old girls. 15 year old girls that were pregnant by them after school they'd all be there and none of these older women would tell these girls why they should avoid this hey I got pregnant by this man when I was 15 he was 47 and I had to give up that child to my aunt who now pretends to be the mother and it's broken my heart since because I don't want to come back into this child's life and ruin it Don't do the mistake that I did. Tell your story.

Tell your story. I've terminated probably over 10 kids. Tell them that.

Why? Because time and time again, I kept thinking, all these people love me, but I didn't want to ruin my life. Tell them.

You was in a relationship you weren't supposed to be in with a married man who already had kids. You didn't want to ruin your reputation or his life. But you didn't want to end the relationship with him either, thinking that eventually it'll get better. Maybe you knew it would never be better.

And every time you got pregnant by this man, you terminated his kids until the total, you can't even count. You can't even remember how many children you terminated. Tell them your story. Because it's the young generation that's fallen.

They're arrogant. They think they know better because no one is sharing their stories. And when you speak to them, they think you're uppity, you're uptight, you're puritanical, you're doing too much, you're judgmental, you're critical, but they don't know you're speaking from hurt.

They don't know you're speaking from things you've experienced, you've seen with your peers. You don't know how many friends I have that were kids getting pregnant by grown men. Kids, I live this. I had a friend that was 16 on her third child.

by a grown man left her mother's house to live with this man in high school and us kids saw nothing wrong with it because we thought we were grown what advice i was gonna give her i thought she was grown i thought she knew better and some adults at the school knew they knew what was happening they said nothing they didn't protect these girls These other women, our coaches and all that, they said nothing. Everybody just mind their business and protect themselves. That's the society we live.

It's no longer a village. It's no longer a village. Everybody, every man to himself. And this is why society is in a decline. People are scared to call things out.

It's no longer a village. It used to be you cared about other people's kids when you saw them. You're an auntie to all.

You're an uncle to all. You protect the kids. But now everybody is to themselves protecting their own reputations, protecting their own image. and y'all don't want to tell y'all stories some of y'all have platforms and y'all don't want to tell y'all stories i'm speaking to somebody you're watching you know i'm speaking to you because it's in your heart you're being convicted that you have platforms that you could help many and you're refusing to tell your story fear of what so what you get canceled by arrogant people they'll see eventually you know how many people i get so messages on instagram oh i used to hate how you speak i said I thought you were so arrogant, da, da, da. But now, you know, blah, blah, blah.

There was one young lady. She sent me a long, long paragraph, hateful words. Just, oh, you're so this, you're so that, da, da, da, da.

And then probably a year later, she came and followed me, sent me a message. Hey, Korean, I love you so much, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I love your content, this and that, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And then... I'm about to, oh, thank you. I scroll up like, oh, she messaged me before and I saw the hate. Before I could even respond, she was like, I'm sorry for what I said before.

I'm just realizing that, oh my goodness, so much has changed in a year for me mentally. You can get canceled today by the same people that will love you tomorrow. Speak your truth. Don't sugarcoat it.

These people will remember. They may be resistant now because many times I heard the message. I'm telling you people used to tell me don't dress like that. That boy don't love me for real. I'd be resistant.

But guess what? Who's preaching to you now? Who's preaching to you now?

Thank God these people didn't give up on me. Thank God. So speak your truth. Share with people that need to hear the message and don't care.

Why do you care? Many of messages, I'll stumble upon convicting messages and I'm like, if I send this to this person, they're going to think that, but I know they could benefit from it. Send it to them anyway. Send it.

Because it was getting videos like this, messages like this from people that saved me. People that weren't afraid to tell me like it is, tell me the truth. That saved me.

I'm not going to make this video much longer than it is because it is voiceover. But this is all I have to say. I love you guys so much.

Leave a fire emoji in the comments if you watch until the end. And please share your stories, man. Share your stories. I will see you in the next one.

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Empowering Women Through Sharing Experiences