I'm dr. Doug Weiss and I would explain to you the six types of sex addicts [Music] I'm dr. Doug Weiss and I want to explain to you the six types of sex addicts now this is something as the president of the American Association for section therapy we teach therapists around the globe so I want you to know so that you might be able to identify what type of sex addict you might be okay number one is biological this is neuroscience when we have a sexual encounter we get the endogenous opiates hits the prefrontal cortex of the brain and boom you literally glue to whatever you're looking at so if you're that person who's glued to pornography hundreds of thousands of time you've literally taken your sexual system and attached and included two images instead of souls and even during sexual encounters you find yourself having to fantasize because you have to go to the object or you know ring the bell feed the dog and if you've got thousands of encounters of that you created a neurological system that you have a physiological addiction to the object world reinforced sexually psychological this is you know eighty percent of sexual addicts male or female live in this zone there's been abuse and neglect kind of events have happened in your life maybe you haven't felt loved or wanted are important and in your family Ward you didn't get your needs met and then you found the fantasy world well you're loved and wanted and you can be sexual and and get chemically rewarded and you could be adored and you could do things and you're unconditionally loved and you're unconditionally wanted it doesn't cost you anything emotionally and that is psychologically addicting absolutely but that might be the cause that moved you into the addiction number three spiritually all of us have a god hole and for some of us we filled the god hole with sexuality pornography relationships acting out and it feels empty to us oK we've been doing it for years and years but we still like feeling that why we're here on the planet our existential crisis is still going on we don't have a spirituality we can really trust even if we grew up in a religious system we we don't have a patience if spiritually and so the addiction takes that place and it medicates that and so there are many people who once they get sober their their spirituality grows and they can have that relationship but it might be the absence of that that's moving you and keeping you an addictive cycle number four sexual abuse in the 80 percents are greater men and women who are sexually addicted have been sexually abused you were use as a sex toy as a sex object even if you were a 14 year old boy with a 21 year old girl that was sexual abuse okay that wasn't you getting lucky men struggle with this okay women don't seem to struggle with that they've been sexually abused okay the sexual abuse you have a sexual encounter you still attached in that encounter you may fantasize about that encounter but your sexuality has been injured and so you might medicate it through sexual compulsive or addictive behavior of any type and now sometimes you especially connect your sexual addiction to the specific behaviors in the sexual trauma either as the victim revitalizing yourself okay having relationships with only people that are significantly older or that are similar to the perpetrator or as the perpetrator re-enacting that and trying to resolve it so sexual trauma is a piece of most sex addicts and that's your secret you've not told anybody you're gonna have to do that so that you can heal number five intimacy anorexia and sex addiction now this one's a little longer to explain you have a sex addiction you're acting out what self or others or images and then in your marriage you withhold love withhold phrase you're too busy for them you blame them you withhold spiritually you're not able to share your feelings in this relationship use anger and silence as a way to control your critical sometimes you control our money but your spouse has complained about feeling alone feeling like a roommate okay now if you have both of these you're gonna need to treat both and I would definitely Google intimacy anorexia or just go to intimacy anorexia calm lots of information on that topic but that is a true path because you can't connect to a real person so you stay really overly connected to the object world however you use that so that's an important thing number six mood disorder sex addiction you have a sex addiction but one of the things that's fueling it is a chemical imbalance that could be manic depression bipolar one bipolar two even some milder forms of mood disorder can like cyclothymic disorder where your moods kind of just drop maybe once a week or so any of these even depression you know you're wanting to medicate a neurological imbalance and these huge chemicals when you have a sexual release alleviated at least for a little while so your body wants you to keep acting out again and again and again to use as a medicine but what happens is you know this is 12 13 15 years old you've done it for many years and now then you're addicted to the medicine and it's not necessarily changing the problem it just helps it a little bit so if you have this you want to see a psychiatrist and get that identified but also you have to do the program of sexual recovery to heal from the impacts of using that medicine for so many years so with the six types of sex acts you might have one two three four you might have several of these most do and you want to work with someone who knows what they're doing if they've been trained by ace at the American Association for sex addiction therapy they know what they're doing they can help you identify what type of sex addict you are you want to know that so you get the best and Talzin treatment possible okay and you can you can expedite your recovery if you know what type of sex addict you are you