I made a promise to you that I will love you all my life and I hold you ever closer when we fight through the pain and stress [Music] and I'll never let to cry cry take your hand and call you [Music] I just want to welcome everybody and we have up here uh well we titled it Harmony at home and so I hope and pray that in our portion of what we have in this study I just remembered um back years ago there's been a lot of times we've been in conferences we've had three steps to this seven steps to that five steps to this and two or three steps that you step on each other to get to this and so anyway we've been through it we've been along a lot of places but I will tell you that really and truly the scripture really lays it all out for what we are to do and uh Brad Scott who's a great friend of ours he's passed on now but he always said this uh in Genesis it was about a house now this is this is profound but it is so simple but it's profound it's about a house it's about land in a family and that's what it's always been about and that's the way it's what it's always going to be about that is creation and then from that he used Adam and Eve and he used parenting he used families uh even in the scriptures in Proverbs you'll see where he's always used these metaphors and pray that today that Tammy and myself will bring out some probably some new things that you may know or you may not have known and hopefully that's our goal to do so but think about this as we're going through it's I don't want I'm afraid sometimes we make things too hard you know we just get in here and but it's really easy think about it a house how many people in here have a home or an apartment a place to live here you are family people also we have land there's land here some of you own your own land some of you have your house is on somebody's land so it's just it's just that simple it's just Agricultural and it's just that simple so with that you know the father equips us and by equipping us what are we going to do with where we're at and where he has with us and he expects us to be able to take his word the whole scriptures from Genesis to Revelation and to be able to like we were talking about today with a couple under the Hoopa about you know the Fruit of the Spirit the gifts of the Spirit he gives us his Holy Spirit and in Proverbs the Holy Spirit has a feminine connotation where we have the fathers of mail you see this all through here so really and truly we hope to just bring this out in more detail about the intimacy of what our heavenly father has for us in this teaching so before we get started you may have already thumbed through your packet everyone got a packet so you have on the title page our theme verse which we'll get down to that in a minute we have a paper in here called Beatitudes for married couples Mark had found a little picture online that had this title only we went in and put what was relevant to us so we wrote most of these I think maybe two remain the same the rest we wrote and there's just some neat things to remember if we want to be blessed as the couple who has received Yeshua as their Messiah and blessed is the couple who has the father in Yeshua as the head of their home and it just goes on from there I like this one blessed is the couple who continues to be affectionate considerate and loving long after the wedding bells have ceased ringing so there's these types of things on there and then there will be three different love language tests one for adults one for teens and one for children and uh and then there's a summary of The Love Languages at the last page that kind of tells you what each one speaks so if you're interested in that you might want to take it on a separate sheet if you're married you each have your own but if you want to do your children do it on a separate sheet or make copies of it and then you'll know what it is because when we speak Each Other's Love language it really it really does a lot for a marriage to bring Harmony in the home but if you don't really understand what it is then we don't feel at their left tank a lot of times we'll fill them up with what we love but not necessarily what they love so that's what those tests are kind of fun to take and to discover with that and they are fun and they and they do really and truly they speak a lot because like she said it is imperative to know what each other's love language is and uh whether it's physical close you know and touching or words of affirmation or whatever it makes a service acts of service or whatever and for an example like acts of service you know if a guy if you pick up the vacuum cleaner and you vacuum the house and you're not asked to do that you might you might I know see there we are we got act yeah we got an amen already so what happens is is you might not think as a guy you might not think but it speaks volumes to the wife because you're showing her through acts of service you're showing her that you love her by what you're doing and how you care because you know and even though we we should tell our spouse every day that we love them multiple times a day but really and truly knowing what the other person's love language is it speaks volumes to that end of visual about what you do so if you can as you take these little tests it's fine to take it and as you see where you are and matter of fact then from the wife to the husband it helps out with that also tremendously so because a lot of times when they ask questions you'll answer what you want to be maybe not actually what you are so when you take it for yourself you come up with an answer but if your spouse takes it judging you it's interesting to see do you come up with the same answer how does he view your response in those questions versus how I think I respond to things so that's kind of a neat way to take it too that's right take it for myself and have him take it for me and see how we go we do want to say this and Valerie and song and US talked and Stephen Hannah had they had been here we all talked about this we are not doing this we did not agree to do this because we are perfect at marriage or we're perfect at parenting but we are passionate about it amen and the things that we learned when we were younger and we still continue to learn we were so impacted by it by implementing into our lives that that's really the only motivation and goal is to hopefully deposit and if there's one thing you can take away that Implement that you implement into your life that changes your relationship in that area it's a good thing because some of the things we are going to share today we literally learned in our 20s and we still do them I can still remember the man who spoke it that's how much it really pierced our hearts that is our prayer not because we're perfect but that we can say something that will actually touch you and impact you and change an area in your life amen because you she can ask herself if she made a few mistakes in her life and the answer is yes you know but have I made more yes I see so this is what happens is but let me just say this and this is why we're so passionate about this all of you are in here if if you don't have a healthy family and I'm talking about a husband and wife as a family children are added additions to the family okay a family doesn't show up when the first child shows up that's not the way that happens but in that scenario though what I'm saying is is when the family is healthy then this congregation or Community can be healthy and then your nation can be healthy and then you see what I'm saying and then the world can be healthy I can definitely tell you that we're or like we were talking about today in the service uh as we're going through the Book of Revelation there's a lot of the body of Messiah as a whole is not as healthy as it should be let me just put it that way and we have a lot of work to do but it starts with us as individuals as us as families as couples and in marriage and and so forth to be able to make a healthy Society where we can all be a part of Amen okay so what I wanted to do was is one thing here is the biblical normative is usually that 97 of Believers will marry and only three percent will remain single so how important is marriage I mean with 97 percent that is going to be married and only three percent for singleness it really it shows you that that in the in the scriptures is full of marriage is full of relationships and that's what the Torah is all about look the first five books of the Bible is of the utmost importance I know that when we were raised we come up through it to where the Old Testament didn't matter everything had to do with it from Matthew Owen but understand this Matthew Owen is really commentary of what was appalling him was explaining how this operates in the Tanaka into the Old Testament so the very first five books of the Bible tells us so much about our relationship with the father with a relationship with each other and our own relationship that's all part of the fruit of the spirit is to make sure that we operate in these in these gifts that he gives us how important is it when you stop and think about the Scriptures it opens with a marriage the profits compare everything to a marriage and in Revelation it ends with a marriage so truthfully the mayor the picture of the marriage actually shows forth the entire plan of the father that he had beginning at creation so it is an important thing and that's why we just feel like if we can get an understanding what did our creator what did y'all we have in mind when he gave the institution of marriage at the beginning he reiterates it in the middle and he talks about it at the end that we are the Bride of Messiah for his son my dad used to always say marriage is the closest thing to heaven or Hades and that determines by what we put into it amen so prayerfully we'll be determined people to allow the spirit to bring us to the heavenly side of things as opposed to the Hades side of things so our theme verse is Romans 15 5 and 6. it says may the Elohim of endurance and encouragement Grant you to live in such harmony with one another in accord with Messiah Yeshua that together you may with one voice glorify the elohiman father of our Master Yeshua Messiah and as we move through the the biblical pattern found in Genesis at the beginning this is going to mean so much more at the end how can we be one voice with one mind in harmony with each other first with our relationship this way then this way and then this way amen amen so this is going to be something I want you to capitalize on is harmony this is what one of the key words that we're going to focus on because in the Hebrew the word harmony is a God for all of us who's been studying Hebrew what is a god Oneness you know one mind like-minded and in walking in unity with one another no doubt I mean I know that's an understatement But there again it takes work you have to know your other partner's love language you have to know that that whenever you get married you no longer belong to yourself it is I don't I'm going to probably jump ahead it's so hard not to but understand this from Adam and Eve's perspective before Adam I mean before Eve was created there's another key word and the word is suitable you know there was not anything suitable for him because in other words he could be in harmony with the father and in harmony with his creation but yet he was he was void in something that was suitable for him and that's why this is important and if it was important enough for him to create e for him you say what I'm saying it is for this us who's in the 97 percent is of utmost importance that we walk in it so we want to show you through the patterns that the only thing we have to understand a Heavenly Kingdom that is above us and that's actually going to come down as he gives us things in the natural to understand it and that's why Brad Scott would always say it starts with a house it's all about not just starts it's all about a house a family and land is because these are the visible things he gives us to understand our creator so why did he give us marriage what does the marriage show us if we can tap into that then what we are getting is a visible manifestation of a Heavenly truth of what our creator desires to have with his people so in reality our marriages are a Ministry and if we can understand that then we will begin to realize that how we talk to one another matters to him because are we accurately representing the kingdom of Elohim on this Earth as we talk to one another as we represent it to our children so if we understand that it really is the first Ministry we have is our marriage because it shows forth the kingdom of Elohim it's the thing on the earth that he gave it shows forth the father it shows forth children it shows forth the wife through the ruach through the Holy Spirit every element that he gave in the natural for us to become one actually demonstrates the Heavenly truths so when we say I want to be filled with the Holy Spirit and yet we're rejecting our wives or we reject women and what they mean into the kingdom of Elohim in essence we're really rejecting the visible manifestation on this Earth that he gave to understand how the Holy Spirit teaches and Comforts and guides us but when we have that in harmony with him it's a Ministry it's the first Ministry we really have as adult people and it's the first Ministry that our children get to see in their home every single day is the marriage that's represented before them and if that's healthy and in harmony they really hardly will have a problem with accepting what the father's plan is ultimately for his children amen amen so as she was talking about the ministry part think about this all right if marriage is a Ministry and it is because this is what the father set up now can we see why homosexuality is an abomination because it's not a Ministry it goes totally against you can't reproduce there's so many things that happens and this is why it's set up that way that he doesn't tolerate it because it messes up very creation a creation principle where it talks about he took Adam and he went and he got Eve and he brought him back to Adam and you're bone of my bone flesh in My Flesh in other words you are incomplete without her and this is for us as males we're incomplete this is why because it's we are a Ministry and our ministry should be that we minister to others what does it talk about when the young ones come up look to the gray heads you know look for those who are older what does it say about the older women teach who the younger women what are we doing so if you have a homosexual relationship it just totally is contrary to everything from creation and this is one thing I want us to really hammer on on our part and this is why it's not acceptable it doesn't mean that somebody it is not an alternative anything alternative anything other than that word of word of Yahweh the word of God is sin it's not right and you have to really look at it that way if you if you try to embrace something that saying well this is just the age we live in do you think that that's new what about Sodom and Gomorrah what's happening today at New there's nothing new Under the Sun what happens is is Satan knows how to disrupt the people of Elohim and he knows how to try to thwart his plans and what he does is he uses the families he uses first couples if he can get a wedge there if not he will try I'm not getting in the children's park but he may try to use the children the thing about it is is Satan has one bag of tricks it's through the scripture that's why we need to know the scripture so much but this is why homosexuality is wrong it's just it's an Abomination he says it's wrong and the reason is is it destroys a Ministry that he sets up at the beginning of how we're to push out and go out into society and minister to people all right so now let's get into it and see in the Genesis 1 1 it says in the beginning Elohim created the heavens and the Earth but in the Hebrew which is how it was given what is it better is she but Elohim the first letter that I enlarged for you to see is a bait and we do understand that he when he gave it in the Hebrew all the Hebrew means something and the bait is representative of a house so the very first letter of the very first verse of the scriptures is about a house so he is building a family in the way he builds a family is through marriage so we see right away hidden in the clues of the Hebrew language we're going to see several more of these things right in Genesis that shows us the purpose and the Divine Design that he has for us he's building a house are we willing to do it in our society so many people are anti-marriage and they don't want to get married they never want to get married or they want to live their life and they choose to wait till they're 40 to get married and that's completely contrary to what the father now I'm not saying go get married for the sake of getting married because the key is Yahweh brought Eve to the father brought Eve to his son it says Adam was the son of Elohim so the father brought the son the wife to the son so you want who the father has for you you don't want to go out there just for the sake of getting married you want to marry the right one so go ahead so let's go to Genesis 2 if you have your Bibles 2 18-25 and it says Yahweh Elohim said it is not good for man to be alone I will make him a helper suitable for him all right there you see the word suitable so he's showing you and this is why this is so important when when he made Adam he had the trees he had the animals he had all the creation but he knew it was not good for Adam to be alone because that was his plan the whole plan was to bring forth a kingdom in Sons and Daughters for us to please him as our heavenly father is to please him so here again you see this word I will make him a helper suitable for him guys this is this ought to throw out any other you understand what I'm saying it is male and female this is the way this is because he's saying that Eve is suitable and there's just no I don't care how many years you live down the road it that's never going to change it's been that way from the beginning it will be that way all the way to the end so out of the ground Yahweh Elohim formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky and brought them to the man to see what he would call them and whatever the man called a living creature that was its name so the man gave names to all the cattle and to the birds of the sky into every beast of the field but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him so Yahweh Elohim caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man and he slept then he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at this place Yahweh Elohim fashioned into a woman the rib which he had taken from the man and brought her to the man and the man said and look I know this is familiar to you and you're like I've heard this before so many times there's something in the Hebrew that's fascinating coming up the man said this is now bone of my bones this is the Hebrew word as seem it means essence of my Essence this is not just talking about a bone we're talking essence of my Essence and Flesh of My Flesh and she shall be called woman Isha because she was taken out of man ish for this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh or one Essence and that word there is akad United alike or like-minded that seems obvious but it's far more than that and Mark's going to bring this out which I love love love this what he's about to bring because it is going to show us why some of the reasons we respond the way we do when we're mad or why what we should do when we're mad is the opposite of what we do when we get mad you'll see that when he gets there are you ready yes I'm ready okay so Yahweh brought Adam and Eve think about this face to face I just want to stop right here this face to face is important in relationship let's just say where we've seen this before what about whenever Yahweh said that he talked to Moses how did he talk to Moses face to face but he talked to everybody else how in in prophecies or Parables or in riddles so you can see here that Moses had that relationship of this face to face we are to have this face-to-face relationship think about this now when you and your spouse are in unity or in the essence and the face-to-face relationship is gelling then what happens is is this relationship is strengthened and the very essence here is just phenomenal of what he can do in our lives just in your presence that goes out to other people so you see here that as she's talking about bone of my bone is just not a bone it's Essence this face-to-face relationship the word helper is that Hebrew is exairconnecto am I saying that right man which means a helper suitable there again Yeshua said this when I go away remember whenever he was going to go and he ascended he said I'm going to send you what a helper an X air connector I'm going to send you the Holy Spirit to have a face-to-face relationship while I'm away preparing a place for you I'm not leaving you alone so we still have this face-to-face relationship with our heavenly father through Yeshua by the gifting of the Holy Spirit you can also see that whenever how Abraham when he sent Eliezer Eleazar means Helper and he sent him to find a a bride what suitable for Isaac and then he brought gifts well what does the Holy Spirit he leads with us whenever Yeshua ascended and the Holy Spirit came down in Acts he gave us what gifts he gives us these gifts so that we can still communicate and we can still have our face-to-face relationship what damages a face-to-face relationship in a marriage sin not doing what we're supposed to be doing it's the same thing that damages sin is what damages this relationship face to face so to be able to have a strong marriage and this is something that we like you say we're not perfect in this but we're also learning Even in our older age because we have children and we have grandchildren and we have a community so much more of of how I mean it's so sad to see that Believers the divorce rate in Believers is through the roof and the reason is is because of all the things that we bought into look three steps to this five steps to that no it's just this simple our relationship between our heavenly father has to be Paramount through Yeshua to have this relationship here but this relation do we have to work in our relationship between us and our heavenly father yeah because the works of the flesh it says the spirit is willing but the flesh is what weak very very very very very very weak it just is so guess what in this relationship you know when we first got married and if I'm now I'm speaking to those who's been married more than a week so when you first get married you do everything in the world for your mate but sometimes as we get older we find out we're doing our thing and they're doing their thing and then some people say well we're what growing uh apart what what is that where did that come from but now what it is is I become I'm not worried about what's suitable for for me I'm doing my own thing now she's doing her own thing and the problem is is we're losing we've lost we're not face to face now we're back to back and so now this Essence is not there any longer it takes a lot of work for us to maintain this face-to-face relationship just like it does this relationship and our heavenly father put us together because I can tell you if we got problems here I got problems here it just it works that way it's just the way it is so if we're really honest it's like we were talking about today on the white excuse me on the Whiteboard most of our prayers are prayers that go to the father hoping and praying that he's going to authorize what we want him to do rather than us getting into his will or not you know when we talked about uh that scripture that's the same thing so we need to really be conscious and know that if the father gives us our mate it is to keep us look it's to keep me straight I'm just being honest the way it is because if I'm left in myself there's no telling where I would be there's many many times that the women for the men I'm speaking for the men here to give somebody that's a solid backbone for us to be able to walk this thing out and to be able to keep our relationships into a very powerful setting so yeah I'll just jump in here on the Ezra connecto while there's many teachings and y'all have heard I'm sure many of them you know it's to oppose them and what have you that's really that's just minor here's a primary and I put it up on the PowerPoint the primary meanings for the Ezra connecto is someone to stand in front of him before his face in the presence of that's the same exact thing we're told that we can come boldly before the throne of grace to obtain grace and favor in time of need we should be turned back to one another and here's where the idea is is that when uh Eve was inside of Adam she was his Essence he pulled her out and then put her back in front of him with the whole mission that we are to become one outside of the body face to face still being in harmony still being in a Cod and not listening to the serpent seed and I'm telling you that that's why I believe that the enemy fights marriages so much as he wants to break that face and turn us away from our homes because we were designed from the time that he created them that's what it says in Genesis 1 26 that Elohim created them in His image in His image he created in their image he created them so inside of Adam is Eve and we were never designed that was the picture that is the picture of what the visible manifestation on Earth is supposed to be for a family a husband and a wife to show forth the Oneness and the image of Messiah that we're supposed to take on so are we doing that are we staying standing face to face are we turning our backs and acting like we don't you know talk to the how many of us you know back in the talk to the hand not to the man I hear you polar opposite that's about well let's just I know just think about this so what she's saying now men here was here's the deal with this so the let's just put ourselves back in the beginning at the because this is we're if we don't understand the original understanding of marriage we can just I mean is Yahweh put this together it's not some of us trying to figure out some crazy look for us to be able to do this but what did man not do what man didn't do was he didn't guard and keep his face to face because he allowed the serpent to have a face to face he allowed the serpent to start talking to the one that was suitable for him he was to guard and keep the garden now we understand the garden there was a lot to do with the garden but in the midst of the garden means as a tabernacle he allowed Satan to get into the very holies of holies of the garden where the tree of knowledge of Good and Evil the tree of life was he'll let the enemy get in there why because here again the very thing that got him was the pride of life see there's three the the three Temptations there's only three in the world everything else adultery uh or sexual immorality or murder or lying and cheating and Covington and getting somebody's Life Savers and all of that all of that is a result of the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes and the pride of life have you ever noticed that the very thing that that Satan tempted Eve with Adam was there because she took the fruit and gave to him it wasn't like she had to throw him something way across the yard he was there but he allowed this conversation to go it's the same Temptation that Yeshua had in the garden that Satan had him in after that 40-day fast lust of the flesh lust of the eyes and the pride of life and the pride of life bow down to me and I'll give you everything but the thing here was is well if you you're not surely going to die when you eat because on the day that you die you will be like who like him you would be like him knowing good and evil and you're going to know all things and be all things and all of that the pride of life there's something God into him but this is why we have to keep this face-to-face relationship do you know that a lot of marriages they they they take a hit and I'm going to try to say this in a nice way a lot of times what happens is if you lose this face to face and and you're out in the workplace a lot of times you find another face to face to talk with and bear your problems then what happens there's a heart change and the next thing she don't understand it's that woman you gave me it's this and that or it can happen if she's in the workplace it can happen the same way so this is why the man we men I'm talking to us we have to guard and keep we have to be proactive in our marriage all the time because we are the protectorate of what he has given us in in the garden that he's given us and that's the reason why this face-to-face relationship is so important because it started out as a Ministry and it will end as a Ministry in Revelation and it's really to be all the way through it's never not to be but what happened we we came into a male dominant mentality than a jezebel female dominant mentality and what the father's doing in the restoration of all things at the end of time when the days of Elijah is here the restoration of all things happens the House of David the house of Praise Is raised up and he's bringing back into balance that which he has called forth from the beginning that our Adam and Eve failed at and we have all failed at it too but with the spirit and learning the truth seeing it in the word and going this is the way he designed it then we can share if there's a direction that I'm taking and Mark can stop if we're if we're connected in Harmony and we're essence of each other's Essence and we're face to face I will look into his eyes and see this is a serious situation or vice versa then we can oppose an area where there is and that's submitting one to another is the man the head of the home absolutely is the woman to submit yes but it's the idea is to submit ideas and right above that it says to submit one to another but there has to be the leader but it's not that you Lord over it is that we work in akkad Yeshua here's your pattern Yeshua did not think equality with the father was a thing to be grappled with and because of that Yahweh exalted him to a place that Yeshua never clamored for he knows who where what his position is we as women need to understand what our position is but we can better fill our position if we understand what a true Esther connecto is a helper suitable for them is one who stays face to face and keeps the heart and he keeps the heart the serpent see Yahweh gave to Adam the Commandments to guard and keep how did he give it from his mouth mouth to mouth face to face he gave him that that serpent had to get between there and he did not speak up or stay face to face the way it was supposed to be and he allowed that thing to talk to his wife face to face good or bad we can have face to face good or bad and then we saw what happened and as a result he's taken out so when the you know the harmony is what he's bringing us back to so when we stop and really think about it the design and how we actually get tested in this without even knowing it some of the things we do as married couples actually is in violation of the creation principle for instance what do we do when we really get mad at our spouse we start we stop talking yeah we pout and we won't even look at them or I don't you know don't look at me or you have on that bottom lip all right or we'll get all up in their face which is the wrong kind of face to face that we're supposed to encounter and this would be the one that can cause Chihuahua dog Chihuahua and then why do we say you better get out of my face don't get in my face you better get out of my face so how about this one ladies I don't know if y'all do this but I have heard others say this we're mad we go to bed and we get as far on the edge of our bed as we can get we're not looking at them we've done that because I've had to text you and then so we won't let our toe touch anything and we know we're not supposed to let the sun go down on our Wrath another reason why I know you're there I heard the dean go off when the text went off yeah I wished you would do that because he can go to sleep and I'm just laying there so mad breathing hard this is past this is like you know a month ago there you go that's what I was hoping he was going to say not a week ago because I think there was instances probably a month and a half ago you think once I really don't remember it I'm menopause I'm allowed not to remember I went to sleep so I don't know so anyway do you get that but I have some timers now so that's what I just yeah so we're gonna keep a G right in here so um but do you find that interesting though that we're to be face to face essence of my Essence that is the EZ Air Canada and the very thing we do is we we pout and turn our face away that cannot be a coincidence it has to be a result of the Fall amen and the and the enemy and now I picture after studying this out and discovering this in the Hebrew language now I'm like um is is really and truly you recognize the serpents in this garden and no we've gotta boot him out and get back face to face speaking right things to each other and not speaking harsh things and this is something really a few years ago we came to um yeah guys this is good and we came to um I don't know if your parents did this but our parents did and it could be that generation and it was just just talk harsh you just answer hard she don't really you know you're used to each other you're secure you think it doesn't matter you can just answer any old way you want to and I remember telling Mark all along because we did marriage conferences we did parenting conferences we learned so much from them and the one thing I didn't want to do is I did not want to become like our parents and just speaking any old way I want to be kind as kind at home as we are in public and so uh we we did talk about that many times I don't want to become like that the older we get and then we went through a season it was a few I think maybe four or five years ago it was a Purim because we shared this at Purim actually it was this season and um we had gone through a couple of weeks of just talking like it didn't even matter and I was like whoa we need to have a face to face we need to have a sit down and we talked and we shared this in that teaching how we've given each other permission that if we're getting short or we're getting tersed hey what's going on you know what's up with you now you know most of the time I want to say hey are you okay is something wrong are you you know dot dot dot every now and then it'd be what's your problem I don't have a problem no you have a problem I can tell something's wrong with you and and we and we end up talking like well I had a problem we rewind and we we truly I think do you know it isn't because you execute it perfect it's that you have the goal it's in your heart and it's in your mind we don't want to be those people and if we both don't want to be those people you will arrive at it and achieve it if one wants it and one doesn't one works for it one doesn't you're not going to achieve it but if you both go we want this no matter what it takes we're going to do it even if it means we have to apologize and repent and start over in that conversation that's the thing to do even we have to say I was wrong wrong all right so if even if you can get it out get it out so Harmony is a result of the face-to-face relationship we have with y'all and each other so just so y'all know we're like our notes I don't even know where we are in our notes okay right here right here she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man can I say something right here pay attention to this guys because Hebrew is a living active language I mean it's numbers it means something this is not something just a language like ours I mean you use the word read what is it r-e-d-r-e-d I mean you know what but this right here when it's talking about ish and Isha there's a reason why Yahweh named them that name and the reason why a man is ish and a wife is Isha there's a reason why that's there and if you don't get this you will understand at the end while you're living where you're living so the Hebrew word for ish for man or husband is Ish spelled with an olive going from right to left and all of a Yoda Sheen and then the Hebrew word for woman or wife is he Shaw some of you guys have seen this and I do need to say this this is Frank siekens Hebrew work this is not our work you have the all of the Sheen and the hey and the word spelled the only two differing letters let me just ask you guys to get you involved all right you see all of yo chin the next one Olive Sheen hey out of the two what are the two this different the yode and the hay see there's a yode in the man and there's a hay in the female in the in the wife now that's important so that's the abbreviated name for yahweh's Covenant name yode vave's Covenant name and it's found about 45 times in the Hebrew scriptures you're not going to see it in your English but it is in the Hebrew but if you remove the yode from the man ish and the hay from the woman Isha we have the word for fire in Hebrew and this symbolizes devouring and destruction so what does that tell us let's stop I want it to sink in is if marriages are like hell it's because we don't have Yahweh at the center of it we took the yode and the hay out of it and it leaves us with fire and it leaves us like she said with devouring and destruction so right here it's just it's just in us he he built it in us that we have to have not only ish is Shah he built it where he placed his name but he only gave me one and he only gave me one he gave her one but to make Yahweh in this earth he has to bring we have to apply through marriage and bring it together then and only do you have yodehay vave operating in this earth like the design but if I'm operating her on our owner we take him out of our relationship it's hell on Earth exactly so when when it is in place the ish the husband and the wife are walking in harmony together we reproduce the kingdom of yah and it's hidden right there in the Hebrew from the beginning he's building a house she's essence of my Essence as her connectos you were face to face and then where the Hebrew word for husband and wife is he shine and Isha and together that's why you cannot have a male dominant anything or a female dominant anything it must be the balance of both the male and the female if we're going to reproduce the kingdom and this is one thing Arnold I think our first really fun conversation that we had together was understanding because of the culture you had come from and you were shedding a lot of that is is the fact that we must work together and not stifle either one everyone functioning in their role in the home and in the community so that you're accurately representing the kingdom before others and our children is our marriage a Ministry not that you've that you pass out tracks to somebody just the very way you live your life is it showing forth the name of Yahweh because it's supposed to is it showing forth that we're building a house or is the serpent in the garden and he's turned us away from each other's face to face so that's exciting so we'll just quickly run over because we are running out of time Mark mentioned this earlier but just to to capitalize on why is this the restoration of all things is for marriages to come back face to face is Yahweh we already know talk to Adam face to face he talked to Abraham he talked to Moses in numbers 12 he said to others I talked to in dark riddles to Moses I talk face to face or mouth to mouth that's the same thing as face to face and when we stand uh the bread of the presence in the Holy place there were two stacks of six twelve representing the 12 tribes of Israel that's common you understand did you know in the Hebrew that thing right there is called the bread of faces uh it's called la campanaim bread of the faces when they stack them it's about unity and Harmony and being in a Cod so you see him talking to Adam face to face Abraham Moses in the Tabernacle you see Israel face to face in the Holy Place amen so he we or he's restoring can you get the concept he's restoring it so now we are going to stand face to face with our creator and take it and he's gonna we're gonna take an account of Our Lives how we do this face-to-face relationship is going to determine how we stand this way every single thing from the beginning is about building the kingdom face to face in marriages that's why uh one of the last things Brad said the last conference he did at Bill's Place for Shavuot he and look this was pre-covered this is pre-covered and it's even more important since covid and it's and it's been reiterated by people we have got to get out of this Douglas did a great teaching on this before and we got to be face to face we got to be with people that's how we were designed to do it amen amen so the principle established in the garden is that we're to be face to face with one another in Harmony and a Cod rather than opposing one another with our backs to each other so spiritually speaking our marriages should reflect these Kingdom truths and can once we realize the calling that the Covenant of marriage has Philippians 2 1-4 therefore if there is any encouragement in Messiah if there is any consolation of love if there's any Fellowship of the spirit if any affection and compassion make my joy complete by being of the same mind maintaining the Same Love United in spirit intent United in spirit intent on one purpose do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mine regard one another as more important than yourselves do not merely look out for your own interests but also for the interest of others so what are some of the ways that we can cultivate The Garden of our marriage pray together and bless one another every morning hey you ought to do this this was really good well you okay this isn't okay we gotta go we got it so you're the one who made the time schedule yes we do have permission to flow okay so okay one of the things that we learned as a young puppy that we talked about that we still do in our marriage is it was called couch time back in the day and this was it came from Growing Kids God's way and we started implementing and what is so what we called it since learning how Yahweh determined it in Genesis we're calling it face to face time and what is that when your husband comes in if he's one that comes in every day when he comes in at some point before you get into let me tell you what the kids did are you ready for supper what before anything sit down for 10 minutes face to face and discuss have a heart connection and just talk to one another before they get into handling issues that may have happened while they were at work or whatever it revolutionized to this day when Mark comes in we might not be sitting on the couch but we're going to say every day just nearly every single day will go how did your day go what did you accomplish you know did you what's going on what's going on and that kind of thing and we just had this heart-to-heart connection and then we get into supper and the next thing that we have for that evening for you to have healthy kids that's right get your face to face time and as we mentioned discover one another's Love Languages and then follow through with simple and creative ways to feel it here's another one smile at one another smile just well let me say this on here this is why this is important I worked offshore just I know we're going to run over a little time but that's just wait it is I worked offshore some of you that know how that lifestyle is when I would come in we lived over here in neighborhood when I would come in and I would no longer get my bags in there and sat down what happened your daddy came rolling down the high my dad came rolling down the hill he had to have his time and then the neighborhood kids came and asked her if Mark could come out and play because I always play with the neighborhood kids so even the neighborhood kids would come up because my our kids and all of that so it it we had to at first I was come in do our thing and but then I had to learn to give Mommy time lifetime first and say kids will throw the ball in just a few minutes I've been gone for seven days I'm here we got to have our little time so you're right you you do embrace you do let them know that you're important but I have someone more important that I need to show you know cultivate that first before I do that because I kid you not the neighborhood kids they saw that vehicle coming here they were on their bicycles they were loaded up then they tried to get me before I went in the house to get to her so anyway so I just said oh we'll get your football time and we'll get your play time but we have to have this time first because it's important and then practice speaking with respect and kindness to one another rather than using condescending or insulting tones and and one of the ways we can do this is if we're if you see something kind of escalating or you misunderstood something just say do I hear you do I hear you saying dot dot dot no that's not what I was saying I'm saying this and if that was another tip we learned when we were younger was to ask do I hear you saying and then you're just clarifying what that is try to uh respect one another's opinions be complementary rather than critical be joyful rather than bitter amen so here's the thing don't grow weary and doing well and this is something that we can leave with you in our portion here is because to get your well doing growing and so this is something for us in our portion here Harmony is important I hope this just the regular Hebrew word of ish is Shah if we don't keep yodeh we don't keep our heavenly father I'm just telling you there's hell in the household that's just the way it is if you remove him that's what happens and he put it even in his wording of who how he describes us and that's important mommy time lifetime all of these things that we've said you can go back over and look at these I know it was sort of a quick hour but uh there was so much to cover and there's so much more that we have but we're going to close in prayer okay our father we do just thank you for this portion and father there's so much about the marriage process or so much about Adam and Eve or so much about what you're trying to tell us for our Ministries and our lives and so father we lift you up and we praise you we exalt you as our King and I just pray father that the portion that we give today some some aspect I know won't grab it all but some aspect will speak to our lives it may unlock a key if there's marriages that's struggling in any area of how that you can fix that and those who are looking to be married married father I just pray that you would just help them with these guidelines and and bring it back to their memory because one day it's going to come up to where there's going to be a misunderstanding something's going to happen and if they could just nip it in the bud quick it won't grow into weeds and it won't grow into unfruitful uh pain in their lives so father we just ask that you would just seal this in our hearts and let it ever be there that where we can bring it back up when we need it and yeshua's name amen and amen [Music] thank you [Music]