Exploring Cigar Play in BDSM

May 2, 2025

Introduction to Cigar Play

Overview

  • Date: July 2020
  • Presented by: Papa ONYX
  • Cigars are a significant element within the Leather and BDSM communities, recognized for their erotic connotations and power dynamics.

Cigar Basics

  • Terminology:
    • Cigar = Stick
    • Head: End that goes into the mouth, akin to a penis head.
    • Cap: Small ring on the head where cuts are made.
    • Foot: End that is lit.
    • Barrel/Body: Middle section of the cigar.
    • Filler: Blend of dried/fermented tobacco.
    • Wrapper: Outer layer, color varies from light (mild) to dark (stronger flavor).
  • Ring Gauge: Diameter of the cigar; measured in 1/64 inch increments. Common sizes range from 28 to 60.
  • Buying Tips: Consider strength, taste, aroma, size, and price, and consult with a tobacconist.

Pre-Play Considerations

  • Trust is essential; negotiate terms, boundaries, and establish safe words.
  • Awareness of potential health issues due to smoke.
  • Cigar play can cause burns; understanding first aid and medical attention for burns is crucial.

Elements of Cigar Play

  1. Servicing Play

    • Involves lighting the cigar, part science and part art.
    • May evolve into oral sex during smoke sessions.
    • Initiates trust and adapts to the smell, taste, and smoke.
  2. Heat Play

    • Involves holding a lit cigar close to the skin.
    • Sensation ranges from fear to heightened arousal.
    • Includes singeing of body hair (done carefully to avoid skin burns).
    • Avoid singeing facial hair or getting too close to the skin.
  3. Smoke Play

    • Invokes smell, taste, temperature, and breath control.
    • Involves warm smoke, kisses, and sometimes breath control with a gas mask.
    • High responsibility on the dominant for safety.
  4. Ash Play

    • Uses non-glowing ash for sensation, not burning.
    • Incorporates ice to enhance sensation and safety.
    • Ash writing is a form of dominance; ash eating is another component.

After Care

  • Post-Play Checks: Inspect for burns or breathing issues.
  • Hydration: Essential for recovery.
  • Cleaning: Optional based on preference (preserve aroma vs. wash away).
  • Leather Maintenance: Recipe provided for removing cigar smells from leather.

Summary

  • Cigar play is complex and requires consent, understanding, and safety.
  • Dominants and submissives each have roles in ensuring safe, consensual play.
  • Emphasize education, experience, and communication in all sessions.

Additional Notes

  • Follow ONYX Mid-Atlantic on social media for more insights.
  • Engage in play with informed consent and responsibility for safety.

Disclaimer

  • Acknowledgement of risks inherent in kink play; ONYX holds no responsibility for individuals’ play outcomes.