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Understanding the Blue Dot Effect Phenomenon

So one thing that happens a lot of times in  our job is as we are going through troves of   psychological research, we will stumble across a  particular concept or a piece of research that I   will find particularly profound. I will feel like  it explains so much of what happens in the world,   so much human behavior, so much of the bullshit  that we seem to deal with on a day-to-day basis,   and I personally see it as part of my job is to  like publicize some of these lesser-known research   findings that might have wide implications. Now,  this happened maybe five years ago. There's a   concept called prevalence-induced concept change.  It was found by some researchers at Harvard. I   included it in my second book, "Everything  Is Fucked: A Book About Hope," and then I   did a short-form video about it, maybe late last  year, like last December, and it went absolutely   bananas. Fucking crazy, like 10 million views.  And what's so interesting about this concept is   like you can go through the comments underneath  that video, and you will find examples of people   of every political stripe, everywhere on the  spectrum, every background, ethnicity, belief   system, religion, and they are all saying, "Oh,  this explains the people I disagree with." It's   almost comical how universal this concept applies.  And so this episode, what I wanna do is I wanna,   like, dig into the research together, talk about  what this concept is, why it's so important,   and just talk through a lot of the examples of  where we see the Blue Dot Effect in the everyday   world, how it explains why people are seemingly  upset despite their circumstances being great,   why people feel like the world is getting worse,  even though, by most objective metrics, it's   getting better, and why people are just assholes  on the internet all the time to each other. [Narrator] 20 million books  sold, zero fucks given. It's   "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck  Podcast" with your host, Mark Manson. Hey, everybody, thank you for listening. And just  one last thing, really quick. We are doing an   annual listener survey. If you have anything that  you love about the show, you hate about the show,   you wish I was talking about more, please  go to the link below in the show notes. Got   a quick survey, just takes a few minutes to  fill out. It helps me and my team out a ton,   and it helps us deliver great podcasts  for you. So go to markmanson.net/tellme,   T-E-L-L-M-E. Thank you very much. Talk to you  again soon. Why don't we start with just a   quick summary, Drew, of what the research says,  and then we'll get into the significance of it. Yeah, so the original study for this, they  called it the prevalence-induced concept change,   like you already said. We're calling it the Blue  Dot Effect 'cause that's a lot more sexy and easy   to understand, and it's because the first study  they did in this was using blue dots. They showed   people screens with a bunch of blue dots on it  and told them, "Pick out the blue dots from all   the other dots on the screen." Most of 'em were  like shades of purple and stuff like that. And   at first, they say, "Pick out the blue dots," and  they pick out the blue dots really well at first.   And then, slowly, over time, they start reducing  the number of blue dots on the screen, and people   start mistaking more and more purple dots for  blue dots. Their concept of a blue dot expands- Right. as blue dots become less and  less frequent on the screen. Yeah, so this is the important principle- Right. is that when you remove the blue  dots, people don't recognize that   the blue dots are no longer there. They  redefine what is blue for themselves. Exactly. Their definition of a blue dot  expands to include more shades of purple- Yeah. as the prevalence of those blue dots becomes  less and less. Okay, big deal, right? Yeah. That's just with some dots. Whatever, yeah. The really interesting part about this study,  though, was that they started to generalize   it to other areas, too. So like the next study  they did with this was with threatening faces. So   they showed people a whole bunch of faces on the  screen, and a lot of them are threatening faces,   and they say, "Okay, pick out the threatening  faces." People are really good at this at   first. But again, what they do is they start  reducing the frequency of threatening faces   on the screen, and people start mistaking the  not-so-threatening faces for threatening faces- Interesting. as it goes on and on, right? This generalizes  to other things, too. They did a series of like   six or seven studies with this. One of them  they did was what they call moral violations.   They presented people with stories. So, no  longer visual information. Just stories of,   okay, we're gonna do this study. Is this  study ethical or not, right? And at first,   they just have some egregiously unethical  studies that they're showing people,   and the really high frequency of those studies is  what they offer them. And then they start giving   them examples of, ah, kind of like borderline  cases, and then cases that are pretty benign.   Same thing happens. As you give them more and  more kind of benign or not-so-unethical studies,   people start thinking that, oh,  these studies are unethical, too. [Mark] Mm-hmm. So this is very generalizable across  domains. They find this in all sorts   of areas. It's a very robust effect that  they find, and just absolutely fascinating. So, to translate that for listeners a little  bit, basically, when you tell people to find   threatening things or unethical things, and there  are a lot of threatening things or unethical   things, people will very accurately identify  what's threatening or unethical. But as you   remove the threats and the unethical things,  people don't recognize that there are fewer   threats or unethical things. They redefine  what is threatening and what is unethical- Yes. to continue to see them. This reminds me,  like there's a quote in "Subtle Art," where   I actually quote the artist Jose Marti who  said this. He said that "when confronted   with a life of no problems, the mind  will quickly set about inventing some." Yeah. And, to me, this is like a  perfect reflection of that,   that like the easier our life gets, the more  we define smaller and smaller inconveniences   and infractions as being unbearable,  as being impossible to withstand. It happens everywhere. It's so insidious, yeah. Let's actually start broad- Okay. and get narrow. Yeah, okay. Because I think when everybody hears this,  and this is especially gauged by the comments,   and I think this is probably why this video  went so viral, it's because people of all   political stripes see this, and they're  like, "Oh, that explains wokeism," or,   "That explains racism," right? It's  like objectively, there are fewer   incidences of racism happening in society,  yet the expansion of racism keeps growing. Right, the definition of racism, yeah, it expands. Right. You could make the same argument with  censorship. Like censorship, as society has   become less censored and more free of expression,  I mean, we have the fucking internet, like it is- It's the Wild West. Like, you can literally say  whatever the fuck you want. Yeah. There's always a platform you can go say it.  Yet, people's perception of censorship has   grown and inflated so that even the smallest  things like a tweet getting shadow banned or   somebody getting kicked off YouTube is like  deemed a violation of freedom of speech.   There's all of these political vectors around  political issues that the Blue Dot Effect is   kicking into gear, and that people are perceiving  drastic threats and infractions where, you know,   30, 40, 50 years ago, these would've just been,  they wouldn't have even been a news story. The media kind of feeds on this, too, right? Mm-hmm. The negativity bias in the media. They've  even seen this over the last 30 or 40 years,   like you just said. More negative  reporting has been shown in the data   over that 30 to 40-year period, and even though  things have gotten better, poverty's gone down,   crime has gone down since then, the media's  definition of negativity expands as well. Crime's a great one. That's a  paradox that's kinda come up a lot,   you know, the last few years is this  obsession over a growing crime rate,   yet when you look at long-term trends, it's  crime is basically the lowest it's been- Especially violent crime, yeah. since they've started measuring it. Public safety  is an interesting one. Neighborhoods and schools   and just society in general is technically, I  mean, there's fewer drunk driving accidents,   there's fewer car accidents, there's fewer child  predators, there's fewer violent criminals,   yet kids aren't allowed to go outside and play  by themselves. Parents are getting arrested for   letting their kids wander down the street by  themselves. There's this kind of hysteria over   safetyism, over protecting young people at all  costs. It's another area where the safer that   society has become, our perceptions of it don't  stay accurate. We simply move the goalpost back,   and we start imagining threats where  they objectively weren't there before. There's a little bit of a chicken and  an egg thing there, though, right? Like,   some people could probably argue that,  well, the reason that crime has gone   down is 'cause we're more vigilant,  and we're more aware of it, right? Yeah. There's probably that argument as  well. I think if you look at the data,   the lag is the other way, though.  Like, crime started going down- For sure. first, and then we got crazy about  safety and everything like that, yeah. For sure, well, and there's also a weird thing  that has happened. You know, this kinda ties into   the negativity bias in the news media, which  is that there are fewer crimes, but a higher   proportion of the crimes are publicized  in a pretty horrific and spectacular way. You see this in the data, too, just  about like, you know, how many people   are killed by police officers every year, or  if you segregate it by race, too, you know,   how many Black people, how many white people,  how many whatever. People way overestimate,   way overestimate on every single one of  those categories actually, too, yeah. Totally, police brutality- Yeah, yeah. you could put into this as well. It's  probably the lowest it's been, I don't know,   ever. This ties into, it's like how much of this  is the prevalence-induced concept change of like,   just the lack of bad things happening, so  you perceive things to be worse than they are   versus how publicized and viral the negative  events become. I do think it's some of both.   Like, it's interesting when I think  about the time I spent in countries   that just objectively have practically  no crime. Like, I remember I was living,   I spent half of 2021 in New Zealand, and one  of my favorite things was to go to New Zealand   websites and read the headlines. Like, read,  like, what they thought of as a catastrophe. Right, right. You know, it was just, I found it absolutely  hysterical. I remember there was one day where   there was like a news broadcast came on, people  were protesting outside of the prime minister's   home. You know, they're upset, and I'm like,  "Oh, man, like, what's going on? What did she   do?" And it turned out that there was like, there  wasn't enough funding for bus lanes or something,   and people were just up in arms about that, and  they wanted her to resign. Like, to the point   where like they were going and picketing outside  of her house, and I was like, "Man, if that's   what gets you to go picket, like I wanna know,  like, where are the real problems, you know?" But it's a fascinating part of human psychology,  though, Mark, if you think about it. Like,   what makes us just look for problems   constantly? I mean, there's obviously  an evolutionary benefit to it, right? Yeah. Like, stay vigilant, everything like that, but that is to the extreme. Like everything  could be perfect, and we'll make up things. Problems give us a sense of meaning. We need  something to resist against to feel that sense of   progress, to feel as though our life is generating  value. The intensity of like what the problem is,   you know, things get normalized in both directions  very quickly. Like, if you live in a war zone,   your perception of problems is going to  adjust itself accordingly, right? Like,   a school getting blown up or, you know, a  shooting for somebody who lives in South Sudan   or Somalia or something, like, it's not even  gonna register. It's just gonna be a Tuesday. So, in this study, they also found that  when you add the blue dots back in,   you start increasing the  frequency of the blue dots- Yeah. people don't- They don't adapt back? They don't adapt back, right. Interesting. So they, yeah, so I'm sure that probably  generalizes as well. As things get worse,   people are like, "Meh, you know, whatever." Interesting. Yeah, it's really fascinating. And that's the  other thing. Like they've done so many things,   they'll tell people, "We're going to reduce  the number of blue dots." They'll tell them   that in the studies. Doesn't matter, they still  mistake the purple dots, or go in the other way,   too. They're just like, "We're gonna increase the  blue dots." People just don't, they can't adapt. I wonder how much of this ties into, so one of  the researchers on these studies was Dan Gilbert,   who I'm a fanboy of, and I hope one day comes  on this podcast. Dan Gilbert is like one of the   originators of this concept of a psychological  immune system, which is this idea that our   satisfaction with our lives tends to always  hover around like a seven out of 10. And a   really positive event, you know, you get married,  you have a child, you win the lottery, you know,   it'll bump you up to a eight or nine temporarily,  but there's like this center of gravity back down   by a seven, 6 1/2 to a seven, and it's the  same thing on the other end. Like, you know,   something terrible happens in your life, you  dip for a while, and then you eventually get   pulled back up. This feels almost like a corollary  theory of just pain instead of happiness. Like,   there's a certain amount of problems that you  seem to need to have in your life, that you   need to perceive in your life to maintain a sense  of meaning and purpose, and when the environment   around you gets absolutely terrible and abysmal,  your definition of problem will adjust itself   accordingly to kinda keep yourself at that  moderate amount of problem. And then, if there are   no problems in your environment, your definition  of a problem will also adjust accordingly until   you hit that threshold to give you a sense of  meaning and purpose. So I don't know if he would   agree with that, but I see a parallel between  those two things. It's also, it's something that   I'm definitely, I'm gonna feel like a fucking  old man now, but like, I sometimes worry, I was   talking to somebody about this recently, about how  we're quickly approaching a point where everybody   who lived through World War II is gonna be dead in  probably the next decade or two. Because I think,   within society, it's important to have a certain  demographic of people who have that perception,   whose baseline level of like what a problem is,  is pretty drastic 'cause it keeps everybody else   in check. Like, if everybody else, their lives  are like too cushy and comfortable, then they're   gonna start getting upset over spilled milk all  the time, and they're gonna generate a lot of   political strife over things that are just kind  of objectively not there. But if you have that   cohort of people who have actually seen some shit  and actually lived through some serious problems,   they can kinda be the check and balance  on the rest of the population that hasn't. Yeah, yeah, well, interestingly, when  I was digging around with this, too,   I found there was a recent study  in 2023 that the older you get,   the less affected you are by the  Blue Dot Effect, by this, yeah. Interesting. So the more objective you see things? Well, I don't know. See,  that brings up the question,   are you just more rigid in your thinking as you  get older? Which is kinda the stereotype, right? Right. And are you too loose when you're younger,   too loose in your subjective moral judgments?  Or like, so that brings up the question, like,   is there a balance of the rigidity of your  thinking? And if it varies by age, I mean,   yeah, that makes sense. Like, you know, back in  my day, this was so much worse or whatever, right? Yeah, I mean, it's also just when you're older,  you have a greater reservoir of experience- Yeah. to draw upon, right? Right. Right. So it's like, you've seen thousands and thousands  of threatening and nonthreatening faces,   so you're less likely to be fooled, or you're less  likely to have your definition of threatening be   altered so quickly and easily. Whereas, if you're  young, and you've never really been in threatening   situations, your definition of threatening  is gonna move pretty quickly and easily. Right, right, that balance. And you're right, I  think there needs to be a cohort in society that   is more rigid in their thinking and holding,  like, okay, this isn't actually as bad as it is.   Young people, let me teach you, you know? We are  getting to be like a lot of like finger wagging- We are, dude. at the young people. Dude. But I think there is something to that.  And if you look at right now, a lot of,   you know, the kind of civil discourse  that's going on, it does seem to be,   there is a lot of like young versus old  kind of rigid thinking versus this is the   new way of thinking, and that's how it  happens every generation, I know, but. Yeah, yeah. That's playing out at scale right now. All right, really quick, first the sponsor,  then back to this. This episode is sponsored   by Shopify. Shopify is a powerhouse behind  millions of thriving businesses across the   globe. 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I don't   understand what's revolutionary about this, but  anyway, sign up for a $1 per month trial period at   shopify.com/idgaf. That's $1 for your first month,  shopify.com/idgaf, stands for I don't give a fuck,   but I do give a fuck about selling shit online.  That's why I like Shopify. One of the things I   noted down, which I wonder, I kinda wish we had  an old person here to ask them. I wonder if the   internet exacerbates this psychological phenomenon  because we are presented with so much information   online. You know, it's the equivalent of being  exposed to like tons and tons of blue dots,   so it's like if the effect of this requires a  certain, like perceiving a certain amount of   phenomena to have your definitions altered,  then increasing the quantity of phenomena   that you're perceiving is gonna alter your  definitions quicker than it would otherwise. Right, right. It compresses the time. Exactly, you can literally get  on TikTok, and within 30 minutes,   your definition of what's threatening and what's  not has changed. Whereas, in past generations,   you know, maybe that happens over  the course of a year or two years. Well, I think that it almost has  to be. In the studies that they do,   going to the original study with the blue dots,  they show them like tons and tons of blue dots,   and they do, I think it's like a  couple hundred trials with each person. Wow. So it is over a lot of trials. So I  think you're right. If you increase   the amount of information there, you're  basically compressing the time needed. So maybe that's another argument for  an information diet of like limiting   your informational consumption simply to  maintain objectivity as much as possible. Definitely, yeah, I don't know. I know with  me, I just don't, I don't watch a lot of news   anymore. I don't consume very much of media in  general, not a whole lotta social media, and   I have just found that like I just don't have as  many strong opinions as I used to have, for sure. Me too, and it's funny. I stopped  watching news a few years ago,   and I had the same experience. I felt like I  got more objective the less news I consumed,   and that made no sense to me. And then I  remember, 'cause I wrote an article about this,   I remember going and digging into some  research, and they actually found across   the population that people who watch  the most news are the least informed- Yeah, yeah. which makes no sense. Well, until  you actually watch the news. On the surface it doesn't. Yeah, yeah. It isn't until you actually watch  the news, then it makes total sense. When you see how people are consuming  news, then it makes sense, yeah. Absolutely, and when you see how  the news is portrayed. right? Right. Like, it's more infotainment than information.  It's everything has an angle, everything has a   headline, everything is, it's optimized for  emotional reaction and emotional impact and,   in some cases, political impact more so than  actual like sharing of objective information.   So that's not entirely surprising, but it is just  such a bizarre thing that it's one way to look   at it is, like, as you raise your threshold  of what information can get through to you,   it means the only things that get through  are things that are very high quality,   that have been vetted, that have been  shared and discussed multiple times for   a long period of time. It's the same thing  as like eating less more nutritional food. Right. Like, you're probably just gonna end up healthier. Right, just like one kind of example  I just thought of of that is election   polls. You know, we're in an election year  right now. Election polls this early on,   like almost none of them historically  have ever even come close to being right. Yeah. And yet, people like obsess over them now, right? Yeah. And so it's like you're not as  objective. Like you were just saying,   you know, you're not as objective if  you're paying attention to the micro,   if you step back and just like  breathe, yeah, a little bit more. Totally. There's this kind of weird thing going  on right now where objectively, you've   kind of already alluded to this, objectively,  things are getting better for a lot of people. Mm-hmm. Yes, inequality. Like there's this big  gap between the haves and have-nots still,   but like, objectively, your average person,  if you would go back 100 years or whatever,   the median person out there is doing  better than they were 100 years ago. I've seen this in a couple places,  and it's true. A poor person today,   like if you are somebody who's on the threshold  of poverty in a first-world country today,   you objectively live better than kings  lived in the 19th century, point blank. So, yeah. So while that's  happening, at the same time- Yes. there's a perception that things are getting  worse for a large number of people as well,   and the kind of standard explanation I've  seen so far for it is that gap in inequality.   It's that, yes, as our psychology adapts- Yes. to better things, we look around more, and we  see, oh, somebody else has it even better than   I do. I think that explains part of it, but now  you have the Blue Dot Effect on top of that, too,   I think, that explains some of this as well,  where it's just built into our psychology that   when things get better, we just don't notice  it. Things getting better is discounted. So economics is another great example. Yeah. Like you mentioned, we're  in election year right now,   and when they poll people about how  they feel about the American economy,   it's terrible. The polling reflects as if  we're in a recession right now, yet, by all   the economic data, the economy's doing great,  yet nobody's happy still despite everything. Right, right. And the Blue Dot  Effect seems as like that might   be carrying a lot of that, it seems like, yeah. Yeah. What's actually really weird about the  economic stuff is that, at least in the US,   people's perception, now we're kinda getting  off on a tangent, but like people's perception   of how good the economy is maps really  well to just which president's in office- Oh, yeah, yeah. which is fucking depressing as  shit. Like, come on, people. And that's gotten tighter over  the last like 20 years, too. Yeah. Like, that switch, as soon as it- Oh. it just flips. Instantaneous. Yeah, yeah. It's insane. Instantaneous. Well, let's talk about some  of the personal stuff because there's a lotta   interesting kinda individual examples of  this, and, you know, this is something I've   absolutely noticed with the definition of health,  right? Like, back when I was really unhealthy,   my definition of being unhealthy was like drinking  eight cocktails and eating half a pizza at three   in the morning, right? It was just absolute  abomination of a consumption evening. Whereas,   like today, even I'm like so much healthier on  all these metrics, the same amount of guilt that   I used to feel when I used to get absolutely  plastered and eat like an entire pizza,   I feel that same guilt when I, like, have  a candy bar and maybe eat an extra slice   of pizza or something. I don't know, like  it is so minuscule the things that, like,   trigger guilt in me now, which is weird because  you would think that, like, now that I'm healthy,   I don't have that food guilt anymore, but I still  have just as much guilt. It's just the definition   of what makes me feel guilty, the goalposts  have moved so far back that like, the slightest   infraction, I'm like, "Ah, man, why did I have a  third piece of chocolate? Like, I'm disgusting." Yeah, no, I know. I beat myself up for every   little bite of dessert that I have or  anything like that. I totally get it. I've seen it. I've had some friends who  were into bodybuilding in the past, too,   and you see it. There's like  an aesthetic version of this,   where I've had friends who are into bodybuilding,  and they're like, "Oh, bro, I'm like so outta   shape right now." And I'm like, "What are you  talking about? Like, you're fucking jacked." Right, right. They're like, "Man, no, I'm like, I'm up  to like 13% body fat. I can't see my bottom   abs anymore. Like, I'm a mess." And I'm like,  "That's offensive. Like, stop talking to me." Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, no, for sure. Yeah,  fitness, too. You could do the same thing   with just like workouts or whatever.  Now that I've been working out more,   if I don't get a good workout in, I'm kinda like,  "Oh, that's such bullshit, like I should have- Yeah, right? like a better workout." And that's like- Yeah, or like you skip a set, and you're like- Yeah, yeah. you spend the next, the whole drive home  being like, "Why'd I skip that set?" Yeah, so what's considered unhealthy  has now expanded to all of these small,   minor things that really aren't unhealthy. As the unhealthy behaviors become less prevalent,   we expand our definition of unhealthy behavior  so that we always feel miserable about ourselves. Right, yeah, yeah. No, for sure. I can't tell you how many emails I've gotten from   readers and listeners over the years  that have just been like, you know,   "I'm improving my life in X way. When am I gonna  stop feeling bad for this thing?" And then like. Yeah, really. And my answer, I just always  wanna be like, "You're not." Yeah. "You're not. Sorry, bro, like." Yeah. It goes back, Mark, to the whole,  you know, choose your problems, right? [Mark] Yeah. The solution for it in some ways is, and this  is your big thing, too, one of your big things,   choose your problems really well. Your  mind is gonna create problems. There's   always gonna be problems in your life, but  you could also get to a point, you know,   where if you're in this space, and  you're working on yourself a lot,   and you are making progress, there is a  tendency to now focus on every little thing. Yes. And the things that aren't important. And  so, like, yeah, you should give a fuck about   things that really are important and be very,  very cognizant of that as things get better. Well, and I think the tricky part is   catching yourself when your expansion  of the definition has gone too far. Mm, yes. That it starts when you've become that guy  who like can't sleep at night 'cause he hit   12% body fat, or when you're the straight  A student who hates themselves because they   got an A minus on their last exam. When  your definitions of something have become   so stringent and so just uncompromising  that you are making yourself miserable,   it's difficult to catch yourself in those moments,  and I think that's where the skill of like,   just learning to let go and just like being  comfortable with imperfection is really key. Yeah, that was a lesson I took  from like therapy, I think. Yeah. And we've kind of talked about this before.  You've touched on it a couple other episodes   as well with guests, is that kinda like you  go to therapy, and once you kinda have like   the bedrock and the solid foundation and the big  things kind of, I'm not gonna say under control,   but you have a grasp of them, don't  go looking for all the little things. Right. I had this experience. Actually, this  is how you can tell a good therapist,   for one, is that they will tell you, they're like,  "Look, we don't have to solve every little thing." Yes. And I had a therapist tell me that. That was a  big, like, click for me. I was like, "Yes, okay,   great." She's like, "I'm here to give you a few  tools that you can use out in the real world-" Yes. "to apply to the things when they actually  do, you know, when this comes up. You don't   have to solve every little fucking  thing when you come in here with me." Totally. So that's another area where- That's actually, that segues perfectly. I  think, emotional problems, right, so it's- Yeah, yeah. you'll see people with like very deep-seated  insecurities, debilitating anxiety, they work for   years to solve it, and their immediate reaction  is to look for the next insecurity or anxiety   to solve. And eventually, you get to a point, and  this is where you get into like self-help addicts   and stuff. Like, I've met self-help addicts that,  like, they will obsess over, you know, there'll   be like an awkward conversation with their partner  at dinner, and they will spend the next three days   obsessing over it. And it's like, well, sometimes,  just awkward conversations happen. Like,   you don't need to go solve this. You don't need to  like do breathing exercises and journal about it.   At a certain point, the attempt to solve all of  your problems becomes the problem. I think a lot   of it is just like recognizing when is it enough?  Like, when are you good? When are you just like,   okay, I've not solved all my anxiety issues, but  I'm good, I'm set. I can make it through life at   this level, and I'm gonna have a good life. Like,  the trick is to find that moment. Stand back. You've talked about that before.  You've talked about how like,   even now, you're still like,  I still get socially anxious. Yeah. That's still a problem. And definitely- Yeah. for me too, yeah. The thing that I overdid was like dating  and relationship stuff when I was younger. You think you overdid it?  Like writing a book about it. Pff, like running, running a web business- You think you overdid that? for five years around it? Yeah,  writing hundreds of articles. Slightly overshot that one. You think, yeah. It was interesting because I  remember, after I wrote "Models," I kinda had   this moment where I was like, "I'm retiring from  this industry." And when I left the industry,   I kinda shut that part of my brain off as well.  You know, like that part that I used to go on   dates, and I've like analyzed everything  that was happening on the date. It's like,   "Oh, well, she laughed really hard. Like, was  that a genuine laugh, or like, maybe I should say   this again 'cause that'll get her to laugh again."  You know, like all that, like, kinda overanalysis   that was happening, I just stopped doing all that  stuff. 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Okay, this is  getting weird. Just go buy the thing. What else? Just more like, we're kind of on the subject of  mental health here, just more in the mental health   realm, this happens as well. And actually, in the  medical community in general, but specifically,   in the mental health world where expansions of  definitions of things like depression, trauma,   ADHD, all of these things, where we've identified  the problem, we know how prevalent the problem is,   we think we have a grasp on the problem,  and then we start applying it to edge cases,   you know, or less severe cases, and all of  a sudden, the definition expands into all   these other areas. For example, with  ADHD. You were diagnosed with ADHD. Yeah. And you're pretty sure you,  like that's a legit diagnosis- Yeah, yeah, yeah. right, and you had it- For sure. developmentally and everything like that. There's  a lotta debate right now. There's a few camps in   the psychiatry world about whether it's  being overdiagnosed or not right now. Yeah. And, you know, there's ways, it's interesting. In  like the medical community, in the mental health   community, they have ways of trying to figure  out if something is being overdiagnosed. And   basically, one of the criteria is, they don't  call it this, but is the Blue Dot Effect taking   over? You know, do we have a hammer, and we're  just looking for nails at this point? And there   are some people who think, you know, ADHD is  being overdiagnosed in some populations and   maybe underdiagnosed in others, but there's a big  debate going on around it. And if you read it,   and you read it knowing the Blue Dot Effect,  you see this, this whole backdrop to it. Well, something funny happens, too, and I think  medical diagnoses is a good example of this. Like,   when the definition of something expands  to become so broad that it envelopes,   like, a very significant percentage of  the entire population, it kinda loses   its meaning as a disorder. Like, if 40% of the  population has something, is that a disorder? Right, yeah, right. No, it's just a trait. Right, right. It's just a difference. Uh-huh. I mean, you see this in everything, right?  Like, you see this, the definition of trauma.   If anything painful is a trauma, then the  meaning of trauma has no significance,   right? It's like, okay, well, cool,  everything's trauma. Who gives a shit? Right. Right? The definition of trauma has  expanded to include stress as well. It's interesting because I generally  think that the people who push for   the expansion of definitions do so with  good intentions of like not enough people   are recognizing their trauma. More  people should work on their trauma. 100%, yeah. Let's make people more aware of their trauma,   and then the definition of trauma expands  to the point that people are like, "Well,   if that's trauma, then there's no point  in paying attention to it," right? Right. Because it's such a quotidian, insignificant, banal thing that happens all the time. And  you see this over and over again. You see   it in politics. Like, you see it in  everything. Definitions are funny. Right, yeah, and the damage comes in  overtreatment, too, in that, right? Yes. And so, especially like something, a developmental  disorder like ADHD, if you're gonna be treating   teenagers, you know, they don't even have a  frontal lobe in their brain, basically, you know? Yeah, yeah. And you're giving them psychoactive drugs for  these edge cases, you know, that's the worry. Yeah. Whether that's going on or not, that's the  debate. I don't know for sure where that   line is being drawn. Some people think  we're overdiagnosing and overtreating,   but that's where the damage comes, is when  the intervention is worse than just leaving   it alone and dealing with it in a way that  can be, you know, not as invasive. So, yeah. Yeah, rub some dirt on it. Rub some dirt on it. Again, our  old man way of wagging our fingers- Oh, dude. at the kids here. I know, I know. So this is something I've been  thinking about lately is journaling. And I think,   speaking of being an old man, I think this  is something I haven't appreciated until   recently. I always thought about the value of  journaling was in kind of just the therapeutic   act of writing your thoughts out on paper and  like the way it forces you to organize your   thoughts and feelings in a very real way in your  mind to help process them, I guess. What I never   considered before, probably 'cause I was too  young to really consider it, is the value that   comes with having a record of how you felt and  perceived things at a previous point in time. Oh. If the Blue Dot Effect is as significant  as we're discussing here, then, to me,   that raises the value and utility of journaling.  Because let's say your definition of trauma in   your life or your definition of injustice in your  life has expanded, and these things usually expand   unconsciously. We don't realize that they've  expanded. Then, having a documentation of how   you felt about these things, say, five years  ago before you read all those news stories,   before you watched all those TikToks, and  seeing like, huh, oh, interesting. Like,   I didn't feel this way about these things in my  life at that time. Maybe that's a reality check.   I mean, maybe it's also just like, wow, I was  so naive and stupid five years ago. You know,   I've had that experience with journals before.  And I've talked to a lotta people who've had   that experience where it's like their memory of  something is terrible, and then they go back and   read the journal from when it happened, and  they're like, "Oh, it actually wasn't nearly   as terrible as I've kind of built it up to be  in my head." So, yeah, I don't know. That's a   concept that I've been kinda dwelling on. I  feel like I should be journaling more, Drew. I have started to try to journal more recently,  too, and I kinda have like, I have like,   I don't know, 12 notebooks laying around and  like 13 different notes in my phone, and emails   I send to myself and stuff like that, and I'm  trying to like gather 'em all into one place. Oh, yeah. 'Cause I think that's a good way to do it, too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I've journaled sporadically throughout  my life. It's usually when things are going   wrong. Like, that's kinda when I'm like, I  need to write. I need to write shit down.   But then things will go well for two or  three years, and I won't write anything,   and I'm reaching an age where I'm  starting to like regret that a little. It's kinda like prayer. You only pray  to God when things are going wrong. Totally. You only pray to God when  things are going wrong, right? Yes, hey, God. Sorry I haven't talked to  you for a while, but I need something. [Drew] Derek Sivers brought this up, though,   too. You remember that? He said that he's been  keeping a daily journal for, like, years now. Yeah. And he talked about a relationship he was going  through. It's been so good, what happened? And   he went back and read it and was like, "Oh, no.  Actually, it was kinda terrible the whole time." Yeah, that's a perfect example. Yeah. I mean, the definition expansion aside,   our memories of things are  completely skewed as well, you know? Atrocious, yeah. And you see, and again, to kinda bring it  back to the political, this is why I started   replacing news with reading history, and it was  a complete game changer for me because people   don't remember history. Like, people think  whatever is wrong now is the worst it's ever   been. It's the worst. It's an absolute calamity.  And then you just go start reading some history,   and you're like, "Oh my God, like just  40 years ago, it was 10 times worse." Right, yeah. You know, and it gives you context to understand  what's happening now. So I definitely see that   now. You know, obviously, that we've got two  prominent wars going on in the world. People   are upset about 'em. They are terrible. But, dude,  just go pick up a fucking history, like read some   basic history about both of those regions, Ukraine  and Russia and Israel and Gaza, and it's like,   there is nothing happening right now that is  like particularly unprecedented, you know? Right. Or just completely unforeseen. Like, there is like  multi-century history behind both of these events.   They have been much, much worse and egregious  in the past than they are now. All right,   I think, let's end this. Dan Gilbert, one of  the psychologists behind this that I referenced   earlier, he has a beautiful way of putting this.  He said, "Solving problems causes us to expand our   definitions of them. When problems become rare, we  count more things as problems. Our studies suggest   that when the world gets better, we become harsher  critics of it, and this can cause us to mistakenly   conclude that it hasn't actually gotten better at  all. Progress, it seems, tends to mask itself." [Drew] Yeah, that's a good line. Fucking great man. He's brilliant. And that is true on the personal  as well as the political. Yeah. Progress tends to mask itself. You  don't recognize it when it's there   all the time. And sometimes, when  you think it's there, it's not. Right. So, awesome. Well, anything else to say? That's all I got. That's all you got? Mm-hmm. All right. Well, thank you, everybody.  Maybe we should expand our definition of   a podcast into new and more fun things in the  future. So, please, like and subscribe to the   show. Let us know what you think in the  comments. Feel free to send us an email,   [email protected], [email protected],  and we will see you next time.