and one of the things that you see this is worth knowing too because if you're preyed upon by a psychopath which you will be to some degree at some point in your life the psychopath who will be narcissistic will presume that you're stupid and and and that you deserve to be taken advantage of because you're not even stupid so it's actually a good thing that he's doing it and he his proofer and I'm saying he because there are more male Psychopaths the the proof that you're stupid naive is that he can take advantage of you and so like if you were wiser you'd be you know you you'd know his tricks and then it wouldn't be morally necessary for him to show you just exactly who knows what about what and so the psychopath will use his ability to to fool you as proof of his own grandiose grandiose omnipotence omniscience and narcissism and the problem with that is that you can be fooled by a psychopath and virtually anybody can so that Robert hare for example who studied Psychopaths for a long time and interviewed a lot of them like hundreds of them and videotaped many of the interviews he said when he was talking to the Psychopaths he always believed what they were saying and then he watched the video afterwards and see where the conversation went off the rails but you know the pro the proclivity to be polite in a conversation is very strong and if you're polite you don't object to the way that the person unfolds their strategy you know and Psychopaths are pretty good at figuring out how to manipulate obviously how to manipulate people and the probability that you will be immune to that is extraordinarily low go watch Paul Bernardo being interviewed by policemen on on YouTube that's bloody it that's enlightening man Paul Bernardo he's like the CEO of a meeting in that video you know he gives the cops hell it gives the lawyers hell he protests his innocence he basically tells them that they're rude and untrustworthy because they don't trust him because he did a few little things 17 years ago and he gets away with it a few little things right I mean he killed a bunch of people including the sister of his girlfriend at the time and you know he was a repeat sexual offender murderer it's like but he basically goes well you know that's a long time ago it's like we're past that aren't we I mean I'm having a discussion with you I'm trying to solve help you solve some crimes which by the way I committed but we won't bring that up you know and you're you're you're accusing me of being a liar like you're not playing fair what what's up with you and then when the answer he looks at his fingernails which is like that's a lovely little manipulative thing because it basically means whatever happens to be under my fingernail at the moment is much higher priority than listening to your foolish story and you watch you'll see people do that to you and then you get a little insight into what they're up to he's very good at that and so or he looks outside or he already just looks at his hands or he looks out the window immediately dismissive in his nonverbal behavior but it's brilliant that the courts were forced to release that by the way but look it up Paul Bernardo on YouTube Wow it's it's just mind-boggling it's he's so good at what he does and he's good-looking and he's charismatic and you know he can really pull it off and you can't tell what's happening with the cops and the lawyers whether they're just letting him play as a routine to get some information from him or whether he's actually setting them back on his heels and I suspect it's a bit of both but it's masterful performance if you didn't know who he was and you were watching it without the audio you'd think he's the CEO of some company given his employees hell for not being up to scratch that's all his body language his eye contact everything just speaks that it's amazing so anyways you got these two-bit hoods here who think they're really something they also think they're tough and dangerous and and they're not they're just you know cowardly and corner dwellers and and they confuse their unwillingness to abide by reasonable rules as indication of their heroic courage which is something else that low-rent hoods like to do you know and it's partly because lots of people who just attend to the law do do that because they're cowardly which is a Nietzsche and observation are you good are you just afraid well let's start with afraid first before we proceed to good and that the reason that you follow the rules is because you're afraid of getting caught yeah well you know those kids who often university kids who learn like a hockey riot and they end up breaking windows and stealing things and you know they get nailed for it and afterwards they're really blown away by their own behavior it's like well they're in that camp it's like they think they're good people but they're not they're just never anywhere where you could be bad and as soon as you put them somewhere where they could be bad it's like out it comes just like that and that's that's really worth thinking about because most of you many of you but not all of you I suspect have never really been somewhere that you could be really bad and get away with it and so you might think well you wouldn't do it but but people do it all the time so anyways they're talking about some exploits and then they see that this character named Stromboli who's a marionette he has a puppet show right and he's kind of a wheeler-dealer to remember I showed you that knit that mask that was glaring out Pinocchio when he got his voice it's like Stromboli isn't one of his manifestations these the Fox here is another one of his manifestations and all the negative characters throughout the movie are manifestations of the same thing it's partly the adversarial individual and it's partly the tyrannical aspect of society it's the negative masculine that's that's one way of thinking about it so and you know when men go bad they often go bad by being antisocial and tyrannical so it wet is way more antisocial men than there are antisocial women which is why there's 20 times as many men in jail as there are women you know so each gender let's say each sex has its own path characteristic pathologies and there are some antisocial women you know and there are some high in neuroticism guys who are who are or some guys who are really agreeable as well so but they're rare so anyways he sees this this poster advertising strombolis puppet show so Stromboli is a puppet master now that's really worth thinking about because that's an archetypal theme or it's at least attached to an archetypal theme some things behind the scenes pulling the strings and everybody always wonders what that is right what's actually going on what's actually going on with Trump who's actually in control is it Putin I mean that's that's the that's the fantasies of the left it's Putin it's like well the question always is what's going on behind the scene right and the question is that's the case certainly on the political landscape business landscape interpersonal relations what's what are you really up to everyone's always wondering that right there that's why they're watching your eyes because your eyes point at things and they can infer what you're interested in and then what you're up to by looking at what you look at and that's why your eyes have whites is so that we can see where you're pointing because gorillas don't and so so what that means roughly speaking is that all of your ancestors whose eyes couldn't be reliably tracked are either killed or didn't mate it's a big deal for us to see where people's eyes are pointed and so we're always watching each other's eyes constantly what are you up to what are you up to you what are you looking at what do you want and I want to know because if I know what you want I can predict how you're gonna behave and that also means I can cooperate with you or I can compete with you or I can lie to you but all the information is in the eyes is surrounded by the facial display right because that's also an indication of motivation and emotion and so we're trying our eyes are so good at that that for you guys sitting there in the back I can tell if you're looking at my eyes are at my chin and the deviation in your eyes is so tiny that it's it's a kind of miracle that we're capable of making that perceptual observation it's really important to us so and we have really good eyes so that's another thing about us so anyways what's going on behind the scenes well if you look at Stromboli you might be thinking it's not clear he's someone you'd want to have pulling your strings like there's a little bit of forced in thoose II Azzam let's say there and he's just not a very savory looking character so anyways the Fox knows him and they start talking about Stromboli that old Joker and then what they could how they could possibly involve him in him in some sort of scam because he's back in town and then they see the puppet and the Fox does his equivalent of thinking which is you know pretty sad but and and nasty but that's what he does and then they see this puppet with no strings and they think hey man a puppet master would pay a lot for something that is capable of semi autonomous movement like that it would be kind of a miracle and so they decided that they're going to take him to Stromboli and so they grab him and he's got an apple to take to the teacher which i think it's the cat promptly eats and that's the forks are acts out is sort of false enthusiasm about what Pinocchio is up to and pretends that he's his friend which is of course what your typical pedophile will do and so this is in the same kind of category and it truly is so and one of the things that's interesting to know about pedophiles and is that they're predatory right and so they don't go after kids that are assertive and likely to be noisy they watch and they watch to see if they can find a kid who's defeated and that's good enough who's defeated and who's gonna need a friend and who's not going to object and so when they check out these are the ones who do the stranger abductions which are by the way extraordinarily rare they look for a victim type they look for a kid who's going to be easy to take down and so you know that's one thing you don't want so you might think well one of the things that was really big it's probably even worse now when I was a parent of young children was to teach your kids how to be afraid of strangers it's like no wrong heed that is not what you teach them because all you do is teach them then to be timid and fearful and the real predatory types they're they're pretty much thrilled about that because you'll also make them shelter than naive you know so that is and you make your kids courageous and you get the day I'm eyes open and that's the best thing you can do to protect them against people who are truly dangerous so none of that terrifying notice it's not a good idea