Lecture on Dialectics, Technology, and Interpersonal Relationships

1. Introduction to Dialectics

• Relational Dialectics: Tensions between conflicting psychological forces in relationships (romantic or platonic).
• Key Categories of Dialectics:
  • Autonomy and Connection: Balance between independence and desire to connect.
  • Openness and Closeness: Sharing intimate thoughts vs. maintaining privacy.
  • Novelty and Predictability: Desire for newness vs. need for consistency.

2. Managing Dialectical Tensions

• Open Communication: Discuss tensions respectfully to improve relationship dynamics.
• Strategies:
  • Temporal Selection: Alternate prioritizing needs.
  • Topical Segmentation: Choose topics that satisfy different desires.
  • Neutralization: Compromise to partially satisfy both parties.
  • Reframing: Collaboratively change perspective to lessen contradictions.

3. Technology and Interpersonal Relationships

• Impact of Technology: Changes in building and maintaining relationships through apps and social media.
• Key Concepts:
  • Hyper Personal Communication: Online self-presentation.
  • Media Multiplexity: Multiple media forms for closer relationships.
  • Polymedia: Choice of media for communication based on appropriateness.
  • Virtual Distancing: Less interaction online as relationships wane.

4. Guidelines for Virtual Communication

• Speak the Right Language: Use appropriate communication style for each media.
• Amplify the Signal: Use emojis or tone indicators to convey emotions.
• Respond Promptly: Timely responses indicate care and respect.
• Avoid Sloppy Emailing: Maintain professionalism in emails.
• Expect Problems: Be upfront about preferred communication methods and potential delays.

5. Exam Prep and Reflection

• Exam Prep Questions: Consider why your answers are correct.
• Reflection Question: Reflect on the lecture content and its implications.