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Nikki's Life Story

Sep 18, 2025

Overview

This interview features Nikki, who shares her life story of homelessness, trauma, substance use, and her goals for recovery and self-improvement. The segment concludes with a brief promotion for a photography book.

Early Life and Family Background

  • Nikki grew up in Avenue, California as an only child.
  • Her father was abusive and frequently assaulted her mother.
  • At age seven, her mother killed her father during a violent incident; Nikki did not witness it but heard it happen.
  • Her mother was incarcerated, and Nikki entered the foster care system.

Foster Care and Adolescence

  • Nikki disliked foster care and ran away at age 13.
  • She met an older man (her pimp) who promised to care for her; she became pregnant at 14.
  • Her first child, a son, was born when she was 15; the father was in his late 20s.
  • The child was removed from her custody due to her drug use.

Substance Use and Life Developments

  • Nikki began using meth at a young age, leading to child endangerment charges.
  • She got clean at 19, had a daughter, and maintained sobriety for about 11 years.
  • She eventually relapsed and developed an addiction to fentanyl.
  • She lost custody of her daughter, who has autism; the child's father has custody.

Homelessness and Current Situation

  • Nikki is currently homeless, living in a tent downtown and supporting herself through theft and occasional sex work.
  • She struggles with rats and unsanitary conditions but values the freedom and fast pace of street life.
  • She experiences frequent emotional pain from missing her children.

Relationships and Abuse

  • Nikki has been in multiple abusive relationships, suffering serious physical injuries.
  • She connects her tolerance of abuse to witnessing her mother's experience.
  • One abusive partner was killed by her friend to protect her; subsequent relationships were also violent.

Regrets, Fears, and Mental Health

  • Nikki regrets losing contact with her children and returning to substance use.
  • She copes with emotional pain by using drugs and has experienced multiple overdoses, sometimes expressing a wish to die.
  • She has not maintained contact with her mother, who is schizophrenic, due to the traumatic nature of their interactions.

Goals and Aspirations

  • Nikki expresses a desire to get clean and is researching rehabilitation programs.
  • She wants to return to school for chemical engineering to develop her own cleaning products.
  • Her longer-term goals include stable housing and self-sufficiency.

Reflections and Lessons Learned

  • Nikki emphasizes the importance of not allowing others to take advantage of you.
  • She shares that standing up for oneself is crucial, especially in difficult environments.

Book Promotion

  • The interviewer announces the release of a second Softwhite Underbelly photography book, available for purchase online.