The word no is a complete sentence. No is a complete sentence. People pleasing is when somebody says something or wants you to do something and you're not like totally down with it. And what happens is we say no and then we explain to them long winded excuses of why it's no and why no, you know, I can't do it right now. Blah blah blah blah blah. And we go on all this [ __ ] If if someone wants you to do something and you tell them no and they get all [ __ ] up over that, that has nothing to do with you. Nothing to do with you. That has everything to do with them. You know, people pleasing is this thing where a lot of people go, I help people all the [ __ ] time. I help, I help, I help, I give, I give, I give all the [ __ ] time, and then I just get [ __ ] on. And uh the deal is is that people are helping and serving from a place of people pleasing. They want to be liked. They have expectations. Yeah, I'm going to help you, but you need to be nice to me. I'm going to help you because you need to act a certain way. I'm going to help you because you know some ulterior motive. And then plus if you if you know I'd go through this thing where I would agree to do something but I would resent doing it. Like I'll give you an example is when I was at Woodland, I agreed when I went to Woodland that I would do a chore every day. I agreed. I said, "Okay, yeah, I'll do a chore every day. I agree." And then when it was time to do my chore, I did my chore like [ __ ] Yeah. [ __ ] this [ __ ] place. And I [ __ ] had the kitchen floors and I did them like [ __ ] And then I got a strike. And then I'm like all mad and I want to leave. And then I did kept doing my drawer like [ __ ] like why do I got the hardest chore here? And then the next week we're supposed to alternate different chores and they saw that I was being such a little [ __ ] Then they go Danny kitchen floor. If we agree to do something, just handle it cuz you agreed. Don't agree to do something and then resent it or just say no. Just say no. No is a complete sentence. You know, we can't we got to get away from this peopleleasing thing cuz we want to be liked. Hey you guys, it's Danny. You want to find out how happy you really are and what you can do about it? Take this quiz. The link's in the bio and let's find out.