Overview
Jefferson Fisher shares practical strategies for smoothly changing topics when conversations become awkward or lose energy, focusing on making the transition feel natural and maintaining engagement.
Strategies for Changing the Subject
- Use a "reminder transition" by saying phrases like "Oh, that reminds me" or "I meant to ask you the other day" to signal a topic shift.
- Asking a well-placed question helps redirect the conversation and encourages participation without feeling forced.
- Ensure the transition makes the other person feel valued and that their input matters, not just as a way to fill silence.
Insights from Comments and Community
- Several professionals agree that reminder transitions make conversations more engaging and natural.
- Asking questions is highlighted as a reliable way to renew interaction, with people often enjoying sharing about themselves.
- Subtle changes in phrasing can significantly affect conversational energy and flow.
- Looking around or using body language can also prompt a topic change when needed.
- Project management professionals note these techniques are useful for keeping group discussions productive.
Questions / Follow-Ups
- What are some effective ways to leave a conversation less abruptly, especially when only one party wishes to exit?
Recommendations / Advice
- Incorporate reminder transitions and thoughtful questions to change topics smoothly in any personal or professional interaction.
- Focus on phrasing that shows genuine interest in the other person to keep the conversation positive and engaging.
Certainly! Here's a Mermaid flowchart that models the iterative framework for changing conversation topics smoothly until reaching a conclusion. The iterations depend on the context and flow of the conversation:
flowchart TD
Start([Start Conversation])
EnergyCheck{Is the energy dying or awkward?}
ReminderTransition[Use Reminder Transition<br>"Oh, that reminds me..."<br>"I meant to ask you..."]
AskQuestion[Ask a well-placed question]
MakeThemFeelValued[Make them feel valued<br>Show genuine interest]
ResponseCheck{Did they engage?}
ContinueConversation[Continue with new topic]
Conclusion{Reached a natural conclusion?}
End([End Conversation])
AdjustApproach[Adjust phrasing or body language<br>Try subtle cues like looking around]
Start --> EnergyCheck
EnergyCheck -- No --> ContinueConversation
EnergyCheck -- Yes --> ReminderTransition
ReminderTransition --> AskQuestion
AskQuestion --> MakeThemFeelValued
MakeThemFeelValued --> ResponseCheck
ResponseCheck -- Yes --> ContinueConversation
ResponseCheck -- No --> AdjustApproach
AdjustApproach --> AskQuestion
ContinueConversation --> Conclusion
Conclusion -- No --> EnergyCheck
Conclusion -- Yes --> End
Explanation:
- The conversation starts normally.
- When energy dips or awkwardness arises, use a reminder transition to smoothly shift topics.
- Follow with a question to invite participation.
- Make the other person feel valued to encourage engagement.
- If they engage, continue the conversation on the new topic.
- If not, adjust your approach (phrasing, body language) and try again.
- This loop continues until a natural conclusion is reached, then the conversation ends.
You can customize the "Conclusion" node based on your specific context or desired outcome. Let me know if you'd like it adapted further!