Four years of therapy in one minute. You are what you think. Garbage in, garbage out. Emotions aren't problems, they are signals.
Fear means something's important to you. Anger means your boundaries were crossed. Anxiety means you live in the future.
You need to come back to the present. Habits shape your life, not motivation. Change your habits, change everything. Your past is a book.
Read it, don't live in it. Triggered by others? That's a reflection.
What you judge is what you haven't healed. or haven't accepted. Control is a myth.
The only power you have is your decisions. At the end of the day, you are the architect and your life is your design.