this probably isn't for everyone but what's your Instagram game like can you share some Instagram strategies um I feel like Instagram game is not possible currently for the majority of guys because the Instagrams are not that good I think it's a much higher bar than uh using dating apps because on dating apps you just need four or five good photos for Instagram you need a bunch um I have met girls off Instagram but I have an unfair Advantage because I have like a lot of social proof photos um I have a YouTube channel um but yeah I mean you could I think the best strategy is to First have a really good profile Second all you reply to the story instead of just dming her uh you say something witty or about the about the uh reply to her post or reply to her story I mean and then you uh play it a little bit slower than Tinder you build up more investment more comfort and then you just go for the date but I think it's uh something that most guys will't fail at yeah I'll throw in something there quickly because me and you have quite a few lapse we do a lot of similar things having a YouTube channel myself just like you do you have something like 200,000 subscribers that is Happy Social Deal no big deal hey no big deal but uh that that's that's something you can carry on to Instagram because it's a it's a different format but YouTube shorts you can um use the same [ __ ] file for Instagram re so that's something I'm doing but most guys who and especially guys who don't have a YouTube channel won't be able to do the same thing that I'm doing which is using my YouTube shorts and just throwing them systematically onto Instagram and that is getting me followers I I gained um quite a few thousand followers on Instagram in the last few weeks just from this uh one instagram real or maybe two or three particular ones but doing that got me a lot of success and so for me and you having that bias us identifying essentially as YouTubers that really helps but for other guys normal guys who don't have necessarily anything special going on for them there are just so many possibilities but it's not necessarily clear what those guys can do with their Instagram however there there is one guy I'll just give an example who came up to me after one of my presentations and he said he's a musician what can I do for my Instagram and uh well you can make it about music make Instagram reals about music that's how you will gain followers and followers will help in terms of your Social proof it won't happen overnight the first night but it might happen overnight down the line one year from now two years from now something like that if you make your Instagram profile not about pictures of the [ __ ] food that you're eating or the restaurants you're going to or just [ __ ] selfies of yourself like me included that was my Instagram like 10 [ __ ] years ago or some [ __ ] um everyone else is just having these generic Instagrams where it's like here's a photo of me here's a photo of me you're not going to get followers that way and not much is going to happen you need to make use of Instagram reals if you're if you're just a musician by Hobby that's an Avenue you can take it that can help for your career your career may not be relevant to something you could do on Instagram you may be a janitor at a high school for example I don't think it'll be worth some janitor reels on janitor [ __ ] re 30 seconds just this comes down to a thing this comes down to a thing where you look at like dog face 43 or something where he was doing the Ocean Spray on the skateboard and got like 1.2 million followers so I I I think I kindly caveat that I think I just had to look at every single one of yours and your Instagrams are doing well so I feel as if we were all in the position in 2015 2016 where we didn't have that we learned it so it's a long-term play for a great return now where people where where I will agree with Alex where it's like the people that want short-term gratification quick results that's where you go to your Tinder I would say that if you learn how to play the longterm Instagram game is one of the most phenomenal things that you'll ever get because you won't you won't only just get girls you'll get connections you'll get opportunities come your away just by having a good Instagram and it comes down to that people just don't know how to present themselves correctly they've never spent time in front of a camera the average or given EXA the average person that is a news reporter takes about two years to get comfortable on camera yet Jeremy that takes five photos in his living room thinks he's going to be good on Instagram it doesn't happen like that if Kim Kardashian takes 5,000 photos for one selfie you have to understand that if if you want to get very very comfortable you know at least 10 20 30,000 photos be taken Jeremy the janer you know you never know you can put reals up there now there's a lot there's a lot of different strategies you guys are using the YouTube to Instagram strategy fantastic now you're repurposing reals to Instagram fantastic there's other ways you're thinking uh undermining the understanding of Twitter Twitter is a great lead source to be able to funnel to your Instagram these are things like you know people have used Reddit people have used quora people have used plethora different Avenues to be able to tail it Tik Tok for instance a great sort of way so there is always a way but it just starts with these guys want to do Instagram game and never want to put their face on camera it's like well for starters the reason why they don't want to do that is because they either butt ugly they don't want to improve themselves they don't want to do anything they're like oh this sucks this is going to take too much time they don't want to do the investment but again the guys that are willing to do the investment are willing to uh book the photographer look at different photo places in their environment understand that let me curate a character of who I am obviously everyone's doing this what makes me stand out what would make people want to follow me what am I going to put out there cuz if they're not doing that they just don't want to because they're like oh it's too much effort too much this too much that the same guys that like would say I don't want to go to the club the same guys like Tinder Bumble doesn't work for me same guys that wouldn't even pay for those apps so I would say that the guys that can't do it are the guys that will never do will never get success but the guys that actually go okay well this is a long-term pay and I'm I'm saying like you know you can get really really good within 6 months but you're going to reap the rewards a year year and a half in you're going to get some of the best results you've ever got in your entire life from Instagram it's it's a thing that that that was just it was a nothing and now it is is one of the most phenomenal places this is this takes away from the the the the the argument we just had as well where you know you a lot of time you don't even have to go to the club and you can get girls from sitting in your room again I spent 30 minutes yesterday sitting on my bed dming girls to set up dates and it can happen when your Instagram is there so you can eliminate 4 and a half hours because again at the end of the day the reason why this works is because of uh saving time so a good good analogy of this is when Uber decimated cabs you guys remember the year where Uber first came out New York everyone was doing that the reason why it completely destroyed the cab industry is because it was quick now I'm going to give you an example so in the year 2000 we're on a date with a girl usually it takes three to four dates to get to know something about you know the person and ends up being 12 hours whether you can understand that confidence understand their family structure understand who they are as people you know how tall they are all these different things how they handle pressure of ordering and and all these can probably takes about 12 hours where Instagram now a girl can go on your page and get that same information within about 25 seconds so it's about saving time so I would say that the guys that are not on Instagram not doing it they it's unquantifiable how many leads that they could be getting that they don't even see uh see them so they're like oh not losing anything by not doing it but when when you start to get on Instagram you actually start to see how many leads you have lost in the years and so that my my my two cents on this is that it's so underleveraged that if guys just actually you know pull their [ __ ] pants up and be a big boy and be like all right it's going to be a couple of years but I'm going to learn this strategy learn how to do it man so many [ __ ] great things can happen from this thing you know heck me I I I created like a pretty much a 35 person Social Circle from Instagram in medene within in two weeks being here through Instagram and that's just by by doing that I would just I would just add this um if you're living in like a first world country in America like I would say I have an Instagram that's better than like probably 95% of people I have a lot of uh Subs on YouTube and whatnot but I I would have a much higher Roi on dating apps or cold approach than I would on Instagram would just take a lot more work where I find Instagram actually comes in to help me where it's most useful is when I C approach a girl and she's like maybe and then uh when we sh Instagrams that can push her over the edge or uh a dating app or a girl from a dating app that's also maybe so that's where I find but initially the lead still comes from that I do think though in places like Colombia or uh any any country that's basically not America or Canada or England uh it could be a different story you might have a higher but like all these girls in uh America who are sixes and above have like a 100 million DMS and they have like in Miami pretty much every girl that's like hot on Instagram has some like basketball player celebrity sliding her D them so it is quite competitive yeah well that's in Miami you see a lot of the guys are fly in fly out with a lot of the girls from Utah from [ __ ] Ohio and that's what that's what a lot of the guys do sexy FM girls hell yeah that's that's it that's it but yeah you know but here's the thing it's like if you ever want to travel this is the best things to ever be able to use this is where connections can come from that this is where girls can come as soon as you step off the plane and again you yeah you got Tinder bumbl and hinge absolutely but yeah Alex is correct when you can funnel those into oh my God this is his lifestyle as well like you get five or six photos and a bit of a bio for for for dating apps but your whole Instagram is just oh wow this is what he does oh these are the people that comment oh these are the mutual friends we have oh these are the man of followers in the social per there's just so many layers on top of that that you can't just brush it off and be like N I don't want to do it it's not worth it it's like yeah some of the some of the C like I would say a lot of the most hottest girls have come from Instagram Instagram game 10,000% yeah got stories you got videos coming out you know just add to your presence the mutual connection things is such a [ __ ] powerful thing I was always fascinated by coincidences but you know even today one of the uh one of the coaches who couldn't make it I just crawled on his Instagram an hour before just started and I found that he's followed by I I only follow like 39 [ __ ] people on Instagram and I found that he's followed by uh two people that I follow one of which is a woman that I know who was part of my Social Circle and I was like oh [ __ ] how the [ __ ] does he know her he's all the way up in Toronto and she's all the way down in another country uh it's like that coin coincidence I was going to ask him but he's not here um I've been to clubs and even on Facebook and Instagram is the same seeing those connections where she's like oh you know this guy I went to New York University with him or whatever the place is um those can solidify your connection with the woman you just met in such incredible ways that you already have you know I'm not bothered by things we have in common but people we have in common is an incredible thing because she could ask that guy what he thinks of me or something like that even if it's bad she she could let me know oh he said something bad about you and he's just like white fting me or some [ __ ] that kind of thing happens you know but um even here here's a stranger perspective on this um so I'm married so this is going to be quite unrelatable in some way but um me and my wife when uh my wife was diagnosed with cancer two years ago we came up with this idea to uh create a new Instagram for her where she can just have Instagram reels and some photos of her wearing high heels like this is a 9 inch [ __ ] high heel thing um she could wear those and do exercise and that could be like the niche that she operates in um the alternative is as a woman she could just like do bikinis or whatever women do like classy Rison blue photos with some [ __ ] uh chandelier or some some [ __ ] or she could do bikinis whatever these ever types do or we can find something incredibly unique that is some somewhat fitted with a passion and like Sam was saying this guy had a dog who could [ __ ] skateboard if you have a [ __ ] pet that is awesome you could have something going like that if you have a bunch of [ __ ] cats and you're a nerd and you have this whole [ __ ] train set there's like a Japanese YouTube channel where they just like put a camera on this little model train and just run over the cats with it and that the cats like knock it down it's It's the funniest [ __ ] [ __ ] my daughter loves it even something like that that is something finding your own Niche if you don't have a solid personal identity yourself that's something good to go for but anyway any other perspectives can I just quickly clarify something for the people who are going to be wondering that's my thing lady background huh that's that yeah because there's going to be some people who are going to be like oh look look at the girl Alex is banging that's my cleaning lady hey hey hey you can do both you can she's very sweet she she's a very nice lady she's doing a good job so far how's her Instagram doing is she doing a I don't know we're just met today cleaning reels you know that's funny she's she's got some first trap photos on her Instagram in under 30 seconds I was gonna say some uh piggybacking off of Sam's response saying that it's it is a longer game right it is a longer process with Instagram but also it's very rewarding however it doesn't have to be as long as you think because if you're a person that is financially stable who makes close to six figures or over six figures you can showcase your life take some good photos maybe like nine good photos and then showcase your life through the stories if you're going out to like steakhouses if you're traveling people want to see that like I know it gets a little bit boring because right now you know I I do some of that stuff but I'm like I don't want to sear trat or same stuff you know the same restaurant same whatever but some people are going to think wow I like this guy's lifestyle I like I want to be a part of it so that's the benefit of being having an Instagram and showcasing your life a little bit more other than that you know I've gotten opportunities business opportunities romantic opportunities through Instagram just like how am I how I am here ice white hit up hit me up on Instagram and that's uh you know that's how it got started as well as certain people are you're going to meet from years ago are going to hit you up as well they see that progress they have that trust with you now they're like okay I see this person you know killing it grinding it whatever I want to work with him or I want I want to hit him up so he can make me you know his date or whatever so that's benef for having a great Instagram it doesn't have to take years it could take a few weeks having some good pictures and showcasing your lifestyle that's it yeah there's some funny coincidences like just a few weeks ago there was a guy who's uh who I actually met uh maybe two years ago he was married to a woman I was kind of working with and he just like randomly messaged me on Instagram saying uh they were now divorced he's the ex-husband and he he like found my content on Instagram or some [ __ ] or and he ended up buying my book you know that that's unique to me that's not going to be helpful for everyone but uh ultimately be creative with your thing like Alex's janitor cleaning lady in the background she could do some some cleaning reals wearing wearing some some bikini or some [ __ ] it's Miami might as well be [ __ ] creative um or if you're a cleaning man maybe you could wear big okay that's just ridiculous but you lady is probably like married with kids and we're just talking about like she's probably has like a family and stuff but yeah no that's that's just the funny [ __ ] like um my wife for example like we're married that the goal of her Instagram essentially just for fun I guess but there was the possibility that we could use it to raise money for there she is use it to raise money for cancer or something like that she didn't really want to go that route but uh we haven't uh done anything there for a while because I'm too busy doing other stuff but that's something fun finding your your own Niche if you don't know what it is go explore I would have never known I would have been some kind of YouTuber or making YouTube videos but um ex exploration is how I got there it took a few years to really get to this point but even when I had a smaller Instagram with like a thousand followers just um doing night game meeting people at the club I would get connections for there people would watch my stories and I will be able to get dates just from the people watching my stories so uh even you don't have to go super [ __ ] hardcore but even with just a thousand followers that's a nice start make use of those stories too anything else before we move on yeah I think make sure um you get someone who can help you of your Instagram because if you get it wrong it's actually a demonstration of lower value because I've had girls add me on Instagram before where there was massive chemistry and uh my Forte isn't photos my forte is an Instagram game it's more cold approach and connection and having a building real attraction in person so the attraction I created when I did the cold approach she looks at my Instagram and it's not complimenting the characteristics of what I'm conveying in the way that I speak to her so you've got to get it right and I would recommend if you're going to play that game and you're going to try and use your Instagram account to build connections and attract women find someone who knows what they're doing with it because it can actually serve as a a hindrance rather than a help if you don't get it right you know I've seen it myself and it's like the woman will judge you there's a comparison going on on that platform where on Instagram everyone's showing their best foot you know they're showing their the high highest level lifestyle so the women are comparing you to the footballer who's in a DM saying can I go out especially if you're attracting like hot girls you you exchange Instagrams so your your profile at least needs to be normal if there's any like grot in there or just the lads out and it looks like you're going to a cheap place to eat you're going to kill it for yourself so I would recommend if you're going to do that Instagram thing find someone who can who can help you with that for sure for for any guys who are not believing that like sucker players or like basketball players are in these GH DMs I have seen for myself and in the DMS of a woman who has just a thousand followers or maybe less than that she had DMS from and this this uh particular one I'm thinking of was back in 2018 maybe before you could literally pay for the verification badge I could see verification badges in there there were DJs uh no uh rappers in there DJs too actually um it is that is how it's happening you know these guys um this was back before you could pay for verification badges now it's like only 10 bucks a month or something so but you have to match up with that of course but um that's how it is that's really how it is even just a thousand followers yeah when I was um running a boot camp in August in Miami I started talking to a girl and she revealed that the last guy she was seeing was um Tristan Tate and I was like there's no [ __ ] way we're exchanging Instagrams it's WhatsApp only yeah like oh yeah comparison could be a real killer