rather than argue with reality learn the rules so you can shape it to your wishes someone really smart said that and it's the key to everything the rules that we follow and agree to participate in are what make up our reality there are simple moral code Type rules that stop us from slamming into somebody because they cut us off in traffic or punching an old lady because she's walking slowly or standing in front of a door way but then there's other rules and these rules are a bit harder to see and the thing about these rules is what's fair doesn't really matter if the hardest working person was rewarded with the most money then construction workers would be driving around in Lambos or the janitor who has to clean the toilets at a shitty Steakhouse will be wearing a PCH while he's mopping the floors but obviously these aren't the highest paying professions and it works the same way in dating you'll hear men complain about oh women only like bad boys women only like the guys that treat them like if I had that girl I would be a kingor I would treat her so well I would get her flowers I would kiss the ground that she walks on but she would never give a guy like me a chance and they get mad that the women that they want are rewarding somebody who they are not so they try to take this moral High ground and say I'm a good guy that guy is a piece of women are evil and those are the people that end up in comment sections mad at the world they're mad at successful people they're mad at pretty girls they're just mad at everything because they have a fun mental problem with the way that that reality works and they are not doing anything about it and that's the thing reality is concrete meaning it is as it is and if you don't like your reality you have two options you can either accept it for what it is or you can go and change it and when you do this something beautiful happens you're no longer sad and you have some direction because if you accept your reality for what it is and you stop saying woe is me the world is is the cause of all my problem problems and I just got the short end of the stick and this is unfair you stop complaining and you just accept whatever position you're in in life and you look at the world objectively and you make the decision to no longer put yourself in a state of hell and you accept that you're unwilling to make the changes or the sacrifices or do the things that would result in a different reality and a different outcome for you you can make that decision of acceptance and that's fine you'll no longer be pissed off at the world or you can decide that you want to change things about yourself so that you fit into into reality in a different way and your entire life becomes different your entire reality becomes different because you made the conscious decision to become the person that reality is rewarding whether that's a different type of career or starting your own business or becoming more of the person who the women that you want find attractive again rather than complaining about it once upon a time I was in a disagreement with reality I wanted to start a business and have more freedom and drop out of school and live that kind of flashy lifestyle that I see people do on the internet but I wasn't doing anything about it I was your average college kid going out three or four nights a week with no direction in my life and I felt absolutely lost and then one day I woke up and I was like bro what the are you doing you're kind of mad at the world right now because you're not getting anything that you want but you're also not doing anything to change the current situation that you're in so that day I decided to change my life and shift my habits my beliefs my entire Persona into the person who is getting the things that I wanted out of life and if I fast forward a bit I have exactly that I have the lifestyle I have the material items I have the relationships I have the impact and I have become the exact person that I wanted to be and looking back on my journey there are 10 main rules that I adopted that I abided by to go from where I was to where I am now and if you're somebody who wants to transcend into a better higher version of yourself these 10 rules will help you do exactly that rule number one there are no rules I know this is ironic but stick with me reality is as it is meaning it's a blank slate so you get to create your own rules and right now most of the rules that you are following are probably just ideas beliefs and limitations that other people have placed onto you that you haven't reconsidered you haven't audited and decided hey does this belief that I have about the world or about myself align with the reality that I want to create or is this just something that's been programmed into me and I haven't questioned it or thought about it in a long time so when you really think about this the the only rules that you are following right now are the ones you've created in your own head most of your anxiety and feeling like you're not living in alignment with your purpose stems from you feeling like you're obligated to do things that you don't want to do so the first thing I'll ask you is when was the last time you really thought about all the freedom that you truly have right now if I wanted to I could pack up all my things and move to a different city I could get rid of all my things I could stop running the business I'm running right now I could start a completely different other business I could tell people that my name is eigor and I'm a Russian spy I could start eating junk food all day and turn into a fat piece of I could literally do anything and I'm not going to do these things because they don't align with the reality that I want but understanding that these are all options is the first step to understanding the freedom that you truly have your life is a blank slate and you can follow any rules that you want and that's going to make up your perception of reality rule number two no one's coming to save you this is a really simple one but sometimes you just need to get this like beaten into your head there is no life r coming there is nobody that's going to just take your hand and take you as a mentor and like just carry you to the promised land or give you the money that you want you actually have to take the personal accountability and responsibility and place it on your own shoulders and decide that you are going to make a change in your life until you do that nobody will help you nothing's going to happen for you and you're just going to be perpetually lost and perpetually stuck rule number three is it's possible to change you are malleable everything that you believe about yourself can can be changed everything that you're doing on a day-to-day basis can be changed if you don't know a skill you can learn it if you aren't very articulate you can learn to be articulate you can learn to be good at sales you can learn to be a good writer you can learn to be more charismatic you can literally add any attribute that you want in life once you adopt the way of thinking that allows you to do so with enough effort and enough consistency you actually can transform anything about yourself and you can become a completely different person rule number four is it's often good to be wrong so many people are scared of making the wrong decision oh I I don't want to pick the wrong business model or oh I don't want to live in the wrong City or do the wrong thing say the wrong thing but the thing about this is It's like a multiple choice question like you have to cross off the answers that aren't right for you before you find what is right for you there's a quote that says if you can see your path laid out in front of you it's probably not your path you have to just get into the car and start driving and then you take a wrong turn and then you go around an intersection and then you go around around roundout and eventually you end up on the road that's right for you but you have to cross off all the things that are wrong for you in the process and it's those things that are wrong for you that are actually going to equip you with the tools and the attributes and make you become the person who is capable of having the things that are right for you rule number five is ask what not when when you're first starting anything you want everything to happen overnight you want to get the six-pack overnight you want to have a million dollars overnight you want to get your dream girl as soon as possible but you have to realize that anything worth having takes time and if you try to find shortcuts if you try to negate the learning process if you try to speed things up and look for a loophole all you're going to do is slow yourself down when really the best move is to ask yourself what can I do to make sure this happens no matter what and not get hung up on the timeline you just have to identify the actions that need to be taken every day to ensure that what you want will happen eventually rule number six shoot more shots this one's self-explanatory with anything in life whoever gets the most reps wins if you approach a th000 girls you're going to be really good at talking to girls if you take 1,000 free throws a day you're going to be a really good free throw shooter if you hop on 500 sales calls or you write 500 emails or you send 2,000 DMS eventually you will get the desired result in any area of life if you can just get more reps than 99% of people you will eventually win rule number seven is there's always a third door meaning sometimes you have to be crafty sometimes the system that everybody else follows isn't going to work for you you're going to have to find a way to get in contact with somebody that you have no business knowing you're going to have to create your own system or do something that other people aren't doing to get the result that you want quick story about this one one time I wanted to work with a YouTuber named captain simbat I wanted to help him build his coaching program and I saw that he had just launched it so I applied for the coaching program and I got on a call with him and I ended up actually joining the program sending him $1,000 because he was somebody that I wanted to be close to and then on our very first call together I told him about what I was doing and how I was making money how we were making our clients money and so on and he decided that he wanted to work with me and became a client that day that's just an example of craftiness and thinking outside the box rule number eight you're going to hit walls and that's okay you're going to have days where you don't want to get out of bed you don't want to go for a run you don't want to lift weights you don't want to do Outreach you don't want to hop on sales calls you don't want to do anything and everything feels like a herculan feat but you have to just keep going and push through that wall and if you push through enough walls they start to occur less frequently and your brain starts working for you rather than against you but especially in the beginning of anything hitting walls and going through times where Everything feels really difficult is natural and that's okay you have to accept that and that's the only way that you're actually going to get through it rule number nine you're going to feel like an impostor when you start changing things about yourself you have to act in a way that you're not used to and you're going to be like this isn't really me this isn't how I am this isn't who I am and you're going to have that voice that's like oh maybe I should just revert back to the way that I was but if you can ignore that voice and just continue acting in a way that aligns with the person you want to become rather than the person that you were you will become that new person and you'll forget that you were ever even pretending final rule number 10 you have all of the answers you just have to trust yourself if somebody came to you with the exact problems that you're facing right now odds are you'd be able to give them really good advice your emotions tend to get in the way when it's your own life and you start to doubt your own judgment you start to question the objective truth and then you start to teeter totter from one thing to the next and you just don't know what to decide you feel lost because you have no direction and you just don't trust that voice in the back of your head or that feeling in your gut that knows what you want and knows the exact route that you need to take to get it you have to start following that feeling and developing a deep level of trust in your own intuition and that's when you'll find the success that you always wanted anyway those are the 10 rules thank you for watching I'll leave you with this quote again rather than argue with reality learn the rules so you can shape it to your wishes and then you'll become happy and you'll live a life that you want to live I added that part but anyway thanks for watching love you like subscribe comment share this with your grandma go to the description if you want to get rich peace