I'm J dream and I'm not quite sure why everyone is mentioning their age just one thing for sure I'm not in my 20s anymore hi I'm Martin hi I'm Randy I'm Ro I'm Ryan and please join us on let's talk tiger mom or non- tiger mom which side are you on Martin in terms of parenting China's got the got the right idea you're for tiger mom yeah I also support tiger mom um I'm leaning towards towards non- tiger mom this is interesting American Chinese you are taking the site for tiger mom you're basically taking the side against it yeah yeah we come back to that and what are you I would disagree with the tiger mom tactics the way of parenting in China is more critical Chinese are focused they want to be number one they are competitive but if I was under an environment where my entire schedule was planned by my parents I feel like they're just torturing me I mean at Cornell a couple kids suicided because they were under so much pressure but it's not from their parents I think it's from the environment because parents are the person who care about you most in this world and I don't think parents is going to cause you to Suicide no I think I think as a child you you don't feel that way sometimes yeah I do agree that it can be too extreme and it can be bad for the kids development if it's too intense however I think the United States has gotten way over on the other side the idea that you can't for example grades in school are private in the United States so if I if I fail a test or if I don't do well in a class nobody else knows but in China those numbers will be posted that's a fundamental thing I think Americans need to take responsibility for themselves and as parents it's your job to not humiliate your kid but kind of encourage them to do better and I think in the States now the trend is moving towards more and more competitive a parents shouldn't just Pat AIT on the back for getting an F absolutely not stupid argument of course nobody's going to nobody's going to yes you got an F good job what if it was a b would you congratulate them I think that's I mean what would you do well I think a non- relaxed I think a relaxed parent would be like oh B not not bad good job maybe next time you can do better tiger would be like that is not good enough and why aren't you as good as somebody else and that can hurt child's self-esteem so the question is at what point is being criticized good for you to give you that motivation to do well the violence point yeah where's that balance point but actually children are much stronger than we think I think children they are like Springs like they have great potential but if you don't push it how do you know that you need to press harder then it will jump even higher right don't think them too vulnerable I I actually I have analogy so at Google it's really relaxed and this is probably one of the biggest companies in the world and they're developing all this new stuff but it's not like cracking the whip like get to work get to work you can take breaks lunch is free it's relax but I wonder how many Asians work at that company actually I think there's a lot a lot more than you think probably a lot of probably no what I no what I mean is that a lot of tiger moms train their kids well and those kids are working at Google now but not just like yeah absolutely probably but I I also think that speaks volumes that it's not necessarily just staring at a book working hard just doing it doing it doing it if tiger mom this kind of education system is wrong then why are China developing so quickly faster than any other country in this world so that's why yes because we can raise good children like me right a perfect example right I honestly I honestly think that China's uh success in in in recent you know decades is because the mindset I think a lot large part of My Success is because I came to China you're married to a Chinese wife so do you think half there exactly and your parenting style in the future would be more you know the Chinese style or American style right and the Pacific style obviously a nice mix there is not a single system which can be the best system not a style can be the best style but I mean for judging from who you are what you guys are doing now today well it seems everything all the stuff stars are working just fine right that's let's talk if you have any comments if you have any topics that you interested in just send us an email you can always follow us CCTV News you can always follow us on social media