and I'm going to give you real quickly seven ingredients that we must have for our marriage to last the distance so the first thing is Faith and then we see something else in First Peter chapter 3 and verse one he says that you are to submit he talks about accepting God's plan for your home and when he does that he starts off by telling the women to submit to the husband as the head of the homes 1 Corinthians 11 and verse3 says that God has placed and I'm just the message boy I'm just here to give you this and and and this is what it says he says if you want to know and listen listen you can choose to ignore this you can say that's that's not modern enough that's not Progressive enough for the way I see it but he says I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God so you must accept God's plan for the home the second word is acceptance what does that mean that means you accept one another's role and the man is the head that does not say the man is the boss the head of the home is not the boss of the home then what does it mean what does the head of the home mean it means you have as the man the responsibility of the home you see equality of worth is established in the Bible he said we're neither male nor female in God's eyes and he says there's no one worth more than the other but when it comes to function we're not the same in the function and God said the head of the home not the boss of the home it and the word head means responsibility it does not mean you have greater privilege it does not mean that you have greater privilege it means you have greater responsibility it means if the marriage is not working you have greater responsibility sir to be the head of the home means if the family is in shambles you have greater responsibility it means you take responsibility it means you have to do the best that you can do and understand the failure uh if I let my family Fall to Pieces it's not her fault I have to take responsibility and I have to understand and God says if you if you understand understand this and each one understands their role then you can begin to have the ingredients faith and then understanding the role that each one and acceptance of that role a lot of fussing and fighting over this very thing but once it begins to get in place God can bless that home thirdly there's contentment First Peter chapter 3 it said that we're hirs together when you study the life of Abraham and you study the life of Sarah they had a spirit of contentment when they started out they were not wealthy now Abraham became extremely wealthy and Sarah became extremely wealthy the Bible said they had very much cattle Gold Silver and land and possessions they were extremely wealthy later in life but when they started out they had nothing they were not wealthy they learn the secret of contentment and that's why the Bible said they're HS together meaning that if you don't have this and you don't have that really if you reach that point where I have my husband I have my wife and I have my God and I have food and I have clothes and I am content then you will begin to see the blessing of God we're living in such a materialistic Society we live in such under such Financial pressure and we don't understand the secret of contentment when you can get along with God and with one another and you Jesus said if you've got food and clothing be content if you've got more than that I'm happy for you if you've got just everything that money can buy I'm happy for you the Bible said God takes pleasure in the prosperity of his servants but to whom little is not enough nothing is enough and if you can't be happy just you and your wife or you and your husband and God you won't be happy when it's you and your wife in 10 homes and 10 cars and 10 it all goes back down to what really matters in life if you have your wife if you have your husband if you have your God if you've got food and clothing you have all that you need for contentment in your life the next thing that we see in this text the next ingredient is forgiveness for he goes on to say in 1 Peter 3 beginning with verse 8 through1 be of one mind having compassion for one another love for one another tenderhearted be courteous be loving in other words what he's saying is you got to be forgiving all married people must learn to forgive not returning evil for evil and reviling or or or or just attacking reviling for reviling but on the contrary blessing knowing that you were called to this knowing that if you're in marriage you're called to to to to to not to be courteous to not render evil for evil to not render uh attack for attack you're called to this and then he goes on to to say if you want the next verse says would you like to love life ain't that powerful he who would love life how many of you want to love your life how many of you are tired of getting up and being mad how many of you'd like to get up and love life today he said I'm going to tell you how to do it how many of you'd like to see good days how many Of You' like to see good days in your house the Bible said in Deuteronomy that your home could be filled with Days of Heaven on Earth it's that's a Bible verse that your days will be he how many of you'd like to see good days and how many of you'd like to love your life he said then let them refrain and this is all in context with don't re don't give them as good as they send you don't forget be courteous be kind be forgiving love one another he said and refrain your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking Gile the King James says all married people must learn to forgive all married people people must practice forgiveness and you know the number one thing that destroys homes literal physical homes is not tornadoes it's not earthquakes it's termites the number one Destroyer little bitty things that you let crawl into your house and those little things team up and little things that bitterness that unwillingness to forgive that spirit that carries a grudge that Spirit not rendering evil for evil or railing for railing but counterwise blessing so there are three levels that you can live life on the first level is the hellish level and the hellish level is when you give back evil for good that somebody's being good to you and doing good to you and trying to do good to you and you turn around with a bitter angry spirit and rail at them and they they you're doing they are doing good and you're doing evil that's the hellish level and then there's the human level the human level is well if you're good to me then I'll be good to you if you're kind to me then I'll be kind to you if you're loving to me then I'll be loving to you that's human level love I'll give you what you give me if you hurt me I'll hurt you that's really how human level functions I do to you what you do to me hellish level say I do good to you if you do evil to me but Heavenly level says I will do and give you back good for evil not railing for railing not attack for attack but good for evil listen to me and sometimes the wife has to practice it and sometimes the husband has to be the one who this time I'm going to give good from Evil and we cannot allow ourselves to not function in forgiveness forgiveness is so important and the longer we allow those termites to come up through the floor and eat away at our homes and Destroy because of bitterness and unforgiveness the fifth thing I'm almost done the fifth thing we see in this text is communication he says he that loves life as I said will refrain his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking G Abraham and Sarah were so different the Lord spoke to me and said Jensen and Sharice are so different so different but Proverbs 18 and 21 says you got to learn to communicate death and life are in the power of your tongue and then romance likewise you husbands dwell together with them with knowledge dwell means to live with sharing dwell means not just to be in the house but to dwell to live with in sharing the physical part of marriage giving honor listen to those words everybody say those words giving honor to the wife giving honor to the wife there's nothing worse than to hear a guy put his wife down publicly and privately giving honor giving honor God help us to give honor give honor to your wife give honor value show her that she is the number one human relationship in your life sincere compliments sincere compliments no cheap jokes everybody needs compliments everybody when Sharice tells me I look good I feel so good I feel whether I look good or not I believe it if she tells me we need to give more compliments to one another we need to speak more things if you think it speak it if you think it if you think they're amazing if you notice something and you see them doing something and you think that's incredible it's so easy to keep that to yourself but say it give compliments to one another speak it use your communication skills keep joy and excitement and romance in your marriage call your spouse and check in with them all day communicate tell them you're on your ride home the Love mobile is coming in sensitize your lips I'll be there do something that speaks and verbalizes your love one for another do it spontaneously do it as often as you can say I love you out loud let your children hear it let people see it but most of all let her know it let him know it men don't always want to be the aggressor men also want to know that their wife wants them and desires them how do you fight fair I'm almost done here's the last point the last thing we see in this text is he says make sure that you do all of these things that I've said that your prayers be not hindered the last thing the last ingredient is prayer prayer in the marriage prayer in the family prayer in the home praying for one another agreeing speaking the name of Jesus over your family the name of Jesus over your marriage and I I I know this isn't some super duper sermon this morning but if we could just practice half of what we're preaching up here today our homes we would see good days we would see we would have a good life we would live a good life we would see more contentment and peace and joy and moments that really is all we have when it's all said and done with one another thank you so much for watching make sure that you subscribe to our channel so that you can get notifications on new post and live streams be sure to share this video with a friend you never know how you can send the word of God right when somebody needs to hear it and you can use your social influence for good for the glory of God thanks again share it with a friend and I really appreciate you watching we'll see you next time