I'm a bit higher welcome to another video in today's video let's talk about relationships and I'm going to be sharing with you six principles taught by the Buddha on having a healthy and happy relationship well maintaining a healthy relationship maintaining a happy relationship or long-lasting relationship is a bit challenging why because we have different personalities we are different from one to another right but we lose this ability to understand about this situation this reality what is the reality the difference between each other sometimes we ask from the people or we ask from our partners why can't you think like me why can't you be like me why can't you act like me or behave like me this is where we make many problems in relationships but if we can realize the difference between one another or if we can realize this reality what is that we are different from each other then we can get the power of understanding there's one important quality that we must practice in any kind of relationship and that is the understanding right understand other situations understand why they are acting like that why they are behaving like that so our great teacher Supreme Buddha thought there are six principles to practice that these are the practices actually if you practice these six principles in any kind of relationship your relationship will be much more happy and healthy okay so without any further Ado let's get into these principles and I'm going to explain one by one in turn first of all the Buddha said you need to practice these principles when that person the person or our partner or a companion or the people who we are relating to when that person with us or in front of us and also in the times where that person is not with us that means both privately and publicly we have to practice and maintain these principles in our life and also these principles was taught by the Buddha two monks actually because as monks we live as a community now in our Monastery we have more than 25 monks so when you analyze their personalities they all are different they all have different ways of lifestyles so when we are interacting there may be some problems there may be some crashes to but if you practice these qualities if we practice these qualities there will be less problems there will be less disagreements so that is why Buddha taught us this principles so this was originally praised by the Buddha to the monks actually and also you can apply these principles to your life also so let's get into the first principle Buddha said you need to treat your spiritual companions in regarding to monks actually Buddha said you need to treat your companions with physical kindness bodily kindness what do you mean by bodily kindness there are certain things that we can do from our body in order to show our kindness or show our compassion towards that person it may not be big things like spending money on big things and buying big things to the person but also there are many things that we can do little things there are little things that we can do for that person to create happiness on that person's mind and also we can give that to by doing these things we can give that idea that we value your life that I value that you are being with me so Buddha said do the acts of loving kindness from your body maybe like helping in his career maybe like helping in his household activities if you take an example like in a husband and wife relationship you can share the things that you can in you are doing in the life we can help each other that is one way of showing love and kindness to that person and also we can show in many ways our love and kindness to these people when you act or when you act from your body with love and kindness that creates the mutuality between people so the first principle is to treat people with physical kindness then Buddhist it as the second principle treat the companions with verbal kindness you can speak nice and kind and heartwarming words to them to create the happiness and create the create the pleasure in their mind each and every one of us likes to listen to pleasant words right we all surrenders in front of the kindness kind words kind actions so the first second thing is to treat them with physical kindness and also with verb and kindness and as the third principle Buddha said this is the most important principle and that is treat your companions with mental kindness this is the important one why is that because if you maintain if you if you generate these kind thoughts towards the people around you in your mind your thoughts become your actions then your actions will be more kind your thoughts become your words then your words will become more kind so as the third principle Buddha told us treat your companion with mental kindness okay so when you treat your companion with mental kindness that means you are spreading this uh race and this power of kindness towards them when that person is in front of us and also in the in the times where the where he where he or she is not with us we have to do it in the same way that is the third one and also as the fourth principle Buddha said you have to share without reservation for the monks Buddha said if you get any kind of food or any any something good to your life you have to share that thing with your spiritual companions now we monks when we get some food we always try to share with our monks so you can adapt that to your life whatever the things that you get maybe like you ate you had something very delicious food when you're working in a long distance place and when you come home or when you come to your partner or when you come to that person you can say hey I had this food I had this delicious food I need you to have that that means you're sharing it when you share without reservation it creates the peacefulness and its strengthen the relationships so sharing is one of the most key and important ingredients in relationships and as the fifth principle Buddha said you have to be virtuous what do you mean by virtuous now in Buddhism as normal people in Buddhism we practice five precepts Buddhist people practice five precepts abstaining from killing beings abstaining from stealing abstaining from sexual misconduct abstaining from telling lies and abstaining from taking intoxicating drinks and drugs or alcohols so these are the five precepts that lay people practice in Buddhism so when you become more moral or virtuous it creates the trust in people you know that's in relationships in normal relationships in people this third precept is very important in third precepts in third precept it simply says you are not cheating your partner that means it's it's it creates the trust and loyalty between the partner and in the relationship in any kind of relationship trust is the foundation without trust there is there is no use of a relationship so when you become a virtuous you will create the trust and loyalty in the relationship and as the sixth and the final a principle Buddha taught us you have to have a common wave in any kind of relationship that means if you can in a relationship if both the past people or if everyone work for one dream work to achieve one goal that creates the peace in this relationship now as monks Buddha said you have to have one dream or one goal in your life there's only one purpose of becoming a monk and that is to end the sufferings of this long cycle of rebirth and to be enlightened when when all the monks get together and work for that dream then that will be so much easy to live with them right when someone is deviating from that path that creates the problem right so in relationships also if every one of us can if every one of us can work for one dream or to want to achieve one goal then that will be more easy and more happy so these are the six principles that we must practice in any kind of relationship you can apply these principles to any kind of relationships whether it is husband and wife maybe like girlfriend boyfriend whether it is like parents and children whatever the relationship is you can apply these principles and make it more healthy and happy so practice these principles add them to your life and make your life a better one so I'm going to end this video with a nice chord that I've read says all relationships go through bad times but the real relationships get through bad times so practice the principles and make your life a better one