You're a sex therapist? As sex workers, we're basically sex therapists. I mean, I don't have a counseling degree.
I have a master's degree in education. We have an article. You recently kind of went viral.
Nick, can you pull up the article? Like, New York Post. Yeah. New York Post. I'm a sex therapist.
I sleep with clients to save marriages. Oh my gosh. I got some real energy with this person. I did see. You reacted to this?
I almost did, but I'm here. You're here now. Perfect.
Can you pull up the article really quick? One more. Sex therapist Olivia Bentley, wait, wait, takes a hands-on approach with her clients by sleeping with them. I've saved marriages.
The Boise, Idaho native. told Kennedy News, calling her work life-changing. I get physically involved with the majority of the people I see.
I think that's part of the appeal. The veteran sex worker who spent 15 years in the industry claims that women have asked her to demonstrate sex acts on their husbands, while some wives grant their eager hubbies a hall pass to pay Bentley a visit. Good times. Yeah. Is that pretty accurate?
I mean, so you save marriages by having sex with the husband? I think the tabloids went a little crazy. Oh, okay. You know, but...
New York Post is known to... Yeah. Okay. They really, you know, went wild with it. But I do help a lot of couples that come in.
One right now is asking me to lend a hand and he's... more of a beta and she'd like him to be more of an alpha and she wants me to work with him on being more just outwardly in control and aggressive in the bedroom things like that there's there's a lot of different psychological needs and reasons why people would want to come and work with professional sex worker Sure. Candice, it sounded like, seemed like maybe you had something on this. I think it's the most outrageous thing I've ever heard. It's so in the realm of like dragons and mystical creatures, mythological creatures, that it's hard to respond to the idea that she's saving marriages.
It's just... You're in disbelief. I'm actually in utter disbelief.
that she is saving marriages. Here's another example. Sure.
So like, and this has been, there's multiple clients that do this where the wife will not have sex anymore. She went and said, look, I, um, you know, during the, when they were courting each other, she was down for sex. She was a sexual person.
She was all about it. Then let's fast forward. They're married.
We're married now. Contract solidified. I don't want to have sex anymore. Ew.
oral sex is gross oh that's demeaning if you're asking me to do that so you're not saving marriages you're helping people to keep up a farce that they are in a marriage because at the very moment that you let someone else into your marriage is no longer a marriage no yeah and guys women turned around and said i will allow you to see a professional they are not in a marriage that's well they're married as soon as you lend your spouse out like dying from cancer And this, that, and the other. If I'm dying from cancer and my husband goes to sleep with somebody else, I swear to God. Their wives are the ones that come. Hold on, just one at a time, please. Candice, were you?
I just would like to make the point that at the very moment that you loan your spouse out, especially if you're dying of cancer so they can get off, you're no longer in a marriage. So it's just a farce. It's comical. You're pretending for people that you're in a marriage, that you're in a loving relationship.
That's not what a marriage is. So- to say that I help marriages. No, you help destroy marriages, and they can go out and say that we're still married because what we've done is we've essentially said, you take care of this aspect of the marriage.
It's like saying, you raise the kids, you have sex with him. This isn't a marriage. The whole thing is fake, right?
What do you think that they should do? What do you think that they should do? They should work on their marriage together. the union between a husband and a wife should work on their marriage together to fix it you don't bring out an outside person to sleep with your husband or your wife saying i'm not down for sex and she might be down for a divorce i want to outsource the sex i want to die from cancer and she wanted him and she allowed him to do that because he needed to get off some way or while he was while she was dying of cancer one of the last things on her mind was this is a real life this is a real life this is a real life uh yeah this was a real i'm asking you Is that what he told you? Yeah That his wife that's dying of cancer Wanted him to come have sex with you?
Not with me Like this is From what I've heard Yes Somebody told you that That as a dying wish My dying wife said Please go have sex with a prostitute I saw it on TikTok I'm just gonna call bullshit on that Altogether No Because it does happen I just don't think you're dying of cancer It happens Going through leukemia People who literally bring their guys here Please bring them on the podcast I just want to say that, okay, there's a lot of crazy shit. There's marriage counseling where they can take you through sex therapy where you don't have to sleep with somebody else. If it's about a woman not wanting to have sex anymore, what's the underlying reason?
Are hormones messed up so she's not wanting to be sexually active? Is there not enough foreplay when they're having sex? Like there's other avenues you can take for sex therapy.
Yeah, there's like normal couples counselors. Yeah, real couples counseling where you try to solve the problem and you release it and you don't just source it out. to a prostitute. Go ahead.
The cancer thing is crazy. It's just the most absurd. The cancer thing is crazy. But outside of that, I don't think that it's up to any of us what constitutes a marriage because every relationship is different. The Bible.
If a husband, okay. His words have meaning. Not everybody is religious.
Well, wait, hold on. Is that a cross necklace? It doesn't constitute, like, what do you mean? Okay, really quick. Not everybody is religious.
Since we're talking about religion really quick. Okay, you have a cross necklace, but then your shirt says, made in hell. Yes, it does.
I'm a little confused. Can you? Can you... I'm a little confused. The stone is red, so it matched.
Why are you wearing a cross on your neck? Are you color coordinating with your neck? Because I don't see a cross as religious.
Just like you don't see a marriage as religious. I don't think that a marriage... This is why we're out of stage and people are like, what is a woman? Because they just go, well, we're going to call it a marriage, but we're going to sleep with other people, we're going to bring in prostitutes, we're going to outsource raising the kids, or we're never going to have kids.
You're calling it a family. It's not a family. And this is what it is. The words have no meaning. I'm wearing the cross.
Why? I don't know. I don't think of it as religious.
Okay, well, Jesus Christ died on the cross. You think that. That's what you think It's been proven So why are you wearing the cross?
Because I think it's cute You just think that the design is cute Yeah Wait wait wait I grew up I was religious And I'm not anymore I don't have to believe In what you believe And I can say that I didn't say you had to If I asked you a question I said why are you wearing the cross? Okay and you're saying That the religious Aspect of marriage Is the only thing that matters It's not Because people don't follow What you believe Okay I asked you Why you're wearing the cross And you said Because you thought it was cute Yeah I'm glad we got an answer She's wearing the cross Around her neck Because she thinks it's cute Yeah I do. I'm not religious. Would you also wear like a Star of David? It's cute.
Well, because... Like if it was cute, would you wear it? Well, okay. Well, I don't know where we're going with this. I'm asking that because I wonder, like, my guess is that you would think that...
We gotta talk....maybe you wouldn't wear a Star of David because you're like, oh, this is maybe like disrespectful to people who are Jewish. Are you making the argument... maybe, I mean... No, I'm just... The secular...
It's a very good question. I'm just saying... Devil's advocate here.
Secular argument. Someone might just say that the cross is just... maybe it's more aesthetically...
Pleasing? Pleasing even for an atheist? I don't know. Sure, but liberals are all about having respect and tolerance. So I'm just wondering if you think it's true.
If you wear a yarmulke, it's cute. I think those are very different things. Oh, are you talking like blasphemy?
Why is the cross different from the yarmulke? I'm just asking. I mean, I was raised Catholic, and that's true. Would you wear a yarmulke if you thought it was cute?
No, I wouldn't. I mean, a yarmulke is completely different than a cross that's been adapted. You can buy a cross necklace anywhere.
There's symbols of a religion. The argument of why it's different basically would come down to how Catholicism has been practiced versus Judaism. in the sense that Catholics did use the cross symbol, tried to emplace it in indigenous populations, tried to spread it as much as possible.
And that's why in modern day, a lot of people think that's more okay because it was meant to be popularized. It was meant to be a symbol that the masses should look up to and should see in general versus Jewish symbols. I would argue they didn't go through that. I think we're kind of derailing a little bit. You wanted to come in, go ahead.
Yes, so back to the interesting brothel stories. I wanted to say, uh we do actually have men coming in with their parents yeah this actually happens so i had a time where a guy came in with both his parents all the way from england to come to the mustang ranch because he wanted to lose his virginity wait is this really where we left parents i'm not i'm just not following and his parents paid for him to have sex with legal prostitutes. Hurrah! I want your stance on that because what's your stance on that?
Hurrah. And if I may... And wait, can I just say that for me...
I enjoyed the experience. We usually call it sex workers, not prostitutes. Yeah. Wait, I'm sorry. She said prostitutes.
Yeah, it's because they keep... Did I? It's because they keep... Yeah.
You said prostitutes a little bit more than you mean. Is it a question? Is it like a...
Well, she said that at the beginning of the show. Legal prostitute. She said legal prostitute.
Yeah. I don't want to offend anybody. Is prostitute like offensive? It's old school.
It's still on the books, like on Nevada's books. But like the... The hipper way to say it is sex worker. But here's the thing with sex workers.
Personally, me, you can call me a legal prostitute. I got you. But the thing with the term sex worker is that is such a broad, it includes strippers, it includes women who take lingerie photos who aren't naked.
Um, wait question. Steward? Is stewardess okay?
Because you're a flight attendant so I'm just curious. It's not the term that we prefer. Would you be offended if someone referred to you as a stewardess?
No. Older people do all the time. Doesn't bother you?
No. Alright, just wanted to make sure since we're... Yeah. It's not a big deal. Earlier it was like talked about like...
How, you know, sleeping or letting your husband or wife sleep with someone else is like irresponsible or it's not a marriage anymore. Like, I'd be kind of curious of what you believe a responsible marriage is like. Or, I understand that you have a religious view on marriage, but when I think about marriage, I think like, I could see somebody saying they're married if it's like completely romantic, like you're not allowed to do romance with anyone else. Like, basically, what does a responsible marriage mean to you? Marriage is not just a...
contract. It wasn't just like the government came up with the contract for people to get married. The history of marriage, you can't separate that from the church. The problem is people are trying to make things cool and trying to update and make them modern and now people are saying you can have a polygamous marriage and you can bring in other people on the outside of a marriage.
What's the point of getting married? Literally, I'd like to ask the question. If you think that you can, if you want to marry somebody and then outsource the sex, outsource the responsibility, outsource what the labor of love is actually supposed to be about.
Why not just stay single? So you wouldn't do a threesome with your husband? Absolutely not, because he's my husband. Do you believe you have to ask that to get the answer? I mean there's married couples that want to have threesomes and some of these ladies are bi-curious.
And you should jump into those reddit threads because every single time that marriage ends in divorce there's so many reddit threads. No they don't. And a lot of them actually do really well too. I have regulars of over five years and they're not divorcing. Do you believe atheists can get married?
I think atheists get married because they want a tax break. I don't see the point in an atheist getting married. Why don't you just live with your partner, okay? Whoever it is that you're dating. You're at the stage, you said, I don't know if you live with your boyfriend or whatever it is.
Why take the next leap? If you're wearing crosses for f***ing... fun and you know I mean if you're actually asking the question I mean because then I would just be pledging the fact that I would want to be with them forever I don't really you can just be with them forever so why what is it that you crave that when you when you want to get married what's that next step for you what does it mean what's the difference between dating and marriage because It's a commitment. Is dating not a commitment?
It's a commitment, but it's saying a next step. It's solidifying it. Okay.
Solidifying what? Solidifying a bond between two people that love each other. Okay, but what is solidified? If you can then jump into that next commitment, which is the exact same as dating, and you can sleep with other people, and you can put topless photos on the internet, what are you getting married for? Pictures on Instagram to say you did it?
I mean, I'm not sleeping with other people. What's the difference for you between dating and marriage? I just told you it's a bond between two people. You're solidifying that by law. You're literally making it known.
I want to be with this person forever. It isn't just a simple breakup. Oh, I can go and do whatever the fuck I want and leave. It's a partnership. It's a bond.
It's forever. But there's no difference between dating and marriage. There is a difference. Other than the idea in your head that it's a bond, because you're saying also that it's OK. But it's not an idea in my head.
It's on paper. OK. It's the paper.
And that was before I was making it. But I'm saying it's not a tax break. It's a legal thing.
And I'm connecting to somebody for the rest of my life. I think for people that think about marriage and don't think about a cross as something funsy to wear, it's not a piece of paper. You know, it is a union between a man and a woman, a sacred union that should be protected from external forces.
Definitely not something that you open up. How I would feel disgusting if my husband ever came to me and said, I want you to sleep with another man or sleep with another woman so that I can fill my sexual fetish. I mean, it's an utter perversion of what it means to be married.
And it will lead to divorces. People that have this perspective will, and I'm not saying that if you don't do it, you won't get divorced 100%. But I do want to say that there is probably a reason that a lot of sex workers. workers struggle to find people that want to marry them well can i say a lot of the perversion that comes if you are not going to be acceptant with your partner if he comes to you and is like hey uh i really like getting pegged i want you to peg me and you're like ew that's so disgusting like i would never do that you want me to eat your ass i would never do that well then okay what are you gonna do divorce him or what are you gonna do realistically i'm asking you and i'm asking hold on i really want I want to know what are you going to do that's your husband he's like hey babe I think one of the things about marriage that's really beautiful is I know what my husband before we got married I think I know who he is but things change and maybe he wants to start exploring he wants to start doing what so say so he wants to start exploring and he's like oh my gosh maybe I do want you to like eat my ass and I kind of and I kind of want you to peg me like I'm kind of I kind of want anal penetration from you because you're my wife and you're so beautiful and hot And we're married and we have kids together and I'm and I'm feeling a little bit kinky and I with you since we have this special marriage and bond, how would you feel if we could just try this out just this one time?
I'm babe please. I think it would probably indicate to me that my husband was involved in some perverse world whether it was through pornography That something else was happening on the side because these aren't normal things that people just think of when they wake up So what's your next move? Like hey I'd really like a strap-on dildo.
Okay right, so what's your next move? What's the ultimatum? He's gonna divorce me if I don't peg him? So what's your next move? Crazy.
I would think that that individual would probably need therapy and not the kind that you give. Okay, and But you're gonna stay with this person? You don't immediately divorce. Marriage is about working through issues and working through problems. You don't immediately divorce them.
And this gets back to what she was saying about if suddenly a woman doesn't want to have sex, which would be another huge issue in a relationship, I would hope that my husband wouldn't instantly divorce me. But I would hope that they would take the... Well, some guys are terrified of that.
And some guys don't even feel like they can open up to their wives about that. about that sounds like they need therapy yeah i know you gotta work on your marriage the thing is is that they'll come to us talking to us about that you know what i mean so it's just like and i i don't know i think it's unhealthy and i think that you know the fact that sex workers exist as this what you believe to be a solution when in fact that's a detriment because you're getting in the way of the wife and the husband been being able to communicate um and so i would much rather my husband go if there was an issue and your wife's not having sex i'd rather him go talk to a priest i'd rather him go talk to another male when males sit down and talk about hey man you should talk to her about this i'd rather him let me finish my statement i'd rather him what do you mean bros talking to each other about things that's a normal i'd rather if i have an issue of my it's pretty normal i'd rather go talk to my sisters about things that are going on in my marriage there's a lot of steps you can take before you talk to a prostitute about your marriage i just maybe i'm crazy maybe i live in such a crazy i'm saying what man is willing to do that because i'm trying to take turn on a taylor switch song a little bit in my room i don't know there's a lot i would turn to taylor swift before i would go to a prostitute about my marriage i know but you're not a male so i'm just saying like men can talk to other what are you talking about there's all of these Podcasts of men talking, you know, talking to men and being inspirational and talking about porn addiction and talking about the things that are Corrupting men's minds that's out there Okay And those are those are I would much rather my husband listen to those men and look for guidance whether it's in the church Whether it's on a podcast whether it's a spiritual leader then to turn to a prostitute in a brothel I hear you. So there's a lot of steps that you can take from we're having an issue in our marriage to my husband's at a brothel laying next to a prostitute talking about issues in my hair. Actually, let me just step in really quick.
I do think, though, I would like to redirect the conversation because I do think it's probably a very small portion of people who are married are seeking to bring in a prostitute for the husband. It just seems like such a small... kind of, I don't know. What's up? Really quick.
Statistically, married men are actually the highest number of clientele for prostitutes. Yes. And that's why I'm saying, please listen for me. I'm literally telling you guys, males come to us and say all this stuff, which is like, like they're first scared of you guys because how you might react to they feel like they can't be honest and open with you guys that's why they result in coming to places just you guys know that statistic doesn't mean that the majority of married men go to prostitutes so you didn't say that no i know i'm just letting her know because she said like yes like it was if it was a debunk i know i think what he's saying is that the majority of married men i'm just saying like to prostitutes so they might get a law contingent and they might be majority married that's what i'm saying yeah i get that