It's very important that people take control of their mind and their body in a way that allows themselves to calm down To reduce the so-called stress response. You're you're too activated. You're too alert You're too agitated and you want to be less alert less activated and less agitated When we're too activated and we want to calm down and we're trying to say calm down don't say don't say the thing that you know you shouldn't say don't do the thing you don't you know you shouldn't do and then there's the other kind of limbic friction which is the world is happening really fast and we feel buried we're overwhelmed and we need to get more activated.
We need more energy. We need more energy we need to be able to lean into life and we're feeling overwhelmed. So the first thing for anyone trying to navigate stress and then we'll talk about drama is to understand.
what kind of stress they're dealing with. Are you exhausted and having a hard time getting your energy up? Or is your energy too high and you're having a hard time getting your energy down?
Because the solutions to those are often quite different. Trying to control the mind with the mind is like trying to grab fog. It's vapors, you're never gonna grab it. The nervous system includes the brain but also all the connections of the body to act again and so that when you can't control your mind you want to do something purely mechanical.
All trauma, anxiety, fears, they all map back to stress in some way. You can have stress without trauma. You can have anxiety without trauma.
But you can't really have trauma without stress and anxiety. Even though there aren't really strict definitions of the boundaries between trauma and stress and fear, I think it's fair to say that trauma is a fear and or stress response that's happening at wrong times. It's sort of carrying over from an experience that's making life uncomfortable. in some cases exceedingly challenging.
On the other side of things, when you're feeling overwhelmed and fatigued, there are two ways to approach that. First is the kind of foundation of fatigue, which is almost always poor sleep and scheduling of sleep. This is something that doesn't get discussed a lot.
I don't think I've discussed this on any podcast previously, but you know, getting better at sleeping is a whole set of practices. But sleep is a slow tool. It's not a real-time tool because if you're feeling exhausted and you have to get up and have your day, deal with children, deal with work, deal with life, we can talk about how to get better at sleeping but in real time what you want to do is you want to bring more alertness into the system.
Focus and alertness. The way to do that is to take advantage of a very well-established medical fact. All medical students learn this.
all mvs know this which is that there's a direct relationship between how you breathe and your heart rate so when we inhale when we inhale it almost feels like everything's moving up but actually what happens is our diaphragm moves down when that happens our heart literally gets a little bit bigger the volume of the heart gets a little bit bigger which means that whatever blood in there is moving per unit time a little bit slower and there's a set of neurons in the heart The sinoatrial node that sends a signal to the brain and says, hey, blood flow is slowing down. And the brain sends a signal back to the heart and says, okay, let's speed up, and speeds up the heart rate. So the short, concise way to put it is, when you inhale more vigorously or longer, you're speeding up your heart rate. This is actually, there's a name for it in the medical community, but the important thing to understand is, as you inhale, you're sending a neural signal to your heart to speed up. And when you exhale, the diaphragm moves up.
The heart gets a little bit smaller, literally, because there's less space there. Then there's a signal sent to the brain, and the brain sends a signal back and says, slow down the heart. So if you want to become more alert, you actually can just simply make your inhales a little bit more vigorous or a little bit longer than your exhale.
Longer or more vigorous inhales will speed up your heart rate and alert. Longer. or more vigorous exhales will slow down your heart rate and make you less alert.
The repetitive breathing more quickly and deeply, this kind of thing, or some variant of that, all through the mouth or all through the nose, brings up the heart rate and causes the adrenal glands, which sit right above the kidneys, to secrete adrenaline. They make you more alert. And you see these big inflections in heart rate when people do this. Typically, it makes people feel agitated at first.
They feel a little bit agitated. And then when you exhale and hold your breath for 15 seconds or so, or what you're doing essentially is you're learning to be calm as your body is flooded with all this adrenaline and the heart rate. And that is 100% top-down control. What you're doing in those moments is you're learning to take your forebrain and say, fight the temptation to move.
Fight the temptation to breathe. This particular pattern of breathing, 25 or 30 times followed by an exhale and a hold, and then a big inhale and a hold, sometimes doing more inhaling and exhaling type repetitive breathing, that is really somebody training themselves how to self-induce stress. And we know from some good literature and some emerging science that's still ongoing that it is possible to get comfortable in these...
agitated state so that your mind is okay feels okay when the body is feeling like it wants to tremble or move that you can learn to suppress that activity the ice bath is another good example of this some people go straight to the ice bath because cold water will almost always induce a low level of stress and you have to you have to kind of fight it even if you learn to love it You're still up there every time, jumping in there. Okay, I've got to control the mind, essentially, to calm. Exactly. So the body is saying, this is really cold. This is really cold.
Get out. And you're pushing back on that, and it's top-down control. It's pure top-down control.
And you could do this any number of ways. There's actually something called the hour of pain. The hour of pain was actually described to me by a friend of mine, a former military special operations guy, who said that they place you...
This wasn't through military, but this is a kind of... Outside the military practice. Extracurricular activities.
Yeah, extracurricular activities. Placing you into one position on the floor, and you have to stay there for an hour, which can be excruciating. There's so much limbic friction where you want to move so badly because the stabilizing muscles of the body and the feedback in our musculoskeletal system says, move, move, move.
I just want to move the tiniest bit. And so all that practice is, it's just a different version of the ice. Yes. It's you're learning top-down control. So, you know, long exhale breathing, lying down on your back, completely relaxing your body and learning to completely turn off thinking.
Which sounds hard, but you can learn how to do it very quickly if you do that practice for about 10 minutes a day. Yeah.