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Techniques for Humor in Social Interactions

we've all had those moments where we wish we could think of something funny to say but our mind goes blank it can be frustrating especially when you're talking to someone you really want to like you so in today's video we'll go through six easy ways you can make people laugh or just love being around you the first trick is to finish someone's incomplete sentence with a joke here's a quick example with Chris Evans how many times uh a week do people come up to you guys and just say and your character of Star Trek not me cutting someone off to genuinely finish their sentence for them can be annoying but by doing it with a joke you make them laugh and instantly create a more playful Vibe and as you'll see in this next clip it's easier for them to retake the conversation so they can finish their thoughts it's been a long time obviously chasing a career in Hollywood and then when you finally got there it feels as though you've been very quick to not run home but just they know you kind of had it in your hands and you chucked it away but you spend a lot of time at home the key to getting a big laugh is to finish their sentence with something ridiculous make it something they clearly weren't going to say here's one last funny example bring these slightly different nuances to Thor whether he's on Asgard or on Earth or whatever you like you bring new aspects and with with Captain America it's like as we've seen yes the only downside with this joke is that you have to think pretty quickly you need to come up with something funny before they finish their sentence if that seems daunting you can start by practicing being witty in a different situation one where you have plenty of time to think of what to say when you're asked a question most people answer every question literally which can get boring instead look at questions as opportunities to make people laugh like Chris Hemsworth at the end of this next clip most likely to grow a beard and disappear for a while all a cap probably me Evans yeah I think it is Evan uh I think Hemsworth Scarlett Johansson it's that easy if you want to consistently make people laugh surprise them with unexpected absurd answers here's another example this time from Chris Pratt this is a two-part clip first listen to him set the scene by talking about shooting underwater for Jurassic world boy I'll tell you they put a lot of chlorine in the water because you've got a crew of 85 people just pissing this no one ever got it no no no no no people we didn't have time for people to pee so you knew people were peeing oh I'm certain a minute later Chris has asked if he would pee in the water most people here would simply answer yes or no but watch what Chris does instead I had to be underwater with my eyes open of course as if I could see with my eyes open underwater Chris did you pee I actually myself you can also use unexpected absurdity when you're the one asking questions for context for this next clip Margot Robbie is Australian if um you could have lunch with any celebrity living or dead would you take them to Outback Steakhouse now let's say that you forget to give an absurd answer you default to your old habit of answering literally and then realize oh shoot this was my chance to make them laugh in that case you can start with a real answer and then pivot to an exaggerated version of that real answer for a quick example watch Chris Evans in this next clip stealing movie Set props is totally normal three two one yeah again I'll come I'm into that come on yeah I'm just into theft in general yeah me too it doesn't happen it doesn't matter if it's who owns things you know you saw there one of the advantages of doing this playful pivot it encouraged taika to be playful as well you'd be surprised at how a few little jokes like this early in an interaction can completely change how well you connect with someone here's one more quick example of this playful pivot this time with Chris Hemsworth most of you have kids is this up to the cool Factor uh I was just telling the guys one of my kids thinks that I'm cool just one yeah just one and he gets fed the most he gets flipped off the other one's like Wonder Woman so they sleep outside Beyond jokes a lot of the time when someone reflects on feeling boring or awkward in conversation they often say I couldn't think of anything to say what that's really code for is I had thoughts in my head but I judged them as not good enough to share so a key habit you want to learn is to lower your filter specifically start saying your positive thoughts out loud we often take for granted that people know we like them but saying it out loud can have a very positive impact on your relationship it's well it's like hanging out with Jeff Goldblum and no hyperbole it's it's the best time you'll ever have she exudes a sort of um you just you feel like Yep this this woman belongs here she belongs here she fits right in and it's gonna you know she doesn't need any advice from me you may not think this works outside of people you know well but you can even do this the first time you meet someone if you're talking to someone you've just met and your mind goes blank you can use a complimentary cold read to keep the conversation flowing that means you say something nice and follow it with a guess about the person you're talking to by saying something like you're so charismatic I bet you're an actor or that's a really well trained dog are you a dog trainer you'll make the person feel good and are very likely to start a new branch of conversation if complimenting other people isn't something you're comfortable with you can also be Charming by simply being positive about your own life especially if you can be relentlessly positive meaning you can be positive about things other people would normally be negative about here's a great example from Chris Pratt where Ellen is giving him a hard time about living in a van and taking low-paying jobs before his his career took off would that be you in the van that's me and that's that's literally the script that got me out of Maui that script is for cursed part three the movie that I got paid 700 to do that seven hundred dollars I know I was like score I lived in a man I was like yeah Chris is ignoring her negative tone and staying relentlessly positive and it makes him very likable in that moment he does this again a minute later taking something most people would view as negative and reframing it to be positive I mean I was having the time in my life I you know at 19 years old just like living in a car with my friend and uh so oh there was another guy yeah yeah I had a roommate well yeah so it wasn't lonely it was pretty awesome if this isn't naturally how your mind works that's okay while it may take some time you can absolutely make positivity an unthinking habit one exercise that can help you is when you find yourself in a negative mindset ask yourself if I had to say something positive about this situation what would I say you can do it in the moment or you can make it a nightly Journal exercise once you have this kind of positive energy people will love being around you ironically another great way to get there is to stop focusing on making other people like you and instead focus on having fun Chris Pratt loves to dance on set and crashes co-stars interviews Chris Hemsworth is often seen being goofy with his daughters and Chris Evans loves pranking people rather than orienting towards trying to look cool they all seem to orient towards having fun and making things fun for the people around them and at the end of the day we like being around people that make us feel good the best part is all that takes is the confidence to look silly stop worrying about what other people think and just have a good time ironically while knowing that those habits will make people want to connect with you as a friend co-worker or date now you might think building that kind of confidence will take 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