Toxic Filipino Traits Discussion

Introduction

• Discussion about toxic traits observed in Filipino culture.
• Experiences shared regarding remarks from elders and societal expectations.

Common Toxic Comments

• Remarks from relatives:
  • "You got fatter"
  • "You look darker than usual"
  • Suggestions to lighten skin for attracting partners.
  • Questions about relationship status:
    • "When will you get a boyfriend/girlfriend?"

Negative Attitudes

• General observation of negativity among Filipinos.
• Example from work:
  • Positive news met with nitpicking and negativity.
• Crab mentality:
  • Filipinos tend to bring each other down instead of celebrating successes.
  • Example: Miss Earth competition criticisms.

Body Shaming and Colorism

• Common practice of body shaming by older generations.
• Racial slurs and derogatory terms:
  • Usage of "chekwa" and "intsik" towards Chinese.
  • Recognition of these terms as harmful.

Cultural Terms and Identities

• Differences in terms used for expatriates:
  • "Expat" vs. "OFW" (Overseas Filipino Worker).

Punctuality and Excuses

• Discussion on being late and societal expectations.
• Crab mentality reflected in punctuality issues.

Family and Societal Pressures

• Cultural expectations regarding relationships and careers:
  • Pressure from elders concerning educational choices.
• Mental health:
  • Lack of acknowledgment for depression and grieving processes.

Communication Issues

• Importance of communication in resolving conflicts.
• Commonality of bottling emotions in families.
• Pride as a barrier to open discussions.

Expectations of Apologies

• Discussion on generational differences in accepting responsibility.
• Often, younger generations expected to apologize first.

Achievement and Show-Off Culture

• Negative perception of those who excel:
  • Fear of being labeled a "show-off."
• Discussion on smart-shaming and its implications for personal growth.

Conclusion

• Recognition of various toxic traits in Filipino culture.
• Call to action:
  • Identify and change these traits for a better society.
• Encouragement to share personal experiences and views.