I suddenly remembered a certain toxic trait. The usual lines like, "Wow, so you're talking back?" It's funny. It looks like we all have bad blood on elder people. It's the first time that we have an applause. It can be your aunt who just told you "Hey, you got fatter." "You look darker than usual." They say that? "Lighten your skin." You need to lighten your skin or else you won't get a boyfriend." Is that true? And there's another one. When will you get a boyfriend? You're old enough. Mine was, "When will you get a girlfriend?" And I was like, "Never." Those even come from your neighbors, who like to gossip. They just like to meddle in your life. So which one are you? I was the one that stayed at home Let's clarify things For you, guys, what common Filipino trait do you dislike? Regardless if they're family, friends, or strangers. Nothing, I love our country Spratlys is ours! China, if you're watching. Spratlys is ours! To make things easier, I'll go first. In general, I really don't like that certain trait of Filipino where they're really negative. Whether they receive good or bad news, especially in my line of work They have negative views on certain things I'm a positive person so I don't like that kind of trait/attitude. An example is in my work, we were reporting positive news There isn't really any bad/negative thing on that certain news. They would nitpick and point out negative things on the news. I think it's related to crab mentality. Like, Filipinos think they have to outweigh each other. Competition! Yeah, I don't get it. Let's say if Team Philippines wins, some people would say "They didn't even win second place or ah- they didn't even win first place." There are always bad comments. So you're just, like, "What exactly do you want?!" Shouldn't they be happy for whatever the accomplishment is? They're not contented for what they receive. In Miss Earth competition, let's say our Filipino representative makes a small mistake You know how much pressure Filipinos put on our representatives. They would say, "She's stupid." What? Stupid? Even in companies once you make a mistake, everyone knows it. But, if you get something right... It's expected of you. Okay, just a fun fact Ah sorry It's okay. You go first Fun fact, this isn't a toxic trait but actually a common Filipino behavior. When they say, "Where's the [thing]?" And I'm like, "There." This is what I use to point at something. Anyways , my friends and I went abroad Then, we met some foreigners. And then, they were kind of asking where the train station was I said, "It's there" And then, they were like, "What?" And I was like, "Oh, there." What if they suddenly kissed you? It's fine, I was single back then. Mine was.... Everyone just stopped When Filipinos speak ill of others. You're also like that, sometimes? Is that the question? Yes, a toxic Filipino trait that you have. Yes, I sometimes catch myself speaking ill of other people, which is bad. But, some elder people are actually like that, like our grandparents. They usually say, "You're fat." Or "Look at this girl. She's fat but wears bikini." I like how it's in a whisper That trait should be eliminated from our culture. Like, bodyshaming Colorism is still very prominent Like when There are still Filipinos who are racist. Yeah. For real That is so true, old-school mentality We even have terms like, "chekwa" Chinese Actually "intsik" is also a racial slur. It's weird, because, growing up as someone who is half Chinese I normally hear those terms. I thought it's just a term-- --for the Chinese. It turns out-- --that it's not actually the right term for the Chinese It turns out that it's a derogatory term. Fun fact, did you guys know that "expat" is a caucasian term. Is it a bad or good term? It's a first-world term because -- If Americans leave their own country, they're called an "expat". Because they're from a different country But if we, Filipinos, leave our own country, you never hear that he/she is a Filipino expat. It's always "OFW" (Overseas Filipino Worker) or immigrant. Same, that's what I was about to say! That's so true! We were late in today's shoot. I was early. The traffic was so bad. When I know I should be there at a certain time Let's say, 1'o clock sharp. I'd leave my house at 1:15. That's why I'm always late. Earlier, I told Alison that I'm going to be late. And when I arrived, all of you also arrived late, too. So I was like, "Thank God." It's just like crab mentality. "Oh, they're late." And when we arrived, you're going to be, like, "Why are you late?" Right? What about crab mentality? Being envious. It's more of bringing other people down. Which is bad! I suddenly remembered a certain toxic trait. This is from my own experience. They would say, "Don't you have a boyfriend?" Or "Don't be such a tomboy." or whatever they say "You're going to end up as an old maid. No one will take care of you." So is that the main goal in life? To have your own family and have someone to take care of you? Oh exactly Because they're kind of like Not sure but In Filipino culture, it's "necessary" especially for elder people to have something to say on whatever you do. For example, you have a college program/degree that you really like They'd say, "Oh, don't pursue that degree. There's no money in that degree/program." "You won't be successful with that degree." Or "Don't waste your money on that. Save your money for other things." They always have something to say on whatever you do. And I'm like, just leave me alone. Yes, I'm thankful that you helped me with my studies financially. But, this is my life, right? I also remembered a certain toxic Filipino trait. And also, they don't acknowledge that depression is real. The "Be Positive" movement/behavior is kind of toxic to your mental health. or to-- like for example, This is kind of heavy, I'm sorry. When one of my family members died we have a relative who's like, "Just move on." It's like how do we just move on? Let me grieve yeah let me-- us grieve You have to release all your sadness from you. You have to feel the sadness before you can move forward. For example, mothers or relatives who like to meddle They have good intentions But-- --They just weren't executed right. you know there's another toxic trait What is it? Whenever there's a problem, they never communicate. You're going to get shocked that there's actually a problem between you and that person. Everything just suddenly explodes like wtf? When you actually talk it out, you'd get shocked that he/she is that mad at you. That's why there's a term "bottling up inside" Yes, they bottle up their emotions. "Where did that anger come from?" That's actually very common for older families. The communication just isn't there. Like, they dug a lot of issues from the past. So that you wouldn't bottle up your emotions. Why? are you scared? No it's because everything you're saying is true You're not allowed to talk back to the elders. Well, you're not allowed to speak rudely to them. But personally, it's better to communicate so that you'd understand each other. There are times when your mom, dad, aunt, or whoever is older than you thinks that you explaining certain things to them is disrespecting them. They're threatened. They don't know what to respond. They're full of pride. They'll find another way to not admit to their mistakes. They'll say something unrelated to the topic and lash out on you. Are you okay, Maui? Yeah, it's just funny that we all seem to have bad blood on elder people. Whenever we encounter a problem with them and we try to explain our side They expect us to be the ones who should apologize. Even if they were actually the ones who did us wrong. Why shouldn't they apologize to us? Is it because they're older? Or you can both apologize to each other, right? They're really full of pride. The usual lines, "Wow, so you're actually talking back?" Even with friends or other people There's a negative connotation about people who do their best obviously. You're not allowed to show that you're doing your best unsubtly. You should do the bare minimum. You're only doing your best. They will call you "show-off" if you're trying to excel. I get it that there are people who are really-- --show-off but are actually stupid You show off but you suggest stupid things. There's a difference between a sycophant and a show-off. Sycophants are, like-- --They're stupid. It's true! Sycophants take advantage of other people. You're not even worthy of that treatment but you make a way even if you're mediocre or really stupid. And then others will call them "show-off" Before, everyone says "edi wow" Now, it's "sana all". I hope everyone has a love life. So if you say "edi wow", you're a stupid fucker. But there's also "bobo-shaming". That's bad. But, I also don't like smart-shaming If we want to be better at something They will say "edi wow" What's your toxic trait, Maui? Well, I usually trash talk other people. But, it's only for fun. I haven't offended anyone yet with my statements. They like it when I trash talk them. So we mentioned a lot. Technically, there are a lot of toxic traits that exist in Filipino culture. I'm happy that you guys are able to point out those toxic traits. They shouldn't be tolerated. How about you guys? Comment the toxic traits that you really dislike and justify why we shouldn't tolerate them. Hopefully, you learned something about common Filipino toxic traits. Don't do those traits! Let's change, guys. Let's help one another for the betterment of our country.