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How to Become a Different Person
Jul 8, 2024
How to Become a Different Person
Introduction
Many people fantasize about wanting a "life transplant"
Wishing for a different life or a different version of oneself
Even more people wish to have someone else live their life
A different personality could completely transform life
The goal: Teach methods to effectively change yourself
Evidence-based techniques available
Understanding Personality
Personality Components: 3 Aspects
Interpretation of Information
Reaction to Circumstances
Behavior
Example: Different people, same scenario, different reactions
Breakups lead to different interpretations and behaviors
Insights from addiction psychiatry
Personality disorders: Sociopathy, Narcissism, etc.
Narcissistic behavior: Personalizes external events and manipulates others
Group Coaching: Healthy Gamer
HG Groups: Group coaching for digital age problems
Social isolation, lack of purpose, feeling overwhelmed
Skills learned: Effective listening, communication, vulnerability, self-awareness
Treating Personality Issues
Development of evidence-based techniques in psychiatry
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) for Borderline Personality Disorder
Therapies for Antisocial Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder
Research into common elements of successful therapies
Key elements: Metacognition and Meta-emotion
Metacognition:
Thinking about thoughts
Meta-emotion:
Feeling about feelings
Example of Meta-emotion
Social anxiety at a party
Common reactions: scrolling through phone, leaving the party
Consequence: Feeling ashamed, getting anxious about anxiety
Key insight: It's the reaction to emotions & thoughts that cripples us
Practical Steps for Change
Focus on Metacognition and Meta-emotion
Change how we think about thoughts and feel about emotions
Personality change leads to life transformation
Control where we spend cognitive energy
Focus on internal conclusions rather than external factors
External events: Less control, focus on reactions and interpretations instead
Conclusion
Changing metacognitions and meta emotions shapes personality
Observe and be mindful of conclusions drawn from life experiences
Challenge automatic conclusions
Collect objective evidence before forming conclusions
Buddhist tradition: The concept of two arrows (life's arrow and self-imposed arrow)
Yogic texts: Focus on metacognition
Meditation improves all aspects of life by addressing metacognition
Final Thoughts
Possibility of personality change makes creating a new destiny achievable
Focus on transforming interpretations and reactions to life events
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