Fresh Air Podcast with Mystery and Rob Bexter

The Mystery Method

• Book: "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed."
  • Focuses on the structure of pickup from meeting to sexual relationship.
  • Key components: attraction, comfort, and seduction.

Attraction Triggers

• Top Five:
  1. Pre-selection (being seen with other attractive women).
  2. Leader of men.
  3. Protector of loved ones.
  4. Willingness to emote (showing a range of emotions).
  5. Successful risk taker.

The Process

• Stages of Pickup:
  • Attraction (A1, A2, A3):
    • A1: Open the set.
    • A2: Demonstrate higher value (DHV).
    • A3: Qualify the woman.
  • Comfort (C1, C2, C3):
    • C1: Initial comfort in the attraction location.
    • C2: Separate comfort location.
    • C3: Intimacy building.
  • Seduction (S1, S2, S3):
    • S1: Arousal.
    • S2: Handle last-minute resistance.
    • S3: Sexual relationship.

Adapting to Today’s Dating Scene

• Cold Approach vs. Online Dating:
  • Cold approach remains crucial for building social skills and direct interaction.
  • Emphasis on real-world social interactions over online dating apps.

Peacocking

• Definition: Wearing unique clothing to stand out.
• Purpose: Elicit indicators of interest (IOIs) from women.

Importance of Storytelling

• Using stories to demonstrate value and attraction triggers.

Working with a Wingman

• Strategy of separating and merging sets to maximize interactions.
• Importance of compatibility and shared values with a wingman.

Common Mistakes in Pickup

1. Not smiling during the approach.
2. Lack of structured approach and preparation.
3. Not having a variety of prepared gambits and stories.

Favorite Cities for Pickup

• Mystery: Helsinki.
• Bexter: Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev, Odessa.
• Least favorite: San Francisco and Dublin.

Closing